Need help with my scorpio boyfriend

My boyfriend and me have been in a relationship from December 2015 and we have seen eachother over a year. Except for a couple of meltdowns we have a perfect relationship. We see eachother five or six days in a weak and we talk every day. He is the one who takes most initiative to see me.

Little more then two weaks ago we were in his place and in his bed front to front and I don’t know if he was awake or sleeping, but he draw me close and pressed my body to his body with his hands slowly in a special way on my back and down to my butt so we were really close. It was like he didn’t want any air between us and if he had done it harder it would have hurt. It was really intimate and the feeling was perfect and I loved every second. And then he let go his hands and got out of bed and I thought he was going to the bathroom, but I hear him on the sofa in the livingroom so I go out there. If he had trouble sleeping I could join him if he wanted. When I get there he’s sleeping on the sofa. So I think he was sleepwalking or something so I sit in the sofa and put my hand on his arm and he wakes up and I ask what happened and he mumbles something and we go together to the bedroom and sleep.

Everything is perfect as normal after that until some days later when he does the same thing in bed, but this time he get dressed and I’m like, what? So I ask if he's okay and he comes back to bed with me and we sleep. I talk to him about sleepwalking the next day, but he says he doesn't do that. Yeah right, I thought.

Almost a weak later he does the same thing in bed and it’s great, but I wonder what's going to happen now. But this time he stays and hold me close the whole night, so I was happy. But next day I call him and he doesn’t answer. He always answer normally or call me back very soon after, but this time he doesn’t do that. I call again hours later. Maybe he didn’t hear the signal. No answer. I don’t want to be clingy, but I’m worried because this is not what he does normally, so I call him the next day and he doesn’t answer. Now I think that maybe something happened to him or he’s with another girl or something. I was really worried.

Next evening I was going out with friends and he lives not far from where we were going and high up, so I could see his windows and the light was on and then it was off. That was really good, because he’s alive and not with another woman. I call him again because I’m not far from his place. No answer.

Next day he calls me like nothing has happened and wants to see me. I pretend that I’m not angry and nervous because I want to know what he’s going to say and I don’t know if I have anything to be angry about. Maybe something did happen to him. I was so nervous. Most of all I thought he was going to break up with me, but he was as normal and was happy to see me and at dinner I asked what that radio silence was about. He said that it was nothing. Nothing? I was worried! He said that sometimes he just wanted to be alone. That’s fine, but I was worried! Could you at least text me and say you want to be alone for some days and you will call me when you’re ready? And when I said that he thinks that I’m trying to control him. But it’s just that I’m worried and he doesn’t get that. I’m not trying to control him!

Now I feel like when he was wandering off in the middle of the night it was like he was trying get away from me. I get if he just wants to be alone, but it sounds like a compulsion to get away from me. Do you think he’s slowly moving away from me? And how do I make him understand that I’m not trying to control or cage him? I was just worried. I can’t lose him, so please help! I don’t know what to do.

Video him sleepwalking to prove it. Also, tell him to answer a simple text message so you dont feel like hes lying dead in a ditch somewhere.

Posted by Gennie
Video him sleepwalking to prove it. Also, tell him to answer a simple text message so you dont feel like hes lying dead in a ditch somewhere.

Thanks for your comment!

I'm not sure if he doesn't remember the two walking things or if he thinks he was awake enough so it wouldn't be sleepwalking. I'll ask him.

I told him that, but he saw it like I was trying to cage him and wasn't really okay with him being alone, or something. I think he thinks I'm trying to manipulate him. He's very sensitive to that. If he sees even a hint of something that could be seen as that, he reacts. I have read a little about this with scorpios, but he's very very sensitive to it.

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Video him sleepwalking to prove it. Also, tell him to answer a simple text message so you dont feel like hes lying dead in a ditch somewhere.

Thanks for your comment!

I'm not sure if he doesn't remember the two walking things or if he thinks he was awake enough so it wouldn't be sleepwalking. I'll ask him.

I told him that, but he saw it like I was trying to cage him and wasn't really okay with him being alone, or something. I think he thinks I'm trying to manipulate him. He's very sensitive to that. If he sees even a hint of something that could be seen as that, he reacts. I have read a little about this with scorpios, but he's very very sensitive to it.

