Mental Asylum of Utter Madness- 24/7 Stinger Home! (Page 77)

*checking in*

Posted by Ellygant

Yo I’m about to smack a Virgo.

I have to read the deets later.

Posted by elllle

This came up on my timeline today....I think I'm doing a good job maintaining my promises....

*like* especially if you really meant to write "I will accent my flaws"....as in accentuate my flaws.

#EmbraceGoodandBad

Posted by HeartofTopazz

Hi again

*waves*

As much as I get "us", I am often thrown just a little by a fellow Scorp's actions. Regardless of age.

Baby Scorp hated working with me. It was clear in her actions, and refusal to communicate. Watching the clock, asking "are we done?" every 5 minutes. I never personalize her dislike of our time together, the only reason we are coming together is because there is something "broken" or "wrong with her that needs to be "fixed". This is not my belief, but of everyone around her. So I am a constant reminder and represent "how wrong" she is. It doesn't matter that I see all these great qualities, because it isn't my approval she is seeking.

Her behaviour shifts. It takes several months, but it shifts. Parents approve. It's time to say our goodbyes. She watches the clock, but never ask "are we done?". She talks about her latest accomplishments, wants to show me pictures. I have to let her know "we are done now", yet she lingers. She comments on my height when I stand and the fact that I am wearing heels. "You're cheating." Curious. "Cheating? How so?" I slouch a little so we are the same height "Better?"...."Yes" and she hugs me suddenly. Lol. Takes me completely by surprise and I make it a rule not to hug, but I hug her back. I tell her I am proud of her and to come by to visit. "I can?!"...yeah of course.

Posted by Ellygant

Yo I’m about to smack a Virgo.

A girl I used to chat all things spirituality with st a past job, always hits me up when she’s struggling. Cool. I get it. That’s my vibe. This chick has known for over a year now I don’t do free readings. She’s been told for over a year now, politely and multiple times, I don’t do free readings. There is no friends and family discount, I have a website, order there.

Yet sure enough, even with my weekly insta reads and YouTube reads, which are my free services, she messages me saying how desperate she is for a reading and why.

I say cool. When you order one I could probably do you a favor and push it up in my schedule today and get it to you in a few hours. Made a supportive remark about her doing a full moon ritual. Chicka disappeared on my ass after passive aggressive whining retort.

Get the fuck out of my face with this shit. You come to me for help under the guise of mutual friendship, and expect me to expend skill and energy, on demand, for free for you. Smh. Nahhhh. You ain’t fam virgal. Let this full moon wash over you in all it’s intensity. Two other acquaintance Virgo women do this too frequently. Always acting nice for free shit like they’re high class grifters. Bless off.

*annoyed*

Sidenote: totally not directed at all Virgos cause I know the always generous and thoughtful Jules and Andalusia pop in here every so often. High vibe and gracious babes such as them don’t belong in the same category as these. Im just venting lol.

Such sweet words, thank you @Ellygant!

You know us givers attract the takers, we weed those bitches out to keep our gardens pristine ❤️

*checking in*

Virgos....so shy at first and second....and third, but when you finally open up...

I feel unproductive----or productively disorganized, if that is a thing. I came home prepared to get a fair amount done and did 10% of what I needed to do...okay 12.5% if I include finishing the gift I made for a colleague.

Someone hold my Mars card for me. I'm not living up to it.

Someone deleted....

All I know is, The Lady Scorpio needs to give us at least 5 months advance notice if she plans to delete and take this thread with her. We need time to backup, archive and duplicate if necessary, the gems in here.

Posted by elllle

The Cap has had a sinus thing the past few days....so, he's been cuddly. I am so glad we both have an air venus though..

*we are both on opposite ends of the sitting room concentrating on work stuff*

Cap - Do you want a hug?

Me - What?

Cap - Do you want a hug?

Me - No.

Cap - Okay. *goes back to doing what he is doing*

lol

Lol, Are you sure you don't have a Gem Moon?

Posted by elllle

Cap - I'm going to go take a ride for some air

Me - okay

*15 minutes later he walks in with something hidden under his coat*

Me - You got ice cream

Cap - Nope *giggles*

Me - I am sure you got ice cream

Cap - *pulls out a bag of mini york peppermint patties*

Me - what the hell?

Cap - Your favourite.

Me - Yesss!!!! Want one?

Cap - No, I have ice cream.

