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Letting go
Posted by aNEWdayRun/move/work/workout. Just keep moving. It will still hit you during the quiet times but you need periods of time when you can't possibly think about it because you have tasks. There is some relief in the running until the pain lessons. This has helped me get over a similar situation that I'm going through. I still feel all the feelings, but they are lessening and not so hurtful over time...hope that helps. Hugs.
With all of my water and fixed makeup I find it difficult to let go. I tune out all advice, logic and probably common sense until it finally hits me at my own time.
After doing some research on a karmic bond I have, it is now very clear that things are not meant to be, but I am literally feeling pains inside. Feelings I've been going trough the last few days make sense as the moon will be full in Taurus (also my moon sign) and everything feels like it's coming to a culmination that I must accept. I'm realizing that not only this, but that I am shedding some skin so to speak, so it may be why this is all hitting me harder.
How do you let go in a healthy way? What do you tell yourself to motivate you to move on? What types of activities do you to to keep your mind off of everything and look forward to better things to come? How do you not obsess over what could have been or fear losing another or their feelings for you?
I'm going through that now and I am a Taurus sun and moon. We never truly move on until we know and realize no matter what they won't compromise for us. It's funny though, we do anything for the ones we love cause we don't kind change we give our all so they stay. However this gets taken for granted plenty of times. Time heals all. Stay. Indy it helps till then.
Stay busy I meant
Posted by hexumThank you 🙂Posted by aNEWdayRun/move/work/workout. Just keep moving. It will still hit you during the quiet times but you need periods of time when you can't possibly think about it because you have tasks. There is some relief in the running until the pain lessons. This has helped me get over a similar situation that I'm going through. I still feel all the feelings, but they are lessening and not so hurtful over time...hope that helps. Hugs.
With all of my water and fixed makeup I find it difficult to let go. I tune out all advice, logic and probably common sense until it finally hits me at my own time.
After doing some research on a karmic bond I have, it is now very clear that things are not meant to be, but I am literally feeling pains inside. Feelings I've been going trough the last few days make sense as the moon will be full in Taurus (also my moon sign) and everything feels like it's coming to a culmination that I must accept. I'm realizing that not only this, but that I am shedding some skin so to speak, so it may be why this is all hitting me harder.
How do you let go in a healthy way? What do you tell yourself to motivate you to move on? What types of activities do you to to keep your mind off of everything and look forward to better things to come? How do you not obsess over what could have been or fear losing another or their feelings for you?click to expand
I look forward to getting to that point where I can look back and feel foolish about this
Posted by ShaniajamThank you. As a Taurus moon I swear people will stay longer in my thought wayyyy longer than I wish. Everyone moves on and I'm still stuck. The crazy part is that other people or that other person may never know bc I hide it so well. But it's deep down in there. I can only imagine being double Taurus
I'm going through that now and I am a Taurus sun and moon. We never truly move on until we know and realize no matter what they won't compromise for us. It's funny though, we do anything for the ones we love cause we don't kind change we give our all so they stay. However this gets taken for granted plenty of times. Time heals all. Stay. Indy it helps till then.
Posted by aNEWdayYes! I so pretend I'm done! If only they would reach out within the timeframe and say I'm sorry let me try to do better you would be all over them again... But I guess our cold demeanor makes them believe it's over. I wish they would read up on us... Candlelight dinner and something thoughtful would clear it right up... So simple if they knew.Posted by ShaniajamThank you. As a Taurus moon I swear people will stay longer in my thought wayyyy longer than I wish. Everyone moves on and I'm still stuck. The crazy part is that other people or that other person may never know bc I hide it so well. But it's deep down in there. I can only imagine being double Taurus
I'm going through that now and I am a Taurus sun and moon. We never truly move on until we know and realize no matter what they won't compromise for us. It's funny though, we do anything for the ones we love cause we don't kind change we give our all so they stay. However this gets taken for granted plenty of times. Time heals all. Stay. Indy it helps till then.click to expand
The only taurus placement I have is in my 11th house. Howver, I have a hard time letting go of certain people. I want to continue fighting and sometimes the fighting for should have been over along time ago.
