@HarleyQu1nn
10 YearsAries
WTF Puddin'? Don't you want to rev up your Harley?
You did not pass the test? As harsh as it may sounds, basically it reads that you were in cooler waters before sex, as if the sex is what tipped you over. It reads from your information that he wants a relationship based on more than hooking up, but that you were not interested until AFTER you hooked up and swung that D. So maybe he feels like, he wants to be appreciated for himself and not what he can do in bed?
Thank you! But I was totally into him just a little apprehensive about his intensity. It's just so weird the hot/cold flip. And the reasoning- space as if 2 hours apart isn't enough.
How do I get back in? Let him know it's not all about the sex? Or just wait on him like I basically told him I would (I said I let him take the lead, literally).
He responds when I text him it's just not like it used to be so I have just been leaving him alone. He initiated the snap last night which was weird.
Ha! Yep. I got the "you're a great person" speech. Thanks Š But, I have been! It's just- Don't snap me weird fn pics when I already can't get you out of my head! What does he want? Ug
Noted! Thank you ðŸ‘
Well how into the guy are you? is this guy relationship material? It sounds like you are not sold on him.
No I really am! It's just I'm a 1/2 year out of a 13 year marriage and have a 10 year old so I was trying to play things cool. He was the one pushing things fast and as soon as he got it, NOPE
No one has met kids (he also has a son) but he was also pushing that. I told him I wasn't ready. I'm still not. I am confused. Does he want space or not?
Posted by HarleyQu1nn
No one has met kids (he also has a son) but he was also pushing that. I told him I wasn't ready. I'm still not. I am confused. Does he want space or not?
Ok so hes a Scorpio and you are?...
Pisces Aries cusp. March 22.
How do I get back in? Let him know it's not all about the sex? Or just wait on him like I basically told him I would (I said I let him take the lead, literally).
*smacks forehead*
don't wait for him, don't contact him.
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...it's like a little dog sitting anxiously wagging her tail and waiting for that dog treat. Well trained.
Nice way to sum it up. That's how I feel! ‚‚‚ It was that good- dammit!!!
I totally did not contact him at all; in fact I defriended him on social media when he said he wanted space! But then he contacted me again through snapchat. Now he's gone again.
I had no idea scorpios did this until I started seeing him and was thrown this, and I'm just not sure if I take what he says at face value. He was so into things. So strange. My ex husband was a Virgo.
I will just wean myself off him like a bad drug.
Guess who's back? Scorp boy... Wants to see me. Thoughts on how to handle?
Posted by HarleyQu1nn
Guess who's back? Scorp boy... Wants to see me. Thoughts on how to handle?
Don't. Unless you want to go through this a few more times. Block him and move on.
can't you just stabb him?
Posted by HarleyQu1nn
Guess who's back? Scorp boy... Wants to see me. Thoughts on how to handle?Ignore him and move on..
Seriously.
Doubt that will happen.
She's dickmatized.
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Is that like a real thing because- I know I shouldn't but œ
It will probably happen again because the sex was amazing. Yes. I'll be sure to let y'all know how it goes. Feel free to tell me "I told you leave that boy alone!" But, mmmmmmmnope
Well it did happen again, 5xs to be exact It was better than I remembered too. Things still are not 100, but he is talking again, and obviously um, you know ‰ We cannot keep our hands off each other, and he's super sweet, makes breakfast, back rubs, considerate. But I can also tell he's holding back. I just want to be sure! But damn, if I won't take what I can get...
So, after an ah-ma-zing 3 day weekend of (what I felt was mutual) soul treetrunking, I go see Scorp boy one last time before I leave to my home/work 2 hours away. Things are good, still passionate making out, he really sets my entire body on fire! However, this sesh ended with him receiving my oral skills and me getting... Nothing! So basically I leave as sexually frustrated as I started, visions of our last 5 encounters in my head... ‘
The next day, yesterday, is my actual birthday, and he doesn't text once to say it. He had already told me a few days earlier so I didn't really let it bother me. Plus he sent texts make sure I got home ok, good night text, kiss emoji etc.
