I Lost my Scorpio to another Cancer

I am devestated, feeling insecure. He met another girl who turns out to be another cancer. A younger gal who is absolutely gorgeous. I bet they feel that intense emotional, physical connection we both once shared when we first met. I was so certain we were going to be together, forever. Just me and my Scorp. Now I just feel lost and empty. I just want to crawl into my shell and hide...

I guess we were just not meant to be... 😢

I was wondering if and when he was going to tell me about it. My intuition kicked in and I confronted him about it. Later that evening he finally came up front and confirmed it. I don't think he would have told me anything, rather leave me hangin...

Scorpios can be SOOO GREAT! If they are in love.

But when they are not anymore, man does it sting like a bitch! They can ignore you like you have never existed.

Posted by satori
WHAT A FUCKING ASSHOLE! And a COWARD too for not having the guts to tell you before you had to confront him about it.

Please, don't take this personally. This has nothing to do with how desirable you are but everything to do with this guy's selfishness and maturity level. And you are definitely not missing out on anything now. Infact, he did you a favor showing you his true colors pretty early. He will undoubtedly do this to this new girl if he was able to be so cold and unfeeling to you.

I'm so sorry but you will find someone who will appreciate you for all that you are worth and never take you for granted like that. It may be another Scorpio but it may not be and that might be even better. As you know, we can be undeniably awesomely angelic and simultaneously pure evil incarnate sometimes and many people rightly tell us to go fuck ourselves because of it... our b.s. should not be endured at any cost like so many people figure out only after we've totally abused and exhausted them.

Please, take care of yourself and don't cry too much for this guy. He's definitely not worth it!

and p.s. I saw your photo before and you are gorgeous and you are effing 26!! You are a youngin' too for chrissakes!

Thanks for your concern, but it's no wonder I always feel insecure about myself when being with another man. Seems like they're always out looking for someone younger and more fresh. In my previous relationship I dealt with a gemini who constantly went hot and cold on me for 7 years. I see the similarity between the two acting like that but in a different way. Eventhough the Scorpio I was seeing was only for 1 year I feel even more hurt. At least whenever the Scorp came back I always felt comfort, maybe that's why it bugs the hell out of me.


I'm sure she's great. But why look for another woman when you already have someone good standing by your side?

"They can ignore you like you have never existed."

Yup, Yup...hurts like a bitch, huh?
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Listen to Satori, she is right on. You are only 26, how young could this guy want to go? How old is he?

Try not to dwell on how she is or what they do. He's a DOUCHE and deserves no concern like that. He'll expect that behavior, don't you give it to him. Treat yourself right lady, take the time you need to heal. And you need some of these too ((((HUGS)))).

Posted by ramfishtwins
"They can ignore you like you have never existed."

Yup, Yup...hurts like a bitch, huh?
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Listen to Satori, she is right on. You are only 26, how young could this guy want to go? How old is he?

He's 28. I'm 26. She's 23. I guess that's not THAT young but still younger than me. =/

Posted by satori
You may need to ask yourself why you are attracting these types of guys. There are respectful men out there who won't do things like this to you. If I were you I would use the time you are single now to try to fill yourself up with as much love and respect as you deserve so you feel full without someone. Then when you decide to give some other lucky guy a chance he will see from the start that you will not tolerate being disrespected in any way.

Thanks satori! Yes i'm going to take this time away for myself. I don't think i'm ready for another relationship right now. I need to figure out what makes me happy without being dependent on someone else.

Posted by venusianbull
Try not to dwell on how she is or what they do. He's a DOUCHE and deserves no concern like that. He'll expect that behavior, don't you give it to him. Treat yourself right lady, take the time you need to heal. And you need some of these too ((((HUGS)))).

Thanks sweetie! 😉

Posted by emeraldgem
You have to think well of yourself before you can attract someone who respects you. Your self-esteem has taken a hit but you need to gather yourself together and see this as HIS flaw and not your fault. Move on WITH STRENGTH and pride!

