R1g0rM0rT1s
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general rant
You know my answer, girlie. You did the correct thing.
"what we resist, shall persist". Don't focus on all the reasons you *shouldnt* like him, and his defects. Focus on the fact you do like him, it didn't work out due to both of your actions/reactions and feel your feelings through it so you can learn from it. Thus, you won't repeat the mistakes with another.
We don't get around things, but get *through* things, and fighting it resisting makes it harder..and longer.
xoxo
"what we resist, shall persist". Don't focus on all the reasons you *shouldnt* like him, and his defects. Focus on the fact you do like him, it didn't work out due to both of your actions/reactions and feel your feelings through it so you can learn from it. Thus, you won't repeat the mistakes with another.
We don't get around things, but get *through* things, and fighting it resisting makes it harder..and longer.
xoxo
haha!! you imply there is choice EEE! you're right about looking for someone totally opposite but the problem is that you are generally attracted to the same types...not necessarily personality but looks, etc. the kind of man that gets my attention is almost certainly not a good choice for me. i'm sure it's a numbers game but unfortunately the knobhead/nice guy ratio where i live makes the probability of meeting someone decent as low as the chances of winning the el gordo lottery.
BGP: you speak true and i know it but i still feel like a pathetic loser.
BGP: you speak true and i know it but i still feel like a pathetic loser.
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BGP: you speak true and i know it but i still feel like a pathetic loser.
Feelings aren't facts....
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
i want to break this pattern right now. ideas?
your honesty is brilliant! really... it's crazy refreshing
wish I had something for you, tho 😢
knobhead's placements:
Sun Leo
Moon Libra
Mercury Leo
Venus Leo
Mars Cancer
Jupiter Cancer
Saturn Pisces
Uranus Virgo
Neptune Scorpio
Pluto Virgo
Lilith Pisces
Asc node Taurus
mine:
Sun Scorpio
Moon Libra
Mercury Scorpio
Venus Libra
Mars Leo
Jupiter Taurus
Saturn Aquarius
Uranus Virgo
Neptune Scorpio
Pluto Virgo
Midheaven Gemini
Lilith Capricorn
Asc node Gemini
if you can't be honest on a forum like this, what is the point? i wouldn't dream of setting myself up as a loser in love in real though. it just gets hard hiding behind a mask all the time and so that's why i like to come here and spread my misery amongst my virtual friends 😄
Sun Leo
Moon Libra
Mercury Leo
Venus Leo
Mars Cancer
Jupiter Cancer
Saturn Pisces
Uranus Virgo
Neptune Scorpio
Pluto Virgo
Lilith Pisces
Asc node Taurus
mine:
Sun Scorpio
Moon Libra
Mercury Scorpio
Venus Libra
Mars Leo
Jupiter Taurus
Saturn Aquarius
Uranus Virgo
Neptune Scorpio
Pluto Virgo
Midheaven Gemini
Lilith Capricorn
Asc node Gemini
if you can't be honest on a forum like this, what is the point? i wouldn't dream of setting myself up as a loser in love in real though. it just gets hard hiding behind a mask all the time and so that's why i like to come here and spread my misery amongst my virtual friends 😄
i would pretend he was dead if he noticed that i was pretending he was dead 😢
i would have to text him to let him know i was pretending he was dead for it to work which would defeat the object of the exercise.
i know what i have to do. i have to get over myself as far as he's concerned. it's just the how part that's troubling me.
speed dating? that's the norm where i live...people are in and out of each others beds like it's a fucking merry-go-round!!
i tried that. hated it very quickly. don't wanna go there again. sex is easy to get. it's luuuuuuurve i want.
i would have to text him to let him know i was pretending he was dead for it to work which would defeat the object of the exercise.
i know what i have to do. i have to get over myself as far as he's concerned. it's just the how part that's troubling me.
speed dating? that's the norm where i live...people are in and out of each others beds like it's a fucking merry-go-round!!
i tried that. hated it very quickly. don't wanna go there again. sex is easy to get. it's luuuuuuurve i want.
lol @ fucking merry-go-round pun!! unintentional.
