have i lost her?

thanks for reading through this post. I would really appreciate some help from the scorpio ladies here.

I was seeing a scorpio lady a little while back, things were going well, we were having a lot of fun, getting to know each other. She shared some of her deepest past. We had a great chemistry. Got on like a house on fire.

She said that she wasn't sure what she was looking for, she wanted to see how things go. She has a terrible experience with an ex in the past. She would text me all day, call me a few times during the day. Constant contact.

Some time had passed and I just needed to know if we were going anywhere with the connection, I said that I am at a point where i am looking for a relationship - I'm not the kinda person who can just keep seeing someone if there is no point. She said she wanted to take her time.

Cut a long story short. we had an argument one day, as I was a little annoyed that she wasnt able to give me a straight answer. So I was less available to her when she wanted to talk on the phone. I was just trying to protect myself instead of getting invested in something if there was no point. She got upset that I was not taking her calls late at night, and a few unpleasant words were exchanged and she cut me off completely off everything.

I never heard from her again. But I tried several times to make a amends but it was just ice on her part. Anyway 9 months pass by and then she has added me back to things. We start talking again, but it was a little held back on both sides.

There was a point where she went silent again, just no response. she hadnt cut me of or anything. and it really upset me, and I just thought that i couldnt go through the whole cutting off thing again if that is what she is wanting to do, as it really hurt me last time, i really thought we had a good chemistry. So i got annoyed and said that it was childish that she is not responding, and then i just said that i dont want her anymore, and that i have seen other people since her.

She cut me off again. I really like her, but her coming back in like this has upset me as it wasnt necessary to cut me off like that at the start. But i know what we shared was amazing, and now that I have calmed down, I realise that i cant let this get away. However im afraid that I may have lost her for good, i wasnt prepared for her coming back, and when she did, and was silent, it brought up emotions that i didnt realise i would feel.

Is this over, or can i get he

it was just that i had work commitments first thing in the morning and that i was not able to take calls at 1am. If she wanted to talk to me she should call me between 8-10pm. She got annoyed about that - 9 got annoyed at her response. And that was it. We didnt say any nasty words to each other, it was more along the lines of why are you doing this, and her going silent.

This time around i was just surprised that i was still upset about her cutting it off the first time even though i asked to talk about it. There were several days of silence, i even tried to send a casual hi how are you message - but still there was silence. And then I got annoyed as she she could just say she wants space, or say that she doesnt want to talk anymore lets part ways. But she was just quiet. didnt say a word.

I said she was being immature and childish about it all. Why did she add me back to everything if she isnt going to talk. then she takes me off everything again. I just dont get it.

I really like her and I would like a restart too. I felt something with her. Do you think this can be salvaged I would really like to start fresh with her what do you suggest?

Me:

Sun - virgo
Moon - cap
Venus - libra
Mars - libra

Her

Sun - scorpio
Moon - Aquarius
Venus - libra
Mars - virgo

It depends on what you want. If you want certainty, you needed to stick with that, not get back in touch and get pissy when once again you didn't get certainty.

If your feelings for her bypass the need to be sure and you can see yourself actually giving it a shot and going with the connection...then ask her. "Hey, think we can start over?". Something simple. You're genuine about being into her so she could pick up on that.

She appears torn on what to do/think. Venus in Libra and Venus in Libra can go on forever like this.

I don't think she was as upset over your emotional "you're immature and childish" reaction as she was over you throwing it in her face that you've seen others and you don't want her anymore. It was within your right to see others but telling someone you don't want anymore when you still do..it's wishy washy in a sense..i'd see it as forcing a reaction from my side and that won't sit well with a scorpio.

Posted by sushty

She said that she wasn't sure what she was looking for, she wanted to see how things go. She has a terrible experience with an ex in the past. She would text me all day, call me a few times during the day. Constant contact.

Some time had passed and I just needed to know if we were going anywhere with the connection, I said that I am at a point where i am looking for a relationship - I'm not the kinda person who can just keep seeing someone if there is no point. She said she wanted to take her time.

In my eyes, you stepped up to the plate. Especially backing off slightly after she said "she wasn't sure what she was looking for, she wanted to see how things go". At the same time, you allowed time to pass and asked again and she gave you a non-responsive answer. "she wanted to take her time". The only mistake you made, is being with someone who isn't over their ex or not ready to be over their ex. That leaves the door open to be strung around. You are being strung around. Tell her to call you when she's over the ex, and move on. She won't like that, but tuff shit.. Unless you like to be strung around, then do nothing and pine for her while she makes up her mind. You have a choice here.