EEEEK! how fast should i run??

got chatting with a second man from this dating site i reluctantly joined, the first man turning out to be my colleague as mentioned before. this one seemed ok on chat. lives near me. party planner. dutch (so tall and good looking is a given although he's blond which isn't really my thing usually). anyhow at the end of a long im chat, i find out his birthday and oh my god, my heart sank to say the least:

Sun Gemini
Moon Aries
Mercury Gemini
Venus Taurus
Mars Gemini
Jupiter Leo
Saturn Aries
Uranus Virgo
Neptune Scorpio
Pluto Virgo

Gemini.....sigh.....they're so....gemini. 😢

Which is more off putting, Gemini Sun or Gemini Mars?
or the whole combo is pathetic?

I have never been able to live with a Gemini. My stepfather is a loud Italian Gemini who only believes in holistic healthcare. He's great for my mother, but for an auditory defensive insomniac Leo? Sound machines do nothing and ear plugs hurt. Oy.

I've never ever dealt with a person who argued so quickly and irrationally!


However if you talk with him a few more times, you can feel him out a bit more and see if there's any chemistry. Just stay nonbiased and maybe there's something.

By the way, r1g0r, I noticed your new photo a few minutes ago and you're so captivating! And your smirk is very Scorp. looking to me 🙂 very gorgeous, you!

yeah, well up popped another one this afternoon and the gemini dude is already history. check this one out:

Sun Aquarius
Ascendant Scorpio
Moon Pisces
Mercury Aquarius
Venus Capricorn
Mars Pisces
Jupiter Virgo
Saturn Aries
Uranus Virgo
Neptune Scorpio
Pluto Virgo
Midheaven Virgo

we chatted for aaages on the phone and we're meeting for tapas tomorrow at some chiringuito....woo hoo!! he's got a fantastic sense of humour which i love with aquas, quirky and clever...with that sexaaay scorpio rising...bring it on!! he's not an oil painting but to me, a man's attractiveness is all about the whole package and how it works together and it's all about chemistry.

plus he has a car that is worth more than my apartment!!! not that i am materialistic of course...i was jus' sayin'.

as for the gem. i can talk the hindlegs of a donkey and with my gem sister, i find she has this irritating habit of talking over you..noticed that a lot with gems. so it would be doomed from the start.

and sheathed...stop making me blush! 🙂

Oh gosh, never been there. Good luck with that one 😉

shit ladies...you're kinda scaring me— what's the deal here then?

i'm meeting him in just over an hour. i can only see him for a couple of hours as i have to go and pick up my daughter from her friend's house which is perfect. one very significant plus is that he doesn't drink cos neither do i much as it's rare to find someone not up to their neck's in the expat drinking culture here.

we spoke alot on the phone this morning. his work is interesting and so is he and we obviously share a mutual and quite boring interest in business and finance. he'll be a great networking contact either way.

wish me luck....i'm going in!!

all the good luck to you
hope you not only enjoy him but find something much more substantial and fulfilling from this encounter.🙂

I have to laugh when Scorpios are all RUN, RUN FARRRR FROM THE GEMINI! ... I never had any Geminis in my life except my dad, and I was a daddy's girl for sure although when I got older I could see his flaws much more clearly. But maybe our relationship was so great and close simply because it was a father-daughter relationship and we had a lot in common, despite it being a Scorpio-Gemini relationship? However, my Sagittarius mom and I were like oil and water, never really got along despite our similarities.

So what is it about Geminis that are so bad for Scorps?

RigorMortis ... my ex husband is an Aquarius. Our relationship was really passionate and compatible in many ways, but he had an almost sociopathic selfish streak and sense of entitlement. I had to compromise myself way more than I should have, to keep the marriage intact. Just a heads-up, your guy might be totally different. Let us know how it goes with your new interest .......

Well my reaction only came due to Leo-Aquarian - never worked out. We're polar opposites. Male Leo and female Aquarius are supposed to fare better.

Good luck with your meeting my dear - I'm sure you'll hit it off 😉 Keep us updated!

it was good. weirdly i'm feeling like i want to not talk to him now which i'm not understanding but yeah, we had a nice time. mexican for lunch...i paid (OMG!! that is rare but i felt like a bit of faux male pride was lingering there cos he's loaded and i'm not). he mixes in different circles and describes a life i'm not all that interested in to be honest. he works hard and is really interesting but it's weird. i feel there's almost a cultural gulf between us. cos this guy is not just rich, he's ridiculously so and i find that intimidating to be honest. he didn't strike me as judgemental at all but living between geneva and marbella and randomly jetting all over the place..it's just a different world and i wonder how much understanding people like him have of people like me who have to struggle to make ends meet sometimes.

