Get Scorpio BF to Be More Understanding?

I am pregnant and going through all sorts of hormonal highs and lows. My scorpio boyfriend doesn't seem to understand that it's due to the pregnancy and gets very impatient with me. Any advice on how to get him to be more patient and understanding? I know getting a scorpio to do anything that isn't for himself is a challenge but am hoping any scorpio males can give some pointers to reason with him. It also seems that my boyfriend has gone into denial about the pregnancy and that he is overwhelmed by the more responsibility he knows he will have - is this normal for scorpio guys? When do you guys come out of this denial? I also notice he gets easily stressed out in general. Is that also a normal scorpio male tendency? Any advice on how to deal with it?

How far along are you?

Just tell him to fuck off.

Sunmoon,

How was your relationship prior to pregnancy?

I am 1.5 months pregnant. Things were okay (not great) before the pregnancy but I can definitely tell he has changed since the pregnancy. He used to give small, caring gestures and now that's completely stopped. Now, he just goes out without me drinking with the guys. I was okay with that to some level except I found out that sometimes, it wasn't just a guys night out but that he would leave me home when his other friends brought along their girlfriends/wives. That really hurts. He is just cold and impatient now. It's even gotten to the point where he's started finding more things to pick at me... like how he hates to feed me when I am over at his place because he doesn't want to spend any more money. Yeah I know, I'm pregnant with his baby and he's complaining about sharing food with me. Out of the blue sometimes, he will just say that something I am doing annoys him. He usually steals any new music I discover but when I was playing this Tantric song the other day (which he told me before he liked), he told me bluntly that the music was annoying and sounded like crap. I'm trying to avoid fighting as much as possible (for my and the baby's sake) but when I ignore him when I am online playing wow, he will message me out the blue with some random comment. Then later, he will complain and say I am bothering him too much -- yet he is the one messaging me most of the time. It is so confusing. Once, I ignored him for 3 weeks and when I finally started talking with him and saw him again, he seemed like he missed me and was so happy to see me. Then the cycle of vicious insults and confusing treatment repeats. I'd rather at least try to make it work for the baby's sake and any practical advice would be helpful. Thanks.

i did invite him to come along to doctor's appointments but he refuses to go.

I was just going to ask that too.... ;}

How long have u guys been together before u got prego?

lou.m: wrote plenty of pointers to talk to him about.

It's still early in ur pregnancy. Once the baby starts moving, he may come around.
That moment is to die for when u/him first feel the movement of the baby... ;}

It may take some time, but don't worry ur little head on what he's not doing and take care of urself and the baby.


Good Luck

Posted by Starfish225
He is not ready to be a father, that is the bottom line. He is feeling resentful and its not your fault..His shit is not together emotionally or perhaps financially. And crazy as it sounds Ima just put it out there he may feel trapped.

I cosign that. I think he feels trapped, mad at how the situation closed in on him. I think he'll be good with the baby when he/she comes out but now he's mad at you. It's obvious.

sunmoon: i think it's a man thing actually. i was psychotic during both pregnancies and i can't say i was a pleasure to live with but in my world, everyone was out to get me and felt they had rights to what was inside my body. if someone so much as looked like they were about to touch my bump, they got the look of death. nothing was right. i was huge and it was hot. i even pissed MYSELF off during those times. ::shudders::

understanding what pregnancy does to a woman's moods is one thing but living with them is another LOL!!!

he knows that he's not going to be center of your attention anymore. it's a selfish thing. might be he feels trapped and ready as was said before. he's also afraid of responsibility. and again, you'll be paying more attention to the baby and won't be his mom anymore.

he knows that he's not going to be center of your attention anymore.


I doubt it. he just sounds like an asshole period.

I was going to ask the same thing Sagigoat.

I agree with the others. He's feeling trapped and he resents you for it. Plus Scorpio is a fixed sign and we don't do changes well. You can't make a Scorpio do anything they don't want to do. If this wasn't planned and this was the last thing he wanted he's probably really pissed and he's going to take it out on you. But hey, you both should have thought about using protection.

I do think he'll change his tune toward the baby when it's born but he may not towards you. The thing that matters most is that you both own up to your responsiblities and care for the child.

My two cents is based around whether it makes sense or not ...... and most of it is NOT.

"I am pregnant and going through all sorts of hormonal highs and lows. My scorpio boyfriend doesn't seem to understand that it's due to the pregnancy and gets very impatient with me."

*** you later say you are 1.5 months pregnant .. and I have to tell you, at 6 weeks of gestation, a woman's hormones aren't all fucked up this bad yet. It's doubtful to me that a woman would be this bad at 6 weeks. My ex-DIL lived with us, got preggers at our home, and she didn't start to become unbearable until way into her second trimester.