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i know he's an asshole of the highest order. i didn't even find him that attractive at first. the sex wasn't all that. his taste in music SUCKED. he drinks too much. he's arrogant when there's not really enough substance to be. he's crap with relationships. emotionally unavailable. i only saw him for a few intense days 6 MONTHS ago. i know i don't want him or want to even be friends with a man like this.
but because it was HE who did the dumping....my ego can't get over it!!! and what's more, i just don't understand the logic behind the way i feel. I DON'T WANT HIM but how DARE he not want me! it makes me want to FORCE him to want me so that i can reject his ass right back. i've regressed to being a teenager 😢
this whole ego thing has led me to humiliate myself. i've not gone overboard by any stretch of the imagination but i have emailed him and texted occasionally...to try and get attention i guess....and have been ignored or fobbed off and it's OBVIOUS he doesn't want me either so why the fuck do i still feel like shit about it. where's my mojo gone 😢
i tried forgetting about him but just ended up using other men in the process and not feeling better at all. even worse is the ever looming possibility of randomly bumping into this person...leo btw.
i know that if i meet someone great, i will forget about the leo but i want to get over it on my own before i meet someone else cos otherwise i'll just attract a similar knobhead and before long i'll be pining over him when he's dumped me!!
Ahhh I feel so much better now that i know im not the only idiot thats done this. Hadnt behaved this way in years and fancy being like this at my age. Lol. It seems to be like im in battle and i have to win or have the last word at least. How dare anyone treat me this way. Want him standing in fromt of me so i can make him squirm.
Anyway all i can say is we just have to move on and eventually you just do. Put way back in the memory and close the door.
i want to break this pattern right now. ideas?
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it's luuuuuuurve i want.
Then luuuuuuuurve is what you will receive if....you conceive it in your mind, speak it from your heart and then believe it will happen...it will!
Manifest it!
awww...seraph. yeah, it's me banging on about the leo again. it's only cos i don't want to do it for real though. honest.
also, i have a sneaky suspicion my next man will be a leo. they're all around me. keep meeting them. actually, can you tell me if it's usual for scorps and leos to do some strange dancing around eachother when there's clearly an attraction?
i dunno if i've got the arse for a lion. what about MY ego....she needs strokies too.
also, i have a sneaky suspicion my next man will be a leo. they're all around me. keep meeting them. actually, can you tell me if it's usual for scorps and leos to do some strange dancing around eachother when there's clearly an attraction?
i dunno if i've got the arse for a lion. what about MY ego....she needs strokies too.
BGP: TESTIFY SISTA!!!
trouble is, i think my concept of love is totally off the mark, mainly cos i don't think i've felt it before, not in all its dimensions. i just wanna hang out and have fun with someone and see where it goes. strikes me that as soon as emotion enters the equation, the games commence!
and i'm crap at games 😢
trouble is, i think my concept of love is totally off the mark, mainly cos i don't think i've felt it before, not in all its dimensions. i just wanna hang out and have fun with someone and see where it goes. strikes me that as soon as emotion enters the equation, the games commence!
and i'm crap at games 😢
NZaries: it is quite shocking how childish this behaviour is and i'm a little ashamed of myself...hence the rant here and not in the real world. i guess that when it comes to relationships, we never really grow up!
i felt so miserable about the leo today that i decided to prod a scorp i was seeing for a bit til we had a fight and put each other on ignore. the damn man responded quickly enough but OH.MY.GOD the lecture i got about my 'behaviour' made him sound like my fucking dad!! wish i hadn't bothered! veeeeeeeery unsexy to do that.
i felt so miserable about the leo today that i decided to prod a scorp i was seeing for a bit til we had a fight and put each other on ignore. the damn man responded quickly enough but OH.MY.GOD the lecture i got about my 'behaviour' made him sound like my fucking dad!! wish i hadn't bothered! veeeeeeeery unsexy to do that.
apparently, i'm not adorable. i'm ignorable. but yeah...i'll get over it. i know i mostly feel this way cos i need to get laid basically but then, i'm not a guy and meaningless shags are so boooooring and a little bit awkward too i find. it's like being a hooker without getting paid...little bit of smalltalk and away we go. doesn't inspire me to pull out my full repertoire at all and i always leave feeling shortchanged 😛
i did a stupid thing today to cheer myself up. i had to go out and noticed that i was getting a few admiring glances and found myself strutting my stuff a little (ok, a lot actually), giving it the big 'look at me!!'. they were probably looking at someone else anyway but i milked it for what it was worth and it cheered me up, LOL.
SEE KNOBHEAD?? OTHER MEN WANT ME EVEN IF YOU DON'T!
fuck. i've regressed further from teenager to toddler 😢
i did a stupid thing today to cheer myself up. i had to go out and noticed that i was getting a few admiring glances and found myself strutting my stuff a little (ok, a lot actually), giving it the big 'look at me!!'. they were probably looking at someone else anyway but i milked it for what it was worth and it cheered me up, LOL.
