Scorpio man on "break"

I have been dating my Scorpio male for a little over 6 months, he has been acting shady all week. He went two days without contact and today I asked what had him so distant. So he says all of a sudden he can't be in a relationship right now, he has a lot of issues with himself he has to work on, and he needs space. But apparently he says he doesn't want anything with anyone else, and he isn't looking for anyone else but he wouldn't hold it against me if I dated other people while we're on a break. What the fuck?? I'm furious and he even adds that I have guys approaching me so much so he would understand. He said he isn't going to date anyone else during this break. This is out of no where, we had a really great weekend together and then this shit. I asked how long he wanted to go on a break and he said he doesn't know. Do I wait? Has anyone else had to deal with this?

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Wait. March is a big month for Scorps.

He's been so weird, and I've been super emotional

Posted by Arielle83
"I'm furious and he even adds that I have guys approaching me so much so he would understand."

That's prob why you're on a break. It makes him uncomfortable and he's wondering how loyal you are.

He was going off one incident with a guy at work that was twice my age, no threat at all. He doesn't show jealousy or suspicion.

That sounds real shady. One of my exes was a scorp, and the same thing happened, he said he wanted to take a break but wasn't planning on dating anyone else blah blah blah. Few days later he was in a relationship with someone else. I am by no means saying that your guy is doing the same to you, but just be careful. Apparently, for my ex, "taking a break" meant breaking up for good and dating someone else seriously.

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"I'm furious and he even adds that I have guys approaching me so much so he would understand."

That's prob why you're on a break. It makes him uncomfortable and he's wondering how loyal you are.

He was going off one incident with a guy at work that was twice my age, no threat at all. He doesn't show jealousy or suspicion.

It doesn't matter. You have to earn his trust even if it's some unwanted freak chasing you.

Think of how you're telling him about these guys and how you react to them.

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I was pretty repulsed which is why I told him, it was a bad experience. He is actually all over other womens pictures on Facebook and Instagram, I'm pretty reserved when it comes to that stuff. I don't really show any attention to other men especially around him. The whole break is just throwing me off because I feel like he doesn't care if I'm here or there. He did this once before and came back which is why I'm not sure if he is worth it

Posted by Charfig5
That sounds real shady. One of my exes was a scorp, and the same thing happened, he said he wanted to take a break but wasn't planning on dating anyone else blah blah blah. Few days later he was in a relationship with someone else. I am by no means saying that your guy is doing the same to you, but just be careful. Apparently, for my ex, "taking a break" meant breaking up for good and dating someone else seriously.

I hear you on that which is why I'm afraid I'll get hurt, but I asked if that's what he wanted to just date other people and he said no just space and he then said I could date others and I got the impression that he was. He got mad when I asked he was going to, I just don't get why people go on breaks. I always know when someone is good enough to be serious with. Him and I also discussed that we are both serious about one another. I'm very suspicious about him and the things he says.

Posted by Arielle83
Ya I couldn't date a guy who cares about Instagram and Facebook. To me that's so unmanly.

My scorpio doesn't have social media. I'm not really into it either.

Is he young?

He is 26 and I agree, my Scorpio ex didn't have all that stuff. I don't care for it, it causes so many problems.

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Ya I couldn't date a guy who cares about Instagram and Facebook. To me that's so unmanly.

My scorpio doesn't have social media. I'm not really into it either.

Is he young?

He is 26 and I agree, my Scorpio ex didn't have all that stuff. I don't care for it, it causes so many problems.

What's your sign?

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Sagittarius

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Posted by Charfig5
That sounds real shady. One of my exes was a scorp, and the same thing happened, he said he wanted to take a break but wasn't planning on dating anyone else blah blah blah. Few days later he was in a relationship with someone else. I am by no means saying that your guy is doing the same to you, but just be careful. Apparently, for my ex, "taking a break" meant breaking up for good and dating someone else seriously.

I hear you on that which is why I'm afraid I'll get hurt, but I asked if that's what he wanted to just date other people and he said no just space and he then said I could date others and I got the impression that he was. He got mad when I asked he was going to, I just don't get why people go on breaks. I always know when someone is good enough to be serious with. Him and I also discussed that we are both serious about one another. I'm very suspicious about him and the things he says.

