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Posted by NelsonScorp
Simply not worth
Hey! welcome back 🙂
Posted by Jules-ll
Thanks for the response Elly. I feel like you, the exes don't deserve my time or attention. He's in contact and sees his ex wife, don't know how often or the nature of the convos. I told him that he's doing her a disservice because he left her, and by keeping the lines of communication open she'll never move on. He uses his grown children as the reason for having contact with her saying they have things to discuss, I'm calling bs on this. Lines need to be drawn or I'll end up walking away...
Nevermind.
You've already answered Elly.
The only thing I will say is, keeping an ex in your life is not necessarily "dwelling in the past". It can be an acceptance of what is and creating something new that should have been instead. I guess it's a good thing Scorp are very different in their response.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Jules-ll
Hello Scorps!
Question-How important are your exes in your life, specifically the long-term relationships and marriages.
They aren't. We are all busy living our best lives with other people.Posted by Jules-ll
Do you keep in contact with them?
Only time I've kept in contact with an ex was because 1) they were better suited for friendship than a relationship, so the "relationship" didn't last long 2) they were good people to have around 3) the separation was a respectful process.Posted by Jules-ll
Do they hold a valuable place in your heart? Or are they left in the past where they belong?
If we are referring to the two people I just mentioned, than yes. Always. We have respectable boundaries in place. My partner is aware of who they are. I don't hide my interactions or convos.
We tend to talk on the phone more so than, hang out, but may do something together if my partner isn't interested in what it is I want to do.Posted by Jules-ll
Having eyebrow-raised situation with The Scorp, need some guidance on whether or not I need to kick his ass...
Lol. Kick his a** anyway. It's good foreplay!
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The not hiding from current relationships is key, that's all I've asked of him. And I went off on him on Sunday morning, and then felt terribly because he got a phone call that his oldest brother had passed away shortly afterwards so that definitely ruined any chance of foreplay. Although after the funeral might be fun...
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Jules-ll
Thanks for the response Elly. I feel like you, the exes don't deserve my time or attention. He's in contact and sees his ex wife, don't know how often or the nature of the convos. I told him that he's doing her a disservice because he left her, and by keeping the lines of communication open she'll never move on. He uses his grown children as the reason for having contact with her saying they have things to discuss, I'm calling bs on this. Lines need to be drawn or I'll end up walking away...
Nevermind.
You've already answered Elly.
The only thing I will say is, keeping an ex in your life is not necessarily "dwelling in the past". It can be an acceptance of what is and creating something new that should have been instead. I guess it's a good thing Scorp are very different in their response.
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This is a great point PR. Instead of looking at it like he had something with her we won't have (youthful marriage, children), he has things with me that he didn't with her such as a career minded woman that enjoys cooking. My black and white thinking gets in my way sometimes, have to keep her at bay...
As for your question about how the ultimatum went, I would never. Don't like them given to me and I don't give either. People should do things by choice not pressure.
Posted by Jules-llPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Jules-ll
Thanks for the response Elly. I feel like you, the exes don't deserve my time or attention. He's in contact and sees his ex wife, don't know how often or the nature of the convos. I told him that he's doing her a disservice because he left her, and by keeping the lines of communication open she'll never move on. He uses his grown children as the reason for having contact with her saying they have things to discuss, I'm calling bs on this. Lines need to be drawn or I'll end up walking away...
Nevermind.
You've already answered Elly.
The only thing I will say is, keeping an ex in your life is not necessarily "dwelling in the past". It can be an acceptance of what is and creating something new that should have been instead. I guess it's a good thing Scorp are very different in their response.
This is a great point PR. Instead of looking at it like he had something with her we won't have (youthful marriage, children), he has things with me that he didn't with her such as a career minded woman that enjoys cooking. My black and white thinking gets in my way sometimes, have to keep her at bay...
As for your question about how the ultimatum went, I would never. Don't like them given to me and I don't give either. People should do things by choice not pressure.click to expand
Well, I have my Merc in Scorp, so we tend to see....between the lines. Before your reply to Elly I was guessing there was some unease on your part related to questioning his intentions. Your unease however has absolutely nothing to do with your Scorp's intentions or even on his radar as it pertains to her (unless he has behaved in a way to question his intentions). I am working on not going where others don't want to go, so I left all of that alone lol.
