Responding to things

ive noticed that the scorp doesnt say ANYTHING when i send him love letters or when i tell him something special. he always acts disinterested. I KNOW he isnt disinterested because he reacts more so than opening his mouth and giving me feedback.

why is that?

im trying to think if i ever responded to someone giving me something nice. i guess it is awkward but shit, not even a thanks?? usually i do say thank you unless its super cheesy or mushy, than im just like "dont ask me, just know that i saw it."

Posted by ellessque
LOL! There was as thread about that awhile back. Apparantly, we don't know how to say "thank you". 😛

SMH

DMV my scorp is like this too. i really think they get caught processing it. it's commonly thought that gifts require an exchange... nah. show a scorp love without demanding it returned and it will be returned 10 fold.

Posted by CreepyPants
DMV my scorp is like this too. i really think they get caught processing it. it's commonly thought that gifts require an exchange... nah. show a scorp love without demanding it returned and it will be returned 10 fold.

thats exactly right and that is what happens. a virgo told me like 3 years ago dont expect nething in return. just send and wait.

Posted by DMV
ive noticed that the scorp doesnt say ANYTHING when i send him love letters or when i tell him something special. he always acts disinterested. I KNOW he isnt disinterested because he reacts more so than opening his mouth and giving me feedback.

why is that?

I cannot speak for others, but those little things can find their way deep into the heart.
So deep, it may be difficult express the appropriate "thank you" response.

I am not exactly sure what that last sentence is trying to say:
"I KNOW he isnt disinterested because he reacts more so than opening his mouth and giving me feedback."

Turn the table around and sag might just simply say "thanks" to a gift that took a long time to make.
This simple "thanks" comes across as a lack of appreciation for deeper meanings and matters.

A Sag, if not careful, might optimistically build a bridge to nowhere, whereas a Scorp might feel the need to
optimistically blow it up so as to encourage the Sag to build a better bridge with a surer purpose.

Optimism is great if you have a truly valid purpose and are practical in accomplishing those goals in a space
of time that does not exceed your interest, lest you lose interest and yet another objective is not seen to completion.

I think this is one area where the Sagittarian and the Scorpion are formidable as one can encourage the other along to
accomplish a common goal that requires patience. -Optimism- and -Patience- are the TRUE gifts these two bring to the
table of their relationship.

MrFireBird how the hell are ya?

Posted by Mebs
MrFireBird how the hell are ya?

Hiya Mebs!!,
I am doin' the best I can, but I am scolded with "That's not good enough!".
Thank you for askin' 🙂
And you?

I'm cool thanks. Nice to see you 🙂

Posted by ellessque
lol

*guilty*

I get all quiet and stuff like it never happened.

yeah guilty too lol!!!

i think it's cos it sometimes feels like it's a forced response? like the person has sent you a lovely love letter or something and.....well are you SUPPOSED to respond? does that mean that my scorpy senses are right that when i get these kind of messages i instantly think that person has an expectation of a response.

so what do i do? do i just nonchalantly whizz off a manuscript of love proclamations. is that ok? or do you want us to more openly try and brush it under the carpet by responding with....'yeah, but what's for dinner?'

fact is....it's kinda icky and ewwwwy and i'm sure the main reason is usually that we know what we may say is gonna be judged as being true and we don't like to lie about our feelings. not saying he doesn't feel the same or anything but he just wants to express it without you soliciting that response.

Im my opinion when someone has a merc in scorp they rarely say much and are very quiet. Put that together with sun in scorp which is how they perceive the world and you have that reaction.

As a sun in scorp, we often take in a lot and don't reveal much of what we take in. Also we are very wary/skeptical of everything and everyone around us. But we do give off the perception that we're cool, calm and collected no matter what the situation is even though we have an intense feeling deep down. Also, as a Scorp we don't like weakness or showing it as it will allow a person to accomplish their motives using this against us, hence reaction.

I know I don't care for compliments as it gives me an icky feeling. Too many compliments or gifts raise my suspicion.

I don't know your case but if I have been on and off or had constant struggles with a someone, you can do whatever you like and I probably will not react because I will be skeptical of your motives. This may be because I have trust issues with you which may or may not get resolve or many other reasons. Especially, if you don't submit every once in a while so that i control the situation.

I agree with Mrfirebird and R1g0rM0rT1s also.