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I'd just be plain. "I want you to have your "me time" and I get to do something things for me or with my friends, but just answer a text to let me know you breathe. It's just assholiosh when your boyfriend doesn't at least do that." He may not realize that he can have his alone time but also being a dick about it.

It's a Scorpio though, so while you can tell an Air sign this and they won't bat an eye, a scorpio needs more finesse. Next time he makes a noise about feeling cagey, YOU come back with no, "Oh no, I think its great, I'll be able to get that shopping/girls night/reading (insert my own thing) done, I'm texting you to let you know I'm still breathing air like a considerate girlfriend, it would be nice if you could take a pause to hit me back at some point so I don't worry."

He could be like..."Are you worried I'm with someone else?" Now the answer to this is tricky. As a Capricorn, pride is an issue so my advice "I'm worried that your dead from choking on a piece of chicken. I wouldn't be with you if I thought you would pull a dick move like that."

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Video him sleepwalking to prove it. Also, tell him to answer a simple text message so you dont feel like hes lying dead in a ditch somewhere.

Thanks for your comment!

I'm not sure if he doesn't remember the two walking things or if he thinks he was awake enough so it wouldn't be sleepwalking. I'll ask him.

I told him that, but he saw it like I was trying to cage him and wasn't really okay with him being alone, or something. I think he thinks I'm trying to manipulate him. He's very sensitive to that. If he sees even a hint of something that could be seen as that, he reacts. I have read a little about this with scorpios, but he's very very sensitive to it.

I'd just be plain. "I want you to have your "me time" and I get to do something things for me or with my friends, but just answer a text to let me know you breathe. It's just assholiosh when your boyfriend doesn't at least do that." He may not realize that he can have his alone time but also being a dick about it.

It's a Scorpio though, so while you can tell an Air sign this and they won't bat an eye, a scorpio needs more finesse. Next time he makes a noise about feeling cagey, YOU come back with no, "Oh no, I think its great, I'll be able to get that shopping/girls night/reading (insert my own thing) done, I'm texting you to let you know I'm still breathing air like a considerate girlfriend, it would be nice if you could take a pause to hit me back at some point so I don't worry."

He could be like..."Are you worried I'm with someone else?" Now the answer to this is tricky. As a Capricorn, pride is an issue so my advice "I'm worried that your dead from choking on a piece of chicken. I wouldn't be with you if I thought you would pull a dick move like that."

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That sounds good, because I'm really fine with it if he needs it. I just wish we could get this out of the way before next time he disappears and if I bring it up now, I'm afraid that he maybe think I'm trying to cage him even more. It's a balance with him. And I'm really afraid the question "Are you worried I'm with someone else?" will come up, because I blew up once because of other girls. He didn't do anything wrong, it was me who got crazy. I think he's over that and he had one blow up over me too once, so I think we're fine, but I'm still a little worried.

You don't think he's less interested in me now? At least you haven't said it.🙂

Scorpios don't like games. They like honesty, and they may test you to put your money where your mouth is. You could wait until he poofs again. Then send him a text like "I'm still breathing oxygen, you still alive or are you currently lying on the floor after hitting your head on the table from sleepwalking."

He may text something all angry about he doesn't sleep walk. So you text "Uh uh, I'll tape it next time, and I'm happy you're fine. Enjoy your day/night/weekend".

Before the peanut gallery erupts at this blatant emotional gauntlet mirroring a game. It is and it isnt. My advice is to treat his need for space like its No Big Deal, as long as its no big deal for her. Which she said it isn't. Next I am advising her to be so blase and practical about it, that her simple request to just be clued in to his general well being is just that, a simple request. What this is actually is, is her jumping through fucking hoops for Scorpio guy so he doesn't get his feelings hurt over a simple aspect that is occurring when he wants his fucking me time.

#micdrop

Posted by Gennie
Scorpios don't like games. They like honesty, and they may test you to put your money where your mouth is. You could wait until he poofs again. Then send him a text like "I'm still breathing oxygen, you still alive or are you currently lying on the floor after hitting your head on the table from sleepwalking."

He may text something all angry about he doesn't sleep walk. So you text "Uh uh, I'll tape it next time, and I'm happy you're fine. Enjoy your day/night/weekend".