Posted by ShaniajamHow about instead of being cold be honest and make that effort?Posted by aNEWdayYes! I so pretend I'm done! If only they would reach out within the timeframe and say I'm sorry let me try to do better you would be all over them again... But I guess our cold demeanor makes them believe it's over. I wish they would read up on us... Candlelight dinner and something thoughtful would clear it right up... So simple if they knew.Posted by ShaniajamThank you. As a Taurus moon I swear people will stay longer in my thought wayyyy longer than I wish. Everyone moves on and I'm still stuck. The crazy part is that other people or that other person may never know bc I hide it so well. But it's deep down in there. I can only imagine being double Taurus
I'm going through that now and I am a Taurus sun and moon. We never truly move on until we know and realize no matter what they won't compromise for us. It's funny though, we do anything for the ones we love cause we don't kind change we give our all so they stay. However this gets taken for granted plenty of times. Time heals all. Stay. Indy it helps till then.click to expand
Posted by christinelovessnickersIn this particular situation cancer guy said "I told you I didn't want a relationship" which was false... If you didn't want one I would have never talked to you and here we are 8 Months later... I think he lied cause he's been trying to come back. I'm not gonna tell him I miss him when he hurt me and played games. Though I know if I say I miss him I'm sure he would lunge after me again since we're on speaking terms now but he hurt me. I can't give in this time. I gave him my all to say a few words to make me feel like crap. I loved him and he took me for granted. Now he sending subliminal messages on social media to lure me back. I'm just watching ‚‚Posted by ShaniajamHow about instead of being cold be honest and make that effort?Posted by aNEWdayYes! I so pretend I'm done! If only they would reach out within the timeframe and say I'm sorry let me try to do better you would be all over them again... But I guess our cold demeanor makes them believe it's over. I wish they would read up on us... Candlelight dinner and something thoughtful would clear it right up... So simple if they knew.Posted by ShaniajamThank you. As a Taurus moon I swear people will stay longer in my thought wayyyy longer than I wish. Everyone moves on and I'm still stuck. The crazy part is that other people or that other person may never know bc I hide it so well. But it's deep down in there. I can only imagine being double Taurus
I'm going through that now and I am a Taurus sun and moon. We never truly move on until we know and realize no matter what they won't compromise for us. It's funny though, we do anything for the ones we love cause we don't kind change we give our all so they stay. However this gets taken for granted plenty of times. Time heals all. Stay. Indy it helps till then.click to expand
Posted by aNEWdaySo Marspluto 🙂
With all of my water and fixed makeup I find it difficult to let go. I tune out all advice, logic and probably common sense until it finally hits me at my own time.
After doing some research on a karmic bond I have, it is now very clear that things are not meant to be, but I am literally feeling pains inside. Feelings I've been going trough the last few days make sense as the moon will be full in Taurus (also my moon sign) and everything feels like it's coming to a culmination that I must accept. I'm realizing that not only this, but that I am shedding some skin so to speak, so it may be why this is all hitting me harder.
How do you let go in a healthy way? What do you tell yourself to motivate you to move on? What types of activities do you to to keep your mind off of everything and look forward to better things to come? How do you not obsess over what could have been or fear losing another or their feelings for you?
Posted by cheekyfaerieHaha I did this all last week. Took an exercise class almost everyday and it felt so good it actually was fun! But yeah my body is aching!! And the weekend came and I rested so it was back to square one lol. Back at it since yesterday 🙂
I feel ya.
People either cease to exist for me or they take a long time to get over. No inbetween. As said above, time and keeping busy. I threw myself into the gym. Not for everybody, but it was kinda great. Exercise endorphins meant feeling better on the inside and looking better on the outside didn't hurt either. The cherry on top was that I'd felt stupid and weak, but getting fit made me feel strong again. Inside and out.
