MY OH MY

I met a guy at a friend??s cottage NYE party. I don't recall ever getting the —lust at first sight?? feeling ever before. This is how it went.

I went at this cottage party (sleepover). When Mr. X walked in, it felt like that part in Twilight where Edward Cullen comes into the Cafeteria...anyhow??_first thing??s first??_he is Asian??_yes yes I have a preference for Asians (especially Chinese and South Koreans??_they are so yummy (I also happen to love the culture, the food, the values, the looks and almost everything else).

Mr. X was very hot for I wasn't the only one to notice him. I was warned that he was a player??_but didn't mind it??_just wanted to see where it would go??_have fun. As the night went by a friend of mine (sitting next to me) stroke up a conversation with him??_at that point I was devastated??_already thinking to myself that he was not interested by me and that I had lost it all so I moved on to another part of the living area and a few minutes later he came to sit by my side which surprised me a lot??_so we starting talking??_he wasn't drunk at that point??_but rather tipsy??_we talked about sexy things??_and we had this conversation about how guys and girls couldn't just be friends??_and then he went on saying that they could be friends with benefits. He asked me if I wanted to be his friend w/ benefits to which I said NO.

Meanwhile a friend of mine kept coming to get him to dance with her??_which he accepted but somehow he would always come back to sit next to me. So after each dancing round, we would get closer and closer??_anyhow??_that friend of mine kept on grinding on him and was actually going for him quite strongly which sort of yelled out —desperate?? but he seemed to enjoy the attention??_without giving up his bday I could tell LEO had a strong influence on him??_anyhow??_seeing how all these girls were after him and how he enjoyed the attention??_I just starting doing my own thing??_at some point (around 2-3 am) I took a walk with a few friends.

. I heard someone was drunk and asleep on the sofa so I went to check on that guy and guess who tagged along??_Mr.X. In the end the guy was doing just fine, So Mr. X bent down and gave me a sweet kiss on my head while rubbing my back telling me not to worry and that I should come back upstairs and continue having fun??_anyhow??_I went back upstairs??_trying to avoid him because I was seriously starting to fall for him??_he danced a few times with my friend??_but not intentionally??_he actually danced with random girls??_it was mainly rnb, latin songs playing at that point. While everyone was taking a break from the dance floor I decided to put my songs??_so I put on —Everything?? by Michael Buble. At that point, he jumped out of one of the rooms saying how it was his favorite song and asked whether I would dance with him??_I looked at him and replied that I didn't do SLOWS??_he then begged me to dance and he promised that he would only dance and nothing else??_to which I gave in??_.at that point he must have been drunk??_but he didn't seem to have any troubles holding himself up or anything??_by the way I was sober??_I didn't have a drink that night??_the fact that he didn't take NO for an answer was clearly a sign of his drunkness??_anyhow??_we danced and at some point we got very comfortable??_I was barefoot (I'm 5??5ft and he is 6??0ft)??_and he put his head in the nook of my neck??_ I could tell that he was holding himself from kissing my neck??_because I had felt his lips on my neck breathing in and out??_and at some point out of nowhere??_he goes to me??_I hope that I am not putting too much weight on you??_are you ok??_and I was clearly very touched by this comment??_I mean??_I didn't expect a drunk guy to actually realize these little details??_anyhow??_as soon as the song ended I strayed away from him saying that we were done??_

at that point I was REALLY getting flattered by the attention he had given??_but I didn't want to fall for him because of his reputation??_so as a way to cool myself??_I kept myself busy and away from him for a good hour??_when I got back from doing whatever I was doing??_.i went back to the music booth to put on some good dance music??_as I was trying to select a song with my friend??_he came along and was standing right next to me??_I turn my head to see what he was looking at??_he was staring at me??_he goes to me: Can I give you a kiss??_.to which I responded loud and clear??_NO??_I turn my head around to chose the next POP song??_guess what he went for the kiss??_well he kissed me on the cheek!!! Ohhh that guy??_.the most annoying thing was that I was so attracted to him??_it was so hard to keep away from him??_

Anyhow??_it was 5am at that point and everyone was falling asleep??_me and 2 other friends that I driven down to the cottage with were still awake so we decided to go back home instead of sleeping there??_I actually agreed to that willingly??_why— Because I knew that if I had stayed at the cottage??_I would have been tempted to sleep with him and I didn't want him to keep that memory of me??_so I took the hardest decision of my life and went home??_.before leaving, I still said bye to him and he insisted that I should stay because the weather wasn't looking good and that the driving conditions were dangerous and that it was still dark outside??_EITHER her really wanted to get laid or he sort of cared about me??_mmm??_.he didn't insist with my friends??_anyways we left??_and I DIDN??T EXCHANGE any number with this guy??_I last heard that he ended up sleeping in my friend??s bed??_they were actually 3 sleeping in that bed??_him, my friend and her friend on her side??_.Mr.X and my friend apparently kissed a bit before falling asleep!!! ANYWAYS??_yes he is a PLAYER??_but he was so hot??_should I go after him??_or do you think that he just wanted to get laid??_after all he didn't try to have sex with her??_.lol!....funny enough she was throwing herself to him??_..WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!!

INTERESTING...mmmm...

@Dapper....appearance is the first thing we are sensitive to...so I would say that yes...there again...looks are relative to each and everyone...but some guys just looks "standarly" hot...you know like a model...it's as if you'd see a girl that was beautiful...such as the victoria secret models...then again beauty is in the eye of the beholder...but we are talking about standard hotness...He didn't become more attractive because more women noticed him...he was attractive from the beginning therefore many women were after him...

