scorpio confusion

Ok, I've been talking with a scorpio male for quite some time via e-mail. I'm a taurus female. We decided to meet (after a year chatting online) things went well. We talked and talked for hours, he showed me all of his photos of family and when he was a kid. He showed me pictures of every girlfriend he's ever been with for some reason. I tried to get close to him sexually but he said "He was shy" WHAT—?? I am not an ugly woman so I know that couldn't have been his problem. He called the next morning to make sure I made it home alright, so confused.

We arranged a second meeting, things went alright again. I discovered he's very lonely and very intense. We've been exchanging e-mails, phone calls when we have time (I'm a nurse and work a lot of hours)Everytime I've been at his house and asked him if he wanted to go out, he'd rather sit at home.... he's acting like he's depressed or disconnected, but the couple times that I've mentioned maybe seeing other people he's said "No, I really want something with you"

So here I am seeking advice from all you scorpio's... very confused. I just don't get this man. He's so mysterious and vague. So what is it that you scorpio men expect? What is it that you like from a woman (besides sex which is an obvious)?

I've never had this problem before, but then of course I've never been involved with a scorpio male.

ooo ooo ooo....most of these Scorps will remember my ordeal with the scorp guy in my life and I'm a Taurus female. May I?

also keep in mind that the Scorp guy in my life chose email, too.

Because he might be. My Pisces friend was dating a Scorpio like that..incredibly withdrawn, very quiet..and he had suffered quite a trauma..So there could be a legit reason..

Talking online for a year is a bit excessive though..but I guess each to their own..Give him time and try and understand the underlying issue..

My prognosis... hummm at work we do assesment based on an acronym, SBAR, stands for Situation, Background, Assesment & Recommendation. Haven't thought about doing an "assesment" on him... affraid of what I might come up with.

The e-mailing for a year was a bit exessive, but during which I was married. I refused to meet him while I was with my husband so we continued to talk via e-mail.

Find him attractive, HUMMM maybe just a bit but not drop dead gorgeous or anything I would probably persue in a grocery store. He's slightly attractive, but it's more than that.

I think maybe what attracts me to him is his mysterous and intense nature. He's just a great big mystery. Maybe his sense of security, stableness (if there's such a word)

The pictures of the ex-girlfriends was a trip, (some even naked) it definetely left me a bit confused. ohh dear scorpio we call that obsession.. maybe?

He knew that I had not been involved with anybody sexually besides my husband whom I was married to since 18 years of age. He was going to be #2, maybe he was affraid he couldn't perform.

Anyways, dear scorpio has confused me quite so. I've got a gorgeous Doctor at the hospital I work begging for a date but my claws are locked on solving the scorpio mystery.

"The pictures of the ex-girlfriends was a trip, (some even naked)"

lol

I made a promise to scorpio that I would be there for him. So I have been. I've been available when he calls and gone to him when he requests.

So how do you really dig down and figure out the mystery?

Date the doctor, lol... but he's not a scorpio. I'm a nurse, isn't that the american tale, doctor falls in love with nurse, or nurse falls in love with doctor. Just average.

Nurse, I'm still working on my response...stand by.

I tried to get close to him sexually but he said "He was shy" WHAT—?? I am not an ugly woman so I know that couldn't have been his problem. He called the next morning to make sure I made it home alright, so confused.

I?m sorry, but this guy isn?t shy if he had no problem showing you pictures (naked pictures no less) of his ex girlfriends! You wanted to sleep with him after only meeting him in person for the first time? Yeah, he pretty much at that point saw you as a potential notch in his belt or another Polaroid in his album.

We arranged a second meeting, things went alright again. I discovered he's very lonely and very intense. We've been exchanging e-mails, phone calls when we have time (I'm a nurse and work a lot of hours)Everytime I've been at his house and asked him if he wanted to go out, he'd rather sit at home.... he's acting like he's depressed or disconnected, but the couple times that I've mentioned maybe seeing other people he's said "No, I really want something with you"

If he really wants something with you, he needs to prove it! Sitting on his ass and not doing anything but staring at each others, the TV, the walls, etc. is not progressing this relationship anywhere.

Also, are you driving to him? Why isn?t he coming to see you? What?s his excuse? Trust me, I ran into excuse after excuse with the Scorpio I tried to date.

You need to SBAR this guy and lay it out there. You?re no longer married, so that cannot be his hesitancy about you. I say there?s something he?s not telling you, but that?s just my hunch and I?m basing it on what I went through with the Scorpio that was in my life.

I think maybe what attracts me to him is his mysterous and intense nature. He's just a great big mystery. Maybe his sense of security, stableness (if there's such a word)

This guy doesn?t sound stable at all. He sounds flighty and deceptive. Again, my hunch.

The pictures of the ex-girlfriends was a trip, (some even naked) it definetely left me a bit confused. ohh dear scorpio we call that obsession.. maybe?

This raises not one red flag, but about 20! You don?t show this to a woman, especially one you?ve just met in person and one whom you say ?I want something with you.?