SEE KNOBHEAD?? OTHER MEN WANT ME EVEN IF YOU DON'T!
fuck. i've regressed further from teenager to toddler 😢
sultrybanana (don't like sultanas)...i'm beginning to wonder about scorp on scorp. i always thought it would be cool and that you would get understanding from them cos of the similarities but, no. it aint so at all. they are waaaaaaaay moodier than we are and have an irritating habit of just cutting you dead without reference to you which i absolutely HATE. the one i was seeing did just that. just stopped talking to me. i hounded him with texts and emails telling him to man up and tell me what was up. eventually, i texted saying that if he didn't answer, i would simply call by the office and he could tell me to my face. BINGO!! rapid response given. then he told me what his problem was and i was then in a position to ignore his ass right back!
that's the way it's sposed to go. done, dusted and moved on from.
bit of a fuck up prodding him and giving him the chance to take the last word from me but whatever! i'll give it a few weeks before i stick my last, last word in...you'll see mister!
that's the way it's sposed to go. done, dusted and moved on from.
bit of a fuck up prodding him and giving him the chance to take the last word from me but whatever! i'll give it a few weeks before i stick my last, last word in...you'll see mister!
MEEEEEEEEEOW!! you go girl!! it's absolutely not about self esteem. my god i have possibly the biggest head in the world which may have been half the problem with the leo. it's purely about EGO. how very dare he bruise my delicate flower of an egoooo 😢
i love admitting faux pas. i have many to admit to. they are all part of life's rich tapestry after all 🙂
and you're also only as great as your last mistake and i have made some WHOPPERS so i must be really, really great by now, lol!
i love admitting faux pas. i have many to admit to. they are all part of life's rich tapestry after all 🙂
and you're also only as great as your last mistake and i have made some WHOPPERS so i must be really, really great by now, lol!
hahah!!! how is he dictating how i feel? the only person who dictates how you feel is YOURSELF. it's just like people can't hurt you...it's your reaction to what they do that causes the hurt and so on that basis, it's something that you can overcome on your own.
trust me. my self-esteem is not the issue here.
i'm actually not as bad as this ranting suggests. i just chose to rant here because my 16 year old son (virg/lib cusp) took me to one side and asked if everything was ok with me cos he felt i was on facebook too much posting attention seeking shit. he told me to take down my shitty profile picture which was basically a 'no bullshit zone' notice, put a nice pic of myself up and chill out a little.
so i came here where he can't see me, LOL.
trust me. my self-esteem is not the issue here.
i'm actually not as bad as this ranting suggests. i just chose to rant here because my 16 year old son (virg/lib cusp) took me to one side and asked if everything was ok with me cos he felt i was on facebook too much posting attention seeking shit. he told me to take down my shitty profile picture which was basically a 'no bullshit zone' notice, put a nice pic of myself up and chill out a little.
so i came here where he can't see me, LOL.
nights: so i texted a little to guage interest. where's the drama in that? yeah it was stoopid but what the hey! all the pices women i know are proper into drama and like to stir it up wherever possible...scorps just attract it like magnets but we don't generally cause it.
this vid...which i have no clue how to embed...this is proper dramarama!! it's an hilarious series of texts sent by a woman after a one night stand. something like 46 text messages she sent.
humour is the best medicine of all. i started the day a pathetic lump of uselessness and am now ending the day with aa happy clappy feeling. 🙂
this vid...which i have no clue how to embed...this is proper dramarama!! it's an hilarious series of texts sent by a woman after a one night stand. something like 46 text messages she sent.
humour is the best medicine of all. i started the day a pathetic lump of uselessness and am now ending the day with aa happy clappy feeling. 🙂
don't like sultanas...don't like raisins...don't you know they are dead flies—
eeeeeveryone knows that!
eeeeeveryone knows that!
actually, thinking about it, my son met the leo and warned me off him. he'd come to ours to paint my daughter's bedroom. left behind some of his tools. when he dumped me, it was all i could do to stop my boy (who has the same damn name as the leo) from 'returning' the tools to him via a certain orifice, lol.
sons are champions of their mothers. he's totally my hero.
sons are champions of their mothers. he's totally my hero.
dazed: even though i have been contaminated with gemini—?