Posted by Mebs
I'm cool thanks. Nice to see you 🙂

That's Great! Nice to see you, too! 🙂

Posted by scorp1110
Im my opinion when someone has a merc in scorp they rarely say much and are very quiet. Put that together with sun in scorp which is how they perceive the world and you have that reaction.

As a sun in scorp, we often take in a lot and don't reveal much of what we take in. Also we are very wary/skeptical of everything and everyone around us. But we do give off the perception that we're cool, calm and collected no matter what the situation is even though we have an intense feeling deep down. Also, as a Scorp we don't like weakness or showing it as it will allow a person to accomplish their motives using this against us, hence reaction.

I know I don't care for compliments as it gives me an icky feeling. Too many compliments or gifts raise my suspicion.

I don't know your case but if I have been on and off or had constant struggles with a someone, you can do whatever you like and I probably will not react because I will be skeptical of your motives. This may be because I have trust issues with you which may or may not get resolve or many other reasons. Especially, if you don't submit every once in a while so that i control the situation.

In God We Trust, All Others, We Monitor.

Tips hat to Mrfirebird. Well put!

Lol. Y'all are something else.

now that i think about it. once, once he brought up a letter and told me that it sounded plagiarized. i told him to quit it and that i know he likes them. never really discussed it after that...that was like a year ago.


so we got

*trust
*insecurity
*awkwardness
*tight lips



so does the same apply if the scorp gives me something and i say nothing? does he have an expectation of a response?

i guess with scorps, loose lips sink ships.

Posted by DMV
now that i think about it. once, once he brought up a letter and told me that it sounded plagiarized. i told him to quit it and that i know he likes them. never really discussed it after that...that was like a year ago.


so we got

*trust
*insecurity
*awkwardness
*tight lips



so does the same apply if the scorp gives me something and i say nothing? does he have an expectation of a response?

i guess with scorps, loose lips sink ships.

That's right DMV.
What is said and done between the two should stay between the two of you.
Open your mouth and it's Bye Bye Johnny B. Goode

Regarding your letters.
Only you know for certain, but IF you are plagerizing someone else's work, it's not really you.
This "can" be seen as "lying" to yourself, which, in turn, is lying to him.


For example:
"Roses are red, my love violets are blue, sugar is sweet, my love, but not as sweet as you."

This is a line from the early 60s song "Roses are Red, My Love" sung by Bobby Vinton which became
a hit. And suppose you used it in a letter to your beau.

It's not that it couldn't be a meaningful line to him, but you would have to say something like
"Baby, I want to share how I feel about you and this was one song that hits home for me."
As crazy as it may sound, giving him a single red rose to go with it, might get his attention
in a positive way.

However, The song is more likely to be given to you by him, than the other way around.

nooooooooooooooooo. you read way too much in what i write. he meant that, it sounded so good that it couldnt be true.

when i say "tight lips" or "loose lips, sink ships" i didnt mean things between the 2. this isnt an issue of scorp/sag. what im saying is that scorpios are TIGHT LIPPED and it comes across that if you were to open your lips, youd sink a "ship." not an actual ship. insecurities.

Posted by DMV
when i say "tight lips" or "loose lips, sink ships" i didnt mean things between the 2. this isnt an issue of scorp/sag. what im saying is that scorpios are TIGHT LIPPED and it comes across that if you were to open your lips, youd sink a "ship." not an actual ship. insecurities.

Awe... The saying you are trying to quote is "Loose lips sink great ships". It was the motto of both civilians and
military during the war. In more blunt terms "Keep your mouth shut or the enemy will hear the secrets that you tell."
BAD, Very BADDDD!

I KNOW the ship wasn't literal in your application. The ship.... is your relationship.
You want to sink your ship, by all means talk. Sooner or later, what you say can come back around
and bite you in the butt.

Posted by MrFirebird

Posted by DMV
when i say "tight lips" or "loose lips, sink ships" i didnt mean things between the 2. this isnt an issue of scorp/sag. what im saying is that scorpios are TIGHT LIPPED and it comes across that if you were to open your lips, youd sink a "ship." not an actual ship. insecurities.

Awe... The saying you are trying to quote is "Loose lips sink great ships". It was the motto of both civilians and
military during the war. In more blunt terms "Keep your mouth shut or the enemy will hear the secrets that you tell."
BAD, Very BADDDD!

I KNOW the ship wasn't literal in your application. The ship.... is your relationship.
You want to sink your ship, by all means talk. Sooner or later, what you say can come back around
and bite you in the butt.