I'm glad to hear about the ultimatum. Virgos aren't really known for that anyway and it doesn't tend to work out for those giving it to a Scorp. At least it never has with me.
Posted by Jules-llPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Jules-ll
Hello Scorps!
Question-How important are your exes in your life, specifically the long-term relationships and marriages.
They aren't. We are all busy living our best lives with other people.Posted by Jules-ll
Do you keep in contact with them?
Only time I've kept in contact with an ex was because 1) they were better suited for friendship than a relationship, so the "relationship" didn't last long 2) they were good people to have around 3) the separation was a respectful process.Posted by Jules-ll
Do they hold a valuable place in your heart? Or are they left in the past where they belong?
If we are referring to the two people I just mentioned, than yes. Always. We have respectable boundaries in place. My partner is aware of who they are. I don't hide my interactions or convos.
We tend to talk on the phone more so than, hang out, but may do something together if my partner isn't interested in what it is I want to do.Posted by Jules-ll
Having eyebrow-raised situation with The Scorp, need some guidance on whether or not I need to kick his ass...
Lol. Kick his a** anyway. It's good foreplay!
The not hiding from current relationships is key, that's all I've asked of him. And I went off on him on Sunday morning, and then felt terribly because he got a phone call that his oldest brother had passed away shortly afterwards so that definitely ruined any chance of foreplay. Although after the funeral might be fun...click to expand
If you haven't already, instead of going off (in the future) or telling him what you want him to do, try telling him how hiding things makes you feel (the doubt/concern it creates for you) and the type of communication you would like to develop and maintain with him. Let that marinate for a bit and he will make peace with what needs to be done to create that for the two of you.
The desire to change his approach regarding this dynamic with the ex needs to come from him. Scorps tend to be stubborn that way lol.
I feel everyone has written things I need a cup a tea and more than 5 minutes to be able to read and take it in. I'll be back!
...In a week or so lol.
...In a week or so lol.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Jules-llPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Jules-ll
Thanks for the response Elly. I feel like you, the exes don't deserve my time or attention. He's in contact and sees his ex wife, don't know how often or the nature of the convos. I told him that he's doing her a disservice because he left her, and by keeping the lines of communication open she'll never move on. He uses his grown children as the reason for having contact with her saying they have things to discuss, I'm calling bs on this. Lines need to be drawn or I'll end up walking away...
Nevermind.
You've already answered Elly.
The only thing I will say is, keeping an ex in your life is not necessarily "dwelling in the past". It can be an acceptance of what is and creating something new that should have been instead. I guess it's a good thing Scorp are very different in their response.
This is a great point PR. Instead of looking at it like he had something with her we won't have (youthful marriage, children), he has things with me that he didn't with her such as a career minded woman that enjoys cooking. My black and white thinking gets in my way sometimes, have to keep her at bay...
As for your question about how the ultimatum went, I would never. Don't like them given to me and I don't give either. People should do things by choice not pressure.
Well, I have my Merc in Scorp, so we tend to see....between the lines. Before your reply to Elly I was guessing there was some unease on your part related to questioning his intentions. Your unease however has absolutely nothing to do with your Scorp's intentions or even on his radar as it pertains to her (unless he has behaved in a way to question his intentions). I am working on not going where others don't want to go, so I left all of that alone lol.
I'm glad to hear about the ultimatum. Virgos aren't really known for that anyway and it doesn't tend to work out for those giving it to a Scorp. At least it never has with me.click to expand
Bingo, it's her intentions that are waving big, bold red flags in my face. She has not moved on, went from daddy taking care of her to hubby taking care of her. Leaving her with no life skills or ambition, and that type of woman scares me due to their neediness.
My feelings were made clear to him regarding the situation, I put him first and deserve the same or similar treatment. Younger me wouldn't have been able to verbalize this, glad I've finally learned to communicate my needs. You had asked me about this in another thread...
His mercury is also in scorp, I love his perspective on things!
Posted by EllygantPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Jules-llPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Jules-ll
Hello Scorps!
Question-How important are your exes in your life, specifically the long-term relationships and marriages.
They aren't. We are all busy living our best lives with other people.Posted by Jules-ll
Do you keep in contact with them?
Only time I've kept in contact with an ex was because 1) they were better suited for friendship than a relationship, so the "relationship" didn't last long 2) they were good people to have around 3) the separation was a respectful process.Posted by Jules-ll
Do they hold a valuable place in your heart? Or are they left in the past where they belong?