LMAO

lol....awe...I think someone is going to miss me while I'm in Prague ❤

*like a lot*

Lol, so someone asked me yesterday why I don't like to hug. I'm not sure why, but my immediate response was defensive (unconsciously) "well if I don't know you like that, then why would I hug you?!"....."um, I'm talking about family and friends. I think you know us like that. I literally feel your body tense when I hug you."...."you smell" 😐 LOL. Deflection Queen.

Eh, I don't know I think it's more part culture and experience, than it is astro specs, but I'm sure it also plays a role. We just didn't hug as a family. Even when I meet up with my sister now we air nod and just get into it. I will hug my niece so she doesn't grow up like we did, especially since she is they shyest Leo I've ever met.

It wasn't until I hit grade 7 that everyone was about the hugging and it felt fake to me. Sort of like those air smooches *muah muah*. However, when I really care for someone hugs are great. It's not to say I don't care for my friends/family, but if I hug them its more because I sense they need it. I don't. Hugs give me joy because they give you joy or they seem to say what words can't. However I will rarely, if ever seek a hug out from someone else.

Scorps, (and perhaps lurkers too) as much as you feel you can handle almost anything that is thrown at you, how do you handle when someone that is suppose to be working with you says they don't believe in you?

Not a rhetorical question.

Thank you very much everyone.

My initial reaction was to:



It's odd because when I have had people doubt my ability to be successful as an individual, I haven't let that phase me. I know what I am capable of and have never questioned my ability to succeed when I am the person that is solely responsible for the outcome. When I dropped out of high school at 16 I had a guidance counsellor tell me I was going to become a statistic (e.g. young black pregnant, blah blah etc) I laughed at her and ask for my paperwork so I could bounce. When I left home a few weeks later, same thing, "I wouldn't amount to much" etc, I dropped the key and never looked back. Two degrees later, paid my way through school with scholarships and a part time job, a home that I bought on my own, a career I love (most days), I had no doubt I would have all of this because I saw it for myself. However, when the successful outcome relies on working with someone else, and many of the issues we are having is now becoming more clear (e.g. they do not trust my abilities, therefore are not following my recommendations), it's hit me in a different way.

I should know better. I know my client's parents are basically dumping their frustrations and feelings of inadequacies on me. It just bothers me a little----f*ck that a lot. I work very hard for and with my clients. My ability to reach kids that very few people can't engage or get to open up is something I am very proud of and someone's inability to get out of their own way to make the changes that are necessary only makes that harder. 90% of the issues that my clients have are because of the adults around them---usually their parents.

I'll be d*mn if I'll react by saying "well just GTFO then", because my client suffers. However, if the person that doesn't believe in me is the gatekeeper of me being able to do the work I need to do to help, I feel torn. I am sure I will make peace with it, whatever is decided. If we should part ways or they continue to work with me. I just don't want it to effect my work if we continue to work together. I am not going to jump through hoops to convince you I have everyone's best interest at heart and what I am telling you to do is coming from not just skills and training, but a genuine place of caring. I don't need to prove anything to you and I am simply not built that way.

vent/

PS Who the hell was that clown going in on Elle?

Today is not the day.

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Posted by PhoenixRising

Scorps, (and perhaps lurkers too) as much as you feel you can handle almost anything that is thrown at you, how do you handle when someone that is suppose to be working with you says they don't believe in you?

Not a rhetorical question.

detach, disseminate... figure if they've got grounds to not believe in me.

If they do is it based on the pattern they've seen or is it really something in me tht's lacking?

If something in me then dissect what can I realistically do about it,

Then figure how much time would it take to do

Meanwhile fuck them, they're gone, emotionally no longer holding weight

But I would still be civil

And bide my time until I could be succesful and prove them wrong.

Not necessarily TO prove them wrong... I'd put my eyes right back in my own lane, focus on my own stroke, speed and perserverance, which they are not a part of, and so they don't matter.

Until maybe I see them again behind me. Then maybe indulge in a private little joy

I am a professional loner and not accustomed to having any support group so taking a higher seat of understanding is a main defense..

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Posted by tiziani

"People have more important things to do in everyday life than to try to form deeply and fully informed opinions of the events they are not direct participants, sometimes even the events they actually are direct participants.

Thus the groupthink helps to not feel lost in the whole wide world, which is actually humongous because it gives the sense of knowing what is going on.

And groupthink is formed from the majority of presumptions existing in some group, as they give the highest level of certainty that we know what is going own and thus the highest level of feeling of safety."

