sex on the first date/meeting.

it seems to me like many scorps (and others!)make the mistake of sleeping with somebody on the first date/meeting - i say mistake because, looking around these boards, talking to my friends and from very, very personal; experiences, it only seems to confuse both people involved. unless it's a one-night-stand, which is always cool, but i think there's always an emotional attachment we have to deal with in the morning. so i guess my "question" is two-partL:

1) is there such a thing as "casual" sex?

2) is sex on the first date/meeting a bad idea? why do you think so/not?

i'll have to get back to you on question number 1 but number 2 for women esp i think if they want the guy to take them seriously and wan't to let the guy know there interested in more then just sexual fun, they should probably wait, plus if you respect yourself, you will find that it helps to see if the guy is worthy enough to even get to that point, But if thats all your looking for then sex on the first meeting is fine i guess. Just my opinion.

so for me it would be a bad idea if i wanted a relationship.

Disgraceful! Have some self-respect..

I don't think that there's such a thing as casual sex for all people. Just shallow people who block their emotions..and I don't necessarily mean for a one night stand. I think most people know someone whose one motivation is sex..they don't really care who it's with, the other person's feelings, etc., as long as they're getting some. I consider that to be casual because no emotions are involved from the beginning.

yes, there is such a thing as "casual" sex...and it is not always a mistake to have sex with someone on the first date. Example: I'm a single mother of two boys, the youngest of which is three. I'm also responsible for caring for my dad, who is ill. I have a full time job. I don't have time for a relationship right now. I'm too busy. If I go out with someone, and find him attractive enough, and enjoy his company enough- yes- I'll probably have sex with him. I think in a situation like that, it is very important to be honest with the person. A simple, "I find you attractive, I'm too busy for a relationship right now, wanna have sex?" is good enough. It isn't about "blocking emotions"....it's about balancing wants and desires with responsibilities....at least for me.

no offense..but that whole post sounded a bit unemotional.

no offense taken....I would have though it was unemotional when I was your age.

true, true. i never criticized it if you think you can handle it, by the way. being the stubborn person that i am, however, i still think that casual sex involves blocking emotions associated with "making love". hey i'm just sayin'.

believe me...i'd like to have time to devote to developing a relationship with someone. Doesn't seem to be in my near future! Yes, the "making love" aspect is one I miss, but I'll take stress relief and a little bit of fun in its absence!

lol, i don't have anything to say about the topic, really.. but i kinda wanna say this to scorpio_wreck:

you have a cancer moon?!!?

no wonder you know so much about how that taurus girl must have felt *underneath*. seriously.. your PM's were so stunningly accurate, and i'm not even talking about your descriptions, but i'm talking about your naming-the-event and then examining-the-event so skillfully. i was like.. damn boy, do you really even need my help?!!? LOL

but yeah.. that cancer moon CAN be really handy. as long as you don't get too emotional, it can really do a lot of good, brothah. ;P

Heh,im a scorp and I never made the mistake of having a one night stand....friends with benifets yes but never one night stands or got emotional about it.However I see why some people would prefer one night stands over relationships as well without looking down on them cause its literally just assumptions when its an outsider looking in.




1) is there such a thing as "casual" sex?

Yes,there is casual sex,with a one night you canNOT develope "feelings" for someone and have it be real...lust is all those little "feelings" are because you don't know them,therefore don't seriously care,like or love them.Its actually superficial to me when someone gets bothered by "feelings(usually women cause 70% of them are superficial to begin with)" after a one night stand.



2) is sex on the first date/meeting a bad idea? why do you think so/not?


Again depends on the person if its a good thing or not.For me its a hell no cause I don't know where they're genitals have been before me.Even with protection,the condoms break and also herpies and such gets past them.

Venus -Actually, I'm on the "cusp" (born at 6:00) of a Cancer/Leo moon, so I think there could be some shared power there. But thanks for the ego boost! because my Leo moon and Scorpio sun totally need it. =]

I totally agree with GEMINILOVER -i'd had friends with benefits n i think once it's understood by both ppl that it's jus sex then fine - it only becomes a mistake when u want more wit the person or if u get a disease - that's my thinking...

what's up, it's yo boy roy? i'm new to the boards and i'm a leo. i like scorpio girls, because they are sexy ass animals. sex on the first date with a scorpio girl would be an automatic yes.

I do not believe that any real human being can have truly casual sex with no emotion involved, it's impossible. That's part of the fun of sex, the "connection". That connection isn't just genital-to-genital robotic humping. Emotion permeates every single action and thought we have; it has to or we wouldn't have any motivation to do anything.

That being said, I don't see a whole lot wrong with a one-night stand as long as caution is excercised.