Is my Scorpio man gone for good?

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KileaLove
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I'm a Leo female and have been involved in an online relationship with a Scorpio male. We met on Reddit and sort of hit it off right away. He pursued me and did drop the L bomb after talking for maybe a day. I did take that as a red flag since reading about Scorpios and how they don't fall in love quickly. As a Leo, I was flattered and thought it was cute how embarrassed he got after confessing. I continued to communicate with him because I honestly didn't see any harm, but thought that if it ever became too weird or creepy that I would end it immediately and possibly block him if I had to.

The thing is, we only talked on Snapchat and he couldn't video chat. We talked about meeting in person, but not having his phone number or being able to video chat was an issue for me. I have always felt comfortable expressing my feelings with him about family, friends, and other stuff in my life and he would receive it with an open mind and heart. But whenever I express if I was unhappy or had issues with something that he did or didn't do, he would get an attitude with me and won't call or text me for days. He broke up with me once before because of a miscommunication that resulted in him hanging up in my face. I told him that his action was disrespectful, but he felt he was in his right because I said he "insulted me" for calling me old when I didn't remember something. I'm 29. He broke up with me again this time because a friend of mine called him a liar and other not-so-nice names for not being able to video chat. He said that he feels like we will always have problems in the future to come if we continued, but I don't believe that is true. If we could've video chatted at least once, then the issue with my friend wouldn't have happened (not saying that it should have happened) and if we can actually see each other face to face I believe that can eliminate the minor miscommunications we had in the past. But he doesn't seem interested in working things out and now I'm blocked.

I feel like this is extreme to end a loving and passionate relationship over 1. a miscommunication that can be easily fixed by communicating properly and 2. the thoughts and feelings of someone that is not involved in our relationship. I don't plan to wait for him to come back, because that may never happen and I'll only be hurting myself further. But is there a possibility that he will come back because we had more ups (very passionate and steamy ups) than downs? Or is he gone for good? And if he does return, how can I get him to understand that my standards are important for me and my safety and not to hurt him?
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KileaLove
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4 YearsLeo

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Posted by ImperfectStorm

You haven’t seen him on video yet to confirm that he’s real? That should be a baseline requirement for any type of online dating. Especially with Snapchat, isn’t there a video chat option on there—

He claimed that his phone was outdated and would crash whenever he used his video function. He did promise that he would work on us being able to video chat, but of course that never happened.
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Posted by KileaLove
Posted by ImperfectStorm

You haven’t seen him on video yet to confirm that he’s real? That should be a baseline requirement for any type of online dating. Especially with Snapchat, isn’t there a video chat option on there—

He claimed that his phone was outdated and would crash whenever he used his video function. He did promise that he would work on us being able to video chat, but of course that never happened.
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My phone is 5 years old, has never been updated since I got it (f*ck APPLE and their updates) and I can still do video chat. He's full of sh*t.
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LadyNeptune
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The biggest red flag here is that he is bailing. He used the excuse of your friend calling him out on not facetiming to leave. He doesn't want to be with you.

Whether that's because he has been lying about who he is this entire time, hence the flimsy old phone excuses. Or because he's lost interest... the why doesn't really matter, it leaves you in the same place either way.

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KileaLove
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Posted by ImperfectStorm

You haven’t seen him on video yet to confirm that he’s real? That should be a baseline requirement for any type of online dating. Especially with Snapchat, isn’t there a video chat option on there—

He claimed that his phone was outdated and would crash whenever he used his video function. He did promise that he would work on us being able to video chat, but of course that never happened.

My phone is 5 years old, has never been updated since I got it (f*ck APPLE and their updates) and I can still do video chat. He's full of sh*t.
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I had an iPhone 6s rose gold, that wouldn't accept calls or send text anymore, but I was still able to use the video function. I might not have been able to save those videos but that's a different story. The point is I noticed the red flags and even asked him about them and his excuses never added up to me. But my fault is that I will give people the benefit of the doubt when they say they will work on something. He said he would get a new phone so that we could video chat but that never happened until my friend called him out. Apparently, he rushed to get a new phone then, but I didn't want to video chat with him until he calm down his attitude with me because I wanted it to be fun and exciting if we were going to video chat, but he broke up with me instead.