FixedWater's Just For The Record....

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Over the last few days I have been attacked by a certain member or two and my Lil Ole Screen Name has been dragged through the mud. That the attacks have more than crossed lines that no one online should even consider crossing is fact. Really, people that live with me can't keep up with all the details of my life so how could anyone online ever conceivably think that a little clip of a moment or two from the last 46 would be enough to Judge me as anything.... let alone an Abusive Mother.

The whole concept in itself is ridiculous to say the least.

Life is just that, Life. There are moments of learning, loving, listening, action.... no one on this planet can say they have had a perfect record. Especially not the two that have been trashing my good character like I am nothing but a piece of shit.
I am not, nor have ever claimed to be perfect and in fact have bared my soul on here more than once. I have a lot of life experiences under my belt and I do believe in sharing. This is how we help others, and I do love to be a part of something so glorious ... and that's why I am here on Dxp. I read a quote once that said something to the effect of: It is those that are the angriest, that need the most help... or something like that. My memory sucks ass, as I have said before. My point being this, If we do not stand up to people such as these two how WILL they ever learn? It is in exposing those flaws that they will have no choice but to face them. They are scary, yes, and no one wants to have to deal with the intensity, I get that. How will we, as a community, do them any justice by sitting back and ignoring when their behaviour has crossed very clear lines. It is just a mask, and she/he/they wear it well.

Thankfully, after the attacks of recent days, I am a strong woman. My love of self runs deep and I thank you, both of you, for showing me how deep it goes. Some members maybe not so much, and can you imagine if that were the case and they took what those two said personally? What kind of mothering would that woman have been doing then? That they advocate for the child is a good thing, but in a supportive and nurturing way is very necessary. Self-Esteem is in high demand for mothers in the kind of scenario they wished to paint me in, so what good does it do the child to handle that type of situation through name calling, slander, and bullying.... If my situation even slightly resembled what has been painted here I can guarantee it would have been much w
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..... continued

... would have been much different and I guarantee it wouldn't have involved DXP. Think about it...

As a matter of setting this final record straight. The man I divorced, I divorced for a REASON. That means, it didn't work out between us hey? Something was wrong in the LOVE NEST! No, I did not know in advance that he didn't have those good 'single dad' parenting genes. Why? Because she was with me and around me her whole life to that point. Yes, he did leave her with strangers. Yes he did try to make her lie about it. Yes I did find out about it 3 weeks later. Yes I did act upon it as any mother would. Yes the matter was handled with the COLD HARD FEAR of "MAMMA BEAR" firmly implanted in case he should consider doing this again. After that I have spent time having "general discussions" with my daughter about all kinds of topics to help arm her with information and ensure her safety. So. don't worry you two.... I GOT THIS! Lol

In closing, I apologize to all the other members for the negativity of the boards over the last few days, and for today as I am sure this will rile the beasts again. I also apologize in advance for any comments I make on your posts because surely he/she/they will follow me around with their axe to grind.

Have a beautiful Wednesday.... 😄
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pretty your words are NOW, now that you realize you've been outed .....



Posted by FixedWater

.... he leaves his daughter with complete strangers so he can go drink and gamble.







Posted by FixedWater

... he is in her life and spends a great deal of time with her.






You said that ^^^^ to a responder in telling her that currently, you LET your little girl spend a lot of time with him.

So, you willingly send her child to be with her father, WITH the knowledge that he leaves your little girl with strangers.

But, it gets even worse than just strangers ....


Posted by FixedWater

The man he left her with was in fact a complete stranger. Not a babysitter that was new. He told her not to tell me (teaching her to lie) and she managed to keep it a secret from me for 3 weeks.

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The stranger was in fact a man who is not a babysitter and the girl was instructed not to tell.

That is red flags waving so fucking high that you'd have to be a moron not to get what is going on.


You KNOW your daughter is being stored with a strange MAN and being told not to tell ....

Not only do you know this .... you continue to send her there, according to your own testimony.


You are a mother who knowingly sends your own child into a situation that is potentially putting her in danger.

And all of your babbly above to try and save face by talking about the other aspects of your life in an attempt to say that other good things that we don't know should be taken into consideration ... and that is a bunch of utter bullshit, because all you accomplish is trying to hide/deflect ... so people will overlook or forget ... or maybe they will like you so much that they don't care.