Before the peanut gallery erupts at this blatant emotional gauntlet mirroring a game. It is and it isnt. My advice is to treat his need for space like its No Big Deal, as long as its no big deal for her. Which she said it isn't. Next I am advising her to be so blase and practical about it, that her simple request to just be clued in to his general well being is just that, a simple request. What this is actually is, is her jumping through fucking hoops for Scorpio guy so he doesn't get his feelings hurt over a simple aspect that is occurring when he wants his fucking me time.

#micdrop

Are you two people answering? I don't mind, I'm just curious. Thank you for the comments! What you say sounds very reasonable! I'm more calm now. Thanks!🙂

just let him know that you worried whether something happened to him when he kept quiet. it would only take a min to text "i'm good just need time alone. talk to u xxx". it's inconsiderate to not do that when in a relationship.

do not nag and do not worry about whether he is less interested in you now. that would not make you any more attractive but the opposite. work on yourself as usual and work on being a sweet, interesting and secure person would make you more irresistible than worrying about how to not lose a guy

Posted by iCloud9
just let him know that you worried whether something happened to him when he kept quiet. it would only take a min to text "i'm good just need time alone. talk to u xxx". it's inconsiderate to not do that when in a relationship.

do not nag and do not worry about whether he is less interested in you now. that would not make you any more attractive but the opposite. work on yourself as usual and work on being a sweet, interesting and secure person would make you more irresistible than worrying about how to not lose a guy

Hi iCloud9🙂

It's so weird, because I'm never so secure as when I'm with him, but he makes me really insecure sometimes. Weird!

I said something like that to him and that's when he was starting to think I was trying to control him and tell him what to do. I really wasn't! Do you think I should bring it up again and say it's not a big deal if you want to be alone, just let me know that you're alive. Or not say anything now and wait for next time? Omg, I sound really insecure idiot fifteenyearold, don't I? I hate being like this!

and don't reward bad behaviors. why pretend you were not upset when you were? i'd not tolerate any gas lighting personally (him saying you tried to control him when you showed genuine concerns)

Hi BornCap 🙂

i'd leave it be for now until the next occurrence. prepare yourself mentally lol. be clear and tell as is.

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and don't reward bad behaviors. why pretend you were not upset when you were? i'd not tolerate any gas lighting personally (him saying you tried to control him when you showed genuine concerns)

I pretended I wasn't upset because at that time I didn't know if something had happened to him. Maybe he had spent the days in the hospital and if that was it he didn't need me to whine about not getting a text. But when I found out that it wasn't like that I told him what I thought about it.

I don't like to tolerate it either. I just want him to understand why I'm doing what I'm doing, that I'm concerned, but it's like he's stuck in his own way of thinking. That's really frustrating.

Posted by iCloud9
Hi BornCap 🙂

i'd leave it be for now until the next occurrence. prepare yourself mentally lol. be clear and tell as is.

I think I wrote somewhere here that he would give me grey hair before my 25birthday. I was joking then, but now I'm afraid that it will actually happen!😉

he is probably new to being in a relationship. i recall he was kinda free spirit before right 😉. we all need to learn how to be a good partner in a relationship someone needs to train him to be a better relationship material, well, skillfully lol.

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he is probably new to being in a relationship. i recall he was kinda free spirit before right 😉. we all need to learn how to be a good partner in a relationship someone needs to train him to be a better relationship material, well, skillfully lol.

True. Very "free spirit." 😭

He sure isn't easy to train. I don't even know if I should try. I think he needs to figure it out himself. He's really very smart, he just feels threatened right now, I think.

yeah you can only let him know what behaviors are healthy for your relationship with him. he would need to be the one who decides whether he is ready for a healthy relationship. btw it's a good thing to allow him to miss you sometimes so be busy with your own passions 😉

Posted by iCloud9
yeah you can only let him know what behaviors are healthy for your relationship with him. he would need to be the one who decides whether he is ready for a healthy relationship. btw it's a good thing to allow him to miss you sometimes so be busy with your own passions 😉

Yeah, probably. I hope he gets it when he has thought about it a bit. Don't worry, I have taken an extra course in english in school because I think my english is too bad, so I've definitely got things to do.

How are you?

