How do I handle a Dominating Personality? HELP!

So I'm going to go hang out with the aqua today and two friends. 1 Female (Pisces) and 1 Male (not sure of the sign).

I'm looking forward to spending time with aqua but I have a feeling that pisces female is going to ruin the evening for me.

She's one of those girls who wants male attention no matter what and she tends to use her super outgoing and bubbly personality to hog all the attention to the point where even if I said anything remotely funny or interesting they wouldn't really notice.

She tends to ruin things for alot of people in our circle and alot of females dislike her becuase she tends to want the attention all on her. Last time I was stuck being around her she ruined a fun night for me because she tried to get everyones attention the entire time and everyone who was female felt left out.

I'm not exactly jealous but it really makes me feel outcasted to where I just don't want to go just cause she'll be there.

So as a shy/reserved scorpio (in the beginning) how can I control the situation to where I get equal attention and it doesn't become about her.

Play up whatever she doesn't have. Don't forget, you're a Scorpio Woman. Wear that. (and maybe a kick ass outfit that's sexy but not too revealing with a hint of Sass and some killer boots or heels)

Hey scorpio babe! I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I have two things to say and they might not be pretty, but I'm going to be honest with you. No. 1 is that although you might enjoy the company of an Aquarius, they are far from perfect for you. The vibe is just not there, it might be there sexually for a while, but your ways of viewing love and relationships is totally different. You want to be exclusive, and aqua definitely doesn't! But since I know you'll go for it anyway, here's point No. 2: step up your game, girl! Aqua's pay attention to bubbly, outgoing, free spirited people. Wear something bright, laugh the loudest, and take him apart from the group and flirt. Ask him one on one to do something just you and him. If you don't make the moves, Aqua probably never will, and you'll never get out of the friendzone. I know you've got it in you. Good luck and good vibes your way, Scorpio babe! ~feistypisces777

Also, forget about her. Don't try to overshadow her or you'll wind up making a fool of yourself. She sounds like she tries too hard and might be giving the impression she is easy.

Haha, goes to show how much I know about dating these days. Lol

I didn't realize you were after the Aqua, and I agree 500,000,000 percent with feisty. There is no point with the Aqua. We Scorpio women need much more than they can give.

I fucking shouldny have gone. No matter how outgoing I was I got ignored. They all rather play tennis with each other.

I was 4th wheeled.

Y was I even invited.

@reincarnation

It's typical on dxpnet users with weird attitude problems for no reason at all.


What I was trying to say originally last night was I shouldn't have gone. I knew what would happen and it did. Aqua male made it all about him and his excitement and pisces female loved the attention from the two males (she doesn't care about female attention) and the 2nd male (don't know his sign was the only other balanced person).

I mean the whole time nothing I said even took affect with half of these people. Hell I was aquas doubles partner and he kept hitting almost every ball in our direction, I barely got anytime to swing my racket becuase he kept trying to hog it even when i said "I GOT IT".

All he did was want to keep taunting them and I was getting frustrated, I just wanted a healthy game but of course that didn't happen.

On a rating of 1 - 10. 10 being fun, I give it a 3 or 4.

Remind me to never accept an invite from these people for a while!

@Reincarnation I know Pisces female only cares about male attention, she defends men profusely but snaps at any female who says anything wrong. For instance, I told her yesterday:

Me: I asked "Other Tennis Male" what was his skill level in tennis 1-10 and he said ten so i jokingly said "Sure just like your bowling"

Pisces female: Woaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah that's rude. (She goes on to rag on me)

Me: Woaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah thats rude

Pisces female walks away. Defends the males, tries to harp on the females. I expect nothing better out of her.

Aqua male I know he's an attention freak...he hardly gets to have fun as he works 24/7 practically. When does he ever sleep? I dunno. That I can understand, what I didn't appreciate is the not having balanced attention for everyone. All he wanted to do was taunt the opponents. He probably secretly wanted to play against them both by himself. He kept acting like he would have done that. I mean the other male he had balanced attention...why is it so hard for Aqua to pay attention to everyone and not be so focused on specific people all the time and when he focuses on people its so excessive and he does it wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too much. It's like come on, new joke please

all i know is most of the chicks that have dealt with her do not like her. All she does is talk about her self even when they don't even approach her she'll go up to them and tell about something she bought, accomplish, traveled to etc. etc.

