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Posted by claaarez88
im a leo which is prolly why i cannot bear it any longer. it's been 2 weeks now
Posted by WaterCup
Obviously you leos have a different way of thinking. But scorpion or not, no friend should "punish" you for doing things SHE doesn't like. Are you kidding me? It's not all about her! Friendship is a two way thing & it shouldn't feel like there are rules to be followed. If it feels like that then it's no longer friendship, but ownership or even "cellmate ship". I'd drop someone who makes me feel like I need a nod of approval from her about who I should hang out with.
Posted by claaarez88
wagtail i just dont know if i should just let her be or if this is a test on her part. i have been liking and commenting on all her posts at facebook but i'm the only one she's ignored, even when i was asking something.
Posted by wagtailPosted by WaterCup
Obviously you leos have a different way of thinking. But scorpion or not, no friend should "punish" you for doing things SHE doesn't like. Are you kidding me? It's not all about her! Friendship is a two way thing & it shouldn't feel like there are rules to be followed. If it feels like that then it's no longer friendship, but ownership or even "cellmate ship". I'd drop someone who makes me feel like I need a nod of approval from her about who I should hang out with.
I agree with this too, so... I dunno, I'm now officially put of my depth advice wise lolclick to expand
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Where's that thread where Elle and someone else posted pics of doormats?
Posted by kalin
No we don't like doormats, that's why we walk all over them. We don't respect them. It's fun to push people's limits when they have no limits. When we respect someone we treat them as equals. We don't talk down to them or ignore them just because they didn't do everything we wanted them to.
Posted by kalinPosted by WaterCupPosted by kalin
No we don't like doormats, that's why we walk all over them. We don't respect them. It's fun to push people's limits when they have no limits. When we respect someone we treat them as equals. We don't talk down to them or ignore them just because they didn't do everything we wanted them to.
Why pout then when somebody doesn't do as you like?
Believe me because we know that works the wonder when the other person doesn't have enough self respect.click to expand
Posted by everevolvingepithetPosted by WaterCupPosted by everevolvingepithet
Where's that thread where Elle and someone else posted pics of doormats?
It's probably under someone's feet lol.
Btw, as much as scorps like to claim they don't like doormats, a part of them still likes having the upper hand/power over people. They go nuts each time they feel like they are losing control over their red carpet. Reason why I'd never date (again) or befriend one. I know their game.
So long as it's navigated in the riht order and a resolution beneficial for all is the ultimate outcome, do what y'all want with y rugs n carpets hooo!! 😄click to expand
Posted by kalinPosted by WaterCupPosted by kalinPosted by WaterCupPosted by kalin
No we don't like doormats, that's why we walk all over them. We don't respect them. It's fun to push people's limits when they have no limits. When we respect someone we treat them as equals. We don't talk down to them or ignore them just because they didn't do everything we wanted them to.
Why pout then when somebody doesn't do as you like?
Believe me because we know that works the wonder when the other person doesn't have enough self respect.
Meaning, you DO like things to go your way. Why do that in the 1st place? It shouldn't matter if the person have self respect or not, but you guys can't resist testing it now, can't you? 😛
Well, I never even attempted to boss aroundy my Virgo friend. I know she will just walk away. we just know by observing their interaction w others. We are smart at picking our battles. If we get free maids, why not? Plus, a lot of people are desperate to be our friends so they put themselves in a lower position to begin w. who's fault?click to expand
Posted by kalin
Just like this lady in my guitar class always offers to pay for the concert tickets and pick me up as incentives for me to go with her. Since she pays every single time, of course I'm not going to go if she ever stops paying. You see that? If you get everything without having to work for it, one day when it's not free, you get upset and don't want it anymore.
Posted by kalin
And what's worse is, after people have taken you for granted for a long time, when you finally decide not to be a pushover, they will just think either you were faking the kindness in the past, or you've changed--either way, people will stop liking you.
Posted by kalin
@WC: I'm pretty sure you were catering to the scorp in the beginning, that's why he knew he could control you. You were just like the guitar lady. Your fault. I dated a scorp before. He didn't dare to make me do anything because he knew I won't. He got upset when you were worn out and stopped doing things, because YOU CHANGED, of course he will push harder to make you change back. If you still don't get it, forget about it, just stay away from scorp as you planned, beside the way you are is prob asking people to walk over you. It's weird when you see a doormat you don't walk over it. Do you hang your doormat up as walk art? Ridiculous.
Well you're "pretty" wrong. LOL! Not in this lifetime! I dated him less than 3 mnths because he was giving me a headache. And the best part is, *I* ENDED IT & he went nuts for a while until I changed my number. Didn't want to hear him rant & rave. He even got himself transferred elsewhere after he embarrassed himself by being jealous during a Christmas party at our job (we worked together). I've seen him 2 times since & he is still bitter over the breakup. Btw, in both time HE approached MEEEE! He even told me that he is attending AA now, alcoholism is not why I dumped him though, I don't get why he doesnt get that. His jealousy, suspicion, him wanting all my time etc is WHAT did it. It gets annoying to constantly hear "I feel like we're drifting apart" just because I'm not in the mood to spend time with him. It went on & on until I got fed up and said "ciao". He never controlled me, I only went/spoke to him when/if *I* wanted, not the other way around. Nice try though.