*like*

Posted by elllle

Posted by PhoenixRising

Scorps, (and perhaps lurkers too) as much as you feel you can handle almost anything that is thrown at you, how do you handle when someone that is suppose to be working with you says they don't believe in you?

Not a rhetorical question.

That would take some balls to say.

It would depend on relativeness to me.

Coworker? Boss? Subordinate?

Each situation is different.

Coworker....I would hear them but not care. I'm not being paid for them to believe in me. With coworkers...there could be underlying shit on their end that they need to sort out and they are projecting on you. Not believing in you = not believing in themselves.

Boss....they need to explain why. I would feel deflated. Unless they are toxic, then I simply dont give a shit because I know they are a temporary obstacle.

Subordinate....fired....lol...just kidding. I would open up a line of communication to understand why they have that perception of me.

Posted by elllle

I had a capricorn subordinate a few years back who thought I was a joke and wasnt afraid to tell everyone that except me.

I gave the guy a ton of opportunity to prove himself....even though I knew he thought I was a joke....he had company paid classes and training, upped his buying power and authority....

As a manager, I wanted my people to be developed to be better than me so I handed over the opportunity and sat back and watched....

He completely single handedly destroyed himself.

When I thought maybe he had enough....I sent him on a week's vacation.....when he came back, I fired him.

*shrugs*

People need to worry about believing in themselves.

Nobody needs to believe in me.

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*double like*

Posted by PhoenixRising

Scorps, (and perhaps lurkers too) as much as you feel you can handle almost anything that is thrown at you, how do you handle when someone that is suppose to be working with you says they don't believe in you?

Not a rhetorical question.

nvm

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by PhoenixRising

Scorps, (and perhaps lurkers too) as much as you feel you can handle almost anything that is thrown at you, how do you handle when someone that is suppose to be working with you says they don't believe in you?

Not a rhetorical question.

nvm

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Yes, they did.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Thank you very much everyone.

My initial reaction was to:



It's odd because when I have had people doubt my ability to be successful as an individual, I haven't let that phase me. I know what I am capable of and have never questioned my ability to succeed when I am the person that is solely responsible for the outcome. When I dropped out of high school at 16 I had a guidance counsellor tell me I was going to become a statistic (e.g. young black pregnant, blah blah etc) I laughed at her and ask for my paperwork so I could bounce. When I left home a few weeks later, same thing, "I wouldn't amount to much" etc, I dropped the key and never looked back. Two degrees later, paid my way through school with scholarships and a part time job, a home that I bought on my own, a career I love (most days), I had no doubt I would have all of this because I saw it for myself. However, when the successful outcome relies on working with someone else, and many of the issues we are having is now becoming more clear (e.g. they do not trust my abilities, therefore are not following my recommendations), it's hit me in a different way.

I should know better. I know my client's parents are basically dumping their frustrations and feelings of inadequacies on me. It just bothers me a little----f*ck that a lot. I work very hard for and with my clients. My ability to reach kids that very few people can't engage or get to open up is something I am very proud of and someone's inability to get out of their own way to make the changes that are necessary only makes that harder. 90% of the issues that my clients have are because of the adults around them---usually their parents.

I'll be d*mn if I'll react by saying "well just GTFO then", because my client suffers. However, if the person that doesn't believe in me is the gatekeeper of me being able to do the work I need to do to help, I feel torn. I am sure I will make peace with it, whatever is decided. If we should part ways or they continue to work with me. I just don't want it to effect my work if we continue to work together. I am not going to jump through hoops to convince you I have everyone's best interest at heart and what I am telling you to do is coming from not just skills and training, but a genuine place of caring. I don't need to prove anything to you and I am simply not built that way.

vent/

For the sake of the children.. Holding your tongue may be the best course of action. Just vent here.

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by PhoenixRising

Thank you very much everyone.

My initial reaction was to:



It's odd because when I have had people doubt my ability to be successful as an individual, I haven't let that phase me. I know what I am capable of and have never questioned my ability to succeed when I am the person that is solely responsible for the outcome. When I dropped out of high school at 16 I had a guidance counsellor tell me I was going to become a statistic (e.g. young black pregnant, blah blah etc) I laughed at her and ask for my paperwork so I could bounce. When I left home a few weeks later, same thing, "I wouldn't amount to much" etc, I dropped the key and never looked back. Two degrees later, paid my way through school with scholarships and a part time job, a home that I bought on my own, a career I love (most days), I had no doubt I would have all of this because I saw it for myself. However, when the successful outcome relies on working with someone else, and many of the issues we are having is now becoming more clear (e.g. they do not trust my abilities, therefore are not following my recommendations), it's hit me in a different way.

