quick question: will he stay faithful or cheat

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anna1
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I am dating this guy and we plan to marry in near future. I just wanted your opinions whether he will stay faithful to me throughout his live or will cheat on me someday.

Sun: Capricorn
Moon: Scorpio
mercury: Capricorn
Venus: Capricorn
Mars: Scorpio
ascendant: Sagittarius

thanks

One thing that is concerning me most is that he is very secretive and mysterious I sometimes fear what he is like, from inside. he's very deep but I fear about his real intentions, any tips ?

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Just to put a positive spin on this. My grandparents had an arranged marriage. They couldn't stand each other.

But they built a house together and had 3 kids and have been married for more than 50 years. They started liking each other and respecting each other and at some point they fell for each other.

As my grandmother would say "you cannot build a house from the ground up and not feel something for the person you'll be living with"

Proximity will spark familiarity so if there's a minimum of respect there, you might like each other enough to make it work. No idea on cheating though.
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I Know i am a little bit insecure that's just because security is of utmost importance to me i can ignore all the other mistakes if he will offer me security.



Oooooooh now it makes sense! Ok forgive me for my previous response. Let me climb out this box I trapped my mind in......If its an arranged marriage Im guessing all you can really do is hope and put forth an effort to make things work in your favor. Good luck
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Posted by TokerX
Posted by Damnata
Just to put a positive spin on this.



WHY— :p

Posted by Damnata
familiarity... respect... you might like each other...



If that's your idea of love I pity you. 😉 Respect is of course a big part of it, but it's not enough, what you're describing is more like friendship.


Anyway, there's no way to tell if he'll cheat or not. Either he will, either he won't. If he does: sucks for you.
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umm, get off your high horse?😉

Not my idea of love but you can have a succesfull aranged marriage in the absence of love. Not all marriages are based on love and it's not either/or between "love and bliss" and "pain and misery"

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Posted by Damnata
Just to put a positive spin on this. My grandparents had an arranged marriage. They couldn't stand each other.

But they built a house together and had 3 kids and have been married for more than 50 years. They started liking each other and respecting each other and at some point they fell for each other.

As my grandmother would say "you cannot build a house from the ground up and not feel something for the person you'll be living with"

Proximity will spark familiarity so if there's a minimum of respect there, you might like each other enough to make it work. No idea on cheating though.



My marriage did the reverse of this, which is the more time spent in his company, the more I loathed him. I really do hate the motherfucking goddamn piece of shit, may he rot in hell. 😛
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As for the arranged marriage part: you have as much a chance of success as anyone else with any other kind of marriage. If he's an asshole, the marriage will be miserable no matter what you do. If he's not an asshole, you have a chance at a truly lovely partnership, assuming you're also not an asshole. The real deciding factor is if there's an asshole involved or not.

As for the insecurities you have, you need to look into your own heart and mind to find the strength to conquer those and lay them to rest. You won't find that in any other person. If you do, it's just a temporary fix that won't last.