Other Scorps who are _too_ loyal to former lovers?

I've had former lovers who do not seem to want to let go. Some keep calling randomly because they "want to hear my voice" or ask me questions that I think they could ask other people or look up online. But when they call I'm always nice and polite to them. I guess because I really liked them and the breakups were done relatively peacefully. Of course they were angry at me and blamed me and I didn't hear anything for a long time, and I moved on to other people. But out of the blue they tracked me down and initiated contact... I guess I don't have the heart to tell them to _never_ call me again. When we broke up I told them clearly that we were done, and I wouldn't be in touch anymore. I'm not committed to anybody (yet) and my thinking is if I were, a random phone call from somebody in the past wouldn't hurt anything. Just a friendly conversation from special people in my life. Plus I kept my word, which was to never be the one to call them. My question is: Am I being too nice?
I've ignored phone calls, but they never gave up... If I were married, I probably would say please don't call me at his number etc etc. but I'm not married and I'm not living with anyone.

Um no. I don't "do" ex's. They are an ex for a reason. It's the past and I say leave the damn past behind you.

I've only talked to one ex in a friendly sort of way and that was 8 years after we split. He was a Cap.


I ran my Libra ex off. The guy was probably terrified, looking for a Bible, throwing Holy water over his shoulder as he ran away from me I was so mean to him as I chased his butt off. Hopefully he got the message.
That is how I deal with a persistant ex but usually I'm so "charming" immediately after the break up that I really don't have to worry about those pesky ex's coming back..... just as I intended 🙂

I stayed friends w/ all my ex's except one. It is difficult for us to break that bond of friendship. Just because they connect w/ you doesn't mean they want you back. As a matter of fact, if you broached the subject....they would probably freak out.

I think that this happens sometimes. there are a few exes who I still speak with from time to time. But we are firends and did not end the relationship on bad terms. When I get mad, I cant stay mad long (I know, not a common Scorp trait). But typically when I am done, I am done.

Theres a rightful place for ex's..it's called the past..and it should remain there...it feels weird staying in contact with ex's..eeeek...no thanks..not for me...wish them well and all that jazz..but I don't want them in my future..

Posted by missmorals
Theres a rightful place for ex's..it's called the past..and it should remain there...it feels weird staying in contact with ex's..eeeek...no thanks..not for me...wish them well and all that jazz..but I don't want them in my future..

I don't want them in my future =)

I still talk to almost all of my exes unless they have a current girlfriend who would rather them not talk to me. I just like keeping people that had been a big part of my life still close to me. I'm like this with friends, family, and boyfriends.