It's been a while...

Since I've dated a one, but I'm going nuts after a Scorpio girl. Like she has this magnet that absorbs me. Hasn't happened this to me since I can't remember.
I've done a synastry chart and her NN conjuncts my descendant and mine hers. A double whammy.
I know that she likes me and she might feel the same cuz yesterday we met for a lemonade and her hand was shaking.
I don;t know if I should take it easy or go deep. I think you could help me out.

I saw it after 3 minutes she sit down. I was when she took the first drop. And I know that kind of shaking. We all have it when we are nervous.
My problem is that I haven't had a healthy relationship in a long time and exposing myself to this kind of feelings made me feel so vulnerable.
If it would only be sex I would have handle it like a pro already. This is more. I feel like I want to fall in love with this girl and I'm a little freaked out. I'm like a teenager again. fuck!

awwww

So do you think I should play it cool a while or should I push things further. I had problems in the past when I went too far too quick and I fucked it up.
I'm Aries btw. I have problems with slow motion.

I always thought I could get on particularly well with an Aries guy.

Go for it! But I agree, going too fast could scare anyone off. Be yourself though, you know? As cliche as it may sound, you have to....

I feel like people can always sense at some point if you aren't being true to your feelings. Express them! Just let her know that you're willing to go at her pace and respect her needs as well.

I wish you well!

Thank you. 🙂
She paid for the drinks. 🙂)

I am myself. I'm a big boy now. All is going well for me and I have plenty of confidence. But no matter how hard I try to stay cool it's hard when it's about real feelings. I'm not afraid of anything and I don't have problems with girls. I just wanted to be sure I don't fuck up this time. I really like this one and I missed this feeling. Also the synastry gave me the chills.

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Posted by OvS
Since I've dated a one, but I'm going nuts after a Scorpio girl. Like she has this magnet that absorbs me. Hasn't happened this to me since I can't remember.
I've done a synastry chart and her NN conjuncts my descendant and mine hers. A double whammy.
I know that she likes me and she might feel the same cuz yesterday we met for a lemonade and her hand was shaking.
I don;t know if I should take it easy or go deep. I think you could help me out.

Mr. Aries! It's funny you're attracted to Scorpios. I am VERY attracted to Scorpios. 😉

Good luck... O:-)

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Thank you.
I've always been. They are my favorites.
I don't need luck, I make my own. I need patience. 🙂))

i knew this would happen one day OvS, lol....you know that resistance is futile when it comes to scorpio and aries 😛

her hand was shaking cos she wants you. i do that....and my aries daughter says i do a strange 'jelly strut' when walking past the object of my desire. it's a pain in the ass really. you should at least be grateful she wasn't holding her drink near you when her hand was shaking, lol...otherwise you would've been wearing it! i've done that before hahahaha!!

i agree with the above advice of you just being yourself. just enjoy getting to know eachother and stick to lemonade for the next few dates, lol......do NOT let whiskey pass your lips you hear me??

she's a very lucky scorp! 🙂

""I don't need luck, I make my own. I need patience. 🙂))""

For me, the admiration is mutual. 🙂 My best friend is an Aries. My dad is a super-Aries. He annoys the hell outta me, but I'm his favorite gal, and he's my favorite guy. 🙂

I guess I've just always felt this sense of undying loyalty between me and all the Aries in my life. Like we'll always be there for eachother and defend one another fiercely. The loyalty piece I also feel strongly with my Tauruses, but the willingness to go to battle on one another's behalf I've mostly experienced with my Aries folks. I feel safe with Aries- while everyone else in my life, I feel like it's my duty to shield from harm.

I messed up the quote, but you follow me, I'm sure. lol

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
i knew this would happen one day OvS, lol....you know that resistance is futile when it comes to scorpio and aries 😛

her hand was shaking cos she wants you. i do that....and my aries daughter says i do a strange 'jelly strut' when walking past the object of my desire. it's a pain in the ass really. you should at least be grateful she wasn't holding her drink near you when her hand was shaking, lol...otherwise you would've been wearing it! i've done that before hahahaha!!

i agree with the above advice of you just being yourself. just enjoy getting to know eachother and stick to lemonade for the next few dates, lol......do NOT let whiskey pass your lips you hear me??

she's a very lucky scorp! 🙂

thank you Roxy. 🙂
I won't drink a shot till I smell her sheets. I'll probably be head over heels by then.