If we are referring to the two people I just mentioned, than yes. Always. We have respectable boundaries in place. My partner is aware of who they are. I don't hide my interactions or convos.
We tend to talk on the phone more so than, hang out, but may do something together if my partner isn't interested in what it is I want to do.Posted by Jules-ll
Having eyebrow-raised situation with The Scorp, need some guidance on whether or not I need to kick his ass...
Lol. Kick his a** anyway. It's good foreplay!
The not hiding from current relationships is key, that's all I've asked of him. And I went off on him on Sunday morning, and then felt terribly because he got a phone call that his oldest brother had passed away shortly afterwards so that definitely ruined any chance of foreplay. Although after the funeral might be fun...
If you haven't already, instead of going off (in the future) or telling him what you want him to do, try telling him how hiding things makes you feel (the doubt/concern it creates for you) and the type of communication you would like to develop and maintain with him. Let that marinate for a bit and he will make peace with what needs to be done to create that for the two of you.
The desire to change his approach regarding this dynamic with the ex needs to come from him. Scorps tend to be stubborn that way lol.
Talking to a Scorp about how actions make you feel is always a good go to. At the end of the day, we are water signs lol.click to expand
Even though I'm a virgal, I'm water dominant so that's exactly how I approached the situation. When you _______ it makes me feel _________. Not into "you never ______" or "why don't you ever _____" accusatory type of comments. And later that day he told his ex wife about me, so he didn't have to marinate long at all lol.
Thanks ladies, appreciate your insights!
Posted by Jules-llPosted by EllygantPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Jules-llPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Jules-ll
Hello Scorps!
Question-How important are your exes in your life, specifically the long-term relationships and marriages.
They aren't. We are all busy living our best lives with other people.Posted by Jules-ll
Do you keep in contact with them?
Only time I've kept in contact with an ex was because 1) they were better suited for friendship than a relationship, so the "relationship" didn't last long 2) they were good people to have around 3) the separation was a respectful process.Posted by Jules-ll
Do they hold a valuable place in your heart? Or are they left in the past where they belong?
If we are referring to the two people I just mentioned, than yes. Always. We have respectable boundaries in place. My partner is aware of who they are. I don't hide my interactions or convos.
We tend to talk on the phone more so than, hang out, but may do something together if my partner isn't interested in what it is I want to do.Posted by Jules-ll
Having eyebrow-raised situation with The Scorp, need some guidance on whether or not I need to kick his ass...
Lol. Kick his a** anyway. It's good foreplay!
The not hiding from current relationships is key, that's all I've asked of him. And I went off on him on Sunday morning, and then felt terribly because he got a phone call that his oldest brother had passed away shortly afterwards so that definitely ruined any chance of foreplay. Although after the funeral might be fun...
If you haven't already, instead of going off (in the future) or telling him what you want him to do, try telling him how hiding things makes you feel (the doubt/concern it creates for you) and the type of communication you would like to develop and maintain with him. Let that marinate for a bit and he will make peace with what needs to be done to create that for the two of you.
The desire to change his approach regarding this dynamic with the ex needs to come from him. Scorps tend to be stubborn that way lol.
Talking to a Scorp about how actions make you feel is always a good go to. At the end of the day, we are water signs lol.
Even though I'm a virgal, I'm water dominant so that's exactly how I approached the situation. When you _______ it makes me feel _________. Not into "you never ______" or "why don't you ever _____" accusatory type of comments. And later that day he told his ex wife about me, so he didn't have to marinate long at all lol.
Thanks ladies, appreciate your insights!click to expand
I think you have a keeper then.
But still kick his a** lol.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Jules-llPosted by EllygantPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Jules-llPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Jules-ll
Hello Scorps!
Question-How important are your exes in your life, specifically the long-term relationships and marriages.
They aren't. We are all busy living our best lives with other people.Posted by Jules-ll
Do you keep in contact with them?
Only time I've kept in contact with an ex was because 1) they were better suited for friendship than a relationship, so the "relationship" didn't last long 2) they were good people to have around 3) the separation was a respectful process.Posted by Jules-ll
Do they hold a valuable place in your heart? Or are they left in the past where they belong?
If we are referring to the two people I just mentioned, than yes. Always. We have respectable boundaries in place. My partner is aware of who they are. I don't hide my interactions or convos.