**** this leaves me to believe that you are being fussy, and using pregnancy as an excuse.




YOu know ... a lot of us women in here have had children ... and the whole food thing? For the first trimester, a woman normally loses her appetite, and even loses wieght at first before gaining baby wieght.







It sounds to me as though you just found out you are pregnant and now using everything at your disposal to get to him.


You don't have to be irritable .. and you don't have to feed all the time.

Not yet .... yet, you are saying these things as if he should suddenly start catering to you because your condition is so fragile .... when you're only 6 fucking weeks along.


Get real .... don't piss on our shoes and tell us it's raining. JJ is God 🙂

"how he hates to feed me when I am over at his place because he doesn't want to spend any more money."



His place?


Would that be his parents house? And your place would be your parents house?

Why would you be so irresponsible with yourself that you would allow yourself to get pregnant with a man to whom your relationship is so not serious .... that you two don't even live together?

I'm all around Scorp men (brother & son) ..... and they are awesome fathers, very attentive, nurturing and protective. And this doesn't sound to me like a planned pregnancy, based around responsbility and respect ......



:::: shakes head :::::



People can attempt to put blame all they want on the man and his wrapping it up .... however, we all know it's in place to divert responsibility where it belongs .. and that is with the owner of the body.


YOur body is yours, your womb is yours .... it's YOUR job to take care of it .. period.

"I'm all around Scorp men (brother & son) ..... and they are awesome fathers, very attentive, nurturing and protective. And this doesn't sound to me like a planned pregnancy, based around responsbility and respect ......
"

I agree with that. Scorps are very family involved. They become very protective of children especially.
Like I said he'll come around when the baby is born but a relationship with her is probably out of the question. He's feeling forced. You don't force anything on a Scorp.

Oh yeah, it definitely sounds forced to me.


Only 6 weeks, so just barely found out like last night that she's preggers .. and already she is dumping on him ... like exaggerating her moods and calling it hormonal changes, and telling him he needs to feed her.


:::: shakes head :::::


I would venture to say that this is a teenager.

Posted by sunmoonstarryeyed
i did invite him to come along to doctor's appointments but he refuses to go.

I'm not even sure this is real .... it could be fiction.


At 6 weeks, there's aren't doctor appointment(s) .... there is one to make official that there is indeed a pregnancy, then typically, a woman doesn't go back to the doctor until the 17th or 18th week.

Yet, she makes it sound like a plural amount of doctor appointments have been done.


Doctor(s) .. appointment(s)

" ... like how he hates to feed me when I am over at his place because he doesn't want to spend any more money. Yeah I know, I'm pregnant with his baby and he's complaining about sharing food with me."




The way you have worded that last sentence ... Yeah, I know, I'm pregnant with his baby and look at how badly he is treating me ... is an attempt to make him look very bad, like he should be guilty .... look at what he did, yeah, I know, I'm pregnant.


Like you are already self-pitying yourself before you even got responses from us, and you were anticipating that we were going to be astounded that he wouldn't feed you .. cause, you have already said like .. Yeah, I know ...


Why the drama?


At 6 weeks, you're not even feeding yet .. so, why are you lying to us about how delicate of a condition you are in? You don't even live with him, according to you ..... did you not eat at home?

It sounds to me like you are pulling this sympathy string .. I sense it in here, so certainly people in your real life can sense it's presence.

He is annoyed with it ... so, stop it, and act like an adult with this pregnancy. You're going to have a child to show how to be mature.

I don't know if it sounds like an accident due to being promiscuis .... sounds more like entrapment to me.


I'm not even sure she's pregnant ... likely telling him that to gain attention.

He's feeling manipulated, trapped, angry that she didn't take responsibility for her body and angry at himself for getting caught up with a girl he probably had no intentions of being serious about (usually we women are the last to know this), the relationship part is pretty much over but let's hope he sticks around to be a good father to his baby. He probably doesn't know you well enough to be deeply in love with you thus the impatience and agitation, it happens...

If it were me I would make it clear what I expected from him, I would tell him to call me when he gets his shit together, because I will not tolerate his verbal emotional abuse and I certainly won't stick around for it and I would leave it, your basically going to have to prepare yourself to do this on your own. If you let him know he's free to do his thing and although you would prefer he do this with you, you can certainly understand if he chooses not to but the baby is on it's way so you don't have time for his temper tantrums and what not

focus on yourself and your baby, he will most likely stop the non-sense and begin to pull his side of it but the key is to control yourself which means coming to terms with the fact that you may be doing this pregnancy alone, you certainly can't control him and make him stop being impatient and mean but you can distance yourself from it and control you.