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well what im trying to say is, HE thinks that being more talkative with sink the ship, which is why he remains so hush hush. i truly believe that if he makes a big deal about "things" than it will stop. its all all too good to be true to him. he doesnt want them to stop.

Posted by DMV
now that i think about it. once, once he brought up a letter and told me that it sounded plagiarized. i told him to quit it and that i know he likes them. never really discussed it after that...that was like a year ago.


so we got

*trust
*insecurity
*awkwardness
*tight lips



so does the same apply if the scorp gives me something and i say nothing? does he have an expectation of a response?

i guess with scorps, loose lips sink ships.

As far as your note saying it seemed plagiarized lmaoooooooooooo.

I'm not laughing at you but I'm laughing because I said that to an ex before.

Speaking from my experience, you may not be open with your feelings normally with him, but when you opened up in the letter you exhibited characteristics that he was not accustomed too. We scorps tend to study the person and when they that person does something they usually don't it raises a red flag.

As far as him giving you something and you don't respond, usually we don't need that because we can feel your emotion regardless if you do or don't say anything, also with that we usually studied you enough to know how you feel.

With that said in my opinion it's hard to rebuild anything with a scorpio if you and him been through a lot together. Scorpio's enter a relationship with a trust issue, so any trust broken along the way just builds on it which you can't fix.

Posted by ellessque
okay....I'm seeing insecurities being thrown out way too loosely.

My definition of insecurities....is when you feel as though you are not good enough or not capable of doing something.

I'm not sure of your definition of insecurities but I'm curious what it is to you.

My reaction is NOT insecurities. I just don't process those kinds of feelings very well.....period.

I can process just about any feeling in the entire world with grace, ease and expertise if it's NOT of a romantic kind. 😛

I'm not embarrassed or insecure about it either. I know this about myself and it's a give or take situation. If you can't handle that I'm going to turn beat red and try to shrink in my chair like I want the ground to swallow me up....then keep it moving....because that's NOT going to change about me and it's not a flaw. It's just the way I am 😄

Now, if that bothered me and I felt like it was a problem....then, yes, it would be an insecurity. But just because you have a flaw or something to work on....doesn't MEAN it defaults to an insecurity.

*gets down from soap box* 😄

Please step back on the soap box.

**Gives standing ovation and blows whistles** That is a great way to put insecurities.

@ Elle,

i wasnt referring to you specifically as being insecure. but i think alot of scorp men are. things are just too good to be true. i dont feel like the scorp think he is deserving of alot based on his past. as confident as he may come across, he's still afraid of being hurt.

were talking about romantic things. love letters. love letters are written to express an emotion; a good one. i can feel that he loves them, but the fact that he doesn't voice it can be a bit unnerving to someone who just started dealing with a scorp. others have said that there shouldn't be an expectation of a response. but i bet there's an expectation of a response when the scorp shows affection because you guys are sensitive to rejection when it comes to matters of the heart.

im used to the tight lips and i know his routine, but to other people it drives us up the wall and snowballs. i feel like alot of arguments could be resolved if scorps opened their mouths more, but that only comes with anger, more trust, and a loss on insecurity. hell, i see it on these boards all da time. i have to push certain buttons to get a scorponic person to loosen those tight lips, getting them pissed off is a way to do it. anger is a much easier emotion to emot than love. what spews out is a barrage of shit, but its all intel to me.


so no, i wasnt referring to you as being insecure. i will say that i can be extremely insecure when it comes to matters of the heart.

@scorp,

Speaking from my experience, you may not be open with your feelings normally with him, but when you opened up in the letter you exhibited characteristics that he was not accustomed too. We scorps tend to study the person and when they that person does something they usually don't it raises a red flag.

i can understand that. makes complete sense.

Ok Pardon me for a second because I'm about to go no holds barred, politically incorrect and all that other stuff.

@DMV

I DON"T KNOW YOUR SITUATION WITH THE SCORP. But sometimes it pays to listen. For every comment a scorp gives, you seem to have an answer for why it's not that way. Speaking as a male scorp and having male scorp friends, like Elle said it is not insecurity.

My opinion on the situation with you and him:

AS a scorp male we know we are strong enough to get whatever we want. If we really want to be WITH YOU there is nothing that will stop us from going after you, even if you don't want us we may approach you with so much intensity trying hard to be with you.