We tend to talk on the phone more so than, hang out, but may do something together if my partner isn't interested in what it is I want to do.Posted by Jules-ll
Having eyebrow-raised situation with The Scorp, need some guidance on whether or not I need to kick his ass...
Lol. Kick his a** anyway. It's good foreplay!
The not hiding from current relationships is key, that's all I've asked of him. And I went off on him on Sunday morning, and then felt terribly because he got a phone call that his oldest brother had passed away shortly afterwards so that definitely ruined any chance of foreplay. Although after the funeral might be fun...
If you haven't already, instead of going off (in the future) or telling him what you want him to do, try telling him how hiding things makes you feel (the doubt/concern it creates for you) and the type of communication you would like to develop and maintain with him. Let that marinate for a bit and he will make peace with what needs to be done to create that for the two of you.
The desire to change his approach regarding this dynamic with the ex needs to come from him. Scorps tend to be stubborn that way lol.
Talking to a Scorp about how actions make you feel is always a good go to. At the end of the day, we are water signs lol.
Even though I'm a virgal, I'm water dominant so that's exactly how I approached the situation. When you _______ it makes me feel _________. Not into "you never ______" or "why don't you ever _____" accusatory type of comments. And later that day he told his ex wife about me, so he didn't have to marinate long at all lol.
Thanks ladies, appreciate your insights!
I think you have a keeper then.
But still kick his a** lol.click to expand
He definitely is... Totally, he likes it that way 😄
On my worst days, I wish for them, that they succeed in their dreams but are still left unhappy and unfulfilled. Wondering where they went wrong. Wondering what's wrong with them and filled with selfdoubt.
This is our 5th potluck in 2 months. If I wanted to labour over a stove and cook for a bunch of strangers every god d*mn minute I would have become a chef.
I hope someone brought chocolate cake...
/PMS rant.
I hope someone brought chocolate cake...
/PMS rant.
Posted by EllygantPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Ellygant
I am not going to try to date anymore....
You're gonna notice they flock to you like bees on honey.
Something about a woman just loving and living her life confidently that is very sexy.
I believed you fully when you said this but I did not expect it to progress this quickly lol. I feel crowded with attention and it is distracting.
I’m about to ignore a few. And I’m considering holding out dating even the two i might like at least till the new restaurant I’m helping open is up and running.
Fuck almighty.click to expand
I'll pray for your moon.
Posted by elllle
I am in a meeting with a bunch of people and my Gemini work partner in crime....
*total silence for about 30 seconds*
Me - Are we done here? I have things to do.
Gemini - Yes, we can be done....you know we live to serve you.
Virgo - *Virgo manager leans over and whispers* Was she being serious?
Me - *straight face - whispers back* Yes, you just dont know me well enough yet.
LMAO @ his face!!!! 😂🤣😂🤣
LOL!
This is the fourth "you're sh*t out of luck, because we don't plan on helping you" email/convo I've sent in the last month. I'm not sure when this became a part of my job description.
I'm wondering if they found out I have an air moon.
I'm wondering if they found out I have an air moon.
Posted by Black-Mamba
I keep ignoring a Scorpio, it's not that I want to be mean, but I'm not interested in him. He just doesn't look as amazing as I want him to look. I'm superficial
I feel bad, how do you think he's taking it?
He'll keep trying. They always do when it doesn't come easy!
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88Posted by Black-Mamba
I keep ignoring a Scorpio, it's not that I want to be mean, but I'm not interested in him. He just doesn't look as amazing as I want him to look. I'm superficial
I feel bad, how do you think he's taking it?
He'll keep trying. They always do when it doesn't come easy!
Its interesting how that works, I see him wanting my attention the more I ignore, but the LEO is the one I want and I notice i am more "desperate" for his attention mentally
it drives me mad when I don't get it.
I am the Scorpio in this situation
Mentally i know this is what happens when a person is not into you, it's very easy to just not seek their presence
but emotionally hard to acceptclick to expand
Yeah, this why I usually just ignore them all and try not to reach out. I know I have a chill personality, and nice and not a "typical" female, men will come back around usually. If I don't like them anymore they end up getting friend zoned and forever chase.