I should know better. I know my client's parents are basically dumping their frustrations and feelings of inadequacies on me. It just bothers me a little----f*ck that a lot. I work very hard for and with my clients. My ability to reach kids that very few people can't engage or get to open up is something I am very proud of and someone's inability to get out of their own way to make the changes that are necessary only makes that harder. 90% of the issues that my clients have are because of the adults around them---usually their parents.

I'll be d*mn if I'll react by saying "well just GTFO then", because my client suffers. However, if the person that doesn't believe in me is the gatekeeper of me being able to do the work I need to do to help, I feel torn. I am sure I will make peace with it, whatever is decided. If we should part ways or they continue to work with me. I just don't want it to effect my work if we continue to work together. I am not going to jump through hoops to convince you I have everyone's best interest at heart and what I am telling you to do is coming from not just skills and training, but a genuine place of caring. I don't need to prove anything to you and I am simply not built that way.

vent/

For the sake of the children.. Holding your tongue may be the best course of action. Just vent here.

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I always keep it professional. I won't hesitate to straighten someone out, so they stay in their lane---but I'll do so in a professional way. I told them the ball is in their court at this point. I'm not going to own If we proceed or not.

Posted by Ellygant

Posted by PhoenixRising

Scorps, (and perhaps lurkers too) as much as you feel you can handle almost anything that is thrown at you, how do you handle when someone that is suppose to be working with you says they don't believe in you?

Not a rhetorical question.

You seemed to have a lot of good answers and ironed most of the vent out.

But I do empathize. Work is something I’ve always been naturally good at. And the few times I wasn’t, it was a matter of 3-6 months till I was the best at the job. So the rare times people belittle one doubt that it crushes me.

It also makes me work ten times harder. And I so far in my life have always come out far exceeding the doubters expectation.

You work is much more delicate. It’s not really easy, to hear from someone that they know how to handle your child. If they’re insecure it doesn’t matter what you say or do, some people think that their parental bond knows best. Sometimes it does. Other times it doesn’t. And that’s exceptionally hard to traverse.

Keep at it though. You already know. You said yourself that’s why you don’t turn away the client even though you want to so badly. That alone marks you as a phenomenal human, far surpassing the maximum of your job requirements.

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Thank you.

Who knew Scorpio women could be such disgusting human beings

I fell for a fellow stinger and lost my damn mind. All I've managed to do is fail and pretty sure we will never be friends again. Lost my damn way, my cool reason and rationality so of course I lost him. Fingers crossed I find a new crush and obsession soon to take my mind but not sure I can. Had one on him over a decade ago and moving back into the same state seemed to bring it back and then some. Our past childhood trauma tho has resulted in vastly different life style s and reactions to love so I never stood a chance. Officially time to throw in the damn towel and get my damn mind back

Posted by alexscaries

How do scorpio people handle feedback at work etc?

Positive or negative?

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by alexscaries

How do scorpio people handle feedback at work etc?

Positive or negative?

The issue I have is someone new was praised who does less work and I was criticised for what was minor offences.

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That's not right

Can you go to the boss and calmly tell them how you feel Alex? I've done this a few times in the past. I confronted two laywers I worked for who weren't treating the female staff well. I pointed out that their behaviour was counterproductive because the staff would end up doing less work. They went very quiet but listened and acted on it. I also asked them if they wanted people to be happy or not

Some people are just plain stupid....

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by alexscaries

How do scorpio people handle feedback at work etc?

Positive or negative?

The issue I have is someone new was praised who does less work and I was criticised for what was minor offences.

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Don't let your ego create a problem that doesn't exist.

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by alexscaries

How do scorpio people handle feedback at work etc?

Positive or negative?

The issue I have is someone new was praised who does less work and I was criticised for what was minor offences.

That's not right

Can you go to the boss and calmly tell them how you feel Alex? I've done this a few times in the past. I confronted two laywers I worked for who weren't treating the female staff well. I pointed out that their behaviour was counterproductive because the staff would end up doing less work. They went very quiet but listened and acted on it. I also asked them if they wanted people to be happy or not

Some people are just plain stupid....