It seems like he only wants sex from you nothing else. He may like you but still all he wants is sex and that's why he may stay around. A scorp loves sex, sag loves sex. But there's a catch scorps can be possessive so if you are our gf or we are in the talking stage or whatever it is, we want you to be loyal to us. You can do whatever you want or sleep with whomever you choose to and we won't say a word but we will not be with you no matter what because we have observed your actions and decided no matter what the feeling is you are not for us. But we still will continue to have sex with you because we are men and love sex. Since we don't talk much (if he has merc in sag) it leaves you open to guessing and loss trying to figure out what is going on. Meanwhie, we get what we want and your still going in circles.

Once again I don't know the full story I only see what you have posted over the past 6 months. But if I were him that's what I would do, and have done before.

Posted by Ellybean

DMV, my scorp does the same. He does randomly acknowledge and compliment those little things too though. But it's always when I least expect it.

You said he's been burned too before right? Scorp guys are hyper vigilant in monitoring your actions and comparing your words too them, and can become paranoid about it if they've been hurt. If he feels they don't match he might not want to express thanks or return his thoughts or feelings out of self preservation. Doesn't mean they don't, just that he feels they don't.

I agree

ya but when they do open up sometimes it too much

Posted by DMV
ive noticed that the scorp doesnt say ANYTHING when i send him love letters or when i tell him something special. he always acts disinterested. I KNOW he isnt disinterested because he reacts more so than opening his mouth and giving me feedback.

why is that?

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I freeze personally. Don't know why. The only explanation I can give is...actually too personal, but the love is felt and shared. I just express it through my actions not a lot of flowery words. I'm not Shakespeare FFS. If you "know" he isn't disinterested when you do these things than just ride it. Don't let it bother you so much. Better yet, ask him why he doesn't say anything.

Posted by DMV
i guess it is awkward but shit, not even a thanks?? usually i do say thank you unless its super cheesy or mushy, than im just like "dont ask me, just know that i saw it."

LOL! I'll just stick with a private smile and not say anything at all.....

Posted by CreepyPants
it's commonly thought that gifts require an exchange... nah. show a scorp love without demanding it returned and it will be returned 10 fold.

+1

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DMV
i guess it is awkward but shit, not even a thanks?? usually i do say thank you unless its super cheesy or mushy, than im just like "dont ask me, just know that i saw it."

LOL! I'll just stick with a private smile and not say anything at all.....

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I wanted to add, and should have explained better above, for me, it seems a little weird to say "thank you" to a sentimental card/note where a love one is expressing their feelings. It actually feels impersonal to me, if that makes any sense. Here you are (or my bf for this example) opening up his heart to me, something that for me does not come easy and I just causally say "gee thanks". Reminds me of a episode of Seinfeld. Seems a little "meh" to me, but that's just me. I reserve "thank you" for a favour, gifts or passing the ketchup. Not intimate feeling expressed....

Posted by scorp1110
Ok Pardon me for a second because I'm about to go no holds barred, politically incorrect and all that other stuff.

@DMV

I DON"T KNOW YOUR SITUATION WITH THE SCORP. But sometimes it pays to listen. For every comment a scorp gives, you seem to have an answer for why it's not that way. Speaking as a male scorp and having male scorp friends, like Elle said it is not insecurity.

My opinion on the situation with you and him:

AS a scorp male we know we are strong enough to get whatever we want. If we really want to be WITH YOU there is nothing that will stop us from going after you, even if you don't want us we may approach you with so much intensity trying hard to be with you.

It seems like he only wants sex from you nothing else. He may like you but still all he wants is sex and that's why he may stay around. A scorp loves sex, sag loves sex. But there's a catch scorps can be possessive so if you are our gf or we are in the talking stage or whatever it is, we want you to be loyal to us. You can do whatever you want or sleep with whomever you choose to and we won't say a word but we will not be with you no matter what because we have observed your actions and decided no matter what the feeling is you are not for us. But we still will continue to have sex with you because we are men and love sex. Since we don't talk much (if he has merc in sag) it leaves you open to guessing and loss trying to figure out what is going on. Meanwhie, we get what we want and your still going in circles.

Once again I don't know the full story I only see what you have posted over the past 6 months. But if I were him that's what I would do, and have done before.

say what now? because i have an opinion on things that differ from what someone may lay out? excuse me for living. im confused at your whole post. my perception is my reality, which may differ from what you perceive to be the reality.

Posted by Ellybean
You air and fire moon scorps are weird. 😛 makes me glad to be a cancer moon for once in my life. I love to roll around inside of and surrounded by feelings. Often times too much...