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Don't underestimate your gut feeling... It is seldom wrong. If you feel something is wrong, it might very well be. Has he lied to you before?
And yes I didn't understand the break thing either... Until I realized that, more often than not, a break is a break up.

Just enjoy the break, try not to pay too much attention to him, let it breathe, and when he comes back see how you are feeling then=)

Be honest.

"Look Scorpie, we have a fabulous thing here, and I'm down to ride it out while you are figuring shit out, but if you are going to break up with me to go find yourself, and piss all over the good thing we have, then go with the knowledge that you are fucking.this.up."

And be pissed. Right now he has control, take it back. Burn his ass a little with that fire.

Posted by Gennie
Be honest.

"Look Scorpie, we have a fabulous thing here, and I'm down to ride it out while you are figuring shit out, but if you are going to break up with me to go find yourself, and piss all over the good thing we have, then go with the knowledge that you are fucking.this.up."

And be pissed. Right now he has control, take it back. Burn his ass a little with that fire.

I love this advice! I sometimes think we tend to baby Scorpio males - the ones I know like a little fire every now and then. No one wants to live in a war zone but don't let them run over you, this isn't a one man show, there are 2 people in this relationship, so I get my say also - don't like it, then, this wasn't going to work out in the long run anyway so better it find out now.

Posted by Cheekybubbz
I asked how long he wanted to go on a break and he said he doesn't know.

First mistake was thinking he's the only one that gets to decide how long the break should be. Use this time to decide if you want to continue seeing this person vs sittign around waiting for him to determine where this relationship goes.

Posted by Cheekybubbz
Do I wait?

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No, I say you should not wait for anyone that you are "dating", only met "6 months" ago and hasn't out a ring on your finger.

Posted by Cheekybubbz
The whole break is just throwing me off because I feel like he doesn't care if I'm here or there. He did this once before and came back which is why I'm not sure if he is worth it

Smh. And that is why he's doing it again.

I am not saying break up with the guy, but really think about how this is making you feel. If he comes back around and you're still interested, you two need to have a talk about this push and pull nonsense. It sounds draining.

Phoenix is spot on, I didn't catch that he had done it before. Huge red flag and I know to you, you have been going with the flow but reality is, you ceded all the power in the relationship to him.

Time to kick his ass and see of common sense pops up. If not, take your fabulous Saggy swagger and move on, cause he won't be worth it.

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Posted by Cheekybubbz
The whole break is just throwing me off because I feel like he doesn't care if I'm here or there. He did this once before and came back which is why I'm not sure if he is worth it

Smh. And that is why he's doing it again.

I am not saying break up with the guy, but really think about how this is making you feel. If he comes back around and you're still interested, you two need to have a talk about this push and pull nonsense. It sounds draining.

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It is draining now, I hate that he seems so fickle. I've never had a guy not tell me how he feels ALL the time or even suggest a break. I am definitely thinking over everything now and I am tempted to him off and just end it but I want to know why he feels like he "needs time to think" I've never done that to anyone.

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That sounds real shady. One of my exes was a scorp, and the same thing happened, he said he wanted to take a break but wasn't planning on dating anyone else blah blah blah. Few days later he was in a relationship with someone else. I am by no means saying that your guy is doing the same to you, but just be careful. Apparently, for my ex, "taking a break" meant breaking up for good and dating someone else seriously.

I hear you on that which is why I'm afraid I'll get hurt, but I asked if that's what he wanted to just date other people and he said no just space and he then said I could date others and I got the impression that he was. He got mad when I asked he was going to, I just don't get why people go on breaks. I always know when someone is good enough to be serious with. Him and I also discussed that we are both serious about one another. I'm very suspicious about him and the things he says.

Don't underestimate your gut feeling... It is seldom wrong. If you feel something is wrong, it might very well be. Has he lied to you before?
And yes I didn't understand the break thing either... Until I realized that, more often than not, a break is a break up.

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I'm just a really suspicious person, no he's never lied to me before. But there are things that I can piece together on my own. I have no idea where the break will go but either way will not surprise me :/

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The whole break is just throwing me off because I feel like he doesn't care if I'm here or there. He did this once before and came back which is why I'm not sure if he is worth it

Smh. And that is why he's doing it again.

