Scorpio moved on ALREADY ?

A year long relationship full of love & happiness !! Then I get caught in a few lies we go round & round ... Trying to resolve & he keeps bringing up what I done .. Finally he breaks up with me & 3 weeks later when I put in one last ditch effort .. HIS response is " I don't have any feelings left for us" !?!? What we had meant that little ? What does that mean you dont love me too anymore ?? Blown away !!! This man is a true scorp cancer moon & a Venus in libra ... I guess he's never coming back ?

How long had you been fighting? Also, what those lies were makes a big difference. Not enough info.

Nearly a month after finalizing a break-up is long enough for me to be over it. I would have analyzed the crap out of the situation and convinced myself I didn't want you anymore anyway. Probably an ego thing.

Lying is a huge no no with a Scorpio, no trust, no love.

The lies was something HE thought to be true but wasn't .. I am in the military and a nurse someone's got in his head I lied about being an
RN .. I mean really — The other things was something small but to him
Meant a lot I guess !!

Had we been fighting before — Yes for 2 days straight & over something he had done .. Then out of no where he pulls out these wild cards on me !!

Also ... Him saying " I have no feelings left in us " .. Means he no longer is in love me with & no chance in hell of him missing me & regretting it ? After a year ? OR is it him pushing me away & saying out of spite & hurt .... Rebound maybe ?

Lies are a DEAL BREAKER for me! Of course the reasons and lie itself holds weight too. But, If it was a lie that was bad enough, I can turn feelings off for a person in a heartbeat!! Very true. No Trust, No Love for a Scorpio!

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Posted by VenusScorpio1976
The lies was something HE thought to be true but wasn't .. I am in the military and a nurse someone's got in his head I lied about being an
RN .. I mean really — The other things was something small but to him
Meant a lot I guess !!

Had we been fighting before — Yes for 2 days straight & over something he had done .. Then out of no where he pulls out these wild cards on me !!

I am a scorp with a cancer moon but I agree that is a petty "lie". But why DID you lie about it? (you said u got caught in some lies) I agree that's a SMALL lie, not something I would break up with someone over. Maybe he already had one foot out the door and this was just his excuse as a way out? Either that or there is more to the story. Has he caught you in a lot of lies?

I met someone once who was a habitual liar, the tiniest lies were just adding up and I had the impression that if he would lie to me about all these small things, he would lie to me about the big things too and I was turned all the way off.

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Posted by VenusScorpio1976
A year long relationship full of love & happiness !! Then I get caught in a few lies we go round & round ... Trying to resolve & he keeps bringing up what I done .. Finally he breaks up with me & 3 weeks later when I put in one last ditch effort .. HIS response is " I don't have any feelings left for us" !?!? What we had meant that little ? What does that mean you dont love me too anymore ?? Blown away !!! This man is a true scorp cancer moon & a Venus in libra ... I guess he's never coming back ?

Posted by Poisson
No offense, but you seriously need to calm down. If you keep up this emotional panic state, you're apt to do something stupid.

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+1

Please calm down. Take space so you can focus....

Give your dude space.... If you chase him or do too much. It will show your weakness and he have more power than he does already and will use it against you. You should apologize if you haven't already via text or VM but don't do it often get a honest apology off once and that's it. Your best bet is to give him space act like the breakup didn't affect you and work on bettering yourself somehow, so if he does come back you will be better with something not the same person. Cause if he does come back and your the same wreck, he will run for the hills and NEVER LOOK BACK!

i love me some phaedra.

Thanks guys I appreciate all the feedback and honesty !!

No he never caught me in any lies the entire year I always backed myself with truth and never lied to him .. The petty ones was so minor and stupid I was like UH seriously ? Like that is crazy !! Example forgetting how many days you had to spend in the hospital .. I say 5 he finds out it was 14 and that's a huge deal ? That kept him bringing it up ? Smh !! I have sent emotional book of a text litteraly the day after or so ... Than I went silent .. Over a week !! He texts me how are you ? I mean really ? Then the day after same thing .. Suddenly silence for 4 days & some guys post on my FB you're so pretty hope u enjoyed the lunch I got you even tho u didn't want it .. 2 days later he sends a text u need to get another cell line ( shared plan )
Also I need to add I acted ok but pissed and hurt the next and told him I was already talking to someone .. He got mad you could tell !! This was about 2 weeks ago. This man is sending me so many mixed signals ... Hot cold. Push pull now he says sorry I have no feelings for us anymore ... Confused hurt !!

I want to add I made him always come to me !! The entire year !! I am a very stable strong independent woman he knows that and to see my like this prob is loving it I would not doubt !! Thoughts —

5 days to 14 days—? what kind of oversight is that? you both fuck with each other, need time off. a good amount of time off.

Posted by Gumshoe

"and I told him I was already talking to someone .."

Well, that takes care of that.

pretty much

they both kept upping the ante on each other. she went WAY too far and he upped her on out.

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Posted by Gumshoe

"and I told him I was already talking to someone .."

Well, that takes care of that.

Yup.