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Scorpios don't like games. They like honesty, and they may test you to put your money where your mouth is. You could wait until he poofs again. Then send him a text like "I'm still breathing oxygen, you still alive or are you currently lying on the floor after hitting your head on the table from sleepwalking."

He may text something all angry about he doesn't sleep walk. So you text "Uh uh, I'll tape it next time, and I'm happy you're fine. Enjoy your day/night/weekend".

Before the peanut gallery erupts at this blatant emotional gauntlet mirroring a game. It is and it isnt. My advice is to treat his need for space like its No Big Deal, as long as its no big deal for her. Which she said it isn't. Next I am advising her to be so blase and practical about it, that her simple request to just be clued in to his general well being is just that, a simple request. What this is actually is, is her jumping through fucking hoops for Scorpio guy so he doesn't get his feelings hurt over a simple aspect that is occurring when he wants his fucking me time.

#micdrop

Are you two people answering? I don't mind, I'm just curious. Thank you for the comments! What you say sounds very reasonable! I'm more calm now. Thanks!🙂

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Not a Gem lol, just 1 person.

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Posted by Gennie
Scorpios don't like games. They like honesty, and they may test you to put your money where your mouth is. You could wait until he poofs again. Then send him a text like "I'm still breathing oxygen, you still alive or are you currently lying on the floor after hitting your head on the table from sleepwalking."

He may text something all angry about he doesn't sleep walk. So you text "Uh uh, I'll tape it next time, and I'm happy you're fine. Enjoy your day/night/weekend".

Before the peanut gallery erupts at this blatant emotional gauntlet mirroring a game. It is and it isnt. My advice is to treat his need for space like its No Big Deal, as long as its no big deal for her. Which she said it isn't. Next I am advising her to be so blase and practical about it, that her simple request to just be clued in to his general well being is just that, a simple request. What this is actually is, is her jumping through fucking hoops for Scorpio guy so he doesn't get his feelings hurt over a simple aspect that is occurring when he wants his fucking me time.

#micdrop

Are you two people answering? I don't mind, I'm just curious. Thank you for the comments! What you say sounds very reasonable! I'm more calm now. Thanks!🙂

Not a Gem lol, just 1 person.

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Oh. lol

You started saying "you" and then said "she" But my english isn't great, so I probably didn't understand it right.

Thanks for your comments! If you want to add anything, feel free!🙂

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Posted by BornCapricorn
My boyfriend and me have been in a relationship from December 2015 and we have seen eachother over a year. Except for a couple of meltdowns we have a perfect relationship. We see eachother five or six days in a weak and we talk every day. He is the one who takes most initiative to see me.

Little more then two weaks ago we were in his place and in his bed front to front and I don’t know if he was awake or sleeping, but he draw me close and pressed my body to his body with his hands slowly in a special way on my back and down to my butt so we were really close. It was like he didn’t want any air between us and if he had done it harder it would have hurt. It was really intimate and the feeling was perfect and I loved every second. And then he let go his hands and got out of bed and I thought he was going to the bathroom, but I hear him on the sofa in the livingroom so I go out there. If he had trouble sleeping I could join him if he wanted. When I get there he’s sleeping on the sofa. So I think he was sleepwalking or something so I sit in the sofa and put my hand on his arm and he wakes up and I ask what happened and he mumbles something and we go together to the bedroom and sleep.

Everything is perfect as normal after that until some days later when he does the same thing in bed, but this time he get dressed and I’m like, what? So I ask if he's okay and he comes back to bed with me and we sleep. I talk to him about sleepwalking the next day, but he says he doesn't do that. Yeah right, I thought.

Almost a weak later he does the same thing in bed and it’s great, but I wonder what's going to happen now. But this time he stays and hold me close the whole night, so I was happy. But next day I call him and he doesn’t answer. He always answer normally or call me back very soon after, but this time he doesn’t do that. I call again hours later. Maybe he didn’t hear the signal. No answer. I don’t want to be clingy, but I’m worried because this is not what he does normally, so I call him the next day and he doesn’t answer. Now I think that maybe something happened to him or he’s with another girl or something. I was really worried.

Odd.

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What do you think was odd? That I was worried or his actions or something else?

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Weird.

What was it you reacted to, specially?