Posted by WaterCupPosted by everevolvingepithetPosted by WaterCupPosted by everevolvingepithet
Where's that thread where Elle and someone else posted pics of doormats?
It's probably under someone's feet lol.
Btw, as much as scorps like to claim they don't like doormats, a part of them still likes having the upper hand/power over people. They go nuts each time they feel like they are losing control over their red carpet. Reason why I'd never date (again) or befriend one. I know their game.
So long as it's navigated in the riht order and a resolution beneficial for all is the ultimate outcome, do what y'all want with y rugs n carpets hooo!! 😄
They get worn out, the carpets I mean & turn into flying carpet just to get away from the never ending attempts at control. Alladin, here I come..they say.click to expand
Posted by WaterCupPosted by kalin
And what's worse is, after people have taken you for granted for a long time, when you finally decide not to be a pushover, they will just think either you were faking the kindness in the past, or you've changed--either way, people will stop liking you.
Now this is true.click to expand
Posted by WaterCup
Btw, it's normal to spend SOME time with the person you're interested in. Its nothing special or meaning you are "under their control", you're just studying them. And besides, I'm an aqua, after I'm done studying a person, I see less reasons to spend more time with them. He must have confused my "studying time" as a habit or that he has me under his thumb or whatever. Not the case!
Posted by kalin
@WC: I dated an Aqua and it was bad too. He was super clingy and jealous. I guess Aqua/Scorpio is just not a favorable union.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by WaterCup
Btw, it's normal to spend SOME time with the person you're interested in. Its nothing special or meaning you are "under their control", you're just studying them. And besides, I'm an aqua, after I'm done studying a person, I see less reasons to spend more time with them. He must have confused my "studying time" as a habit or that he has me under his thumb or whatever. Not the case!
Don't put us in the same "cliche" "in the box" clique. Maybe YOU don't like it.
However, I love studying on subjects I'm interested in. Human relationships too. Your partner in life isn't supposed to be part of that study. Supposedly in a perfect world a couple is supposed to "click."
It didnt click with you, that's all.click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by WaterCup
Btw, it's normal to spend SOME time with the person you're interested in. Its nothing special or meaning you are "under their control", you're just studying them. And besides, I'm an aqua, after I'm done studying a person, I see less reasons to spend more time with them. He must have confused my "studying time" as a habit or that he has me under his thumb or whatever. Not the case!
Don't put us in the same "cliche" "in the box" clique. Maybe YOU don't like it.
However, I love studying on subjects I'm interested in. Human relationships too. Your partner in life isn't supposed to be part of that study. Supposedly in a perfect world a couple is supposed to "click."
It didnt click with you, that's all.click to expand
Posted by claaarez88
it's a hard and sad thing to go through 😢
Posted by WaterCupPosted by claaarez88
it's a hard and sad thing to go through 😢
Oh for goodness sake, you have a choice in all this- to break the friendship or to wait around until your friend thaws. Be sure to learn how to say "sorry" in many different languages while you're waiting, though. How many time have you apologised in the past for other "slights"? And how long is this friendship? TBH, I'd be fed up after the first two apologies. How is it possible to be ALWAYS so wrong?click to expand
Posted by claaarez88
i did something she did not like. i went for a night out with her frenemy who is also a friend of mine. now she is ignoring me. i feel so small. she is pointedly ignoring me in front of everybody. i apologized already but i am not sure whether this is just a test or she just doesn't want to have anything to do with me anymore. should i just let her go? i am so saddened by all this. her punishing me like this has happened so many times in the past. i don't think i can bear it anymore.
Posted by claaarez88
montgomery, you would? and then what? blow off your best friend even if she said nothing to the other? perhaps a narrow definition of loyalty i think as what kalin was saying..
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by claaarez88
montgomery, you would? and then what? blow off your best friend even if she said nothing to the other? perhaps a narrow definition of loyalty i think as what kalin was saying..
I'm confused-- how do you go for a night out with someone and not say anything?
And how is all or nothing narrow?
Aren't you a LEO? 😕
sus
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Posted by claaarez88Posted by MontgomeryPosted by claaarez88
montgomery, you would? and then what? blow off your best friend even if she said nothing to the other? perhaps a narrow definition of loyalty i think as what kalin was saying..
I'm confused-- how do you go for a night out with someone and not say anything?
And how is all or nothing narrow?
Aren't you a LEO? 😕
sus
there are sooo many other topics that can be talked about . yes it is narrowclick to expand
Posted by claaarez88
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