I made a promise to scorpio that I would be there for him. So I have been. I've been available when he calls and gone to him when he requests.

Why are you allowing yourself to be at his beck and call? What exactly has he done for you? What commitment has he promised to you? You are making yourself too available for this guy and he?s going to milk it for EVERY cent it?s worth! Do not go to him when he requests. This is not a 50% relationship ? you?re pulling the weight and pretty soon you are going to end up resenting him and the relationship.

I'm a 24 year old female, ICU nurse, not into dating an atypical 40 year old doctor. That's why the scorpio mystery intrigues me so much.

no, gem...not angry, just honest. seriously, I see her getting hurt if she doesn't get to the bottom of this.

"I can't caution you enough that you don't know what cards are in his deck. Or even if the deck is a full one." - or how many others are sitting at the same table

How many other people are sitting at the table... lol... serious? scorpio's really do that?

yes, some do.

I originally thought that maybe he was just obsessed, lonely and didnt know how to let go of the past (ex girlfriends) now I don't know what to think. Maybe he has a lot of issues because he works in a jail... i don't know. He remains a mystery.

I thought maybe he was having a hard time with my profession, as doctors have called me on my cell when we've been together to ask opinions about the patients I cared for the previous shift.

Than I figured that maybe he's threatened because my ex and I are still good friends.

I can only ponder until he opens up....

You say "I can only ponder until he opens up...." - but what exactly are you going to do to get him to open up?

You can't be idle...he's already got you wrapped around his finger. Do you really want that?

peach, I've spent a lot of time reading and researching and digging to find as much info as I can about a scorpio male, I think I went through all pages of google on my last day off, one thing seems to be common, they are jealous and obsessive.

I've been trying to put his jealousy to rest so that this friendship can take off and progress. I thought initially that maybe he was upset that my ex and I work at the same hospital (although he works in hospital administration and I work in Nursing) so I told him I'd go to a different hospital, he said no.

Maybe it's an age thing, I'm 24 (sucessful and matured) he's 41, on a lonely path. I could sit and think of 100's of different scenarios until he finally decides to tell me what he's so insecure about.

I should be the one insecure, he's the one showing me pictures of all the ex-girlfriends.

"I should be the one insecure, he's the one showing me pictures of all the ex-girlfriends."

That's the exact reason why you should be cautious!

THis is all I will say about this guy.

Good luck, LNurse.

*** I made a promise to scorpio that I would be there for him. So I have been. I've been available when he calls and gone to him when he requests.

Everything about this sounds bad. The pictures were to make you feel bad about yourself. The fact he works in a jail just makes me more sure. This guy has sadistic written all over him. My guess is he is a withholder who is going to punish you for any bad behaviour ... and not in a good way.

*** Maybe it's an age thing, I'm 24 (sucessful and matured) he's 41, on a lonely path.

eeek! I can't watch this. This is bad. Bad. Bad. Bad.

hides behind Hpeach.

I'll protect you, Sparrow. I've already told her that this guy sends up 20 red flags.

Come, Sparrow....Let's go to another thread.

so, if you're so sure, how do you get rid of him then—? just stop answering the phone? e-mails?

Yes.

Just tell him it isn't working out for you and end it. My theory is you will be hearing from him for years and he might just go completely ballistic. He might not but I am really picking up the sadistic vibe here and I don't like it one bit.

This man is not mysterious, he is sick. You are welcome to explore and do what you want but don't be suprised by anything. I think you are headed down a very dark path, with a very controlling man.

(grabs hpeach's hand and follows her to a happier thread)

lol!

Annndd...Whats the problem with dating the 40 year old doctor again...?

The weird scorp is older and in and around the same age.

i'm with HP and LS on this one....sorry livelynurse....

actually, am NOT sorry - you're 24, you're a successful nurse, you have a gorgeous doctor begging you to go out with him, you have a lot of dating years left, your whole life ahead of you - HAVE FUN 🙂

p.s. it's not your job to fix this guy. however, to be completely fair, we are only getting parts of the story so it's easy to be glib. but the little we do know....don't get sucked into an unhealthy situation, is all am trying to say.

hi scorp5pt0...how are you? haven't seen you lately...of course i havne't been on the scorp board much.

Don't go for a 40 year old doctor!..I haven't read everything on here..forget the scorp ignore him..God knows what his issues are..you'll never get to the bottom of them trust me..Your 24..oh to be 24 again!!..lol..Go out there and have fun..Online dating is a blessing and a curse at the same time..People can be whoever they choose to be online..He sounds like a messed up individual..don't waste your energy

Message posted by: houstonpeach74 on 10/2/2006 9:10:52 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.214
hi scorp5pt0...how are you? haven't seen you lately...of course i havne't been on the scorp board much.

hi HP 🙂
am doing ok i guess. am currently in retreat mode w/ my bull, taking a step back and trying to gain some perspective before i go completely nuts. 😛 how's the bedroom painting going? did you decide on a colour?