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My boyfriend and me have been in a relationship from December 2015 and we have seen eachother over a year. Except for a couple of meltdowns we have a perfect relationship. We see eachother five or six days in a weak and we talk every day. He is the one who takes most initiative to see me.

Little more then two weaks ago we were in his place and in his bed front to front and I don’t know if he was awake or sleeping, but he draw me close and pressed my body to his body with his hands slowly in a special way on my back and down to my butt so we were really close. It was like he didn’t want any air between us and if he had done it harder it would have hurt. It was really intimate and the feeling was perfect and I loved every second. And then he let go his hands and got out of bed and I thought he was going to the bathroom, but I hear him on the sofa in the livingroom so I go out there. If he had trouble sleeping I could join him if he wanted. When I get there he’s sleeping on the sofa. So I think he was sleepwalking or something so I sit in the sofa and put my hand on his arm and he wakes up and I ask what happened and he mumbles something and we go together to the bedroom and sleep.

Everything is perfect as normal after that until some days later when he does the same thing in bed, but this time he get dressed and I’m like, what? So I ask if he's okay and he comes back to bed with me and we sleep. I talk to him about sleepwalking the next day, but he says he doesn't do that. Yeah right, I thought.

Almost a weak later he does the same thing in bed and it’s great, but I wonder what's going to happen now. But this time he stays and hold me close the whole night, so I was happy. But next day I call him and he doesn’t answer. He always answer normally or call me back very soon after, but this time he doesn’t do that. I call again hours later. Maybe he didn’t hear the signal. No answer. I don’t want to be clingy, but I’m worried because this is not what he does normally, so I call him the next day and he doesn’t answer. Now I think that maybe something happened to him or he’s with another girl or something. I was really worried.

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What do you think was odd? That I was worried or his actions or something else?

The sleep walking. The denial.

Those are huge red flags. It sounds like you can't even have an open conversation with him.

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It's difficult to have an open conversation with him about some things.

I got cut off.

He can be very guarded. He doesn't talk about his feelings, he shows them. But to get him to talk about him is hard. About the sleepwalking I talked about it with no connection with him and he just said that he didn't do that and I didn't push it then. It wasn't a good time.

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I got cut off.

He can be very guarded. He doesn't talk about his feelings, he shows them. But to get him to talk about him is hard. About the sleepwalking I talked about it with no connection with him and he just said that he didn't do that and I didn't push it then. It wasn't a good time.

Post all his placements.

Moon. All that stuff.

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Sun Scorpio 8
Moon Cancer 4
Mercury Scorpio 8
Venus Libra 7
Mars Scorpio 8
Jupiter Libra 7
Saturn Aquarius 11
Uranus Capricorn 10
Neptune Capricorn 10
Pluto Scorpio 8
True Node Sagittarius 8
Chiron Virgo 5
AC Ari
MC Cap

lol He has the same scorpio as you! 🙂

Posted by TheLibraMudra
It's just weird he won't even try to consider that he sleep walks lol.

And my ex would hold me til we fell asleep then wake up so extremely pissed off because he was all hot and irritated lol. Or even if we didn't fall asleep, he would get annoyed after 10 minutes without even giving me a "alright, I'm done. K, I'm done cuddling, I'm uncomfortable" So maybe your dude is feeling irritated in his sleep and needs space or something?

As far as not talking to you for a few days... That's just how they get...

I didn't ask him. I just started to talk about it to see what he would say and we talked about it and he said he didn't do it(as far as he knew, I guess), not beause I asked him if he did. Maybe he just didn't know.

Could have been a possibility, but I don't think that's it. He wasn't pissed. It didn't feel like he wanted to let go. We always sleep holding each other, but the times I talk about we were extreme close.

But do you really think a text that he's alive is too much to ask?

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It's just weird he won't even try to consider that he sleep walks lol.

And my ex would hold me til we fell asleep then wake up so extremely pissed off because he was all hot and irritated lol. Or even if we didn't fall asleep, he would get annoyed after 10 minutes without even giving me a "alright, I'm done. K, I'm done cuddling, I'm uncomfortable" So maybe your dude is feeling irritated in his sleep and needs space or something?

As far as not talking to you for a few days... That's just how they get...

I didn't ask him. I just started to talk about it to see what he would say and we talked about it and he said he didn't do it(as far as he knew, I guess), not beause I asked him if he did. Maybe he just didn't know.