If you think about how you treat the ones you don't care about and try to keep that same energy with the ones you do care about, maybe it can work. It's just a waiting game 😢
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88Posted by Black-MambaPosted by saggurl88Posted by Black-Mamba
I keep ignoring a Scorpio, it's not that I want to be mean, but I'm not interested in him. He just doesn't look as amazing as I want him to look. I'm superficial
I feel bad, how do you think he's taking it?
He'll keep trying. They always do when it doesn't come easy!
Its interesting how that works, I see him wanting my attention the more I ignore, but the LEO is the one I want and I notice i am more "desperate" for his attention mentally
it drives me mad when I don't get it.
I am the Scorpio in this situation
Mentally i know this is what happens when a person is not into you, it's very easy to just not seek their presence
but emotionally hard to accept
Yeah, this why I usually just ignore them all and try not to reach out. I know I have a chill personality, and nice and not a "typical" female, men will come back around usually. If I don't like them anymore they end up getting friend zoned and forever chase.
If you think about how you treat the ones you don't care about and try to keep that same energy with the ones you do care about, maybe it can work. It's just a waiting game 😢
i know but i don't have the patience to wait, im not 13 years old, im a grown woman.
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Well that’s why you date and hope to find something better.
"Let your life be in the sunshine, not the darkness of your sorrow." ~Aretha Franklin
So, now that we have a storm and everything is closed I can finally catch up *get tea ready*...
Posted by Ellygant
My heart is a well
Where so many have had a drink
Draining me
Of my own sincerity.
A cynic they try to make of me
But all it takes
To tap the vein
Is a pinch of hidden treasures from the past.
Seen.
This section resonates with me on many levels. *tilts tea cup in appreciation*
Posted by Ellygant
Sigh.
Elly’s stages of crushing in the past.
1: Glare at and observe with no reaction for 1-2 months.
2: After which, continuously put yourself in their path till the right time to break out the flirting hits.
3: Go Full magnetism mode, all information collected in step 1 nerves with escalating flirtations from step 2 and use the double hit to KO your victim.
Elly’s stages of crushing currently.
1. Glare quietly so a grown man is afraid to enter rooms you’re in and then when you quietly enter behind him, he turns around and sees you and jumps.
Wtf I’m becoming such a Scorpio cliche the older I get and I’m not even trying. 😂😂😂 and I don’t wanna be either!! Pretty sure my work crush thinks I detest him lol. Oh well. I’ll continue to stare at his face and try to decipher his Spanish accent for my own pleasure.
*like*
Posted by Ellygant
I had a lot of failed business opportunities in 2018. Some of it was my own fault for lack of organization, structure. Twice it was fake, dudes pretending to be interested in my work so they could weasel a way into my life to ask me out. Barf. The other two times was just possible deals that fell through, I never heard back from the folks as to why, but I’d wager it’s because I didn’t fit in some way.
Now I have another possible opportunity and I’m really hoping this goes a new way. The resort I just took a manager position with, one of the executives just found out I read cards and is super excited to have me read. Outside of the very wealthy family that owns the resort, he is the most influencial person in the community and is very sociable and well liked. Support for him could be a kickstart to new business flow.
However there’s also another astrologer in the community. She doesn’t have a fixed presence like a store or shop or office. But she does read for a few. I feel a little bad about working this connection. I keep having to tell myself each person’s work is their own. I’m so awkward when it comes to competitiveness though. I’ve never wanted success of it meant stepping on the backs of others. At the same time, I had enough blown or missed opportunities last year to know, I don’t want to blow anymore.
Well, given this is almost a month old I am gonna assume you made peace with how you have decided to proceed. I'll just add you can't take what has someone's name already written on it. In other words, if an opportunity has come your way---even those seemingly "belonging" to another, as long as you haven't gone about it through underhanded means, then it was your opportunity to have.
Your time to shine Elly!
Posted by MysteriousDreamerPosted by Ellygant
@MysteriousDreamer I hope you are well. Have thought of you before, the day of and since you’re surgery. ❤️
Awww thank you! I appreciate you thinking about me. ❤️ I am doing well. The first couple of days were rough, I won’t lie. Was in so much pain and nauseous....couldn’t keep anything down. Much better now though! Stopped taking my pain medicine a couple days ago. Never did like taking too much of that stuff. Thanks again for thinking of me! 😊click to expand
Hey, I hope your'e still doing okay 🙂
Posted by MysteriousDreamer
...I always wondered if our paths would ever cross again and I still hope that they do someday in the future. Maybe that’s silly. Ever since I found him on social media though, I have not been able to get him out of my mind. I did not contact him nor send him a friends request and I wouldn’t. I’m sure he’s long forgotten about me by now and even if he hadn’t...we were kids back and it’s not as if I ever showed any interest in him. Besides, from the girls I’ve seen with him in pictures, that I assume he was in relationships with.....I don’t measure up in the least and am far from his type. So I’ll just admire from afar as I always do. And if our paths ever cross again in the future then I’ll take it as a sign. If not then it was not meant to be.