He told me Saturday night that he doesn't want to get too "invested" because he doesn't want a relationship right now, but then later asked about the sex and if I was seeing other people. I told him I am not, which is the truth! And I didn't ask him in return because I really don't care at this point. It is my mission to make him mine, but I will not push it.
He said it was really good to see me and he'd like to see me again. Psychically feel him pulling away again which bothers me, but I will give him space if that's what he needs to bone me like that. I really don't want our relationship based on sex either though (his orignal statement) and we have tons other stuff in commen. I think the distance and my pending divorce are the issues. Just a gut feeling.
No I can't just stab him ‚
I love this thread lol Im happy to see that you are enjoying the moment, best of luck Aries, happy belated birthday 🙂
If he doesn't want a relationship, then WTF are you two doing?
Posted by Gennie
If he doesn't want a relationship, then WTF are you two doing?
ummm, enjoying each others' company? !!?
Posted by Gennie
If he doesn't want a relationship, then WTF are you two doing?
IDK!!! I wish I knew his song and dance. That's why I'm on this page to begin with.
All I know is, intuitively, we are really into each other. I get the feeling this is a defense mechanism and I'm waiting for it to break. If I'm wrong, well, at least I can say I tried, because I already know me and staying away isn't going to be an option.
I just hope it's soon because the obsessive thoughts are definitely intrusive and I can't stay in bed all day touching myself ‚ If this flame burns out it will leave a scar. Good or bad.
He told me Saturday night that he doesn't want to get too "invested" because he doesn't want a relationship right now, but then later asked about the sex and if I was seeing other people.
Please don't even read too much into that.
Whether you're a girlfriend or just a fuck buddy, he's not going to want you seeing anyone else. It's all about control and possession, not love.
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But what if I want him to control and possess me?
Posted by Gennie
If he doesn't want a relationship, then WTF are you two doing?IDK!!! I wish I knew his song and dance. That's why I'm on this page to begin with.
All I know is, intuitively, we are really into each other. I get the feeling this is a defense mechanism and I'm waiting for it to break. If I'm wrong, well, at least I can say I tried, because I already know me and staying away isn't going to be an option.
I just hope it's soon because the obsessive thoughts are definitely intrusive and I can't stay in bed all day touching myself ‚ If this flame burns out it will leave a scar. Good or bad.
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You still married? You said something about pending divorce.
Posted by Gennie
If he doesn't want a relationship, then WTF are you two doing?IDK!!! I wish I knew his song and dance. That's why I'm on this page to begin with.
All I know is, intuitively, we are really into each other. I get the feeling this is a defense mechanism and I'm waiting for it to break. If I'm wrong, well, at least I can say I tried, because I already know me and staying away isn't going to be an option.
I just hope it's soon because the obsessive thoughts are definitely intrusive and I can't stay in bed all day touching myself ‚ If this flame burns out it will leave a scar. Good or bad.
You still married? You said something about pending divorce.
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Yes £ Extremely separated though. We only talk if it's about our daughter. Getting him to sign off on anything is a huge deal and pain. I was extremely open about my situation to Scorp boy from the beginning though, and he encouraged me to talk about it despite my objections.
The reason I believe it has some bearing, besides the fact of, why wouldn't it? Is that Scorp originally withdrew after asking me if my daughter's father was at her birthday party. He was, and I told Scorp so. He seemed upset about it.
Btw, my ex is a Virgo. I have dealt with controlling on an extreme level.
Posted by Gennie
If he doesn't want a relationship, then WTF are you two doing?IDK!!! I wish I knew his song and dance. That's why I'm on this page to begin with.
All I know is, intuitively, we are really into each other. I get the feeling this is a defense mechanism and I'm waiting for it to break. If I'm wrong, well, at least I can say I tried, because I already know me and staying away isn't going to be an option.
I just hope it's soon because the obsessive thoughts are definitely intrusive and I can't stay in bed all day touching myself ‚ If this flame burns out it will leave a scar. Good or bad.
You still married? You said something about pending divorce.