Yes, you're right on that part. I have self-esteem issues now, but I will try to work on that. 😉

Just wanted to say I was in a similar situation as you and made a thread about.. difference is my now ex scorpio cheated on me with a libra. He is 26, she is 22, I am 20. It hurt so excruciatingly, bad I can't even explain but it made me look at him in a different light. He ended up coming back 4 months later, and from what I know they didn't a full 2 weeks. When he came back I was happy at first and wanted to work on it, but things just didn't feel the same. And I had to try it out again just to know how it would feel and how it would be, and now that I know I can almost say I don't want it anymroe.. 95% . 5% of me still thinks and reminisces then something snaps me back into how I got to this point today. Point is, if you two had any type of connection or real love between you he will be back. Its happened to me over and over.. but you can't keep giving him chances and opportunities to break your heart in a new way. As far as looks go, your gorgeous and I'm not just saying that to make you feel better but I thought that immediately when I saw your picture. Funny thing is, the Libra my ex cheated with isn't as beautiful/gorgeous as I am and I'm not hating but..she's not a stereotypical libra as far as looks go. Funny how she's got a double chin and a sloppy body months later lmao but thats another topic. Just cause he cheated with her doesn't mean he's in love with her or even loves her at all. For all we know he could be testing you to see if you will fight for him. I look at it like this though.. there are enough guys out there that you will not feel insecure,confused, have to compete with other women, or be wondering. Time will heal you enough where you can move on, maybe not forget him but move on.
- Cancer female here.

Satori just because he's found a new love doesn't mean he's the scum of the earth. What he once shared with LadyCancer is what he's found with the new girl. He's just acting on his feelings instead of staying in a relationship that's not working anymore. Maybe he's short sighted and maybe it may happen to him too - yes he should have broken up with her rather than cheat and start another relationship while not ending the previous is always wrong... but that's how love is sometimes. In the end ladycancer will be better off that he did what he did because she'll be better off. No need holding onto love that no longer wants you to hold it. The age thing is your own insecurity or conscious... it played no part in what he did.... TRUST ME.

Lady, what your feeling is just emotional shock, which is a helpless feeling but it WILL wear off and you"ll bounce back. I just hope you understand that things didn't fall into place for you and your dude im sure it wasn't anything you did wrong. It's ok to miss his presence and little things you might of liked about him but understand if your pet died you'd miss the presence of the pet too. He's not the end all by all, keep your confidence and you'll have some bigger and better than this ever was.


It's all perspective Lady

I don't think I could ever get over this man. We started as friends over 10 years ago then went our seperate ways. We later reconnected after our failed marriages. As much as I wanted to stay friends after being reunited I couldn't resist the connection we had and things got serious. I always told him that I lost him before and I don't ever want to let go of him, even if things didn't work out. He said he felt the same way about me. I know he is a good man and I'd rather walk away quietly and respectfully. Nothing went wrong in our relationship. I understand him completely and for the reasons he gave me for choosing the other woman. He simply needed the "physical" aspect of what a relationship that was missing in ours because of our long distance relationship, we were never able to see each other. So, yeah he found someone closer to home. I thought that we would be able to stay "friends" and still have each other on our networking sites. I think i'm happy seeing now that he's truely happy with his new love, but it still kills me inside. I know I shouldn't be thinking, but I wonder if I ever cross his mind and if what we had meant anything. He said that I was special to him and for me not to forget that but now things are just stale. I guess this is truely the end to our friendship.

Should I delete/not delete him from my friends lists?

"No need holding onto love that no longer wants you to hold it."

Nov5male - Yes you're right! Maybe I should just shut him out of my life and forget him completely...

"Nothing went wrong in our relationship"

Obviously something did, or he would still be with you. Another male scorp told me once that when he fell in love with another woman, it just happened. That nothing necessarily went wrong with his current relationship...I think that's bullshit. If everything was so great in your relationship, then how could you be so drawn to another and cheat on your spouse? These things don't just happen...IMHO. Your current relationship has to be fractured in some way to have this occur.

I understand you are positive you will never get over this guy, but trust me, we've all thought that at one point in time and most of us are proven wrong. The pain, attachment, and connection will lesson and you will realize this wasn't a good thing. If it was, he wouldn't have cheated on you and hurt you so badly.
I think you need to keep your distance. Having him as your "friend" on social sites will ony cause you pain.