hey banana! i hope you feel better for that little piece of colonic irrigation 😄
i wasn't the dumper...i was the goddamn DUMPEEEEEEE!! i don't dump people just as you say...i just become really annoying so they want to leave me the hell alone 😛
believe me, i've viewed my situation as though i was detached and looking down on myself and i just wanna shake me and tell myself to get a grip! it's not about the man at all any more. it's the principle. you don't dump people by TEXT message and call yourself a man imo. he didn't even properly dump me cos he was so spineless....he left it open with an i'll call you tomorrow although that should be on his grave as it's just one of his meaningless catchphrases.
the way i feel is totally ridiculous and pointless and the worse thing is that i KNOW that. i guess ridiculous and pointless is my thang.
it was with a scorpio that i had the ignore off with and now neither one of us knows who dumped who, lol. no ego involved there so it didn't even touch the sides as far as i'm concerned.
but the leo? omg you should've heard the bullshit that flowed from his mouth....i was all this that and the other and then the next week, i was a complication in his life. i piss myself off so much by the fact i actually believed him but then i had been single for nearly 4 years when i met him and so was kinda out of practice and instead of shrugging and walking away...cos i was at a low point at that time...i all of a sudden wanted him more than anyone on the planet even though my virgo logic was telling me that i didn't really want him that much at all.
i'm sure i'm not the only scorp who has bust a gut trying to get someone interested who isn't only to win their interest and decide we don't actualy want them at all.
well, i haven't got the arse for it to be honest. i'm too lazy to give a crap any more. at least i know he's fucking someone else around now...or probably...cos men like that won't commit to anyone. it's not even a personal thing. he's just not got anything to offer me and i don't want dregs tvm.
this thread was just to sound off about it. i am purging myself of this man. it's a cathartic process. emmmpoowerring as they say.
aaaaaaaah fuck it, who am i trying to kid, lol. THE LEO MUST DIE!
i wasn't the dumper...i was the goddamn DUMPEEEEEEE!! i don't dump people just as you say...i just become really annoying so they want to leave me the hell alone 😛
believe me, i've viewed my situation as though i was detached and looking down on myself and i just wanna shake me and tell myself to get a grip! it's not about the man at all any more. it's the principle. you don't dump people by TEXT message and call yourself a man imo. he didn't even properly dump me cos he was so spineless....he left it open with an i'll call you tomorrow although that should be on his grave as it's just one of his meaningless catchphrases.
the way i feel is totally ridiculous and pointless and the worse thing is that i KNOW that. i guess ridiculous and pointless is my thang.
it was with a scorpio that i had the ignore off with and now neither one of us knows who dumped who, lol. no ego involved there so it didn't even touch the sides as far as i'm concerned.
but the leo? omg you should've heard the bullshit that flowed from his mouth....i was all this that and the other and then the next week, i was a complication in his life. i piss myself off so much by the fact i actually believed him but then i had been single for nearly 4 years when i met him and so was kinda out of practice and instead of shrugging and walking away...cos i was at a low point at that time...i all of a sudden wanted him more than anyone on the planet even though my virgo logic was telling me that i didn't really want him that much at all.
i'm sure i'm not the only scorp who has bust a gut trying to get someone interested who isn't only to win their interest and decide we don't actualy want them at all.
well, i haven't got the arse for it to be honest. i'm too lazy to give a crap any more. at least i know he's fucking someone else around now...or probably...cos men like that won't commit to anyone. it's not even a personal thing. he's just not got anything to offer me and i don't want dregs tvm.
this thread was just to sound off about it. i am purging myself of this man. it's a cathartic process. emmmpoowerring as they say.
aaaaaaaah fuck it, who am i trying to kid, lol. THE LEO MUST DIE!
seraph: naaah, i don't mean it. i mean the guy did wound me by live and let live i say. i feel so much better about the whole thing now. i always think that if you can inject some humour into a really bad memory or hurtful experience that it helps you get over them.
it just didn't work out with him...no biggie really. i doubt it would've worked on in the long run anyway and so in a sense i cut my losses already.
i don't know one single capricorn man 😢
it just didn't work out with him...no biggie really. i doubt it would've worked on in the long run anyway and so in a sense i cut my losses already.
i don't know one single capricorn man 😢
Hello all!!
I am brand new here, but have been reading recently due to my interest (note:interest, not knowledge-learning and fascinated!) in astrology AND... okay, I'm dating a scorp!
And that, I am learning, takes a bit of hmmm... outside help perhaps—? I'm not sure what it takes exactly yet- but I like it! I'm sure I'll ask for some insight from all you here soon enough!!
I'm soooo wonderfully intrigued and becoming quickly enamored with many of the insightful, honest, intelligent, and hilarious peeps on here! Just to mention a couple...
