Please help!!!!

Hi everybody.
I've posted about one hour ago my question but I don't know where did it go. Ok. I'm a cancer, he is a scorpio.
Our relationship it's rezumed only at sex and sending emails. I know, it sounds weird, but this is all we can get right now. All this is very frustraiting for both of us. The situation it's really complicated and I don't want to go there. He never reveled his feelings towards me, but he is sweet, carrying, loving. We used to have fun together but lately he changed. Maybe I'm wrong but this is how I feel. Anyway, he recently told me that he had the oportunity to have sex with somebody, but he didn't. When I've asked him why, he said that ... it wasn't that important, it would have been just casual sex, nothing more. Then he told me that he cares about me, has feelings for me, the sex it's great and to him is not just..fun, but he doesn't see us as exclusive or in a long-term relationship together.
I don't know what to understand from all of this. Can somebody hel me, please?

Hello, it's me again. The cancer-woman with the scorpio-guy.
I've omitted to ask something that it's really bothers me.
When I told him that I'm in love with him his reaction was...DON'T SAY THAT! How should I interpret his answer—
Thanks guys.

Adina...
You need to read between the lines with this guy. Can't you tell he only wanted to use you for sex? He's full of sh**. Sorry--that's the way I read him based on whay you told me and guys NEVER, EVER want to hear the words "I love you" nor do they ever want to say it thier girfriends/lover.

Most young men today are pigs. It's all about "what can she do for me right now, sexually?" It's the sad truth--they just want to get laid and not have the commitments. Come on Adina.....forget him. Go get someone else who is better--maybe older and more mature..

Men are basically selfish--it's an innate trait. It's almost like they can't help it either--not that I'm condoning that behavior--NOT AT ALL--but how often do men support women? In the workplace, in social or political circles, at parties, etc,. It's ALWAYS the women supporting the men. They want to know what you can do for THEM and that includes sex. ALWAYS.

If I have said it once and I have I will say it agian, men are from earth women are from earth deal with it.

dump him.

Adina, I've read both of your posts.. including the -you've told him you loved him..and his bad reaction. I'm assuming the two of you email often and for some reason the two of you can not come out in the open. He may be sharing as much as he can. Caring, loving, skips sex with others (possibly because of his feelings for you).. but not enough to be exclusive, nor long term. (And confirms this by feeling.. claustrophobic about the "love" word.) But he's honest about it. Can you accept those terms? ( Right/wrong.. good or bad, neither/either ).. it's up to you.

Thank you much guys for giving me your advise. Especialy to you, Espernaut. You are so right. He is sharing as much as he can. He was left by his wife, which he loved very much, and took with her their son. He was miserable for a long, long time. I thought at the begining that he is still in love with his ex -he is not anymore- or maybe he is afraid to love again. Than I found out that he is a SCORPIO, and as I've read, they ALMOST NEVER REVEAL THEIR FILLINGS. IT IS TRUE? About me, what can I say. I'm still sooooo married, but I and my hubby are going to divorce in a few months. We actually hate each other, and want to get out from this marriage ASAP. I didn't want to meet somobody else while I'm still married, and somehow I feel guilty about it, but it just happend. My hubby doesn't know about the guy. This is THE BIG PROBLEM. On the other hand, the guy wanted to spend more time with me, to know each other better, to see if we can form a cuple, but I coudn't afford that luxury, and I still can't. He WAS and he's still frustraited about it. BIG, BIG, BIG MESS.

CAN SOMEBODY TELL ME ABOUT THE CANCER-SCORPIO COMPATIBILITY?
Thanks.

A different spin on this situation here and I hope you don't mind if I share my thoughts.

This is more like a "rebound" relationship for him. He is going through a very difficult time, a very confusing time and so are you. When we find ourselves in this type of situation (being with someone) a lot of times it can be for reasons of distractions. Not having to deal with the problems at hand. These type of relationships that are founded under these circumstances rarely work out as they were not founded with both persons coming from a "healthy" place. I did not come here to pop your bubble only to offer another side to this picture. I have had many friends go through this exact situation. If you can, step back and see this for what it really is. What ever you choose remember, this is a learning experience for you.

He's a Scorpio? Now I really don't like him. Male scorps have been nothing but trouble for me--and it seems that way for alot of people.

Yes Sloane, he's a Scorpio. This is the reason that I've posted here. Can you tell me more about them? What they think, what they are....ANYTHING!!

Give it a rest, sloane. We're not all bad. You can't let a few bad experiences with a Scorp jade you.

a good point.
my mom well my step mom so people won't get confused. is a scorpio.i'll get out of her way and be quiet. and try not to get in her way. but she can also be very kind and gentle. it's just when she's mad i know to becareful. i myself have a scorpio in rising. but i just act it for a sec. then it's gone.
good luck.

Watch Sloane you'll end up marrying a Scorpio man!

Adina, since you're a Cancer, you should get along quite well with your Scorpio...The both of you are water signs--they compliment one another. All I can say about the Scorpio is based on the many Scorpios I have known...( I grew up with one)
First, Scorps tend to have a great sense of humour and are capable of making everyone laugh (think Dennis Miller). They are loyal to thier closest freinds and family but usually no else in thier tight circle. However, if you are able to be close to one, you will notice thier sense of loyalty toward you. They are suppose to love endearingly once they find thier true mate. Oh! And they are good at running a business and are good with (handling/managing)money too--great at making money. (Think Bill Gates, Sean Puffy Combs, Julia Roberts) Okay, for the negative qualities and WE all have them--not just scorps... Scorps have a tendecy to be jealous, a bit paranoid--especally when there's some conspiracy in the workplace (but then, I don't blame them for this 'cuz I would be too), they can be secretive, and heavan forbid, if you tick off a scorp, you will most likley experience their sentiment toward you which could be unpleasant. Now what could this be? It could be anything, however, you will feel it coming at you undoubtably. It usually leads to the other person wondering "what the hell did I do?" Some call it the "scorpion sting". Scorps also are want to be the center of attention and are better at being the boss than getting bossed around. There's a bit of an ego here--but not all scorps.
Good luck Adina--I hope this helps but remember that if, in case this relationship doesn't work--don't let it affect your heart. No one wants your heart broken.

Bill Gates---43 BILLION----sheeeshh!!! :-)
Sloane

PS..one thing I needed to add: You don't want to work for a scorp unless you are a virgo, they don't mind getting bossed around by the scorp, a cancer, a pisces or a capricorn --however, caps like to be thier own boss too...any other sign, look for another job.

Thank you much for the information Sloane.
Yes, we get along quite well. We feel good together. But what I really appreciate is that we have a good communication, and we don't lie each other. We had some disagreements, but we ended up laughing. ONCE, BUT ONLY ONCE, he got mad. He said something that I couldn't understand, and that was it. He NEVER, EVER told me what was all about. He is a good guy with a wonderful character, and I wouldn't want to lose him.

Hmmmmmmm, watch out for that hint of secrecy he has. he needs to communicate with you at all levels.