But I think i'm doing ok tolerating.

You need new friends? Or just don't hang out with pisces any more? Stand up for yourself And ask her what her problem is. I don't think that has anything to do with her sign. I'd literally ask her, straight to her face, "are we friends? Because you aren't acting like one." She probably thinks she can push you around because you don't stand up for yourself.

Posted by Feistypisces777
You need new friends? Or just don't hang out with pisces any more? Stand up for yourself And ask her what her problem is. I don't think that has anything to do with her sign. I'd literally ask her, straight to her face, "are we friends? Because you aren't acting like one." She probably thinks she can push you around because you don't stand up for yourself.

She' hard on all the females and I don't really talk to her much anymore. she's only tolerable in small doses which is why i avoid her but some ppl talk to her i always run into her at some point.

@reincarnation

I would say more perky/bubbly than outgoing i guess. I think she talks for attention cause whenever she goes on a trip or something happens to her she tells EVERYONE one right after the other literally. But she's good at communicating in terms of asking questions about someone and how their life is going and being concerned...it's just she's a little too much at one time lol.

Anyway point is. Tennis sucked. I'll rethink any future shindigs. Don't want to go through this crap again.

Definitely not.

yah,she'll ruin it 4 you

Posted by MrFirebird

The Charlie Daniels of the torque wrench.


heh classic —

Posted by IAmMystified
I think she talks for attention cause whenever she goes on a trip or something happens to her she tells EVERYONE one right after the other literally.

But she's good at communicating in terms of asking questions about someone and how their life is going and being concerned...it's just she's a little too much at one time lol.

Anyway point is. Tennis sucked. I'll rethink any future shindigs. Don't want to go through this crap again.

Definitely not.

This is funny.

You think it's contrived because you don't understand it. lol

Posted by IAmMystified
@Reincarnation I know Pisces female only cares about male attention, she defends men profusely but snaps at any female who says anything wrong. For instance, I told her yesterday:

Me: I asked "Other Tennis Male" what was his skill level in tennis 1-10 and he said ten so i jokingly said "Sure just like your bowling"

Pisces female: Woaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah that's rude. (She goes on to rag on me)

Me: Woaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah thats rude

Pisces female walks away. Defends the males, tries to harp on the females. I expect nothing better out of her.

Aqua male I know he's an attention freak...he hardly gets to have fun as he works 24/7 practically. When does he ever sleep? I dunno.

That I can understand, what I didn't appreciate is the not having balanced attention for everyone. All he wanted to do was taunt the opponents. He probably secretly wanted to play against them both by himself. He kept acting like he would have done that. I mean the other male he had balanced attention...why is it so hard for Aqua to pay attention to everyone and not be so focused on specific people all the time and when he focuses on people its so excessive and he does it wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too much. It's like come on, new joke please

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What you didn't appreciate is not having 'balanced attention' FROM everyone, I suspect.

Someone really ought to make him give equal attention to you.

Whether he likes it or not.

I mean, fair is fair-- right?



smh

Posted by IAmMystified
I think she talks for attention cause whenever she goes on a trip or something happens to her she tells EVERYONE one right after the other literally.

But she's good at communicating in terms of asking questions about someone and how their life is going and being concerned...it's just she's a little too much at one time lol.

Anyway point is. Tennis sucked. I'll rethink any future shindigs. Don't want to go through this crap again.

Definitely not.

This is funny.

You think it's contrived because you don't understand it. lol

Posted by IAmMystified
@Reincarnation I know Pisces female only cares about male attention, she defends men profusely but snaps at any female who says anything wrong. For instance, I told her yesterday:

Me: I asked "Other Tennis Male" what was his skill level in tennis 1-10 and he said ten so i jokingly said "Sure just like your bowling"

Pisces female: Woaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah that's rude. (She goes on to rag on me)

Me: Woaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah thats rude

Pisces female walks away. Defends the males, tries to harp on the females. I expect nothing better out of her.

