scorpio man driving me nuts

Hello all, I'm in a relationship with a scorpio man, he's attentive, super smart and sexy, however, he always trys to make me jealous. He's always saying there is some woman that was staring at him, propositioning him, blah blah. I usually try to make it ridiculous like "yes I'm sure she was" in a patronizing way, or ignore him, sometimes turn the tables and mention someone approaching me, the only thing that seems to disappoint is when I have no reaction. What's the best way to handle it, should I ignore him and say "whatever" like I don't care, what is he trying to prove? I am a jealous person by nature so it bugs me

Call him out!

Call him out on the foolishness!

Now.

Nip it in the Butt.
You need to make it known you are not going to continue with the rubbish.
Its not funny, just plain hurtful and its unnnecessary in a healthy relationship.
Asure him, if need be, you care about him alot and it truly does nothing for the two of you but take the relationship two steps backward each time there is a progression.


Tell him word for word if you have to...just make sure you tell him.

He's trying to play stupid games.

My ex Scorpio was like that. I didn't like it though.

Ur a jealous person by nature so he wants to mess with you. I understand you.

I have Moon and Venus in Taurus LOL.

does he know you are jealous by nature? I ask this because I'm a taurus and I
sometimes can't hide my jealousy so *men* in general, not necessarily just Scorps
enjoy getting a rise out of you, because they can.






Oh my god Ferdy. Same here.

I swear it's my Taurus placements.

Moon in Taurus

Venus in Taurus

LOLOLOLOL

I am cursed LOL

Looks like you already know the answer to your question.

"the only thing that seems to disappoint is when I have no reaction." Ta da !

"I am a jealous person by nature so it bugs me"

...which is why he's doing it...he knows that and he wants a reaction to make himself feel better.

"What's the best way to handle it, should I ignore him"

Yes

"and say "whatever" like I don't care"

No

You ignore him and change the topic like you didnt even hear what he said. Works like a charm...sorta like "Wow...look at those shoes....I love em...don't you think they'd look good on me?" and drag him into the shop.

Scorp men try to make you jealous to gauge how you feel about them. They're certainly not the only sign that does this, but because when they feel jealousy and possessiveness, they know they care for someone, they use it as a tool on their partners. It also saves them from just coming out and asking how you feel about them (which they will never do, especially not in the beginning).

The best response? Immediately start flirting with the waiter/bartender/nearest passing attractive male. I've used this tactic on all three of the Scorpio men I've been in relationships with. It changes their tune every time, and usually stops the behavior altogether.

perfectly put except the flirting with other men part. if you do then you act just like him...unless you want to be like him😉

You took the words right out of my mouth ariesgirl. I would not do the flirting if I were you taurus girl.

It then becomes a game of tit for tat which will accomplish nothing but resentment. He wants a reaction.

If you give him nothing to work with, he'll stop. Simple as that.

exactly!!! the less game playing the better it is.

Then he will continue to do it. If you enjoy it, then by all means just ignore it.

They do this to get a rise out of you. Ignoring it will only make them try harder. But, by all means, carry on. lol

can you tell him to stop because it makes you feel like it's disrespectful to you and see what happens.

"can you tell him to stop because it makes you feel like it's disrespectful to you and see what happens."

Then you've just given him the ammunition to push your buttons whenever he sees fit.

Eventually, you'll get past these silly testing games and on to something deeper if the relationship survives. But, if you fail the test, it won't even get that far. Admitting he's hurt you is a weakness, and that is how he will see it and he will exploit it.

If you want a Scorpio, you DO have to play their game in the beginning...and play it better than all the others before you have done.

She could tell him aries but he already knows this AND he gets affirmation that it bothers her so he'll do it more.

The fact that he does it in the first place shows his immaturity.

As for ignoring him will make him do it more, that's absurd. She's already noticed a difference when she shows no reaction. It's common sense.

If someone is trying to get you to react and each time he tries you don't will he continue or will he stop?

Running along and flirting with someone else IS showing a reaction.

I am bothered so I'm going to bother you too.

It's just ridiculous but I guess it works for some.

Um...would any of you scorps like to comment on your characteristic persistence? lol

I've tried the ignore thing several times...never stopped the behavior. The flirting did, ever time. When the trying to make me jealous act stopped, so did my flirting. A truce, if you will.

*every time.

Either way, you're playing a game. Pretending to ignore it, when you're obviously having a reaction to it is still masking your true feelings. If you're going to pretend anything, you might as well take the course that will stop the behavior.

It depends sea siren. If you ignore him and pout, you may as well tell him it bothers you cuz then it's obvious and he'll keep doing it.

If you ignore it in a way that it doesn't change your mood and you remain as you are, he has nothing to work with.

I guess I just try to advise against blatant tit for tat games. Especially those that involve third parties.

"If she doesn't say anything or tell me to cut it out, I'm gonna assume she's weak for not telling me I'm being an marker , and I might think I have a weak gf to let me disrespect her to her face."

So ignoring the behavior would not work, eh? 😉 Thanks for proving my point.