we only spent a couple of hours together and the converstaion flowed. he called on his way home to see if i wanted to go to his hotel (he lives in the presidential suite, as you do) for breakfast in the morning. i'm gonna go cos we did have a nice time and it's worth further investigation but i just dunno.... i feel like i'm gonna be forced to wear designer gear and floral prints if i start seeing this man and i like my style as it is...with clothes i can afford.

he lives in a superficial world and although he's not like that at all himself, every sentence seems laced with some kind of wealth indicator, almost casually tossed in. he mentioned he had property near where i live. i asked what it was as i am currently looking to rent an apartment. he said, well you would have to get a tent cos it's 600,000m2 of land.

this is europe. that is alot of fucking land.

so i dunno. i wonder if this life style of his is going to prevent me from getting to know him. like i said, i already feel like i wanna back off.

Here are my two cents, my luv:

You paid because you are intimidated by his wealth. Paying = control. What, do say, scorpios NEED to be in control—
I see you reacting in fear of not fitting in to his world. Judging HIM by his *things*. Naughty girl. What if HE did that in reverse to you? "SHE doesnt have the rich friends I do, SHE doesnt own property like I do, SHE doesn't have flowering clothse like I do"? You'd call him a snob ass fuck-twit, right? So, stop focusing on the fear and focus on the faith and that he is a nice man who you connect with.

Im sure somehow you can manage to learn to enjoy the wealth. 😉

yeah, i guess. but this is extreme. we're only gonna be able to meet for an hour before he has a business meeting and there's no harm in taking things slowly. he's pretty keen to find a wife though which is also another downer cos i feel like i'm being assessed as marriage material although i did tell him that we should just hang out and see how things go cos i don't think i want to get married again.

another thing that kinda made it difficult today was that he was wearing sunglasses nearly the whole time as we sat outside and the shade was too cold for me (cos i'm a wuss). i couldn't see his damn eyes and so i was more clueless cos i wasn't able to read him.

tomorrow morning. breakfast. no shades. will update, lol.

i washed my car tonight cos it's gonna be parked amongst bentleys and ferraris in the morning, if they allow my humble seat leon across the threshold that is, lol.

yeah you're right about the judging part bgp..i think it's called inverted snobbery. at least he has made most of his own wealth cos they tend to be nicer people than those born into it.

he asked if me and my daughter wanted to go to sierra nevada ski-ing this coming weekend. i declined with some feeble excuse cos a) i hate snow, b) have never skied in my life and have no balance and c) they'll all be there in their flash outfits and i don't happen to own a ski-suit. i feel bad about getting involved with someone where i'll have to buy stuff to fit in cos there's no way i would let him buy me the stuff. it's not really about control though so much...i think it's cos i feel inferior. it's like a middle-aged version of pretty woman, 'cept i'm not a hooker, lol.

hey sexiful: i think exactly the same as you cos i am a libra moon sistah!! *high five*

i just feel uncomfortable with someone paying for stuff for me and buying gifts, almost like you implicitly 'owe' them something and that you can be easily bought. it's more of a pride thing than control. we leeb mooners are just too nice!!

bailed out of breakfast. just as well cos i got really busy with work. said perhaps we could do it tomorrow but then i made an arrangement to meet with a client instead. i'll see him again but i'm obviously stalling. not sure why. think it's the inferiority complex.

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bailed out of breakfast. just as well cos i got really busy with work. said perhaps we could do it tomorrow but then i made an arrangement to meet with a client instead. i'll see him again but i'm obviously stalling. not sure why. think it's the inferiority complex.

don not feel like this Rigor, why should you feel any inferiority complex; he is the one who is more needy, not you. do not let any preconceived notions deter you, or worse, make you feel low. do not worry about sun glasses, i know it gives a creepy feeling but some men just put them on out of habit, maybe so they can observe you without being observed by you.
but if your intuition is telling you to stay away from him then it's an other thing; follow your intuitive responses,i have great faith in Scorpion intuition.
come, cheer up, do not let thing weigh upon you so much.🙂

Its always about control. Control = security. Aren't scorpios known for feeling insecure. If one feels inferiorir thats the sign of insecurity.

Do you have trouble accepting a compliment? same thing. Self esteem issues.

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Well my reaction only came due to Leo-Aquarian - never worked out. We're polar opposites. Male Leo and female Aquarius are supposed to fare better.

Good luck with your meeting my dear - I'm sure you'll hit it off 😉 Keep us updated!

Wrong! It's the other way around!! Statistically, Leo females end up married to Aqua men quite often - Aqua men LOVE strong, fixed women. Leo men... notsomuch.