Ladycancer delete him from your social networks and move on, if he there is any opportunity to rekindle the friendship part let him do the work to establish that again, he broke it so let him fix it. I agree with Nov5male it's not your age so please don't get hung up this age thing because you can really create more emotional conflict and potentially destroy future relationships because of this excuse your using for the break up, the bottom line is he met someone in his area and he pursued that relationship without taking your feelings into consideration, if anything you can call him inconsiderate but he's not a horrible person, he's just someone that can't do long distance relationships so although it was perfect for you it was lacking for him. Now get out there and go date, that is always a great fast way to boost your self confidence after being rejected, go out and date and have fun and just forget about it for a little while, believe me it will take about 6 months or less and he will come crawling back after the euphoric rush of the honeymoon stage wears off, he's just really high on her right now but reality will set in and he will be back so for now don't worry about it, your beautiful, no your gorgeous and your still young and vibrant and available, any man would be happy to have your company.

Sometimes sending a clear message that he no longer has access to a good thing can be the very thing that jolts him back into reality and brings the awareness that he fucked up a great friendship/relationship due to his own selfish attitude towards you, he took you for granted and because he didn't place any real importance on the relationship he chose to not tell you due to his lack of regard and respect. Deleting him will send a clear message that your moving on....which usually has an effect on a man.

lol @ PP.


"I don't think I could ever get over this man."


Well then you won't. Its that simple.

"If everything was so great in your relationship, then how could you be so drawn to another and cheat on your spouse?"

Sometimes people date with their heads and not their hearts. If you're dating someone and realize that you're not in love with them but do love them but then meet someone who you're actually in love with then you owe it to yourself to see that through. Regardless of whether or not it hurts the person you're with because in the end to stay in a relationship when you have strong feelings for someone else is just as hurtful.

If nothing went wrong in this relationship then I would tell her that his feelings just changed. It sucks but would you still want to be with him when he really wanted to be with the other girl? I agree that he should've told you upfront. Maybe he was waiting to be sure but when you confronted him, he just told you. Either way, the outcome would've been the same.

I completely understand the Scorp/Cancer attraction (married to a Cancer who drove me crazy when we were dating) so I'm not downplaying it. What I am saying is that after you're mourned this relationship (which is normal) dust yourself off and find someone better 🙂

BTW, not to be mean but remember how badly his silence hurt you when you enter you new relationship because Cancer's are the Kings/Queens of ignoring people (oops I mean going into your shells).

Posted by ramfishtwins
"Nothing went wrong in our relationship"

Obviously something did, or he would still be with you. Another male scorp told me once that when he fell in love with another woman, it just happened. That nothing necessarily went wrong with his current relationship...I think that's bullshit. If everything was so great in your relationship, then how could you be so drawn to another and cheat on your spouse? These things don't just happen...IMHO. Your current relationship has to be fractured in some way to have this occur.

I understand you are positive you will never get over this guy, but trust me, we've all thought that at one point in time and most of us are proven wrong. The pain, attachment, and connection will lesson and you will realize this wasn't a good thing. If it was, he wouldn't have cheated on you and hurt you so badly.
I think you need to keep your distance. Having him as your "friend" on social sites will ony cause you pain.

If everything was so great in your relationship, then how could you be so drawn to another and cheat on your spouse?

So you think that a man won't "physically" cheat if he's in a great relationship? LOL What we think in our heads is always better than reality.

Oh and Lady there's no way ever i'd play that friends bs with someone that hurt me like that. Usually when a person is willing to be friends with someone that hurt than deeply in this kinda way that just means you're not strong enough to
be without or eliminate this person from your life. No to mention giving this person the green light to walk all over you whenever they please. Just one male scorp opinion.

I would have slapped that bastard.









Well if it hurts you that bad, just tell the police he beat you, so then he'll probably go to jail, and he wont be able to see that other girl Problem solved LOL!





LOL I know a crazy taurus bitch who did this. She was living in Ny and her boyfriend had moved to Washington D.C. She suspected something so one day she went to his house without telling him and found him with another girl. She beat the crap out of them both then called the cops and said they beat her and had them both arrested LMFAOOO.