Find your zen. 🙂
Posted by ShaniajamExactly! I push away and make it hard to let you in, when in reality I kind of want them to fight that wall. I know. Difficult, but I'm complex I guess. Talking to my friends there advice seems much easier said than done.Posted by aNEWdayYes! I so pretend I'm done! If only they would reach out within the timeframe and say I'm sorry let me try to do better you would be all over them again... But I guess our cold demeanor makes them believe it's over. I wish they would read up on us... Candlelight dinner and something thoughtful would clear it right up... So simple if they knew.Posted by ShaniajamThank you. As a Taurus moon I swear people will stay longer in my thought wayyyy longer than I wish. Everyone moves on and I'm still stuck. The crazy part is that other people or that other person may never know bc I hide it so well. But it's deep down in there. I can only imagine being double Taurus
I'm going through that now and I am a Taurus sun and moon. We never truly move on until we know and realize no matter what they won't compromise for us. It's funny though, we do anything for the ones we love cause we don't kind change we give our all so they stay. However this gets taken for granted plenty of times. Time heals all. Stay. Indy it helps till then.click to expand
Posted by MontgomeryWhoa! Didn't understand it all, but think I get the ideaPosted by aNEWdaySo Marspluto 🙂
With all of my water and fixed makeup I find it difficult to let go. I tune out all advice, logic and probably common sense until it finally hits me at my own time.
After doing some research on a karmic bond I have, it is now very clear that things are not meant to be, but I am literally feeling pains inside. Feelings I've been going trough the last few days make sense as the moon will be full in Taurus (also my moon sign) and everything feels like it's coming to a culmination that I must accept. I'm realizing that not only this, but that I am shedding some skin so to speak, so it may be why this is all hitting me harder.
How do you let go in a healthy way? What do you tell yourself to motivate you to move on? What types of activities do you to to keep your mind off of everything and look forward to better things to come? How do you not obsess over what could have been or fear losing another or their feelings for you?
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Posted by ShaniajamWishy washy. Stuck to your guns since you have already tried.Posted by christinelovessnickersIn this particular situation cancer guy said "I told you I didn't want a relationship" which was false... If you didn't want one I would have never talked to you and here we are 8 Months later... I think he lied cause he's been trying to come back. I'm not gonna tell him I miss him when he hurt me and played games. Though I know if I say I miss him I'm sure he would lunge after me again since we're on speaking terms now but he hurt me. I can't give in this time. I gave him my all to say a few words to make me feel like crap. I loved him and he took me for granted. Now he sending subliminal messages on social media to lure me back. I'm just watching ‚‚Posted by ShaniajamHow about instead of being cold be honest and make that effort?Posted by aNEWdayYes! I so pretend I'm done! If only they would reach out within the timeframe and say I'm sorry let me try to do better you would be all over them again... But I guess our cold demeanor makes them believe it's over. I wish they would read up on us... Candlelight dinner and something thoughtful would clear it right up... So simple if they knew.Posted by ShaniajamThank you. As a Taurus moon I swear people will stay longer in my thought wayyyy longer than I wish. Everyone moves on and I'm still stuck. The crazy part is that other people or that other person may never know bc I hide it so well. But it's deep down in there. I can only imagine being double Taurus
I'm going through that now and I am a Taurus sun and moon. We never truly move on until we know and realize no matter what they won't compromise for us. It's funny though, we do anything for the ones we love cause we don't kind change we give our all so they stay. However this gets taken for granted plenty of times. Time heals all. Stay. Indy it helps till then.click to expand
Sorry... I didn't realize it had a lesson on Jung's shadow theory, too.
Your post just reminded me of the song, itself.
Your post just reminded me of the song, itself.