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since when?
i wish,so earnestly, that you prove to be right.

it's not really that i mistrust him in terms of his personality. he seems pretty genuine to be fair and i wasn't aware of any disparity between us when we were talking but that's cos i was an academic high achiever.

it's more that he's from a circle that i've only ever written about contemptuously when i was a journalist but he says he wants to get away from that life style . i don't generally like what wealth represents and so have a fear of getting caught up in it...like the way people lick your ass constantly just cos of who you are...if you're with someone like that, you have the reflected celebrity of it and it's something that i know won't suit the kind of person i am.

like, he's invited me and my daughter ski-ing this weekend. i declined but mostly cos i couldn't imagine turning up in sierra nevada wearing the thickest woolly jumper i have and standing alongside people who can actually SKI and are wearing the expensive outfits too - the gstaad set. why would anyone want to put themselves in that situation, let alone take their kid along to enjoy the humiliation of it!!

this guy isn't pompous in the slightest. he was born into money but he's made more of his own and i told him that it's the kind of personality that creates their own success that i find attractive. he loved the fact i worked and that i actually enjoy my work and wouldn't give it up for anything. he was also very impressed that i understood what his main family business was straight away...they manufacture valves for amps, like marshall which i know cos i was a pro singer years ago. he wasn't flash or showy at all, in fact my daughter who had been spying on us at lunch, said he looked really scruffy and doubted he had a couple of centimos to rub together..until she saw his car of course.

i had a very late dumbfuck realisation about the breakfast invite too. i had assumed it would be in the hotel restaurant but then today it occured to me that you wouldn't live in the presidential suite and go down to the restaurant for breakfast.

so, nicely avoided methinks!! i can be sooooo slow on the uptake sometimes.

i just need a face to face with him sans sunglasses so i can penetrate his mind 😛

although i know before trying that it's not possible with an aqua cos they're so quirky which i absolutely love about them. he's the first aqua out of 6 i know who's birthday isn't on the 9th feb too, lol.

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Posted by sheathedclaws
Well my reaction only came due to Leo-Aquarian - never worked out. We're polar opposites. Male Leo and female Aquarius are supposed to fare better.

Good luck with your meeting my dear - I'm sure you'll hit it off 😉 Keep us updated!

Wrong! It's the other way around!! Statistically, Leo females end up married to Aqua men quite often - Aqua men LOVE strong, fixed women. Leo men... notsomuch.

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Excuse my mistake then! Maybe I just don't fare well with Aquarian men for more than friendship! And I'll keep that in mind with Leo men/Aquarian women - maybe I had read exceptions due to other aspects in the charts.

I've never gone past drunkenly kissing Aquarians. And that was after either red wine or Jack Daniels. Ooooof. Usually the Aquarian is too intimidated by my intensity or feel like I'm too motivated on a set path and don't want to be put into a life style where they're expected to produce and keep up. That's just what I've been told. Despite that, we party hardy! 😉

damn! bailed out on another date for today. lunch. got tied up at a meeting in the morning and used it as an excuse. spoke to him on the phone though and we had a great chat. he told me not to disappear on him and so i think something's coming across that i'm not quite aware of....reticence but for what reason.

i'm not consciously bailing but it just seems that a convenient excuse 'appears' at the last minute. don't know what i'm scared of.

i'm definitely seeing him for lunch tomorrow. sin falta.

i'm not sure there's flakiness involved. just a degree of caution on both sides. remember he's aqua and so he can handle being ignored for days...or at least i hope so. i want him to see the real me and so that's why i don't put myself in environments, like a sotogrande sushi bar, where i have to think about if i'm wearing an appopriate outfit. i gave up being appropriate when i was climbing the corporate ladder and i'm not doing it again cos i believe you get to a certain point in your life where you have earned the right to be yourself and not have someone look down on you.

the women in his 'set' are horrible stuck up bitches that haven't worked a day in their lives. the aqua has been there and been fucked over by that more times than he would care to remember. he needs someone normal. i'm introducing him to my world rather than me entering his....we had lunch at burger king in a dodgy little town by me yesterday. it was great. he said 'i could get used to this' cos we had fun without any pretentions.

i like him 🙂

he does allow himself one hour of PS3 a day. modern warfare, lol.

his father died in 1975 and his mother, who was alot younger than him lives in another hotel suite in marbella. they're very close and she's behind him being out there looking for a wife. i did clarify that point with him and asked if marriage was important because personally, i don't think there's a need to get married specially having fucked one marriage up already! he said it wasn't actually important and that he would much rather just be with someone because he wanted to be. he did say though that donald trump has a good system...when he marries, he insists on a pre-nup of 18 months duration as he reckons that is how long it takes to discover if she's a gold digger or just not the woman she presented herself as...if she lasts beyond 18 months, he will be in love with her and so no contract needs be in place.

that's very entrepreneurially romantic, lol.

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that's very entrepreneurially romantic, lol.

HAH! I love this quote!!! So funny!!

LOL!! actually, my son said the same minus the kicking in the gut part.