Gemini in a dilemma with a Scorpio Part 2

So the only person I could talked to was with my friend because he was alot older and had more experience in the whole dating thing. He completely understood everything and told me to just to wait it out. And that's what exactly I did, I didn't want to jump into any conclusions and make a fool out of myself and possibly ruin a potential relationship which was something I was looking for. Unfortunately my friend and I kinda had falling out that turned sorta nasty but of course I apologized and tried to make things right. He wouldn't have it and I havent heard from him in a while.
About a week later, my Scorpio picked me up and took me to this little lake and parked the car. And he then he began telling me about how him and his ex are broken up and that they havent told anybody about it including one of his closes friend. He then told me that somebody was talking to his friend about me and my Scorpio. I already knew who it was and I tried to play it off like I didn't know anything about it. Of course I could tell he saw right through that but he didnt say anything. I needed to to deal with my friend. We argued, said so more horrible stuff and I just threatened him to mind his own business and stop snooping around.It wasnt till the next week when my Scorpio emailed me to stop contacting him and stuff like that. I knew deep down that my friend somehow got in touch with the ex, he is just the type of person to do that. I explained to my Scorpio about everything and he said he just needed some time to let things cool down. Two months past, and I met him and things were sorta normal. He said he had alot on his plate and things were alot easier if he was single and not dealing with the responsibilities of a relationship; and said to give him time. (I understood because we talked about this before.) But we still see each other, and still having sex and stuff but I just want more than that. What do I do? I want to stick around to show him that I really do care.
Do Scorps usually keep in touch with their exes? And I am just afraid that he hasn't gotten over it and just waiting to "sting" back even though we still close and things got back to normal. I just need to know what I have to do to make things right?

i only keep in touch with exes if i have to, as in the case of my ex husband cos we've got kids. nevertheless, i speak to him only when i need to....although i say speak, i mean email. we are not capable of being in the same room although there have been a few occasions when he's hugged me cos he knew i was having a tough time which was nice during the moment.

to be honest, it takes me so long to decide that i don't want to see or speak to someone any more that when i do, it's cast in stone. it starts as a slow release...almost subconsciously...scorps stop communicating, even if they are on speaking terms with you, it won't be communication of substance. and then, the scorp will just fade out totally and shut the door behind them.

occasionally memories will pop back into your mind but if you become sad at the memory, it is pushed right back again until you're ready to view that memory without compassion.

if you are still seeing this guy and things are ok between you then there is a chance that in time, things will be good again. you have to prove you are trustworthy to him but without changing who you are. we hate it when people make obvious gestures to win us over...so fake.

btw, there seems to be a lot of drama in your story. despite what people say, scorps really don't like drama. gem/scorp is a difficult combo and that is part of the reason why.

Trust me, I hate drama. That is why my friend and I are no longer on speaking terms. I think I am more attuned to my Pisces qualities and I swear there is this physic communication going between us sometimes. When we stare in each other's eyes I can fill him probing me, and I know he can feel it too. It's just sometimes, it was really hard to express myself to him because I didn't know how he felt about me, and then the idea that his ex might still be in the picture. I was afraid to let my walls down and be exposed and have everything thrown in my face. And I never really questioned him about it because I didnt want any drama. But once I know everything is real, I want to break my walls down and just completely lose myself in him; become one with him. The way he kisses me and on my forehead drives me insane. Ugh

I would suggest that you keep your pants zipped, and your butt cheeks clinched .. so long as you're letting him nut, his treatment of you and the terms of the relationship won't change.

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
...scorps stop communicating, even if they are on speaking terms with you, it won't be communication of substance. and then, the scorp will just fade out totally and shut the door behind them.

Sigh...don't I know this all too well. 😢

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
btw, there seems to be a lot of drama in your story. despite what people say, scorps really don't like drama. gem/scorp is a difficult combo and that is part of the reason why.

Trust me, I hate drama. That is why my friend and I are no longer on speaking terms. I think I am more attuned to my Pisces qualities and I swear there is this physic communication going between us sometimes. When we stare in each other's eyes I can fill him probing me, and I know he can feel it too. It's just sometimes, it was really hard to express myself to him because I didn't know how he felt about me, and then the idea that his ex might still be in the picture. I was afraid to let my walls down and be exposed and have everything thrown in my face. And I never really questioned him about it because I didnt want any drama. But once I know everything is real, I want to break my walls down and just completely lose myself in him; become one with him. The way he kisses me and on my forehead drives me insane. Ugh

Posted by geminiboy

But once I know everything is real, I want to break my walls down and just completely lose myself in him; become one with him.

Everything real?

So, you aren't looking for a stable relationship built on trust obviously, since you're not going to have any discussions with him about the ex ... you just want him to make you believe that he's really into you, so you can fall so deeply that you might have to prove your faithfulness to him by sketching his name on your butt plug.

You really sound like you care about being respected at all, since you don't care about communication ... and are only focusing on losing yourself, built around a kiss on the forehead.


Listening to queers talk should be a sign for women ... men don't really care about feelings, and all the trust and faith bullshit.

Notice there's no mention of love.

Women are like .... love has to be present, without love I can't give myself to a man, love, love, love


Men are like .... I wanna fuck

Posted by P-Angel
Notice there's no mention of love.

To be completely honest; I have fallen in love with guy. But I was to embarrassed to admit because we only knew each other for a short period of time and the fact that everything happened so fast. I have been hurt before and I am always skeptical about everything people tell me. But with him its different.

And just wasnt about the sex either. I dont care about the sex, it's amazing and all but there's more important stuff than that. Being around him always made my day. I can see all this passion and intensity. Especially dealing with his work, although he says its a pain; I can tell he enjoys it just by the way talks about. How his job helps alot of people; I can tell he is very dedicated to anything he sets his mind to. He has everything together; I can also tell he is a very emotional person. He hides it very well through this composed mask and posture of his, but I can see in those intense bright blue eyes that everything boiling at the surface waiting to explode.
I always admired this about him because in way I am the same way. Not that intense but still, I can see sorta through him.

And to be honest, I actually never got the chance to talk about his ex. Everything went downhill so fast it took me awhile to completely understand what happened. SO what do I do?

Posted by geminiboy

And to be honest, I actually never got the chance to talk about his ex. Everything went downhill so fast it took me awhile to completely understand what happened. SO what do I do?

But, you let him nut .... so you had time to lube your asshole.

don't try to bullshit me .. I see right through people.

If you have time to have sex, you have time to have a discussion.

I told you what to do already >>> don't unzip your fucking pants.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by geminiboy

And to be honest, I actually never got the chance to talk about his ex. Everything went downhill so fast it took me awhile to completely understand what happened. SO what do I do?

But, you let him nut .... so you had time to lube your asshole.

don't try to bullshit me .. I see right through people.

If you have time to have sex, you have time to have a discussion.

I told you what to do already >>> don't unzip your fucking pants.

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You're right. I did plan on confronting him about everything. The ex, what we are doing, and stuff.