DMV, my scorp does the same. He does randomly acknowledge and compliment those little things too though. But it's always when I least expect it.

You said he's been burned too before right? Scorp guys are hyper vigilant in monitoring your actions and comparing your words too them, and can become paranoid about it if they've been hurt. If he feels they don't match he might not want to express thanks or return his thoughts or feelings out of self preservation. Doesn't mean they don't, just that he feels they don't.

Gem moons on water suns are strange too though to me. A lot of the ones I know have some sort of social imbalance.

i dont know for sure if he's been hurt. its just the way he acts. he acts like a girl whose had her heart broken.

If he feels they don't match he might not want to express thanks or return his thoughts or feelings out of self preservation. Doesn't mean they don't, just that he feels they don't.

yes. that makes sense. he does show it, he just doesnt say it. he doesnt say thank you to alot of people. he's being monitored 2.

Posted by Sag89
ya but when they do open up sometimes it too much

cause its not consistent. which probably means because the mate isnt being consistent. its like whose on first?

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DMV
ive noticed that the scorp doesnt say ANYTHING when i send him love letters or when i tell him something special. he always acts disinterested. I KNOW he isnt disinterested because he reacts more so than opening his mouth and giving me feedback.

why is that?

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I freeze personally. Don't know why. The only explanation I can give is...actually too personal, but the love is felt and shared. I just express it through my actions not a lot of flowery words. I'm not Shakespeare FFS. If you "know" he isn't disinterested when you do these things than just ride it. Don't let it bother you so much. Better yet, ask him why he doesn't say anything.

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it doesnt like keep me up at night...but its just interesting ya know? like you said, you have to feel the under currents of the emotions. not so much what comes out of their mouth.

Posted by PhoenixRising

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Posted by DMV
i guess it is awkward but shit, not even a thanks?? usually i do say thank you unless its super cheesy or mushy, than im just like "dont ask me, just know that i saw it."

LOL! I'll just stick with a private smile and not say anything at all.....

I wanted to add, and should have explained better above, for me, it seems a little weird to say "thank you" to a sentimental card/note where a love one is expressing their feelings. It actually feels impersonal to me, if that makes any sense. Here you are (or my bf for this example) opening up his heart to me, something that for me does not come easy and I just causally say "gee thanks". Reminds me of a episode of Seinfeld. Seems a little "meh" to me, but that's just me. I reserve "thank you" for a favour, gifts or passing the ketchup. Not intimate feeling expressed....

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totally makes sense

Posted by DMV

say what now? because i have an opinion on things that differ from what someone may lay out? excuse me for living. im confused at your whole post. my perception is my reality, which may differ from what you perceive to be the reality.

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There's a difference between giving your opinion on the actions of one person, and generalizing a group to based on one or two persons. Even if you read the comment Elle made about insecurities, the following post you say well not her but the scorp men are this way. If you really want our opinion just ask, we tell, your read and process, don't manipulate the situation to fit the answer you are looking for.

Your perception is your reality, Yes. The only problem is with Mars square Neptune which you and I both share. That reality may not be the actuality of the situation. Yes, you taught me that. After doing research I have noticed that is true, neptune does cloud our vision to the point we are going in circles and don't understand what is going on. Take an objective view will help you better.

As for my opinion of what what he is doing that is straight forward. If your still confused ask a more clear questions and I will do my best to answer.

I'm not trying to come off rude and have no problems with you. Just tossing my 2 shiny pennies.

On that note your excused and can live now.

Actions speak louder than words.

@DMV

And yes that last part about you can live now was a joke.

But seriously, what do you want from the scorp?

Every time I come on here which is rarely for the past 8 months. There is always a new post on you and him.

PUTTING ON MY SCORPIO INVESTIGATION HAT:

To answer your question the following 2 posts are proofs that you have hurt him, and others have said you were and or are being used as I have suggested. If you want more I would be glad to research more during my free time to give you more.

Posted by DMV

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Posted by everevolvingepithet
How can you expect honesty from him when you are far from the epitome of honesty yourself (again, purely from the cut of your jib on here) ?

i think i was very honest with him. i put it all out there. why i do the hot/cold, etc. he chose to be a seven year old and went in a different direction. he could have been an adult and addressed me like i did with him.