Posted by backtokemetBahaha! My guy coworkers make jokes about how I'm going to become a cat lady. I saw this cute pic of a girl dressed up as one for Halloween and told them I should do it :pPosted by aNEWdayI have to address this .. my "twin flame" was also a SCORP sun/TAURUS moon and I had suspected she was doing thisPosted by ShaniajamExactly! I push away and make it hard to let you in, when in reality I kind of want them to fight that wall. I know. Difficult, but I'm complex I guess. Talking to my friends there advice seems much easier said than done.Posted by aNEWdayYes! I so pretend I'm done! If only they would reach out within the timeframe and say I'm sorry let me try to do better you would be all over them again... But I guess our cold demeanor makes them believe it's over. I wish they would read up on us... Candlelight dinner and something thoughtful would clear it right up... So simple if they knew.Posted by ShaniajamThank you. As a Taurus moon I swear people will stay longer in my thought wayyyy longer than I wish. Everyone moves on and I'm still stuck. The crazy part is that other people or that other person may never know bc I hide it so well. But it's deep down in there. I can only imagine being double Taurus
I'm going through that now and I am a Taurus sun and moon. We never truly move on until we know and realize no matter what they won't compromise for us. It's funny though, we do anything for the ones we love cause we don't kind change we give our all so they stay. However this gets taken for granted plenty of times. Time heals all. Stay. Indy it helps till then.
you may look at this as "I can't afford to let the wrong person in, he has to prove he's worthy of being let in" but you have to realize the other person may slowly build up anger while trying to break the wall (those who decide to) .. by the time her Highness decided it was safe to drop her wall, I was so pissed I didn't want to be near her .. I'm all for protecting oneself but at the same time don't become too attached to your wall ..
unless of course you're an aspiring crazy cat lady 🙂
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Thank you for this. I'm not gonna lie, she sounds a lot like me. Maybe that's what the heck I need to learn here. Honestly, I think I can let it down when I feel SAFE. If I'm unsure about your intentions, and in my case, I feel like I'm dealing with someone who has varying emotions (cancer moon), it's hard for me to feel ok.
Posted by backtokemetHow do you even prove that you are worthy to someone like that? If they try to keep you at bay than they have to know people will get tired of fighting an uphill battle. In the end It may not even be worth it for the person to fight.Posted by aNEWdayI have to address this .. my "twin flame" was also a SCORP sun/TAURUS moon and I had suspected she was doing thisPosted by ShaniajamExactly! I push away and make it hard to let you in, when in reality I kind of want them to fight that wall. I know. Difficult, but I'm complex I guess. Talking to my friends there advice seems much easier said than done.Posted by aNEWdayYes! I so pretend I'm done! If only they would reach out within the timeframe and say I'm sorry let me try to do better you would be all over them again... But I guess our cold demeanor makes them believe it's over. I wish they would read up on us... Candlelight dinner and something thoughtful would clear it right up... So simple if they knew.Posted by ShaniajamThank you. As a Taurus moon I swear people will stay longer in my thought wayyyy longer than I wish. Everyone moves on and I'm still stuck. The crazy part is that other people or that other person may never know bc I hide it so well. But it's deep down in there. I can only imagine being double Taurus
I'm going through that now and I am a Taurus sun and moon. We never truly move on until we know and realize no matter what they won't compromise for us. It's funny though, we do anything for the ones we love cause we don't kind change we give our all so they stay. However this gets taken for granted plenty of times. Time heals all. Stay. Indy it helps till then.
you may look at this as "I can't afford to let the wrong person in, he has to prove he's worthy of being let in" but you have to realize the other person may slowly build up anger while trying to break the wall (those who decide to) .. by the time her Highness decided it was safe to drop her wall, I was so pissed I didn't want to be near her .. I'm all for protecting oneself but at the same time don't become too attached to your wall ..
unless of course you're an aspiring crazy cat lady 🙂
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Posted by ScorpioStarGazerVery difficult. Part of it is having that other person let go too. Is that bad? Probably, but I admit it. Maybe I haven't evolved that far yet.
Wow, I could have written your post word for word. It's like you were speaking exactly of my situation and things I struggle with on a daily basis. I have such a difficult time letting go. I try to hold on forever because the thought of starting over, the thought of change frightens me. I feel as if I worked so hard and gave things my all and if I just let go I'm giving up and all that I worked for was for nothing. It was all a waste. Letting go means that you've accepted things are over and therefor must open yourself up to new things, situations and people. You become vulnerable again and vulnerability is something I struggle with immensely. It's so damn hard for me to open myself up to new people and for me to get to that point is a huge deal. For me to finally open myself up only to have to let go of that person because it's over...it's a difficult pill for me to swallow. To accept finality is hard.
