help plz

T_T umm..ok. well me and my boyfriend (((hes a virgo))have been going out for 4 months now..and we were very happy...in the past we went out before for 8 months and he cheated on me. we broke up and hated eachother for 3 months and then he came crawling bake to me T_T i took him back becuz i love him so much.

everything was going fine til i found out the girl he cheated on me with was trying to break us up again...so i overeacted and told her to back off.she ran off crying and now he wont talk to my boyfriend ever again my boyfriend was very upset with me becuz i made him lose a friend.

but then a week after that we've been having communicating problems and ect.he feels like he needs to constantly moniter me like if i was a baby and i feel like i need to do everything i can to show him i can be just as good as anygirl his age.((hes three years older then me))

we made it clear that there is no pressure but now!i find out he still feels like he needs to tend to me.i try to asure him im fine.he thinks while hes off playin games or hanging with his friends that im siting around waiting for him, which makes him have a horrible time while hes away then he comes back to me all upset and i dont know what to do.

i asked him how can i show him theres no pressure how can i make him feel better about all of this and how can i help him deal with this problem alls he could tell me is "i dont know" and if he doesnt know neither do i.....he alwys feels like im trying to hurt him like im always trying to start a fight. and thats not the case at all im afriad to talk to him cuz now everytime we talk he gets mad at me too easy and is too qick to say im up to something or want something from him when all i want is for him to feel good about himself and be happy.

i dont know how to talk to him i dont know how to confort him he refuses to see counselling becuz when he would go before they never helped him.i refuse to break up with him and i refuse to give up on the love we have.so thats why im here...

we both have horrible pasts that brought us to have emotional problem i have sepration anxity disorder and i knwo he has lots of emotional probs but i cant figure out what please help T_T

meanies

What do you expect with a comment like: "everything was going fine til i found out the girl he cheated on me with was trying to break us up again...so i overeacted and told her to back off.she ran off crying and now he wont talk to my boyfriend ever again my boyfriend was very upset with me becuz i made him lose a friend"

This suggests that you are a player.

What the hell is this suppose to mean: "he thinks while hes off playin games or hanging with his friends that im siting around waiting for him, which makes him have a horrible time while hes away then he comes back to me all upset and i dont know what to do."

He thinks your sitting around waiting, which makes him have a horrible time. Well, the only way he can possibly think this is if you're telling him so. So, if you KNOW that his time with his mates is going to be horrible . . why the hell would you tell him that you're sitting around waiting for him? You WANT him to have a lousy time, that's why.

"i asked him how can i show him theres no pressure how can i make him feel better about all of this and how can i help him deal with this problem"

Deal with what problem . . you? Sounds to me like you are a lot of pressure, and if he's a Virgo and you tell him there's no pressure . . he sees you as a liar because what you've described is certainly an emotionally needy person who's playing with his head.

"we both have horrible pasts that brought us to have emotional problem i have sepration anxity disorder and i knwo he has lots of emotional probs but i cant figure out what"

Well, you know about your past, so you know if your is horrible. But, you've stated that you can't figure out what is in his past that makes him have emotional probs. Doesn't sound to me like he has emotional problems . . perhaps that's why you can't figure out why . . because it doesn't exist.

So, there ya go. People are meanies if they don't respond. So, here's your response from me and I'm sure the reaction will still be: meanie

If you don't want to hear an answer, then don't ask the question.

I can't even believe you would post something like this and then ask for help all innocent and shit: "everything was going fine til i found out the girl he cheated on me with was trying to break us up again...so i overeacted and told her to back off.she ran off crying and now he wont talk to my boyfriend ever again my boyfriend was very upset with me becuz i made him lose a friend."

Let's break this down, so you can see what I mean.

"everything was going fine til i found out the girl he cheated on me with was trying to break us up again" So, you and him are together again and now this same girl is trying to break you up . . again.

"so i overeacted and told her to back off.she ran off crying" Anyone would probably over-react in this situation . . however, you then say,

"now he wont talk to my boyfriend ever again my boyfriend was very upset with me becuz i made him lose a friend."

You had a frigging BOYFRIEND? You're bitching about him and his crap and this girl trying to get inbetween the two of you and you had a boyfriend other than your Virgo that you're so concerned about and don't know what's wrong with him? Him? You are the one playing two boys and wonder what's wrong with him . . . him?

Geeeeeeez . . . . . . . . . players.

"he alwys feels like im trying to hurt him"

lol

"everytime we talk he gets mad at me too easy and is too qick to say im up to something"

Are you like . . . 12? You are up to things, you've stated so yourself, you played two boys against each other. so, his suspicions have a basis . . not too easy or quick, rather, justifiable.

hahaha to early to read that.............E-GEM BABYYYYYYY HOW ARE YAAAAA! =D

Erm he seems to be treating you like a kid. This is a woman he cheated with whilst he was in a relationship with you and he expects you to understand that he's upset she's not talking to him!..screw that..I would go tell him to take a running jump off everest!..How dare he be so patronising..

Or have I got it completely wrong?

thanks fo rthe advice p-angel but i guess it was alittle harsh but needed

the girl he cheated on me with was younger then me btw

emeraldgem is very confused lol no she went crying to my bf after i sent her running with her tail between her legs and thats how he found out and thats how he got mad at me

thanks for your "help" guys

"Hi angel.....LTNS you lil BUTTER-stirrer you...."

lol, it's her shit . . and a huge pile at that.

So, apparantly, by her own admission . . I was correct. Wasn't expecting that.

ScorpionGaze, your gonna get burned girl. Just because you have a stinger, doesn't mean you can't be on the paralyzing end.

Everything comes back in the end. Careful what you sow.

If I wasn't confused before..I mostly certainly am now..

Hmmmm