You had multiple guys going on at the same time and came here laughing and joking about you're the queen bee in the thick of it all ?

yes, i did have multiple guys going on. im not committed to anyone. i never called myself queen bee?! did i? this me who i am. i like men, i like sleeping with men, i like to party, i like to laugh and joke. i live a great life. i like it. i wake up singing. lol.

i know not everyone agrees with my life style because its taboo and its different.

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A scorpio usually does not agree with your life style and just see's it as fun but not someone to take serious, since we are POSSESSIVE, and JEALOUS "supposedly".

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Posted by everevolvingepithet
He won't tell you what hurts him given your mindset, and yeah a 3some behind his back makes you dirt I'd say, and to some degree that's correct (don't know how deep things were at that time), but it wasn't a clear decision as I remember. you were left alone at a party with two people canoodling and you joined in right ?
Not that clear cut if anything drunken and the sort of thing to get outta the way in the late teens/early twenties.
Have you entertained the thought that you may have been used for that reason ?
DOn't blame the booze or your friend either, the more you post the more it seems it all stems from you and furtermore the '1st place above all else' mentality that you tend to put across on the boards.
My own opinion is that you've been used and you're having trouble stomaching it, and personally I would never entertain anything of depth with a woman like that, if that truly is the case.
Hope this helps though.

what mindset is that?

the 3some was behind his back but im not ashamed of it and i wont apologize for it. he is not my man. i dont belong to him. he gets pissed off even when i dance or have a innocent conversation with other men; even with mutal male friends. he doesnt get to tell me what to do. the 3some would in fact make me dirt IF i was trying to be his girlfriend and in face acting all lovey dovey. lol, we werent even on speaking terms; his choice. he came to the party and didnt say one word to me. oh well, carry on.

i was drunk as a skunk. but i knew what i was doing. i take personal responsibility.

i think that we both fell in love with a fantasy and then reality set in. hard.

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THIS DEFINITELY HURT him.

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Although, you paint yourself on here as quite promiscuous and quite the 'take no shit play the playa' DMV, it may just be in this case that the game has played you.
Taking that into account, no doubt people you've come into contact with in relation to the above will have at some point been affected in a similar way because of your part in proceedings. Getting angry because it's your (karmic?) turn won't help matters I do think.

see, i dont think i did get played at all. what i do think is that i met my match and he met his. i think we both got carried away and then reality set in. i am one way and he is another.

im not angry. im actually very content. i feel great. lol, i called into this radio show the other day Bubba the Love Sponge and i cant wait to meet him tommorrow.

i never let anyone get the best of me, and this scorp is no exception. close, but no cigar.

i think he is afraid of me, which is why he talks so much shit but never to my face. he always seems to grow a pair when we are texting or emailing. but face to face, hes shy.

he's still in love with me and vice versa. feelings like that dont go away overnight.

So you don't let it get the best of you yet you got your friends and a radio show involved ?

lol, the radio show doesnt know anything about it. thats not what i meant by the post. all im saying is that the scorp doesnt consume my life.

of course my besties are going to get involved. they love me. they saw me hurt and went to action. ride or die.

I know you're hurting, but friends 'ride or die' in this context ?
Hehehe😉😉

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Enough said!

Posted by scorp1110

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Posted by everevolvingepithet
He won't tell you what hurts him given your mindset, and yeah a 3some behind his back makes you dirt I'd say, and to some degree that's correct (don't know how deep things were at that time), but it wasn't a clear decision as I remember. you were left alone at a party with two people canoodling and you joined in right ?
Not that clear cut if anything drunken and the sort of thing to get outta the way in the late teens/early twenties.
Have you entertained the thought that you may have been used for that reason ?
DOn't blame the booze or your friend either, the more you post the more it seems it all stems from you and furtermore the '1st place above all else' mentality that you tend to put across on the boards.
My own opinion is that you've been used and you're having trouble stomaching it, and personally I would never entertain anything of depth with a woman like that, if that truly is the case.
Hope this helps though.

what mindset is that?

the 3some was behind his back but im not ashamed of it and i wont apologize for it. he is not my man. i dont belong to him. he gets pissed off even when i dance or have a innocent conversation with other men; even with mutal male friends. he doesnt get to tell me what to do. the 3some would in fact make me dirt IF i was trying to be his girlfriend and in face acting all lovey dovey. lol, we werent even on speaking terms; his choice. he came to the party and didnt say one word to me. oh well, carry on.

i was drunk as a skunk. but i knew what i was doing. i take personal responsibility.

i think that we both fell in love with a fantasy and then reality set in. hard.