Sag, I think we've established in the other thread that you are far more open and honest than those who intentionally try to make their partner jealous. That is scorp male M.O.
Aries men too, I've noticed.

If you mirror someone's behavior back to them, and they don't like it, they will most likely cut it out.

Sag why the hell does she have to tell you anything?

You obviously know it's wrong, so why do it?

See the game playing here? What exactly does it accomplish?

I already advised against blatant games. The only way to fully stop this without game playing is to put your foot down and rationally tell him you will NOT be subjected to the foolishness!


You all really need to learn to communicate your issues diplomatically with anyone really.

Your foolish Ferdy.

Everyone plays games in relationships at some point. We may not want to, but we've all done it. It's part of the process. Some just enjoy them more than others.

"A lot of the women here complain that the scorps walk all over them."

Those are the types they usually leave. Scorpio men and women, actually, won't tolerate a weak partner for long.

BTW, Sag, my brother is a Saggie too. You remind me a lot of him. He's one of the sweetest, most honest people in the whole world. He's getting married in the fall to a nice Aquarian girl. Just thought I'd throw that out there..lol

Mayhaps you should visit the Aquarian board on occasion..never know. Lady M might adopt you as one of her pets. 🙂

Sag what you're talking about is a different thing altogether.

I understood from the original post that he only "says" these things. He doesn't actually do them in front of her. I could be wrong.

In your scenario, I would dump the guy on the spot.

Ferdy jeeeezus, please delete this guy's contacts. This is not healthy.

I agree emeraldgem. Bad idea.

😉 @ SS

I need to know his height first and formeost.

How tall are you Sagaliscious?

^^^ if only I'd met you 20 years ago LOL

Perfect!

Your hired.

once i told my scorp that telling me about other women and flirting with them is disrespectful to me and i don't need to know about that. i told him that i'd never do that to him because i respect him. he apologized and never did it again. now, whenever other women are involved he makes sure that i don't have a reason to be jealous. he only pokes me with a jealousy thing as a joke. i guess, it works differently with everybody.

Or aries maybe I've just been with mine too long to let it bother me...I dont know. To be honest he'd NEVER flirt with anyone in front of me. He may mention getting attention, but I'm just not bothered cuz I know he's with me...again, when you've been with someone that long...it gets old.

I totally understand when it's a relatively new relationship...but when I personally feel instinctively secure in a relationship I dont show any jealousy...but that's just the way I'm made, I guess. I'm just not easy to read.

"- games..........forget it."

LOL. We ALL play them. Some of us are just willing to admit it. 😛

I find it sexy sometimes actually, but I've never really been a jealous person. If someone doesn't want to be with me, I don't want to be with them either. I make that very clear from the beginning. Some have not believed me on this, tested me on it, and then they're history. They then have the annoying habit of continuing to reappear trying to get back in. Nope.

I find it kind of endearing when a guy is trying to make me jealous, actually. Immature and silly, yes, but kinda cute in the "awwww, you really think that will work?" way. But, I always see right through it.

I guess if it worked, I might feel differently.

Ferdy, I think you should adopt it, too, hon. I know it's easier said than done. The experience you're going through helps build that attitude, though. You walk away from those things, hopefully, having learned you will NEVER put yourself through that again. Then when you meet the right man...a REAL man, you'll wonder why you ever put up with that crap in the first place. Trust me. 😉

I personally think your going for the wrong women Saga. Has nothing to do with age. You just might only find the 'bad girls' attractive.


As for you new job you will be contacted later with further instructions on the assumed position😉 🙂

"...and wanted - sort of - by a hot Taurus."

OMG Sag...sssssh...no need to spread the word about my hotness. Sheeesh...I can't show you ANYthing 😛

"I do like older women, Newbie"

Hmmmm...dont I know it.

"As for you new job you will be contacted later with further instructions on the assumed position"

Lady M, do I get any recruitment commission for this? LOL I do know quite a few attractive young Sag boys looking for a good home. Just sayin. 🙂

he's trying to see if you care. to us jealousy means that you care. i do the same thing when i'm not getting reassurance from the person that i am with. if he's quite and doesn't say anything that pisses me off becuz it makes me feel stupid, if he gets mad than i've done my job and i'm satisfied...but if he were to put me in my place and tell me to knock it off than i would still be satisfied becuz he's giving me a reaction but i would also respect it and i wouldn't do it anymore..

"he's trying to see if you care. to us jealousy means that you care. i do the same thing when i'm not getting reassurance from the person that i am with."

I tried to explain this earlier, MsScorpion...they don't wanna be hearin' it. lol

oh i didn't even see that..well you were telling the truth...if they don't want to hear than oh well...

Yes, you will. I always reward my loyal patrons.


You will have first pick!

Fabulous! *making spreadsheet of victims, errrr..lucky finalists*

Another test!!! Scorpio men do that mention someone else is interested some time to see what your reaction is. Although they are intensely jealous. They like to do what they want when they want but it kind of boosts their ego when they think you are jealous about someone fancying them. It is a slight turn on to them a small sense of reassurance.