Posted by ScorpSuperior
""I don't need luck, I make my own. I need patience. 🙂))""

For me, the admiration is mutual. 🙂 My best friend is an Aries. My dad is a super-Aries. He annoys the hell outta me, but I'm his favorite gal, and he's my favorite guy. 🙂

I guess I've just always felt this sense of undying loyalty between me and all the Aries in my life. Like we'll always be there for eachother and defend one another fiercely. The loyalty piece I also feel strongly with my Tauruses, but the willingness to go to battle on one another's behalf I've mostly experienced with my Aries folks. I feel safe with Aries- while everyone else in my life, I feel like it's my duty to shield from harm.

2 out of my 3 best friends are scorpios.

Posted by OvS

Posted by ScorpSuperior
""I don't need luck, I make my own. I need patience. 🙂))""

For me, the admiration is mutual. 🙂 My best friend is an Aries. My dad is a super-Aries. He annoys the hell outta me, but I'm his favorite gal, and he's my favorite guy. 🙂

I guess I've just always felt this sense of undying loyalty between me and all the Aries in my life. Like we'll always be there for eachother and defend one another fiercely. The loyalty piece I also feel strongly with my Tauruses, but the willingness to go to battle on one another's behalf I've mostly experienced with my Aries folks. I feel safe with Aries- while everyone else in my life, I feel like it's my duty to shield from harm.

2 out of my 3 best friends are scorpios.

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See? lol We can't resist one another.

Posted by Let*It*Be
"So do you think I should play it cool a while or should I push things further. I had problems in the past when I went too far too quick and I treetrunked it up.
I'm Aries btw. I have problems with slow motion."

Hi OVS 🙂 It's sweet that you are feeling this Scorp bad. I think you should follow her lead just alittle, if you sense she is into you as much as you are with her, then just melt her heart with that vibrant, upbeat personality you guys are blessed with. You don't have to move so fast on a physical plane...move along on the mental plane

I met her last Thursday. I finished my salsa lessons and went to my fav pub to talk to a friend of mine. She came there hosting for a cigarette brand.(where I live it's something usual when they want to promote a new brand). She's a smart girl, med student.
She was easy target. She came to me to present the brand and I guessed her sun sign and her rising. That knocked her off. 🙂))

Well, combined with my charm it was enough to make her ask for my facebook contact. 😉

There are other things they master too. 😉

I made her jealous. fuck me!

@atearth

Posted by xxnightbynight
Patience... lol yes... if there's one thing a Scorpio can teach you... it's patience. 🙂

Surely if anything patience is one of Taurus' virtue.

Well we had a date planed and half an hour before we met she text-ed me that there will be other people there too and she also changed the location.
I was so fking pissed off. I wanted to tell her to fk off but I calmed myself down and I decided to go to show her friends too that I'm a cool guy.
So I went' all things were good, we laughed, talked, had a glass of wine and then I left with her and a friend of hers in a pub. In there I went to the bar and she went with her friend at some other table at some friends of them. She text-ed me after 20 minutes to go there. I went and told her that we have to talk something so we sit down. I asked her why she did this. It was humiliating for me. I like her but I'm not a puppy just to follow her around. I asked her out for a real date and if she couldn't come she could have just told me. I'm a big boy with many options and I don't like to play the puppy or the cheerleader and waste my time. So she told me that her ex came back to town and she still has feelings for him. That I can understand but she should have told me her intentions. I didn't deserve that scene. I told her that normally I wouldn't have came but I'm a gentleman and I can handle any situation elegant, as I did that night. I kissed her forehead and I left. Right after she sent me a txt told, me I shouldn't have left cuz she came for me there in the pub.
The next day, Friday, I wrote her that I shouldn't have told her that stuff but she replied that it was ok to say what I think and feel. Then she posted a photo on FB with the chocolate I gave her. That night was St. Nickolas and here is like a smaller Santa.
Saturday I went out for a drink with and old friend(girl) of mine. We are really good friends but it's nothing more. I know her since we were in kinder garden. This is my friend tagged me with her in the place we were and I think she saw it. She didn't talk to me since, not a single reply. fking Facebook.
I don't really care cuz after that night she dropped in my eyes but it's an awkward situation and I hate not knowing wtf really happened and felt the need to share this.