OMG I hope someone gave you a hard spank on the behind and convinced you to message this guy already. You totally siked yourself out of messaging him by looking through his pictures and the girls in his pics. I say message him. You went through all the trouble of cyber stalking him "out of curiosity" 😉, why not go all the way?
Okay, well it wasn't quite a hard spank, but Elly did give you a playful pinch....
Posted by elllle
7. Teams whose makeup is 70% or more mutable....extend the contract by six months....you will never meet the initial date goal.
Lol.
Posted by Ellygant
I am learning, that the less I look at myself and my own life, hoping to push forward and find progress, the more I see others for who they are.
In seeing others, I find more of myself.
In Tarot, the first third of the major arcana is about ego/childhood. You build yourself up and create an identity. The middle third is about loss. You have to sacrifice that identity you worked so much for in order to find peace. The final third is about evolution. You blend the experiences from the first and second thirds and you realize that all along, you were both. You just don’t always need both for every phase in life.
Hmph. *like*
A Crab and a Sag walk into an Asylum.....
Well I'm happy to see my fellow lovelies are doing well.....🍹 Scorp Squad!
Posted by MysteriousDreamerPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by MysteriousDreamerPosted by Ellygant
@MysteriousDreamer I hope you are well. Have thought of you before, the day of and since you’re surgery. ❤️
Awww thank you! I appreciate you thinking about me. ❤️ I am doing well. The first couple of days were rough, I won’t lie. Was in so much pain and nauseous....couldn’t keep anything down. Much better now though! Stopped taking my pain medicine a couple days ago. Never did like taking too much of that stuff. Thanks again for thinking of me! 😊
Hey, I hope your'e still doing okay 🙂
I’m doing well! Thanks for asking! Yesterday was my first day back to work after almost 3 weeks off. I can say I did NOT want to go back in the least! Lol. How are you? 😊click to expand
Busy! I'm trying to do too much all at once. Installing floors, trying to launch my blog....doing some soul searching....somehow they all connect if you would believe it or not lol.
*sigh*.....My home currently looks like how my mind feels, disorganized, unfinished with pieces of wood, nails, paint cans in different corners...and I'm "beefing" with my neighbour and her dog. B*tch.
Happy Scorp Making Day!
Posted by Ellygant
One coffee meet in the Aqua really is doing well. I’m at a weird place, as I’ve never felt so ambivalent towards an actual romantic prospect before. It’s always a clear yes or no. Albeit I’d try to avoid the clear internal ‘no’ sometimes, ala the last month I dated the Virgo.
I’ve also never had this much opportunity on the line for work too though. The next year, next few months especially, could change everything for me in for the coming years of my career. And I know how much being sad over romance shit can seriously sabotage my work focus if it goes the tiniest bit left. So I’m aware I am hyper protective of my heart at the moment.
Crush is dead in the water too. A strong and weird connection for sure. But his relationship status is, unconfirmed and a bit suspect. So major distance on that front especially. Doubly so considering work.
Iz confused.
You are only going for drinks with a man that you're not sure you want or is single---but it's just drinks so why should it matter?
Go in this with you head in the game Elly. All this wavering and uncertainty of what you want before you've even started is what's gonna mess you up. Not your heart hon.
*this = your path/next chapter/the yellow brick road---whatever you want to call it.
Posted by MysteriousDreamerPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by MysteriousDreamerPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by MysteriousDreamerPosted by Ellygant
@MysteriousDreamer I hope you are well. Have thought of you before, the day of and since you’re surgery. ❤️
Awww thank you! I appreciate you thinking about me. ❤️ I am doing well. The first couple of days were rough, I won’t lie. Was in so much pain and nauseous....couldn’t keep anything down. Much better now though! Stopped taking my pain medicine a couple days ago. Never did like taking too much of that stuff. Thanks again for thinking of me! 😊
Hey, I hope your'e still doing okay 🙂
I’m doing well! Thanks for asking! Yesterday was my first day back to work after almost 3 weeks off. I can say I did NOT want to go back in the least! Lol. How are you? 😊
Busy! I'm trying to do too much all at once. Installing floors, trying to launch my blog....doing some soul searching....somehow they all connect if you would believe it or not lol.