Nothing of what you said here changes that fact that you willingly send your child to a strange man, a man you don't know, a man who your husband instructs your daughter to keep silent about .... and your only concern is how YOU look.
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This is the likely reason why there are so many children out there in the world getting kidnapped and when investigated, they can't find any forced entry ... it appears as though the child didn't struggle.

Because people close blind eyes .... look at all of you here, because they like fixedwater, because fixedwater can act nice .... the eyes become blinded.

You let your child visit him, and you can tell us all you want about your little talks you have ... but, that doesn't amount to shit, now does it? ... because you just wrote another thread the other day about how her father is currently emotionally abusing her by instilling fear in here.

So, your little talks that you have don't amount to shit ... they are only in place so you can feel good about YOURSELF.

Because if your concern was about the child ... then you would act like it.

I won't comment in here again because I don't have to. When your child becomes a statistic because of YOUR ego .... then that pain you suffered at your child's expense will be your reward.
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Posted by GetMisted
Happy Hump day FixedWater.

That was well written and I agree. The only thing I would change is that bo matter how much you expose those flaws, the only person who can change them for the better are those who possess those flaws. All we can do is guide them down the right road. It is their choice, and their choice alone to follow the path layed out before them.

Until then, "Flag this message" is a great alternative and one that will hopefully get the attention of the site owner if used correctly.



Thank You GetMisted, and I totally agree with you and you have made a Very Good Point!

"Flag this Message" option is for that particular comment alone?
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Posted by seraph
The people who attacked you are completely irrational - as in, they need help, and arguing anything with them is a dead-end proposition.

They do this type of thing all the time - you're just the latest, but since this site has next to no moderation (unlike most discussion forums around the web), they continue to run amok with their nonsense. Some of it's deliberately malicious, but a lot of it points to other issues.

I know it's hard, but don't take their ramblings to heart. If things get too much out of hand and the flag option is of no avail, then forward the matter to the site admin. Keep in mind that it might take more than one try, as they are sometimes quite busy.



Thank You seraph, for your words of support and guidance. That they can do this, and can get away with it here on Dxp is unfortunate. I agree with you, they do need help, and I hope they find it because with it they would find some peace...

The flag option is very nice... 🙂
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Fixed, you're doing an excellent job raising your daughter and doing the best you can for her. We're all imperfect, we all make mistakes and the best any of us can do is take the good we were taught and expand on it, discard the things that are not as good and keep moving forward.

How in the halibut P Angel and LIB can keep ignoring the part where you explain that once you found out about her father leaving her with a stranger you took care of it is beyond me. It's a boot to the head kind of frustration.

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Posted by MoonArtist
Fixed, you're doing an excellent job raising your daughter and doing the best you can for her. We're all imperfect, we all make mistakes and the best any of us can do is take the good we were taught and expand on it, discard the things that are not as good and keep moving forward.

How in the halibut P Angel and LIB can keep ignoring the part where you explain that once you found out about her father leaving her with a stranger you took care of it is beyond me. It's a boot to the head kind of frustration.





Thank You My Sister From Another Mother! (From now on: 'SFAM' haha!) I agree, that we aren't perfect and we all make mistakes. I wish I was perfect and "all-knowing", but then I'd be dead. Lol

I do not know how in the Halibut they keep missing it, perhaps I should write in big block letters? (ahhhh.... don't know how to do that either Lol)

Wahahahaha! Love the song! Rolflmao
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Posted by FixedWater
Posted by MoonArtist
Fixed, you're doing an excellent job raising your daughter and doing the best you can for her. We're all imperfect, we all make mistakes and the best any of us can do is take the good we were taught and expand on it, discard the things that are not as good and keep moving forward.

How in the halibut P Angel and LIB can keep ignoring the part where you explain that once you found out about her father leaving her with a stranger you took care of it is beyond me. It's a boot to the head kind of frustration.





Thank You My Sister From Another Mother! (From now on: 'SFAM' haha!) I agree, that we aren't perfect and we all make mistakes. I wish I was perfect and "all-knowing", but then I'd be dead. Lol

I do not know how in the Halibut they keep missing it, perhaps I should write in big block letters? (ahhhh.... don't know how to do that either Lol)

Wahahahaha! Love the song! Rolflmao
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SFAM, If all knowing means you die...then I forbid you to be all knowing. I FORBID IT!! lol

I have a feeling that block letters smacking them upside the head still wouldn't help them...so sad, really.