Mind Reading

I want to know if other Scorps are like my husband in this regard:

He thinks I know plans even when he doesn't share them with me. This is CONSTANT...it causes issues at least every couple of weeks. For example, he makes plans over the phone for us to do things with other people, never tells me the plans, and then wonders why I'm not ready to go when the time comes. When it comes to the two of us doing something together, he'll believe that we agreed to do such-and-such on a certain day, when what actually happened was that he was indecisive at the time I attempted to make plans, made up his own mind up later, and never told me the final verdict. I've sat right beside him while he was making plans on the phone (without realizing, from what I could hear, that that's what was going on), watched him put the phone down without saying anything to me, and then had him ask me just a little later why I was going to be doing something else instead of the plans "we" just made. Do you guys all do this? No amount of pointing out what he's doing seems to help.

I don't do that. I discuss everything with my lady. Yes, I take charge and make plans for dinner, etc. but she's already aware that we're going to do something on that day and at that time so it's no surprise.

Your husband may just be doing the "Scorpio thing" and not revealing plans even though they include you.

The only thing I can say is that you need to discuss it with him in a non-confrontational manner and let him know how important it is that he share plans with you that involve you.

Hope that helps a bit.

Yes! If you love us, you just KNOW these things....its the rule! :p

On a serious note....we scorps can sometimes be one of two things:
Too communicative or lack there of!
Super giving or Super selfish
We tend to do the black & white of things and leave the greys behind
We give our all or nothing at all BUT generally do not actively participate in hurting those we love and cherish.
You have the advantage here.......its tiur husband! For some reason I have the tendency to always put myself in other peoples shoes and respond/react to how I would/could appreciate being approached....tell him straight from the heart how this makes you feel...and all the pros to being informed ahead of time....but mainly its respect for his wifes time and wifely management....with us, its all about approach as to not put him on defense of which we've won countless awards/nominations for. 🙂

when i make arrangements my wife knows our plans in advance. sound like he needs to work on his communication skills.

Its the "C" word!

i think it's a man thing (talking generally of course). i hate it. i hate not knowing exactly what is happening and where (mostly so i can select my outfit) and also the assumption that there is nothing I want to do on any particular day. i like to be told before plans are made to do something and be part of the organising otherwise it kinda freaks me out and i start refusing to go to events where i haven't been a party to the knowledge of it.

passive-aggressive FTW lol

Thanks, everyone. I always appreciate the replies I get on the Scorpio board. I was rather hoping that this was a normal Scorpio thing, so that I could get to the root of some psychology!

He's not talented at communication in any form, so we need to continue to work on this together.

He did it again last night! Long story short: we agreed to put items in a certain spot in the house, and he decided in his head that the spot had changed and couldn't figure out how I didn't know that. I pointed out that he had never verbalized it. After we debated that for a while, he laughed and said, "We're married... you should be able to read my mind!" It's progress, I think, that he realized he had never told me. One step at a time!

i say flip the script on him. all of a sudden go around making decisions and treat him like he's supposed to know what's on your mind. if he gets upset, flip it on him and use his own bullsht agaisnt him. 'we're married. you're supposed to be able to read my mind....remember?' he will not like it, but it will make him think. and then ask him 'it doesnt feel so nice, does it?' sometimes, you have to go through what you put other through to understand how they feel.