Could have been a possibility, but I don't think that's it. He wasn't pissed. It didn't feel like he wanted to let go. We always sleep holding each other, but the times I talk about we were extreme close.

But do you really think a text that he's alive is too much to ask?

Nope. lol I don't miss this sorta shit at all.

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Was your ex a scorpio?

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I got cut off.

He can be very guarded. He doesn't talk about his feelings, he shows them. But to get him to talk about him is hard. About the sleepwalking I talked about it with no connection with him and he just said that he didn't do that and I didn't push it then. It wasn't a good time.

Post all his placements.

Moon. All that stuff.

Sun Scorpio 8
Moon Cancer 4
Mercury Scorpio 8
Venus Libra 7
Mars Scorpio 8
Jupiter Libra 7
Saturn Aquarius 11
Uranus Capricorn 10
Neptune Capricorn 10
Pluto Scorpio 8
True Node Sagittarius 8
Chiron Virgo 5
AC Ari
MC Cap

Cancer Moon.

They're sensitive.

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I'm starting to think so. Not that he's crying all the time, I've never seen him cry, but he's probably sensitive deep down. Do you have suggestions? Maybe you could tell me how you would have liked to be handled since you have the same scorpio as him?

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Posted by Gennie
Scorpios don't like games. They like honesty, and they may test you to put your money where your mouth is. You could wait until he poofs again. Then send him a text like "I'm still breathing oxygen, you still alive or are you currently lying on the floor after hitting your head on the table from sleepwalking."

He may text something all angry about he doesn't sleep walk. So you text "Uh uh, I'll tape it next time, and I'm happy you're fine. Enjoy your day/night/weekend".

Before the peanut gallery erupts at this blatant emotional gauntlet mirroring a game. It is and it isnt. My advice is to treat his need for space like its No Big Deal, as long as its no big deal for her. Which she said it isn't. Next I am advising her to be so blase and practical about it, that her simple request to just be clued in to his general well being is just that, a simple request. What this is actually is, is her jumping through fucking hoops for Scorpio guy so he doesn't get his feelings hurt over a simple aspect that is occurring when he wants his fucking me time.

#micdrop

Are you two people answering? I don't mind, I'm just curious. Thank you for the comments! What you say sounds very reasonable! I'm more calm now. Thanks!🙂

Not a Gem lol, just 1 person.

Oh. lol

You started saying "you" and then said "she" But my english isn't great, so I probably didn't understand it right.

Thanks for your comments! If you want to add anything, feel free!🙂

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I was breaking the 4th wall and referring to you as She, when speaking to the rest of the forum.

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Scorpios don't like games. They like honesty, and they may test you to put your money where your mouth is. You could wait until he poofs again. Then send him a text like "I'm still breathing oxygen, you still alive or are you currently lying on the floor after hitting your head on the table from sleepwalking."

He may text something all angry about he doesn't sleep walk. So you text "Uh uh, I'll tape it next time, and I'm happy you're fine. Enjoy your day/night/weekend".

Before the peanut gallery erupts at this blatant emotional gauntlet mirroring a game. It is and it isnt. My advice is to treat his need for space like its No Big Deal, as long as its no big deal for her. Which she said it isn't. Next I am advising her to be so blase and practical about it, that her simple request to just be clued in to his general well being is just that, a simple request. What this is actually is, is her jumping through fucking hoops for Scorpio guy so he doesn't get his feelings hurt over a simple aspect that is occurring when he wants his fucking me time.

#micdrop

Are you two people answering? I don't mind, I'm just curious. Thank you for the comments! What you say sounds very reasonable! I'm more calm now. Thanks!🙂

Not a Gem lol, just 1 person.

Oh. lol

You started saying "you" and then said "she" But my english isn't great, so I probably didn't understand it right.

Thanks for your comments! If you want to add anything, feel free!🙂

I was breaking the 4th wall and referring to you as She, when speaking to the rest of the forum.

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Ah. 😄

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I got cut off.

He can be very guarded. He doesn't talk about his feelings, he shows them. But to get him to talk about him is hard. About the sleepwalking I talked about it with no connection with him and he just said that he didn't do that and I didn't push it then. It wasn't a good time.