Aside from that Venus, you're inconsistent. Hell, I don't even know you and I feel like I can't trust you. Lol in your other thread you said " ( I lied he busted me . No didn't cheat but in his words I might as well have )" and just a second ago you said you've never lied.

I don't think you stand a chance, just being honest. *kanye shrug*

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No he never caught me in any lies the entire year I always backed myself with truth and never lied to him

to be fair, it was only this entire year. i dont know about the other years.

Ok I am a good and person ..a lie is a lie yes .. I meant petty to not the extreme to be ending a year long relationship over it ... We have been in a push pull since the break up ... I did not contact him
Firrst after he did me asking me how I was and then the day after .. Then went silent ... On my end ? I texted a
Novel the 3 rd day of break up ... Then flipped the switch on him & told him
I agreeded with the break up and he come at me like it's bc I am already talking to
Someone else ... During this convo I texted truth of like
my RN degree he said was a lie told by his ex wife and got all in his head about me bc she hated me and wantts hm back ... Now everything went silent again n he texts u need to get another cell .. I never responded to that at all ... 2 days later I sent him a pic and bam he was on it .. Then went quite .. Now I Gave it one more try and sent facts to his email
And he comes back with I' forgive you but I have no feelings let for us I know your Ana good person ... I pushed his buttons and pissed him off to the point he said I'm done texting I sent 2 more and then my sorry one today and done nothing and he never replied back to me after he said
I am done texting .....

There has to be something I can do .. The facts email was a numbered list of them to
Back up what the lies was about from his
Ex ..... Apart of me thinks he's moved on
... But he told me he had lost a piece of his soul with all this and has only faith in him and god and only gonna focus on building a cabin and paying off debt


Now he acts as cold as the Anartic .., I know he loved me very much and made me his world .... I am sorry
But I love him and you can't give up on true love so that I'd why I am willing to do whatever it takes

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5 days to 14 days—? what kind of oversight is that? you both fuck with each other, need time off. a good amount of time off.

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Posted by Gumshoe

"and I told him I was already talking to someone .."

Well, that takes care of that.

Yup.

Aside from that Venus, you're inconsistent. Hell, I don't even know you and I feel like I can't trust you. Lol in your other thread you said " ( I lied he busted me . No didn't cheat but in his words I might as well have )" and just a second ago you said you've never lied.

I don't think you stand a chance, just being honest. *kanye shrug*

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+3 Sweet mother of Moses...

I know I was trying to test his love n be afraid of losing me & act like I was ok 😢 I'm a damn moron

So how do I fix this ?? What did that make him do run to someone else ? Ughhh

There has to be way I can .. I know he looks at my FB come one all Scorps do that for a long time just to see .. I could post I don't want anybody so please stop messaging me ? Not put anything ? Make him wonder ?? I did post a quote saying have respect for yourself to walk away from anything that no longer serves you grows you or make you happy .. To show him I am walking away

Ok then how do I do that when he won't answer texts ? Do a email in a few days of I miss you're laugh & your smile .. So on ? Or do I just stop now n step back .. I keep hearings have. No feelings for us in the back of my head wondering .... U trying to hurt n push me away or is this true ...
I'm so lost

All I can do is pray to god he still loves me

I pretty much have prob pissed him off to the point he's like to much drama ... Maybe I'll wait a week and shoot a text hope you're good

I just put the photo quote of walking away should I remove it ?

DONE !!! 🙂... So go silent and pray for the best ? ..

Well that's what he said yesterday he wanted so I was showing him ok

Babydoll he said I am the one to blame for this yesterday & he did not do this !! U talk about a sting !! I was off licking my wounds for hours through the tears

I swear we are in tune with each other and a part of me feels like he wants me to stick around not be mad and try to fight for him ... I looked at his FB and he has 3 post of ours he left up there right ? Well he took the one down u said you are my world and I love you more n more every day and hide it ... When I put the walk awaky up ? He puts that back to be seen ... He loves playing mind. Games he knows I get it

Do I have any hobbies ?

Uh yes but nursing a broken heart is my hobby for now Smh Shew

He sounds like a dickhead. Have you asked yourself why you want that back?

Do you only want it back for the sake of holding onto a year long relationship?


It's real love hon that's why .. Soulmates only come 1 time in your lifetime

We can finish each others sentences ... Knows what the other means without saying a word with a look .. It's a deeper connection & he admired that and we seen that through the year

"I bed to differ." -DazedScorp


Not to derail, but that's classic. Onwards.


Indeed

When you think of "soulmate", are manipulation and games the first things that come to mind?

Nice !!! NO it isn't however that's what Scorps are well known for along with keeping the power struggle in thier favor... It's just a natural raw instinct .. It's imbedded

Trust me I have been humbled by my own stupid behavior

You guys are truly awesome and I am thankful for having started this thread .. Granted I had to do it 2 times because my first one looked like a drunk emotional crazy person trying to type out while having a sezuite lol ..I respect the honest comments & the help lord knows I need it right now

" Food for thought. - for the ones on the other thread who loved being a smart $ $ $ .. Learn to have some compassion & stop being a judgmental inconsiderate know it all .. Nobody knows what anybody is going through based on self ores ONE post of a thread start !" sorry but ppl like that kill me & I have no tolerance for idiotic pre-sumptions !!