*sigh*.....My home currently looks like how my mind feels, disorganized, unfinished with pieces of wood, nails, paint cans in different corners...and I'm "beefing" with my neighbour and her dog. B*tch.
Ugh I completely understand that. I’m sure it will all be worth the finished product though! Hope things settle down for you soon. 😊click to expand
Thanks Star 🙂
Posted by Oak
Never known love like this before gaaaaah, you’ve done it crabby mooniebums.
*like*
Posted by Ellygant
No I was unsure if the crush was single. I’ve completely ruled him out as a result. We did not and have not gotten drinks and I’ll be distancing completely as a result. If someone’s relationship status isn’t clear I’m out.
*pass you back your Scorp card*
Posted by Ellygant
I met the aqua for coffee and he very much is single and was very to the point about wanting to try again, wanting something serious like me and profusely apologized for his previous behavior again and again.
*unaware of the Aqua-Scorp chronicles.....*
Posted by Ellygant
I’m still unsure about aqua, because it’s nice to hear someone say such things about me. But I wonder if I’d be settling even by entertaining it.click to expand
*put Scorp card under my cup of tea*.....I'll keep it warm for you.
Posted by Ellygant
...I’m still unsure about aqua, because it’s nice to hear someone say such things about me. But I wonder if I’d be settling even by entertaining it.
Why do you think you would be settling?
Posted by EllygantPosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by Ellygant
...I’m still unsure about aqua, because it’s nice to hear someone say such things about me. But I wonder if I’d be settling even by entertaining it.
Why do you think you would be settling?
I wish I had an explanation. But that’s just a reoccurring thought.
Objectively tho he says he wants the same things as me.click to expand
It doesn't sound like you want him.
Only analogy I can think of is the following:
I have the biggest sweet tooth. I love pastries and baked goods, especially chocolate baked goods. Craved it. I thought junk food was the only way I could get my sweet fix. A while ago I did a detox and in true Scorp form I went hardcore. You know, give 100% or bugger off. Still had a craving for sweet during the detox though---it actually got worse for a period of time, but I found a way to substitute that. I began eating fresh fruit whenever I craved carbs/junk food. Once I discovered junk food and carbs weren't the only way to get my sweet "fix", I no longer craved crabs and junk food as much.
I highlight this to say, I question if the Aqua's words sound all that more sweeter because you're "detoxing" from a certain type of relationship/encounter with men. Once you find....a way to feel and see the nice things he is saying to you all on your own, his words won't have as much appeal. They will still sound nice yes, but not have the same allure that leads you to question if you should pursue this or not because you'll know. I'm rambling now, but I hope that makes sense. I'm still half asleep.
Lol, "I no longer craved crabs"
Appropriate Freudian slip.
Appropriate Freudian slip.
Posted by Ellygant
... When it was going along everything was on point. The intellectual, spiritual and physical chemistry. Then it stopped.
This has been my experience with Aquas partnerships as well. I personally like to leave it there though. An experience.
Posted by Ellygant
...Will I get that again?
I believe you will. You're more amazing than you allow yourself to believe And I barely know you. Imagine if you allowed someone to really know you.
Posted by Ellygant
...What if I do like him and bond but then meet someone else?
click to expand
Hmph. Curious....What if you do? Why would that matter if you two bond and you've truly decided to move forward with him? I'm sensing there is something more behind this particular question, but I will leave it there.
Posted by Ellygant
... in every thing I do, I always want to do so with kindness in mind.
*love*
Understood. Are you being as equally as kind to yourself though?
Rhetorical question.
*random thought* I wonder how capgirl69 and her Scorp are doing. I always liked her.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by ellessque
you better stop before we get another "Scorpios are SO overrated" thread.....LOL 😛
I give this thread 10...hmmm, maybe 11 pages. Like I wrote earlier, this thread will be interesting on many levels.click to expand
Ha, I was so wrong about our Asylum thread lol......