I am not saying break up with the guy, but really think about how this is making you feel. If he comes back around and you're still interested, you two need to have a talk about this push and pull nonsense. It sounds draining.

It is draining now, I hate that he seems so fickle. I've never had a guy not tell me how he feels ALL the time or even suggest a break. I am definitely thinking over everything now and I am tempted to him off and just end it but I want to know why he feels like he "needs time to think" I've never done that to anyone.

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I am by no means putting this all on you, but from my experience Sags are not always the easiest to be vulnerable with. Your blunt honesty when sharing feedback with others and desire to quickly shake off negative feelings and experiences can leave a sensitive Scorp a little cold at time because it can come off as dismissive. While it's a trait that a Scorp can appreciate in friendship, in a relationship it can create distance because we tend to seek different things from our intimate partners vs our friends.

If these are things you do (e.g. blunt and quick to shake things off) that may be why he hasn't shared his feelings with you. I mean after 6 months one would think he can open up about his feelings, so....yeah something is up and that may be at the heart of it.

I know what you mean, we have had serious conversations about the future and I will feel content after while he is left in a "mood". I don't worry about little things while he can't stop thinking about it, Im curious why someone would not want their partner to be completely honest all the time, what would a Scorp prefer?

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Posted by Arielle83
"I'm furious and he even adds that I have guys approaching me so much so he would understand."

That's prob why you're on a break. It makes him uncomfortable and he's wondering how loyal you are.

He was going off one incident with a guy at work that was twice my age, no threat at all. He doesn't show jealousy or suspicion.

It doesn't matter. You have to earn his trust even if it's some unwanted freak chasing you.

Think of how you're telling him about these guys and how you react to them.

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This is part of my journey that I have been discovering: Personally, I don't think everything needs to be shared. Sometimes, I ask myself: "Does he [my boyfriend] need to know this? Why do I feel compelled to tell him this? What benefit is it to him? What benefit is it to our relationship?"

By the time I ask myself those questions, I am already thinking about something else that doesn't require this forethought. In other words, when I reflect like that, it typically means that what I was thinking about saying wasn't necessary to be spoken at all.

I don't understand the concept of relationship "breaks," but it seems to be a thing. My only advice is to communicate with him about what this is truly all about - after a few days )m(or however many days) it takes *you* to sort your own thoughts and reflect so that when you approach the discussion, you are emotionally and mentally prepared to listen. Retreating is kind of a coping mechanism of mine, and it may (or may not) work for you, too.

Posted by Cheekybubbz
I know what you mean, we have had serious conversations about the future and I will feel content after while he is left in a "mood". I don't worry about little things while he can't stop thinking about it, Im curious why someone would not want their partner to be completely honest all the time, what would a Scorp prefer?

I think you misunderstand "not responding well" to the blunt unfiltered "just deal with it" approach that often comes with a Sag to mean a Scorp does not want honesty in their relationship. Scorps desire honesty. Complete honesty. However, most would like it delivered in such a way that regards their feelings. Basically are you aware of the impact of your words? More time than not, it isn't what you've said (with a Sag anyway), it how you said it and when you've chosen to say it.

For example, I was with two friends. Scorp is opening up about an ex and she clearly still had feelings attached to this experience she's talking about. Sag says something a little dismissive and Scorp is upset. Sag is baffled by the response and replies "what?! I was just telling the truth". Naw correction, she was sharing her opinion that was 1) unsolicited and 2) unhelpful because the comment wasn't about being supportive to the Scorp, it was about the Sag not wanting the mood to sour. Her opinion wasn't based on any knowledge of the Scorp's ex or their relationship, yet here she was delivering the "truth" to help the Scorp just move on.

Now take all of that with a grain of salt because a Scorp with fair bit of Sag placements (e.g. moon, Merc or even Venus) could probably appreciate your brand of honesty a bit more than a Scorp with little to no Sag placements. Regardless, the Sun (ego) is still a Scorp. Handle with care.

Alternatively, there are 11 other flavours in the zodiac to try if you find the Scorp too sensitive for your liking. 9 if you don't care to deal with the other two sensitive signs either.

Personally I think the pair can work if they really put forth the effort.