@Oldskool...I'd have to disagree with you...I believe that Dapper was right about the non emotional thing...that is exactly what confused me...usually players dont become emotionally involved...they only use you and abuse you...which is why I tried to distance myself from this guy...

Actually...I don't think I ll ever see this guy again...unless some miracle should happen...as he lives and studies in Ottawa

@oldskool...

I do appreciate you empathic view on the situation!! 🙂

@SCORPSAGIANX.....true words of wisdom...thanks for bursting my bubbles and bringing me back to reality...it need one like me to make me realize such true things....oh well...it was good for my ego I guess...too bad I didn't take the opportunity to have fun...another time...another opportunity will arise!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂

oLDSKOOL...Whats your chart like...you seem like a a great romantic!!! I'm loving it!!! So sweet and kind...could you really be a Scorpio...you are way too sweet for that!

@exoskeleton...

Not necessarily about ego...I went for him because I was really struck by him...as a matter of fact when I saw all these girls throwing themselves at him...I HAD to back off...BUT DEEP DOWN I WAS SO CHEMICALLY ATTRACTED TO HIM....it was a strange force...ANIMALISTIC FORCE!!!!LOL

Not sure what happened with this thread,

I seemed to remember ScorpSage discussing a very steamy interaction with a guy, I was rooting for her, everyone deserves hot moments like that!

There was a question about what to do, others were chasing the guy in question etc.

My words of wisdom is YOU NEVER KNOW, let it play out unless you feel icky or just not right about the 1 to 1.

Yes people will be in the middle of others in our lives like a roommate, an overbearing sibling/parent, but yeah, hope you went with your gut feeling about the situation and did what you thought best.

As far as all the people who took the time to interject their thoughts that ALL MEN ____ or ALL WOMEN ____, that wasn't constructive.

Posted by DapperDon
"Mr. X was very hot for I wasn't the only one to notice him."

I'm just curious, does a man become more attractive when more women notice him?

Yes. There is a primal instinct in females to see the dominant male
and vie for his attention. This is why if you IGNORE a female, you
will be far more likely to invoke this than complimenting her
because you give away your power.

I take photos of nude women from time to time in my photography business.
There is NOTHING that is more attractive ( causes mystery, social proof
that I am "female-approved", and desire for approval from me - validation
that they are good enough to pose nude or be looked at, too ) to women
than other women hanging out with you, especially taking their clothes off.

Don't confuse ATTRACTION with Lust or sexual intent - rather, it is just
the desire to be AROUND/NEAR you ... at which point you have a far greater
OPPORTUNITY to cause sexual desire.


When I was in high school, I got laid alot because my three best friends
were hot Scorpio girls - I was ALWAYS with at least one of them, usually 2,
often all three. It invoked the primal instinct in the other girls
to SEE ME as someone they needed to get with. haha

Posted by scorsagianX
He doesnt seem the commitment type, he probably wanted to get laid but not just with anyone. He wanted you. Most guys like a little challenge and you giving him a challenge. Think about it, if he really wanted more than just a piece of ass he would've got your number before you left.

Agreed. I say be done with it. He just screams PLAYA PLAYA!

Sorry, didn't read the whole story but did you get his sign?

All I need is a name, or a friend that knows him and I'm all over facebook/myspace/twitter LoL.

^^ Haha that's me. I just love digging up all the info I can about people I like or hate. Always gotta have the upper hand :3

@heroic guy
Thank you for the positive and constructive insight...that is exactly what I will be doing...just letting it happen...if something else "positive" comes out of this...all the better...if not at least I can say that this guy highly pumped my spirits up that night!!!

@Layna
Handsome like Daniel Henney meets Hyun Bin meets Takashi Kaneshiro....yummy!!!

@Scorpsagianx
Yup...you are right...in this circumstance no one can be wrong as I didn't have more info...seeing how he hasn't looked after me...it was just for fun!!!! So damn happy that I didn't sleepover and got involved...Halleluia!!! I avoided dealing with the feeling of emptiness caused by a non mutual continuation of interest...

@Happy Kitsune
Yeah...I wish...I knew his sign...well dear don't be surprised especially if you are a Scorpio...we are the investigator of the Zodiac!!! Nothing remains unknown to us very long...I could sense that he had a LEO vibe...by his flamboyant and boisterous ways...but then again...could have been a Libra on crack...lol...or an overbearing Cancer...he was very affectionate (or horny) depending on how you want to interpret it!!!

This being said he lives in another town...and when he will be done with school, he will go back to his hometown in Asia or work in the States!!!!!

Again,I thank you all for your very much appreciated input!!
Take care,

@ScorpSage I would have handle the situation similar to how you did but I would have atleast maybe exchange # just to see how he is when not drinking or in that type of environment, if it was that much attraction I would have atleast gave him a chance after the fact. I just would not have wanted anything to happen sexual at the party since he probably was just looking for some action but I would have put him to the test and exchange # before I left the party.

I don't mind...in fact I did watch MNIKSS....and I loved it...I am now watching Secret Garden starring Hyun Bin...OMG...I love me some K-DRAMA!!!!! Anyhow...Ahhh...you see Daniel Henney is fridgin' hot but he is just eye candy...I love me some charm and other stuff...just seems like Hyun Bin (or should I say, Hyun Bin's character) is easier to relate to...he isn't all perfect and sweet 24/7....do you watch any k-drama?? Don't worry about being off topic...it's all about interacting mainly!!! take care.

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Posted by DapperDon
I'm just curious, does a man become more attractive when more women notice him?

no. but i'm a scorpio so my opinion is probably not the norm.

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ARE YOU?? :o :O i did not know that seriously..