I see my manager on Friday. I'll see what he has to say.

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Good luck

Much better to speak out than feel as though you've been treated unfairly

Convo with The Scorp last weekend-

Me-I need to do blah, blah, blah cause you know I don't do things half assed. (Virgo thinking out loud.)

Scorp- So if you get shot I'll put a second bullet in you to make sure you're dead.



He kills me...figuratively.

I'm happy to see this thread is still alive and kicking...or is that stinging?

Posted by MysteriousDreamer

Why am I such magnet for Gemini’s? 😭

Glutton for punishment?

Posted by Unwording

Posted by Ellygant

Posted by Unwording

Self-proclaimed "good" people are truly the worst.



That's all I've got for now.

Former Taurus roommate, who was intensely abusive for the last few months we lived together, had an interesting reply to our one fight.

I simply said, ‘I don’t get the impression you care how you speak to me. To keep it from getting personal anymore, I will just pay bills, honor our lease and we will have no need to have any further communication in the same house.’

That bitch freaks out on me saying over and over again. ‘I’m a good person. I’m a good person. How dare you. I will not live in the same house as someone who hates me. I’m a good person!!’

😆

I said ‘ok. Never said you weren’t. But we don’t have to live together either. I will find other arrangements. Thanks.’

Then she all of the sudden was full of apologies and admittance to wrong doing. Lololol. She probably thought I was calling her bluff. Truthfully I just didn’t give a shit anymore one way or the other. I’ll never forget her face trembling and shaking with part anger, part fear almost saying she was a good person over and over again. Like I don’t think you’re trying to convince me sweetie.

Funny cause I moved out a few months later for completely different reasons too.

But yeah, self proclaimed good people tend to be extremely frail and deceitful ime.

Oh boy.

Either put it away, or take it outside.

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I don't mind peeing outside.

Man oh man, why does life always prove me right for thinking that when things are going smoothly the shit is about to hit the MotherFucking Fan? Coming off spending 11 vacation days with The Scorp. It was great, we enjoyed each other's company. Not once did I feel like ooh I need to get away from him for awhile because I feel trapped, which is unusual for me. We talked to real estate agents, making progress on planning a move to Florida. A break from a stressful job. Time at the beach. Bliss.

Last night he got the bomb dropped on him that his daughter is pregnant. By a guy she isn't dating. And she is 3+months along and wants to keep it. With a part-time job doing spray tans. His child support for her is ending in 2 months. He's freaking out. I'm freaking out worried about his health. I know he needs time to absorb this. I will be there for him. But I'm feeling like the universe doesn't want me to be content and happy. Ever. Bring on the next wave. Hopefully I'm not too tired to tread water, yet again.

Posted by IMightBeElle

I would like to hand someone my bucket of problems and they come back with a step by step project plan on how to fix them.

Step 1:

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Posted by _Dazed

Posted by IMightBeElle

I would like to hand someone my bucket of problems and they come back with a step by step project plan on how to fix them.

Step 1:

I don't drink anymore 😭

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Better off without it......it's a depressant

T. I. P.

It sucks so much to be so close to someone and then seeing them become a stranger again

How are you Scorpios ?

Tiz if you don’t mind me asking why do you hide your messages? You can tell me it’s none of my business

I really dislike one sided friends.

Fuck everybody and their mom today



I just needed to say this semi out loud but of course in the guise of an internet persona

How do y’all feel about unrequited love?

Posted by MrsElleCappysnatch

My Aries client came into my office today and shut the door.....so serious....

Aries - I heard you like working with me

Me - I do

Aries - That's all you got? You *like* working with me?!

Me - *confused* Well, yes?

Aries - You come in here like you are the second coming. You practically walk on water and I tell everyone you are a fricken deity......and you *like* working with me?!

Me - Yes?



I fricken love Aries!!!!! 🤣😂🤣❤

Priceless

😂😂😂

*checking in*

where are the rest of our scorpihos?!

phoenix

fox

elly

ladyscorpio

lib

taniwha

impulsv

mysterious

the funny babe with the sag moon??

quietstorm —??

skykomish?

damnata?

firebird?

stihl?

infinite?

scorpiopics?

dapperdon?

reincarnation?

hare?

articlel?

😛

i summon y'all 😱

Posted by exoskeleton_

where are the rest of our scorpihos?!

hare?

i summon y'all 😱

@Chimichanga

ey! 🙂