Yes £ Extremely separated though. We only talk if it's about our daughter. Getting him to sign off on anything is a huge deal and pain. I was extremely open about my situation to Scorp boy from the beginning though, and he encouraged me to talk about it despite my objections.
The reason I believe it has some bearing, besides the fact of, why wouldn't it? Is that Scorp originally withdrew after asking me if my daughter's father was at her birthday party. He was, and I told Scorp so. He seemed upset about it.
Btw, my ex is a Virgo. I have dealt with controlling on an extreme level.click to expand
Yeah me still living with my ex in our house kinda freaked my Scorp out too.
Posted by Gennie
If he doesn't want a relationship, then WTF are you two doing?IDK!!! I wish I knew his song and dance. That's why I'm on this page to begin with.
All I know is, intuitively, we are really into each other. I get the feeling this is a defense mechanism and I'm waiting for it to break. If I'm wrong, well, at least I can say I tried, because I already know me and staying away isn't going to be an option.
I just hope it's soon because the obsessive thoughts are definitely intrusive and I can't stay in bed all day touching myself ‚ If this flame burns out it will leave a scar. Good or bad.
You still married? You said something about pending divorce.
Yes £ Extremely separated though. We only talk if it's about our daughter. Getting him to sign off on anything is a huge deal and pain. I was extremely open about my situation to Scorp boy from the beginning though, and he encouraged me to talk about it despite my objections.
The reason I believe it has some bearing, besides the fact of, why wouldn't it? Is that Scorp originally withdrew after asking me if my daughter's father was at her birthday party. He was, and I told Scorp so. He seemed upset about it.
Btw, my ex is a Virgo. I have dealt with controlling on an extreme level.Yeah me still living with my ex in our house kinda freaked my Scorp out too.
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No, no we don't live together. And haven't for almost a year. Scorp boy has been to my place and stayed the weekend even. But I get it, my ex is intimidating
It might be the ex factor and the fact you're not divorced yet. My sis is a Scorp dating a Taurus, he is in the middle of his divorce and still living with the ex because they are trying to slowly break it to their 3 girls. Their house is on the market and as soon as it sells they will move to different homes. This guy is super super into my sis, however she has told him that she will not get physical with him or anything else because technically he is still somebody elses. They can take the time to get to know each other and when his divorce is final, if they still have strong feeling for each other then they can be together. She has told my mom and I that she is falling in love with him but is keeping a distance because his divorce isn't final she feels that she needs to protect herself and her heart.
I don't know how it is for men but my bf is a Scorp and I know he would not have been ok if I was still technically taken (not divorced yet). I don't really think it is all about wanting to posses and control a person, like some say. Scorpios just feel everything so intensely that they go into protective mode over their own feelings. They want to know that you are going to give just as much as them and if they feel that you're not they will back away to protect themselves. That can start that stupid hot/cold thing.
Really? My Scorp is more afraid of me than my ex. I don't think that's it, I think he may be waiting for things to simmer down on your end since you'll be umbilical corded to your ex forever.
Posted by Reincarnation
I seriously doubt a Scorp man is going to take you seriously if you still have an ex hanging around.I think it's just sex. Nothing more.
You're probably mostly right.
If the ex is still around because of children being involved, I can see there being no issue.
If it's one of those "no one is willing to be an adult and just move on" ex situations, then yes...no way no how am I dealing with that crap.
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He has a kid too. And he talks about his ex enough that I think it is a combo of he's afraid to get hurt because of his ex issues, compounded with the fact that my ex is still around, whether I want him to be or not. It's not the best situation. I agree. But there is serious chemistry. I'd hate to throw it away on ex issues. They aren't worth it! «
too busy making ha ha
This is a good post. I was definitely drunk/impatient last night when I posted that last message (and wanting some ‚). I really need to real in my Aries tendencies and focus on my Piscean emotional connection with Scorp. And he has the texted this morning. He opens up then withdraws. We have sex, he hides. I am learning the meaning of patience £«‘. Hey, I am lashing out here and not at him, that's good right?
