Jealousy/Possessiveness = Love?

I've been with this guy for a couple months, which although short, is my longest relationship. Plus, we've practically been living together since Day 1. I tend to get very jealous and my mood changes completely. I go from happy and touchy feely to pissed off and "don't even touch me." He'll start hugging me saying that I shouldn't be jealous over stupid things, but it's not really something I could change. To give you an idea of how bad it is, one day we went out and he saw a Sailor Mars figure and he wanted to buy it because he thought she was cute and said he would keep her on his desk. He held onto it, but didn't buy it since he noticed it annoyed me.

lol

What is wrong with me?

@HeartofTopaz - Help a girl out with a good suggestion on a flea dip and pinworm regimen.

It never goes away. My Scorpio lover is almost 40 and if I breathe in the direction of another man I get the cold shoulder.

Aaaahhhh Scorpio passion overload turned on its head

Damn curse it can be 😢

The key is to convince yourself you're not and eventually you will believe it

Lol

Posted by EveryOunce
It never goes away. My Scorpio lover is almost 40 and if I breathe in the direction of another man I get the cold shoulder.

The black guy with the whopper ?

😆

Posted by DeleterNerd
Yes it = love

Find a leo venus. You can do whatever you want as long as we can find some flattery in it. We chase the jelly/possessives. Although Idk if its really chasing. More like just walking into oncoming traffic?

LMFAOOOO These are facts tho

And it’s highly problematic for my free flowing sag placements

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Posted by EveryOunce
It never goes away. My Scorpio lover is almost 40 and if I breathe in the direction of another man I get the cold shoulder.

The black guy with the whopper ?

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Yes lol my goodness he is a lot to deal with. He is currently upset with me because I had other plans last night. I'll make it up to him today. 😏

Posted by GC05
“he saw a Sailor Mars figure and he wanted to buy it because he thought she was cute and said he would keep her on his desk. He held onto it, but didn't buy it since he noticed it annoyed me”

Awwww 😭😭😭
That’s kind of funny.
You should have accidentally knocked the doll off the desk and replaced it with a beautiful picture of yourself....that’s what I’d do. 😂😂😂

Bahaha that's cute. I've actually done that at my dad's place when I saw a picture of his gf there but not of me. I put a big graduation picture in place :]

Posted by ufo
control issues and insecurities oughtta do it

I wouldn't say that's why I'm jealous exactly. If anyone is insecure, it's him. He usually has the need to test me to see if I really do care about him. He says he's not jealous yet he notices every single guy that checks me out and prefers that I stay fully clothed and covered. Not saying I'm walking around naked, but he doesn't even like if I wear low cut shirts.. Not like there's much to show.

Posted by ScorpKitty21
I've been with this guy for a couple months, which although short, is my longest relationship. Plus, we've practically been living together since Day 1. I tend to get very jealous and my mood changes completely. I go from happy and touchy feely to pissed off and "don't even touch me." He'll start hugging me saying that I shouldn't be jealous over stupid things, but it's not really something I could change. To give you an idea of how bad it is, one day we went out and he saw a Sailor Mars figure and he wanted to buy it because he thought she was cute and said he would keep her on his desk. He held onto it, but didn't buy it since he noticed it annoyed me.

lol

What is wrong with me?

Nothing IMO. You're just different and it may get better with time and trust, but eradicating it entirely just may not be feasible, even if you understand the root of it, and that its not always rational. Not everyone can comprehend this kind of jealousy, but plenty of men can, experience some form of it themselves, and will actually find this kind of thing endearing and adorable. There are plenty of people who like the feeling of being possessed/"owned", or a partner that at least desires to be the sole object of their affection.

I think its important to discuss it and express it though, in some way, even if its just through humor that acknowledges how irrational it is, rather than always trying to control. I've always been irrationally jealous and had partners that are, though I don't equate jealousy directly with love. I think at times its often related to obsessive feelings, and really strong emotional connection, even more so than insecurity. The less of an emotional bond I feel with a partner, the less jealous I am.

I find that I can diffuse most of the smaller stuff by making a joke or sarcastic comment, that allows me to vent, but at the same time not take it too seriously, get a better grip on reality, feel out their intentions, etc., and can often transform it into something playful. Some situations even become more of a turn-on when I can work through them like that. He's obviously possessive/jealous himself from what you've said so w/good communication you should be able to figure it out. Worst thing to do IMO is just sit on it/suppress it, and let it fester....I think when jealous types do this, they often tend to act out against their partner to provoke jealousy down the road, and then it just escalates. I know quite a few couples, even well into their marriage, that are still too proud/ashamed to even admit to their many jealousies, though its obvious to everyone else around them, and they are secretly at war with one another over shit they just refuse to talk about. I think that's a recipe for disaster.