@candyapples88

15 Years

I personally don't feel she was obligated to tell you her intentions with you, especially if you never asked. Unless she showed other signs such as trying to kiss you, telling you she liked you, or whatever else can be regarded as genuine interest...you can't assume she was trying to pursue something with you. And same goes for her as well...which could be why she never came out and said what her intentions where, because she didn't want to assume you were tryna be more than friendly. You know?

I would leave her alone for now. She'll come around if she wants you in her life...whether it be friends or something more. And we always love when people are open and honest about their feelings. Personally, I'm very nonjudgemental when people open up...no matter how kooky or off the wall they come across. Boy, I've had some crazy ass shit said to me before...but I don't ever get mad with honesty.

you got me wrong. it was all good. her ex came a day before and left that day.
I didn't mind that. I was pissed off that she made a fuk of our date. It would have been ok if she canceled the date. I have a life and other things to do you know. She could have told me a few hours before that she had other plans.
I don't think I want her in my life after that shit. It's something called respect. I'm not just any guy.
It's just that the situation is shitty. I don't like this. I like happy endings.

@candyapples88

15 Years

Idk...maybe I'm wrong, but I don't see what the big deal is lol. I get that you wanted a serious date with her, but there are other days for that too. Was this your first official date together?

I think what happened was she made plans with you...but then also maybe got hit up by her friends to go out as well. She probably didn't wanna cancel on you or tell them no, because why should she if she can just invite you as well...the more the merrier.

Being a scorp, I tend to be very social...and love having all my friends around me. I'll invite everyone, everywhere. I've been on dates where I took my date to meet up with some friends afterwards for drinks. I just feel it keeps the connection between me and my date in check...especially in the beginning of a courtship. Where you're trying to keep things light and carefree...while you're feeling your way around them, seeing how they handle themselves...especially around friends. I just like building a little bit of friendship first, you know?

That's just me though. Do you think maybe this is your Aries impatience...trying to push the relationship where you want it to be based on how you're feeling?

it was not the first date.

ovs my lovely. you know perfectly well the best way for you to have this scorp vixen falling at your feet....IGNORE HER!! that's exactly what this cancerian did to me and i was so shocked that he wasn't blowing up my phone as usual that it made me re-think things with him. i think the problem is that a scorp knows when a man wants her and then she starts treating him like a piece of shit which is supposed to signal you to put your foot down and display zero-tolerance to being treated like that cos that's the kind of man she wants....one that doesn't roll over and play dead when she's being a primadona, lol.

don't worry if she misconstrues the fb picture either cos that will only fuel her fire even more. i can tell she wants you too but now you have to make her YOUR bitch before she tries to make you HERS 😄

you can't fail with all that brooding hotness 😛

btw i don't like what she did to that date at the last minute. i would only want friends around if i didn't want to get too intimate with one person or perhaps she wanted to show off her social butterfly skills....i dunno but i would consider it rude and i would've walked but i'm an attention seeking biyotch.

i was reading your story and i was just wondering, why did she pay for the drinks?

Tnx Rox. 🙂
DMV she insisted I do her a palm reading(LOL) and I told her she has to buy me a drink for that. 😉

& I'm high maintenance. You have to wine me and dine me. 😛

well...I wanted to pay but she insisted.

Posted by OvS
well...I wanted to pay but she insisted.

dont let her do that again for some time. she's trying to subtly control things which is why it was so easy for her to pull that stunt at the pub.

i like picking up the tab 2, but not in the beginning. the man has to be the man in the relationship. set the tone per se.

Posted by kalin
I'd prefer the guy take care of the bill though :p
I've never paid for a date in my life, but I do pay for my guy friends sometime 😛

try it 😉 treat your man to a night on the town.

i always insist on paying on early dates. i hate that feeling of being paid for as there's usually an expectation attached to it.

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
i always insist on paying on early dates. i hate that feeling of being paid for as there's usually an expectation attached to it.

feeling of indebtedness... i feel out of control when i let the guy take the helm. i feel like he gets to dictate the sex and the relationship. leaving me at his mercy. it never ends well, the guy starts feeling like OvS. very interesting.