Aqua male I know he's an attention freak...he hardly gets to have fun as he works 24/7 practically. When does he ever sleep? I dunno.

That I can understand, what I didn't appreciate is the not having balanced attention for everyone. All he wanted to do was taunt the opponents. He probably secretly wanted to play against them both by himself. He kept acting like he would have done that. I mean the other male he had balanced attention...why is it so hard for Aqua to pay attention to everyone and not be so focused on specific people all the time and when he focuses on people its so excessive and he does it wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too much. It's like come on, new joke please

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What you didn't appreciate is not having 'balanced attention' FROM everyone, I suspect.

Someone really ought to make him give equal attention to you.

Whether he likes it or not.

I mean, fair is fair-- right?



smh

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by MrFirebird

The Charlie Daniels of the torque wrench.


heh classic —

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yeah.... classic.

And as I walked her to the truck
Earl was cryin' don't you leave me
I told him

This here's the queen of my double wide trailer

Posted by MrFirebird

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by MrFirebird

The Charlie Daniels of the torque wrench.


heh classic —

yeah.... classic.

And as I walked her to the truck
Earl was cryin' don't you leave me
I told him

This here's the queen of my double wide trailer

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Dang her black heart and her pretty red neck.

~

Ehh no snark was intended, there-- I happen to like him.

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by MrFirebird

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by MrFirebird

The Charlie Daniels of the torque wrench.


heh classic —

yeah.... classic.

And as I walked her to the truck
Earl was cryin' don't you leave me
I told him

This here's the queen of my double wide trailer

Dang her black heart and her pretty red neck.

~

Ehh no snark was intended, there-- I happen to like him.

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I remember the song back in the day.

Posted by IrresistableScorp

Posted by Reincarnation

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Stop being a wet blanket, Scorp. For crissake??_

OMG.

Take it easy.

She's just expressing herself.

As am I. 🙂

I've been following this Scorp for months on here. Every. Single. Thing. This Aqua does she overanalyzes with him being a bit of a dick and her being some type of victim. She's got the victim-status part down pat. Nothing is ever good enough. Everything could be better. On top of it, this Aqua has been showing her he is interested..but Noooooo. There's something wrong with the way he shows it.

There's always something with this Scorp. Its exhausting.

Like I said, she is a wet blanket.

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Is he really showing interest?? I can't really tell its so off and on.

@montgomery

He was dominating the entire game. It wasn't fun, I barely got to hit. He was trying to hit everything and its called DOUBLES for a reason lol.

But hell if I know, he got a little too excited there I suppose.

I've been keeping my distance since then from both of them until i can develop more patience.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Stop being a wet blanket, Scorp. For crissake??_

OMG.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
You can't *be* fourth wheeled. You fourth wheeled yourself because you are too busy feeling insecure and sorry for yourself. Jeebus

I have to agree with IS here.

You've been going on about this for days.

You create your own self-fulfilling prophecies.

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I actually found her honesty refreshing. Nothing wrong with that. Next time, she'll listen to her gut. I make it a point not to be around people who are attention hoes. It's annoying, and beneath me.

Posted by IAmMystified

I've been keeping my distance since then from both of them until i can develop more patience.

Well hey, if you think going for strike 3 with patience is gonna make it better...by all means.
Make sure you listen to that gut first though. 😉

Posted by IAmMystified
@montgomery

He was dominating the entire game. It wasn't fun, I barely got to hit. He was trying to hit everything and its called DOUBLES for a reason lol.

But hell if I know, he got a little too excited there I suppose.

I've been keeping my distance since then from both of them until i can develop more patience.

You don't like him.

You don't like her.

Do you run in the kind of social circles that necessitate "frenemies"?

lol

This is ridiculous-- you're holding onto hope that one day, they will 'act right'.

Because they *should*

Maybe they just don't like you.

Just like you don't like them.


Get new friends. Problem solved.