I will take all this advice & set it into motion !!

An I a Venus in Scorp? Yes with my mars and about 5 other plantets .. I have a Libra sun & GENINI moon ..

based on self ores ONE post
Correction based on a persons ONE post .. Auto correct ( iPhone )

*look closely

*if I've learned anything about Scorpio men, it's that they can evolve.

I am hoping he did not burn the relationship die and come back alive with the " evolve " of someone else !!
I will do all your advice you can count on it and I will print these off and use the comments as a guide .. I have learned a lot already by reading some of this .. Being in a emotional state with no support is a very bad thing .. You resort to things I have this far !!!

The devil is often in the details, and there are two details that gave me pause. So I'll divide and conquer; suspicious detail #1: "Had we been fighting before — Yes for 2 days straight & over something he had done."

In my personal experience, certain Scorpios will do a switch and bait- no, not a bait and switch. Meaning if they feel themselves to be in the hot-seat, they might then turn the tables and dredge up one of your "sins," and it seems he might have done this with you. So, let me ask you: you said you were fighting for two days, but not how heated the fighting was or, just as significant, what *he* felt to be at stake. It might be worthwhile for you to think about that, if for no other reason than to focus on something a bit more productive than whether or not he's rebounded.


THIS WAS MY FIRST THOUGHT!!! When all of this came up bc I DO and have done this before..Yes he was being a dickhead and said and reacted to some serious things with me he said can you forgive me? I said I Dont know it may take time ....THE NEXT morning is when all this started and it went from there so yes I AGREE .......Thing to me is ...I said I need an answer are we done ? His reply is WELL if you was in my shoes what what would you do if you was me ? Think about that and text me in the morning...My temp fared and I said no no reason to I see now .....So The following day when I asked he said you dont need an answer or to be in a hurry right now..I said yes I do I need to know to rejoin the military if I am getting married to you...

So that night he said yes we are I went off..As you know ....So let me ask you this ...WHAT is he really doing if this to be this care then.....Or his intentions now knowing all the info —

LOL Ok

Sooooo ( I never sleep ) in diving into his chart I am SHOCKED to find out HIS MOON is in GEMINI LIKE MINE ...Not CANCER wow WOW ....Does this mean what I think it means ——?? 🙂

I am dumbfound here....Our charts Me Sun Libra u kno Ven and moon Gem Him .....Sun Scorpio Ven Libra and moon is Gem....Van somone please elaborate into depth of this for me —? I am thinking this is a good sign here

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Posted by DazedScorp
I've done it. It doesn't work.

That's why I asked if you had hobbies... To occupy your mind, when the heart is in an obsessive state.Your mind is clouded with grandious thoughts of delusional love that doesn't neseccarily exist.

Spoken like a true evolved Scorpio man. 😄

Not so much, unfortunately...

Maybe an evolved Venus in Scorp, but the rest has a long way to go.

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this i have mad respect for. i dig it.

I have to much Scorpio in chart ...on the obsessive remark " quote" ...It is a painful thing ///I get stung and I sting myself of the very thing that hurts me ...That and I hate being ditched let alone by the "one" o so I think

Posted by VenusScorpio1976

No he never caught me in any lies the entire year I always backed myself with truth and never lied to him .. The petty ones was so minor and stupid I was like UH seriously ? Like that is crazy !! Example forgetting how many days you had to spend in the hospital .. I say 5 he finds out it was 14 and that's a huge deal ? That kept him bringing it up ? Smh !!

Except it wasn't a hospital, it was Jail that you spent 14 days in.

And yes I know you said "Example" but it's this kind of air-headed Libra/Gem bullshit twisting of facts that has you in trouble with your Scorp ::shrugs::

Except it wasn't a hospital, it was Jail that you spent 14 days in.

And yes I know you said "Example" but it's this kind of air-headed Libra/Gem bullbutter twisting of facts that has you in trouble with your Scorp ::shrugs::


THING IS there Wynter I used an example of something ...DOES IT have to be that?? Nobody SAID it was ....So do not judge had I wanted to go in depth I would have ...He knows it just a few days off

It means to scratch everything I said haha cuz I was giving you perspective from a mushy cancer mooner. May not apply to him.


Uhhhhhhh looking like I am screwed lol

It was not a lie it was something that I had forgot how long bc it was SO long ago and no I was off by 5 days I just used some numbers

Move on. Go take a class, do some volunteer work, keep yourself busy...etc. Mr. Scorpio will come back because Scorpio males always come back around BUT, he will never take you seriously as a significant other. He will downgrade you to drunken booty call.

Move on. Go take a class, do some volunteer work, keep yourself busy...etc. Mr. Scorpio will come back because Scorpio males always come back around BUT, he will never take you seriously as a significant other. He will downgrade you to drunken booty call.

Impossible ..W was engaged for an entire year & here is the kicker I kept to myself ...we have a set of newborn twins ,,,He left a week before due date