How does crying affect Scorps?

My question is, if someone cried in front of you, will it soften you up or make you colder towards that person? Even if it's sincere.

Just Curious...

The saddest was when my scorp cried in my arms, made me melt.

I think there's whiny cryers and cry babies & that annoys me too, like crazy. And Branh being a girlie girl hater I can see him hating cryers.

But I think there are certain moments & times that it is bittersweet, and is completely opposite of annoying. Like when someone who NEVER cries feels close enough to you to show their vulnerablity.

The saddest was when my scorp cried in my arms, made me melt.

awww.. i know what ur talkin about 😢... jeeeez they get sooo emotional....hahahahha and i dont know.... 'why, why but i love to see him cry' 😛...shows his sensitive side 🙂

I know why women want men to cry.

LOL... hey i dont want a guy to cry for me... i just like to see a man's sensitive side... society makes u wanna believe that men who cry or get emotinal are not man enuff... thats BS...men are human too

i dont agree with u... some men are just emotional... yes i do agree u shouldnt cry in public though (even Women shouldnt cry in public... jeeez...)....

Well my scorp cried when his dad died. I'm not INTO the new man sensitive thing either. It was a very valid reason he cried and I felt like good that he trusted me that way and was pulling me closer instead of pushing me away.

Maybe if he wouldn?t of cried OR shown emotion like that he might of bottled up his pain & pushed me away, out of his life!

if they did at an appropriate moment - like, my ex at his mother's funeral - I don't feel that it's inappropriate or weak. A male friend cried at a spiritual seminar and I was surprised and actually touched to see him melt like that. But later, I think he was embarrassed by the whole thing, and has somehow held it as a low spot in our relationship (? yeah I dunno why, I had nothing to do with it, I just happened to be sitting next to him).

If someone cried all the time, I'd wonder if they needed to talk to a counselor about depression.

If they never cried, I wouldn't see that as strange..I rarely cry, and then only in private. But I do feel very deeply.

It makes me soooo UNCOMFORTABLE! My worst jokes were born out of someone elses tears... ha ha ... ummm ha ?

Nah, I usually make 'em believe that whatever they're crying about is so insignificant and unimportant and that there's solution to everything that I lift a huge weight off their shoulder... atleast while I'm there...? lol I have them laughing their arses off in no time cuz crying makes me euwwwwghk *shudders* and then I help them out however I can. My attitude is "Is it really *that* bad?... NAHHHHH" lol

I don't believe in being totally emotionless.. I can't remember the last time I cried but I believe that strong emotions need to be let out. Letting it all go once is much better than holding it in - which I think could have potentially negative long term consequences. I'm not saying people need to start breaking down in public but they should at least have the cojones to confront their own feelings and emotions. Denying your own emotions is like denying that you're human.

BTW, if you're wondering why I wrote "cojones" instead of balls.. thats just me starting to learn Spanish.. 😉

Lol... well who's the teacher?! HA HA HA!

"Denying your own emotions is like denying that you're human."

Agreed! You're right about everything you said, so much reason from a cancer? Whewww lol jk But yes, no need to break down in public please, or at work PLEASE!

Unless it's a funeral of course. I went to a rosary maybe two weeks back and I almost cried... I thought twice about walking up to see her or running outside! It was soooo hard but I couldn't let it out or I wouldn't be able to stop! It was a young Gem chic who died of cancer, I didn't know her very well but she was awesome. She had fun up to the last of her days, always positive and outgoing, upfront and straightforward... man it is so unfair! Last weekend we were at her house and her husband was watching their wedding which was freaken hilarious! They were PERFECT for each other! Damn, see, now I'm sad again! Ah bummer 😢

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/Agreed! You're right about everything you said, so much reason from a cancer? Whewww lol jk But yes, no need to break down in public please, or at work PLEASE!/

Reason? Are you implying cancers can't reason? 🙂 It's really quite simple.. you have 2 choices: either let it out and come to terms with it OR keep it bottled up and potentially ruin your life and the lives of others.

Also, it wouldn't hurt you bulls to show emotions on occasion either..

"Also, it wouldn't hurt you bulls to show emotions on occasion either..."

Hm hm hm what's this about? 🙂 You mean, bulls should be more expressive? We're not? I'm not... sometimes... I think... yeah I am... how do you do that? lol Hmmmmm...?

"either let it out and come to terms with it OR keep it bottled up and potentially ruin your life and the lives of others."

This is so much harder than it sounds. Potentially ruin lives, damn, you've got that right. I find that everyone feels the same emotions but definitely not to the same extent... some people are very extreme and have a hard time dealing with such emotions. I think some people need to realize it and learn to deal with such an odd aspect of being human. People like that really need to guard their emotions.

For me,it'd do nothing really,I'd basically leave them to themselves to sort it out.Maybe I'll listen to them or whatever but they'd have to come to me for that,I don't like imposing on people when they're obviously upset and when they may just want to be alone.

The Scorp I was with used to get turned on when I cried. I think he got off on the whole soft, sensitive, feminine woman thing, especially since I don't normally cry in front of people.

Come to think of it, he was kinda weird. He used to try to take me to my dad's grave site all the time. I would never go with him because I felt like it was a personal thing I didn't want to share with him.

There you go, I think that last post would fit me also. I'm not apt to grow any colder or softer when people cry in front of me. I just listen really...
Well, that is, if it's their own problem.

If it's my own problem and somebody has begun to cry or panic on my own behalf, then I might get harder in realizing that I need to prevent myself from feeling self-pity. But I'd get harder on ME more than the person breaking down. I appreciate toughness under pressure, but I can also appreciate compassion and empathy under pressure. It's both of those that will help you get through a hard period.