Posted by Taniwha
You were shit in bed.
Oh honey I know this isn't the case...
This does sound like a fwb relationship. Have fun, but protect your heart!
Send this yes or no? Other option is simply go ghost till he comes back around-
"I still don't know what happened to change your feelings about us, but I hope someday you'll open back up to me and maybe tell me why. I am moving home this summer, however, I'm just going to leave you alone, not because I want to, but because I feel that's what you want. Plus you pretty much told me so Š And I can't keep this up on my end. But, if you do ever go looking for love, I hope you'll come looking for me ðŸ'‹"
After I send it, I will not contact him. I do have willpower. It's just hard right now leaving things unsaid... Question is, will sending this make things better or worse?
Yes. I just got the green light from my work for the transfer. About two months ago he was super excited about the prospect of me moving back to Cincinnati. This was before the first "I need my space talk."
Which again, he went from being super clingy, 20 text a day, goodnight and good morning text/calls, putting me on FaceTime with his son, to needing space within 24 hours. And I still don't exactly know why. But when I saw him again this past week, it's like I can tell he wants to open up but is holding back. We devour each other. But it really isn't just sex. We TALK.
He told me how much he thought about me, how he was sorry for the Valentine's weekend, but, he hesitates. And there was the "I don't think you should stay the night bc I don't want to get invested again" moment. But then he asked me to stay anyway! And made me breakfast. And told me he was glad I did stay and I could see him again.
Then, after I leave, I try to reach out and... crickets. Sometimes. Then I get a random text ‘
UPDATE: Scorp boy would randomly text and snap and every so often I'd respond but wasn't into it and we never met up. Today he is texting saying he made a mistake, misses me, am I talking to anyone (no), and can we get back together?
What to do— I still live in Cbus btw (2hrs away)
Ug I know right
what happened? did the ac breakdown?
Posted by HouseCleaning
what happened? did the ac breakdown?
ROFLMAO
i think all the harleys need to duke it out in 1 thread and whoever wins gets too keep the username and the rest delete.
Posted by firebunny
i think all the harleys need to duke it out in 1 thread and whoever wins gets too keep the username and the rest delete.
We can bribe them with meth.
Well I have a Harley with license plate QU1NN. That's my nickname Š I don't know how you expect us to duke it out in one thread, but if it's with Batman trivia (esp Mad Love) I'm pretty confident. No meth required ‰ Not sure how you got that vibe from me, I'm a pothead ✌︘
Posted by HouseCleaning
what happened? did the ac breakdown?ROFLMAO
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Nope just feeling like a mermaid ŠðŸŒŠðŸ
Posted by HarleyQu1nn
Well I have a Harley with license plate QU1NN. That's my nickname Š I don't know how you expect us to duke it out in one thread, but if it's with Batman trivia (esp Mad Love) I'm pretty confident. No meth required ‰ Not sure how you got that vibe from me, I'm a pothead ✌︘
your pets' names have to be bud and lou
Like her hyenas? Omg that's a great idea, but I actually have Lando (boxer) and Princess Leia (chihuahua) I am pretty much fangirl extraordinaire
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I met this Scorpio who I actually knew from high school but we never really hung out back then. Currently we live around 2hrs apart but had been seeing each other about every other week for 3 mos.
He was running super hot. I was getting a little freaked by the intensity in fact, and was being slightly aloof.. until we had sex and it was omg amazing and I thought ok, I can deal with this. Lol. We have hooked up like 8x.
As soon as I began to match his intensity slightly he withdrew and said he didn't want a relationship based on sex, this happened with the last 4 girls (um, thanks?) and he needed his space. He cancelled our plans that weekend which happened to be VDay and 2 days away.
I didn't talk to him for a week. I unfriended him on FB and insta. He used to text me 20x a day. I got on snapchat for the first time last night and he immediately friended me and sent me a picture. It was him in devil horns and captioned "I am in your nightmares" lol. This is truth!
I messaged him back a bit and told him I didn't want to get hurt and I was following his lead. He stopped talking to me again.
WTF is going on.