THIS DEFINITELY HURT him.

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Is this the same thread where we were talkin' "love letters" and proper response—
then we read "3some" behind his back—?
Really, DMV, that's a shame. 😢

Explains why he don't fall for the letters.
Time for you to take personal responsibility for your actions.

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ive noticed that the scorp doesnt say ANYTHING when i send him love letters or when i tell him something special. he always acts disinterested. I KNOW he isnt disinterested because he reacts more so than opening his mouth and giving me feedback.

why is that?

Scorpios are probably the most negative sign there is. They are so used to being in the defensive and expecting the worst from people, that for instance the concept of positive reassurance seems totally foreign to them. Some people only feel the need of reacting to the negative and taking for granted the positive. Thats why in general I try to steer clear of lots of scorpios, and thats also the reason I like surrounding myself with positive people, like Sags.

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Every time I come on here which is rarely for the past 8 months. There is always a new post on you and him.

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How can you expect honesty from him when you are far from the epitome of honesty yourself (again, purely from the cut of your jib on here) ?

i think i was very honest with him. i put it all out there. why i do the hot/cold, etc. he chose to be a seven year old and went in a different direction. he could have been an adult and addressed me like i did with him.

You had multiple guys going on at the same time and came here laughing and joking about you're the queen bee in the thick of it all ?

yes, i did have multiple guys going on. im not committed to anyone. i never called myself queen bee?! did i? this me who i am. i like men, i like sleeping with men, i like to party, i like to laugh and joke. i live a great life. i like it. i wake up singing. lol.

i know not everyone agrees with my life style because its taboo and its different.

A scorpio usually does not agree with your life style and just see's it as fun but not someone to take serious, since we are POSSESSIVE, and JEALOUS "supposedly".

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He won't tell you what hurts him given your mindset, and yeah a 3some behind his back makes you dirt I'd say, and to some degree that's correct (don't know how deep things were at that time), but it wasn't a clear decision as I remember. you were left alone at a party with two people canoodling and you joined in right ?
Not that clear cut if anything drunken and the sort of thing to get outta the way in the late teens/early twenties.
Have you entertained the thought that you may have been used for that reason ?
DOn't blame the booze or your friend either, the more you post the more it seems it all stems from you and furtermore the '1st place above all else' mentality that you tend to put across on the boards.
My own opinion is that you've been used and you're having trouble stomaching it, and personally I would never entertain anything of depth with a woman like that, if that truly is the case.
Hope this helps though.

what mindset is that?

the 3some was behind his back but im not ashamed of it and i wont apologize for it. he is not my man. i dont belong to him. he gets pissed off even when i dance or have a innocent conversation with other men; even with mutal male friends. he doesnt get to tell me what to do. the 3some would in fact make me dirt IF i was trying to be his girlfriend and in face acting all lovey dovey. lol, we werent even on speaking terms; his choice. he came to the party and didnt say one word to me. oh well, carry on.

i was drunk as a skunk. but i knew what i was doing. i take personal responsibility.

i think that we both fell in love with a fantasy and then reality set in. hard.

THIS DEFINITELY HURT him.

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Although, you paint yourself on here as quite promiscuous and quite the 'take no shit play the playa' DMV, it may just be in this case that the game has played you.
Taking that into account, no doubt people you've come into contact with in relation to the above will have at some point been affected in a similar way because of your part in proceedings. Getting angry because it's your (karmic?) turn won't help matters I do think.

see, i dont think i did get played at all. what i do think is that i met my match and he met his. i think we both got carried away and then reality set in. i am one way and he is another.

im not angry. im actually very content. i feel great. lol, i called into this radio show the other day Bubba the Love Sponge and i cant wait to meet him tommorrow.

i never let anyone get the best of me, and this scorp is no exception. close, but no cigar.

i think he is afraid of me, which is why he talks so much shit but never to my face. he always seems to grow a pair when we are texting or emailing. but face to face, hes shy.

he's still in love with me and vice versa. feelings like that dont go away overnight.

So you don't let it get the best of you yet you got your friends and a radio show involved ?

lol, the radio show doesnt know anything about it. thats not what i meant by the post. all im saying is that the scorp doesnt consume my life.

of course my besties are going to get involved. they love me. they saw me hurt and went to action. ride or die.

I know you're hurting, but friends 'ride or die' in this context ?
Hehehe😉😉

Enough said!

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