So I don't know if I ever really let go. Staying busy helps as i dont have time to think about it or reflect. I do think it's difficult for fixed signs though and I'm definitely fixed. Scorpio sun, Leo moon, Scorpio merc venus and Jupiter.
Looking back it's easy to get over the things and people you know are just no good. But when you know someone has a good heart and did not do anything horrible to me, at least for me, it's very hard. There are people in my past I wonder if I could ever see again and I think I can't. I would rather not open up another wound, just in case.
Posted by christinelovessnickersFunny they say Cancers are psychic...soon as I'm about to move on...he right there. Pretty soon it won't work. And he knows... I'm playing along...but if I never send that reply....he'll know time is up. He's playing games and stalling meantime I'm setting up things to be over in due time...you want me? Better act fast lol. I'm not cocky I just know I love hard and once I'm rejected I start running and he's sees it now.Posted by ShaniajamWishy washy. Stuck to your guns since you have already tried.Posted by christinelovessnickersIn this particular situation cancer guy said "I told you I didn't want a relationship" which was false... If you didn't want one I would have never talked to you and here we are 8 Months later... I think he lied cause he's been trying to come back. I'm not gonna tell him I miss him when he hurt me and played games. Though I know if I say I miss him I'm sure he would lunge after me again since we're on speaking terms now but he hurt me. I can't give in this time. I gave him my all to say a few words to make me feel like crap. I loved him and he took me for granted. Now he sending subliminal messages on social media to lure me back. I'm just watching ‚‚Posted by ShaniajamHow about instead of being cold be honest and make that effort?Posted by aNEWdayYes! I so pretend I'm done! If only they would reach out within the timeframe and say I'm sorry let me try to do better you would be all over them again... But I guess our cold demeanor makes them believe it's over. I wish they would read up on us... Candlelight dinner and something thoughtful would clear it right up... So simple if they knew.Posted by ShaniajamThank you. As a Taurus moon I swear people will stay longer in my thought wayyyy longer than I wish. Everyone moves on and I'm still stuck. The crazy part is that other people or that other person may never know bc I hide it so well. But it's deep down in there. I can only imagine being double Taurus
I'm going through that now and I am a Taurus sun and moon. We never truly move on until we know and realize no matter what they won't compromise for us. It's funny though, we do anything for the ones we love cause we don't kind change we give our all so they stay. However this gets taken for granted plenty of times. Time heals all. Stay. Indy it helps till then.click to expand
I also have real problems with this. What I feel is often based very little on logic and it is all about what I feel. I think us Scorpios feel thing very deeply and we are very loyal and find it hard to give up or let go or move on from anything. I also obsess, analyse and over think.
I will agree with what someone else said that Forrest Gump is the way to go. I run. I run a lot and it's in that physical moving proces that the light lifts and I begin to feel things ebb away.
I think it's also worth noting though that while it's sometimes a burden to bear (all this thinking) that it's also quite a nice thing about you. I am having a few issues with current BF here and there in terms of me overthinking probably (just posted actually for advice) but recently I completely overhought /obsessed over something and really over reacted and got very upset and he had to spend a lot of time listening and comforting and explaining so we could get on the same page and at the end I was worried he would think less of me, but he said "no I like it...you care about stuff".
And that sentence is also true.
We care about stuff!
I will agree with what someone else said that Forrest Gump is the way to go. I run. I run a lot and it's in that physical moving proces that the light lifts and I begin to feel things ebb away.
I think it's also worth noting though that while it's sometimes a burden to bear (all this thinking) that it's also quite a nice thing about you. I am having a few issues with current BF here and there in terms of me overthinking probably (just posted actually for advice) but recently I completely overhought /obsessed over something and really over reacted and got very upset and he had to spend a lot of time listening and comforting and explaining so we could get on the same page and at the end I was worried he would think less of me, but he said "no I like it...you care about stuff".
And that sentence is also true.
We care about stuff!
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