Posted by bellyjar
Ask him if he wants you to wait for him. Scorpios are freaking some times when they spend much time with their loved ones and they somehow feel that they are losing themselves. Then they may isolate and stay alone and free for a while. This must be your case. Give him space.

In any case, ask him if he intends to come back.

That's what this was all about, wanting space and taking time to himself. I asked "do you want to see me after this break 100% ?" He told me "yes I want to but I don't expect you to wait because sometimes it takes me a while to dig myself out of this hole and it's not fair to you" I'm just backing off completely at this point because there's nothing more for me to do.

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I know what you mean, we have had serious conversations about the future and I will feel content after while he is left in a "mood". I don't worry about little things while he can't stop thinking about it, Im curious why someone would not want their partner to be completely honest all the time, what would a Scorp prefer?

I think you misunderstand "not responding well" to the blunt unfiltered "just deal with it" approach that often comes with a Sag to mean a Scorp does not want honesty in their relationship. Scorps desire honesty. Complete honesty. However, most would like it delivered in such a way that regards their feelings. Basically are you aware of the impact of your words? More time than not, it isn't what you've said (with a Sag anyway), it how you said it and when you've chosen to say it.

For example, I was with two friends. Scorp is opening up about an ex and she clearly still had feelings attached to this experience she's talking about. Sag says something a little dismissive and Scorp is upset. Sag is baffled by the response and replies "what?! I was just telling the truth". Naw correction, she was sharing her opinion that was 1) unsolicited and 2) unhelpful because the comment wasn't about being supportive to the Scorp, it was about the Sag not wanting the mood to sour. Her opinion wasn't based on any knowledge of the Scorp's ex or their relationship, yet here she was delivering the "truth" to help the Scorp just move on.

Now take all of that with a grain of salt because a Scorp with fair bit of Sag placements (e.g. moon, Merc or even Venus) could probably appreciate your brand of honesty a bit more than a Scorp with little to no Sag placements. Regardless, the Sun (ego) is still a Scorp. Handle with care.

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I get what you're saying although I am very touchy with the way I say things, I know my words are hard to take in because I speak nothing but truth.. I can help it sometimes and other times I can slip up. He has Venus in Sag and Sag rising. I have Venus in Scorpio and 4 other houses. We both have libra moon and Pluto in Scorp.

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Posted by bellyjar
Ask him if he wants you to wait for him. Scorpios are freaking some times when they spend much time with their loved ones and they somehow feel that they are losing themselves. Then they may isolate and stay alone and free for a while. This must be your case. Give him space.

In any case, ask him if he intends to come back.

That's what this was all about, wanting space and taking time to himself. I asked "do you want to see me after this break 100% ?" He told me "yes I want to but I don't expect you to wait because sometimes it takes me a while to dig myself out of this hole and it's not fair to you" I'm just backing off completely at this point because there's nothing more for me to do.

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It sounds like he's really trying to break up with you without saying the exact words.

There is something for you to do...decide if you want someone who's ready to offer you up to other men in your life.

Personally I don't do breaks. A break to me is a break up...never had a break in a relationship.

If he's not scared to lose what you all had together why should you be.

Easier said than done but he's very adamant in letting you know it's ok to talk to other men.

Possibly because he's wanting to talk to other women in the process of getting his shyt together.

Posted by happyface1
Personally I don't do breaks. A break to me is a break up...never had a break in a relationship.

If he's not scared to lose what you all had together why should you be.

Easier said than done but he's very adamant in letting you know it's ok to talk to other men.

Possibly because he's wanting to talk to other women in the process of getting his shyt together.

I'm not sure what to think, he said he just wants space but I feel like he would break up with me if he wanted to. Same about talking to other women, there was no point in lying and saying that he wasn't when he plans to. I haven't caught him lying in the past so I don't think he would now. But it is what is, the truth will eventually come out.

Posted by Gennie
Be honest.

"Look Scorpie, we have a fabulous thing here, and I'm down to ride it out while you are figuring shit out, but if you are going to break up with me to go find yourself, and piss all over the good thing we have, then go with the knowledge that you are fucking.this.up."

And be pissed. Right now he has control, take it back. Burn his ass a little with that fire.

I like this.