BGP- ADORE your comments!! I need some of your wisdom!
Ellessque- brilliant, funny, awesome!!
R1...1s- Absolutely adore and appreciate your honest "rant". I have been there before and you made me laugh (with you) at such a perfect description of "what the heck is wrong with me?" No worries...You WILL get your chance for him to notice that you are ignoring him!! Whether you still care that you are "getting to him"at that point, well who knows! But either way- at some point he will notice that you don't care anymore! And for what its worth- Its crystal clear to me that you have absolutely perfect self esteem, and just got smitten and bitten by this one!! Hope the power shifts in your favor quickly!! 🙂
I am brand new here, but have been reading recently due to my interest (note:interest, not knowledge-learning and fascinated!) in astrology AND... okay, I'm dating a scorp!
And that, I am learning, takes a bit of hmmm... outside help perhaps—? I'm not sure what it takes exactly yet- but I like it! I'm sure I'll ask for some insight from all you here soon enough!!
I'm soooo wonderfully intrigued and becoming quickly enamored with many of the insightful, honest, intelligent, and hilarious peeps on here! Just to mention a couple...
BGP- ADORE your comments!! I need some of your wisdom!
Ellessque- brilliant, funny, awesome!!
R1...1s- Absolutely adore and appreciate your honest "rant". I have been there before and you made me laugh (with you) at such a perfect description of "what the heck is wrong with me?" No worries...You WILL get your chance for him to notice that you are ignoring him!! Whether you still care that you are "getting to him"at that point, well who knows! But either way- at some point he will notice that you don't care anymore! And for what its worth- Its crystal clear to me that you have absolutely perfect self esteem, and just got smitten and bitten by this one!! Hope the power shifts in your favor quickly!! 🙂
welcome sillyfilly!! i LIKE you...you said nice things 😛
i've already lost interest in trying to show the leo i don't care any more......cos i genuinely don't 😄
looking forward to seeing some threads from you 🙂
i've already lost interest in trying to show the leo i don't care any more......cos i genuinely don't 😄
looking forward to seeing some threads from you 🙂
FireDragonScorpio 😛
Hi SillyFilly.....welcome to crazy town here. Thanks for your nice words. Look forward to hearing of your scorpio dating experience. You should start a new thread to tell us all about you and the man.
And yes, you are right, those of us who date scorpio men DO need outside help! 😉
And yes, you are right, those of us who date scorpio men DO need outside help! 😉
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i would pretend he was dead if he noticed that i was pretending he was dead 😢
i would have to text him to let him know i was pretending he was dead for it to work which would defeat the object of the exercise.
ha ha ha, that's hilarious - and I know the feeling 🙂
Thank you RM and BGP for the welcome!! 🙂
I am so infantile in my knowledge of astrology, my learning curve is WAY steep currently!! I have been reading and trying to get a bit more knowledge before I bothered y'all with scorpio relationship questions that have been answered a bizillion times already! But I will indeed start a thread and ask for some insight soon!
I now know that my venus is in scorp and I have scorpio rising as well, so I at least am starting to make better sense to myself!! Oh, my sun sign is libra just fyi!
thanks again for the welcome-can't wait to get to read more wise and hilarious posts-as well as get y'all's help with my chart!!! 😉
I am so infantile in my knowledge of astrology, my learning curve is WAY steep currently!! I have been reading and trying to get a bit more knowledge before I bothered y'all with scorpio relationship questions that have been answered a bizillion times already! But I will indeed start a thread and ask for some insight soon!
I now know that my venus is in scorp and I have scorpio rising as well, so I at least am starting to make better sense to myself!! Oh, my sun sign is libra just fyi!
thanks again for the welcome-can't wait to get to read more wise and hilarious posts-as well as get y'all's help with my chart!!! 😉
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this whole ego thing has led me to humiliate myself. i've not gone overboard by any stretch of the imagination but i have emailed him and texted occasionally...to try and get attention i guess....and have been ignored or fobbed off and it's OBVIOUS he doesn't want me either so why the fuck do i still feel like shit about it. where's my mojo gone 😢
i tried forgetting about him but just ended up using other men in the process and not feeling better at all. even worse is the ever looming possibility of randomly bumping into this person...leo btw.
i know that if i meet someone great, i will forget about the leo but i want to get over it on my own before i meet someone else cos otherwise i'll just attract a similar knobhead and before long i'll be pining over him when he's dumped me!!
i want to break this pattern right now. ideas?