Post all his placements.

Moon. All that stuff.

Sun Scorpio 8
Moon Cancer 4
Mercury Scorpio 8
Venus Libra 7
Mars Scorpio 8
Jupiter Libra 7
Saturn Aquarius 11
Uranus Capricorn 10
Neptune Capricorn 10
Pluto Scorpio 8
True Node Sagittarius 8
Chiron Virgo 5
AC Ari
MC Cap

Cancer Moon.

They're sensitive.

I'm starting to think so. Not that he's crying all the time, I've never seen him cry, but he's probably sensitive deep down. Do you have suggestions? Maybe you could tell me how you would have liked to be handled since you have the same scorpio as him?

Ehm - well.

Talk calmly and rationally - as in reason.

Works for most Scorpios. I can't imagine him walking away from you if you ask him about some problems that way.

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Thank you very much! I appreciate it!🙂

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It's just weird he won't even try to consider that he sleep walks lol.

And my ex would hold me til we fell asleep then wake up so extremely pissed off because he was all hot and irritated lol. Or even if we didn't fall asleep, he would get annoyed after 10 minutes without even giving me a "alright, I'm done. K, I'm done cuddling, I'm uncomfortable" So maybe your dude is feeling irritated in his sleep and needs space or something?

As far as not talking to you for a few days... That's just how they get...

I didn't ask him. I just started to talk about it to see what he would say and we talked about it and he said he didn't do it(as far as he knew, I guess), not beause I asked him if he did. Maybe he just didn't know.

Could have been a possibility, but I don't think that's it. He wasn't pissed. It didn't feel like he wanted to let go. We always sleep holding each other, but the times I talk about we were extreme close.

But do you really think a text that he's alive is too much to ask?

Nope. lol I don't miss this sorta shit at all.

Was your ex a scorpio?

Yea. Aqua moon, leo rising .

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Ah. He just disappeared without even a text?

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This sounds so familiar. My bfs a cancer and there are times when he will reach for me in his sleep then jerk away. Hed sit up in bed with his eyes closed and when they would open hed give me bad looks. It was hard for me to sleep and so i started talking to him asking him whats wrong and he said the bed was hurting him and conplained about how my elbow made a dent in the bed...he got so weird with me i told him i could sleep on the couch if hes uncomfortable. He said no and went back to sleep with me. The next morning at work i wrote him and asked him what that was and he said he doesnt know that his back just hurts...
He did that like five times. He hasnt done it in a while...didnt have to go through absense though just him not really remembering or recalling his sleep walking weirdness.

Oh. Mine doesn't jerk away. He's gentle and not irritated, but weird. How long have you been with him? I mean if it's ten years, five times seems okay. 🙂

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This sounds so familiar. My bfs a cancer and there are times when he will reach for me in his sleep then jerk away. Hed sit up in bed with his eyes closed and when they would open hed give me bad looks. It was hard for me to sleep and so i started talking to him asking him whats wrong and he said the bed was hurting him and conplained about how my elbow made a dent in the bed...he got so weird with me i told him i could sleep on the couch if hes uncomfortable. He said no and went back to sleep with me. The next morning at work i wrote him and asked him what that was and he said he doesnt know that his back just hurts...
He did that like five times. He hasnt done it in a while...didnt have to go through absense though just him not really remembering or recalling his sleep walking weirdness.

Oh. Mine doesn't jerk away. He's gentle and not irritated, but weird. How long have you been with him? I mean if it's ten years, five times seems okay. 🙂

Mid jan not long

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Oh. Other than that it's going well, I hope?

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This sounds so familiar. My bfs a cancer and there are times when he will reach for me in his sleep then jerk away. Hed sit up in bed with his eyes closed and when they would open hed give me bad looks. It was hard for me to sleep and so i started talking to him asking him whats wrong and he said the bed was hurting him and conplained about how my elbow made a dent in the bed...he got so weird with me i told him i could sleep on the couch if hes uncomfortable. He said no and went back to sleep with me. The next morning at work i wrote him and asked him what that was and he said he doesnt know that his back just hurts...
He did that like five times. He hasnt done it in a while...didnt have to go through absense though just him not really remembering or recalling his sleep walking weirdness.