Spot the marker
I know this is probably not the best idea, but I have nowhere else to go. So this is a list about my husband and I really can't figure out if I'm the marker or he is.
If I am the marker, please let me know. Going through a difficult transit and I need objectivity.
p.s. we're both scorpios.
Good Stuff: *Wakes me up and brings me warm water *gives me a ride to my interviews or teaching gigs (I am new to his country, can't drive yet) *applies to jobs for me/helps me with interview prep,*cooks on weekends so I can work *won't harm me physically, *he hugs like he means it, *if his family says something mean about me behind my back, he does not let it come to me,*takes care of all finances (i'm new and still looking for work), *I like that we can both sit in silence together and listen to music or whatever.
Not so good stuff: *Extremely cheap (we sleep on mattresses on the floor), won't even buy curtains, his excuse: let's buy a house first.(we're not college students, he's a manager) Is not transparent about his finances, got angry and walked out when I asked. Wants all finances split half way when I start earning.
*Never wants to go out *No presents or gifts ever *No compliments *No honeymoon/ anniversary celebrations *Low key jibes about my weight or my body(I can't tell if they're out of love or not) *Does not like talking about deep stuff/emotions *I have started getting scared of him scolding me for little things. *we are having trouble communicating *does not believe in therapy or counseling.
Please understand, this may be a really stupid list or just making a list about my spouse and putting it online might be awful BUT i'm in a new country, very isolated and alone and definitely not thinking straight. I can't talk to anyone back home because I don't want them to worry.
I reallllly want my marriage to work, I need some objectivity regarding it.
Am I an ungrateful wife?
Posted by nainap
Spot the marker
I know this is probably not the best idea, but I have nowhere else to go. So this is a list about my husband and I really can't figure out if I'm the marker or he is.
If I am the marker, please let me know. Going through a difficult transit and I need objectivity.
p.s. we're both scorpios.
Good Stuff: *Wakes me up and brings me warm water *gives me a ride to my interviews or teaching gigs (I am new to his country, can't drive yet) *applies to jobs for me/helps me with interview prep,*cooks on weekends so I can work *won't harm me physically, *he hugs like he means it, *if his family says something mean about me behind my back, he does not let it come to me,*takes care of all finances (i'm new and still looking for work), *I like that we can both sit in silence together and listen to music or whatever.
Not so good stuff: *Extremely cheap (we sleep on mattresses on the floor), won't even buy curtains, his excuse: let's buy a house first.(we're not college students, he's a manager) Is not transparent about his finances, got angry and walked out when I asked. Wants all finances split half way when I start earning.
*Never wants to go out *No presents or gifts ever *No compliments *No honeymoon/ anniversary celebrations *Low key jibes about my weight or my body(I can't tell if they're out of love or not) *Does not like talking about deep stuff/emotions *I have started getting scared of him scolding me for little things. *we are having trouble communicating *does not believe in therapy or counseling.
Please understand, this may be a really stupid list or just making a list about my spouse and putting it online might be awful BUT i'm in a new country, very isolated and alone and definitely not thinking straight. I can't talk to anyone back home because I don't want them to worry.
I reallllly want my marriage to work, I need some objectivity regarding it.
Am I an ungrateful wife?
Um, I don't know how to answer this other than how are you/have you addressed the negative issues you just outlined? I'm also confused, you stated he will cook on weekends so you can work, but then stated you're not working. Which is it? Also he "hugs me like he means it"....shouldn't all physical contact have meaning behind it? It's a curious thing to identify as a "positive" when it should be a given. Overall, your marriage sounds unbalanced and I don't think that is entirely due to do with your financial issues.
What do you want in a marriage?
Posted by EllygantPosted by PhoenixRising
Lol, "I no longer craved crabs"
Appropriate Freudian slip.
🤣😂💀
I didn’t even notice that. Omg.
Totally apt Freudian slip.
Perfectly enough, while on the phone with the cap tonight, it was foggy, dark and I was driving on an unfamiliar road. I said
‘Well, I don’t know where it is exactly but I feel like I probably drove these roads way too inebriated and focused on going to hook up with the cancer’ and I laughed.
Then I passed his former job and mentioned I knew where I was as a result and she remarked she didn’t know he left. I said
‘Yeah he left last July..? Or August? Or was it October? Huh. I don’t remember when it was he told me now. Hmm. Feels good to not remember.’click to expand
*like*
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