I don't mind girls paying. 😛

Why's that. She insisted. So..ok...fine with me, if you want the balls take them. If you can handle them.

you are forgiven my child!

Posted by OvS
I don't mind girls paying. 😛

this aint some girl. this is a scorpio girl whose probably had this paying pattern for quite some time.

So what's the problem? I liked her. fine. pay. control me if you can. stay on top. I don't mind. But respect me.

@enfant_terrible

17 Years10,000+ PostsLeo

Posted by kalin
I'd prefer the guy take care of the bill though :p

She gets a reading, he gets a drink. The Aries was just being playful. I get where he's coming from. He scored more points by busting her balls some than if he had just played it safe.

Posted by OvS
Why's that. She insisted. So..ok...fine with me, if you want the balls take them. If you can handle them.

but look where it led. to you having to have a sit down with her about her treatment of you. if u had paid for the drinks, that would never have happened. it would have been some other bs test to feel you out.

if i insist on me paying in the inital stages, that means im really feeling you but i dont want to just lose control. so im going to start paying to dictate some things and establish control. although, it never works out. the guy never feels like a man. instead, im wearing the pants and wanting him to secretly wear the pants but do i really want to give up the wheel. scorpios/8th house doesnt just represent sex but also money.

the fact that you were just fine with it, probably let her know that you would be easy to control. she's establishing ownership. then reality hit and she saw you with another girl. she probably thought in her mind "i brought this dude drinks and he's out with another girl!"

the ONLY time i will let a guy pay in the beginning is if im not feeling him at all.

when she comes back, start taking the tab. then see how jittery she gets because she cant steamroll u anymore.

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by kalin
I'd prefer the guy take care of the bill though :p

She gets a reading, he gets a drink. The Aries was just being playful. I get where he's coming from. He scored more points by busting her balls some than if he had just played it safe.

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Headshot! 😉

Posted by DMV
when she comes back, start taking the tab. then see how jittery she gets because she cant steamroll u anymore.

I have an 8th house stellium. sun, venus, mercury(ruller of ascendant). I've never been controlled. I made her an astrogram.

Hell I can't even control myself either. LOL

whats an astrogram?

natal chart.
I told her I had a passion for astrology so she wanted one.

@enfant_terrible

17 Years10,000+ PostsLeo

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Posted by OvS
Why's that. She insisted. So..ok...fine with me, if you want the balls take them. If you can handle them.

but look where it led. to you having to have a sit down with her about her treatment of you. if u had paid for the drinks, that would never have happened. it would have been some other bs test to feel you out.

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You're reading into it too much. Jesus Christ. The talk had to do with him not wanting to follow her around like a pup all evening. And the treatment? It began half an hour before they even started the date, with HER changing the location and adding some extra people to it. So what does her buying him a drink in exchange for a reading (they were both just being playful!) have to do with any of this? I'm sure it was the best thing that happened to her that evening. Lol

@enfant_terrible

17 Years10,000+ PostsLeo

Example. I had a "work-related" dinner with a Scorp colleague a while ago. She knows very well what I'm about and that I'm quite old-fashioned about certain things, so there were no uncertainties - the dinner was on me. But for whatever reason, she insisted on paying for it. Usually I won't even hear about it, usually it's just polite-talk, but I knew when I looked at her that she meant it. End of story. It was as if there was some sense of gratefulness in her gesture, I don't know for what, but that's what it felt like.

I didn't insist of insisting further... insisting too much can turn a beautiful thing between men and women into something quite uncomfortable... ugly, even. I let it go the moment she said, "You'll take it the next time", which of course brought a promise of a next time. She knew I wasn't gonna let it slip. Also, it shows that I'm secure in my masculinity and that it isn't reduced to what I have in my wallet. Further insisting and bitching about it would indicate the opposite.

There, a minute-by-minute account of when, why and how it is OK for a man to ease the grip off his balls every once in a while.

Epilogue. The next time we worked the late shift together I took her to the same restaurant. The final tab for the evening exceeded like twice what she paid for our dinner, and so there I was, back in my right element! She insisted on at least paying for the wine, but I wouldn't hear about it. She insisted again, so I physically pushed her away from the counter (in a playful manner of course 😛 ) and that was that.