Oh. Mine doesn't jerk away. He's gentle and not irritated, but weird. How long have you been with him? I mean if it's ten years, five times seems okay. 🙂

Mid jan not long

Oh. Other than that it's going well, I hope?

so far so good

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Good to hear!🙂

I will say you should wait till he does It again,then you calmly let Him Know that you get worried when he disappears like that,he should let you Know when he need his alone Time.Don't Nag

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This sounds so familiar. My bfs a cancer and there are times when he will reach for me in his sleep then jerk away. Hed sit up in bed with his eyes closed and when they would open hed give me bad looks. It was hard for me to sleep and so i started talking to him asking him whats wrong and he said the bed was hurting him and conplained about how my elbow made a dent in the bed...he got so weird with me i told him i could sleep on the couch if hes uncomfortable. He said no and went back to sleep with me. The next morning at work i wrote him and asked him what that was and he said he doesnt know that his back just hurts...
He did that like five times. He hasnt done it in a while...didnt have to go through absense though just him not really remembering or recalling his sleep walking weirdness.

Oh. Mine doesn't jerk away. He's gentle and not irritated, but weird. How long have you been with him? I mean if it's ten years, five times seems okay. 🙂

Mid jan not long

Oh. Other than that it's going well, I hope?

so far so good

Good to hear!🙂

Thanks! Hope yours is ok too ðŸ¸

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He's difficult, but very very much worth it!🙂

@Udylaw1

I agree. That's what I'll probably do. Thank you for your comment!🙂

@iCloud9

lol Yes it's good to be productive sometimes, isn't it. 🙂

For how long is it. Many years, isn't it?

I've been in relationships before, but nothing like this, so I think that could be why I feel so insecure sometimes. I don't know what to expect, because there is always something new to consider. He will never stop to surprise me and most of the time in a good way. He started out really good(well, not my first impression of him, but when we met), but he gets better and better all the time. He can be totally exhausting, but gives me strength to handle it. It's weird. I have read that scorpios are intense, but I haven't read just how intense they really are. Or mine is the most intense scorpio out there🙂 Omg!

Did you feel your scorp had trouble opening up in the beginning? If you did, how long did it take? Was he always good at communicating or did that come later? How did he get defensive? Sorry for all the questions. Answer what you want.

Yes, I normally need alone time too! Since we got together I haven't felt that, I've probably been a little obsessed over him. But I'm sure I'm going to need more of it later like I do normally. Maybe it's because it's so early in the relationship that I haven't felt that so much now.

It's really nice and helpful to hear your storys. You can write as much as you like. No preassure, ofcourse! Thank you for everything!🙂

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i have a deadline this Friday but i think i'm gonna miss it haha 😢

anyway, i think we met about 9 years ago. even thought it was love at first sight, we were friends for many many months first mainly because both of us were weirdos in different ways lol

it's understandable to feel insecure and/or emotional fluctuation at times when the passion between 2 runs high. in the beginning of our relationship, i would get irritated very easily when we were apart but as soon as i saw his smile and my hands in his, all problems resolved lol

i think it's an inherited trait for a scorp to keep random (lol) things to themselves. my scorp wouldn't even tell me how old he was and what his favorite color was when he was courting me. i got annoyed and told him how would you expect a woman to take you seriously when she does not even know the basics like how old you are —? where is the logic —? lol. he was worried that i'd not move forward with him that i might want someone younger. the funny thing was that he didn't know how old i was himself and i have a baby face lol. he would get defensive initially when i got annoyed by saying "so is this it— you don't want to see me again—". once he trusted and understood that we could have passionate discussions (lol) without breaking up or damaging our relationship, he became more relax and easy to communicate any issues or handups. i don't remember how long it took. within the 1st year i hope lol.

that's it for now. fun memories lol.

have fun with yours 😉. i'm sure it will only get better and better 🙂

Aww.😢

Weird is good. I wish I was weirder. I'm pretty boring.

When I asked my scorps favourite color, he thought that was weird. Like, what are we talking about? Flowers? Chairs? Shoes? Shirts? What day is it? And I can buy that, in a way.🙂

I know really little about mine, but I'll keep asking.🙂

You're right. He needs time to adjust to a relationship, like sharing space and information and feelings. I'm willing to wait.🙂