Scorpio woman test (which one is it?)

Posted by macte
Hey guys, I hope you can help me with this scorpio woman. It appears as a twisted test.

I approached this young woman at a cafe and got her number. Tried calling her, no response. After 4 days she texts me to catch up the next day. I pick her up and whisk her away for a meal. In the beginning she tells she needs to be back in 1.5 hrs. Conversation flowed and we were having lot of fun. I am a guy with intimidating confidence, I don't usually let it go to arrogant mode but "kocky" I am. And I am extremely passionate about life and the world. Before I knew she was a scorpio she told me one of her goals was to sleep with as many random strangers as she could. Anyway it all went great, I opened her up on certain subjects, there was touching and we had an intense convo for 1.5 hrs. I paid, she thanked. Put my arm around her on the way to the car and opened the door. Then in the car she started asking even deeper questions like if I was looking for a relationship, how long since I separated from my ex (I told her during dinner that my ex was hot as hell but it didn't work and we were just parents) and then what I am looking for. She mentioned that she'd never been in a relationship. She is early 20s. I said I didn't mind against relationship but I'd like to honest and authentic and I was extremely busy at the moment so I wasn't sure I would have time. Then she asked some other deeply personal questions and got embarassed herself by asking so many. I then playfully said that she could be my 5th girlfriend to which she commented that I was "kocky". I asked her if she really wanted to go out with friends as we could continue our evening. She said yeas, she had to as they were waiting. A bit more compatibility convo before I dropped her off. Hugged and kissed in a car and she said I will see you soon.

Next day I send her a text that I'd like to see her again and I have this and this day free, which one she preferred?...no response...day after I text her saying that I may have been too "kocky" and I know that she is as busy as I am. Want to catchup this week? ...no response...call her in three days...no response.

Sent me a txt today "Hey, sorry for the late response. You seem like a really nice person but I think we are too different. X".

I felt she was smitten during the date and I think it's a test / lesson. But I cannot figure out if it's a test of confidence and I should just push through. At the same time I feel that she thinks I only want her for sex and she doesn't want to get hurt.

I feel that she runs deep and is my polar opposite ying with lifetime potential. I have no intention of hurting her but I feel she's afraid. How to approach this?

I thought her statement was quite clear. Not sure why you think it's a test.

She probably was "smitten" and got to know you a bit and now she's not. She's not afraid, intimidated, or whatever excuse you're trying to find to make sense of her change of heart.

Equal match for life? Christ...

Posted by -elle-
are you a cancer, by any chance?

Leo, so do tend to dramatise and come on too strong 🙂

It just doesn't make sense to me when after a great date, a woman who almost initiated a kiss herself and said "I will see you soon" would ignore me for 5 days and come up with this text.

Maybe I have missed something subtle here.

Posted by Shooting_the_Moon_that_I_call_Mars
Equal match for life? Christ...

LOL I am a bit over the top, ain't I

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Posted by macte
Hey guys, I hope you can help me with this scorpio woman. It appears as a twisted test.

I approached this young woman at a cafe and got her number. Tried calling her, no response. After 4 days she texts me to catch up the next day. I pick her up and whisk her away for a meal. In the beginning she tells she needs to be back in 1.5 hrs. Conversation flowed and we were having lot of fun. I am a guy with intimidating confidence, I don't usually let it go to arrogant mode but "kocky" I am. And I am extremely passionate about life and the world. Before I knew she was a scorpio she told me one of her goals was to sleep with as many random strangers as she could. Anyway it all went great, I opened her up on certain subjects, there was touching and we had an intense convo for 1.5 hrs. I paid, she thanked. Put my arm around her on the way to the car and opened the door. Then in the car she started asking even deeper questions like if I was looking for a relationship, how long since I separated from my ex (I told her during dinner that my ex was hot as hell but it didn't work and we were just parents) and then what I am looking for. She mentioned that she'd never been in a relationship. She is early 20s. I said I didn't mind against relationship but I'd like to honest and authentic and I was extremely busy at the moment so I wasn't sure I would have time. Then she asked some other deeply personal questions and got embarassed herself by asking so many. I then playfully said that she could be my 5th girlfriend to which she commented that I was "kocky". I asked her if she really wanted to go out with friends as we could continue our evening. She said yeas, she had to as they were waiting. A bit more compatibility convo before I dropped her off. Hugged and kissed in a car and she said I will see you soon.

Next day I send her a text that I'd like to see her again and I have this and this day free, which one she preferred?...no response...day after I text her saying that I may have been too "kocky" and I know that she is as busy as I am. Want to catchup this week? ...no response...call her in three days...no response.

Sent me a txt today "Hey, sorry for the late response. You seem like a really nice person but I think we are too different. X".

I felt she was smitten during the date and I think it's a test / lesson. But I cannot figure out if it's a test of confidence and I should just push through. At the same time I feel that she thinks I only want her for sex and she doesn't want to get hurt.

I feel that she runs deep and is my polar opposite ying with lifetime potential. I have no intention of hurting her but I feel she's afraid. How to approach this?

I thought her statement was quite clear. Not sure why you think it's a test.

She probably was "smitten" and got to know you a bit and now she's not. She's not afraid, intimidated, or whatever excuse you're trying to find to make sense of her change of heart.

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Not trying to find excuses, just trying to understand the meaning based on context. There was no getting to know between a great end to the date and the text. Are you a scorpio?

"Blah blah blah, I am cocky. Blah, blah, blah"

She didn't like you, and your frail ego had you signing up for this website to ask questions about her. You aren't confidence, its all bravado with you.



Face it dude, she's just not that into you.

Posted by Koniuchaa
I preferred to give math related tests

?

Posted by nikkistar
"Blah blah blah, I am cocky. Blah, blah, blah"

She didn't like you, and your frail ego had you signing up for this website to ask questions about her. You aren't confidence, its all bravado with you.



Face it dude, she's just not that into you.

I do have enormous ego. I didn't feel rejected. I am here to get an insight. Attraction was magnetic and connection was amazing (like 1 in 50 women). Hence I feel there is more to it. I don't intend to grovel but I want to calibrate my response.

By the way you made a great comment. I could have easily come across as superficial, but I don't usually.

Thanks for taking time to respond.

Posted by Koniuchaa
If you don't know your geometry, it's over

sounds more like trigonometry 😉

if there was a point behind your comment please elaborate.

Based on the description of your date, it sounds like she thinks you're mainly interested in the conquest and sexual aspect of the relationship. If that's not what she's looking for she would cut you out completely, despite any chemistry.

Scorp forums have showed that: Scorpios are Blunt Sarcastic Ass holes; we are..

Anyways...

yea, she's not into you bud. Sorry to say.

She's not into you. Do yourself a favour and step away from the Scorp girl.

You text and text and called and she never responded.

She only responded to you out of politeness as you were not too clever to figure it out yourself.

Don't text her again.

Put your ego aside. It's so huge you can't see past it. You had a 90 minute date. 90 minutes... that's all... but it was enough for her to know she didn't feel any connection that was worth pursuing. You just assumed that because you perceived a connection that she did too. It doesn't always work like that.

Move on. It's just not a match. Loads more ladies out there.

Posted by TiredPerson
Based on the description of your date, it sounds like she thinks you're mainly interested in the conquest and sexual aspect of the relationship. If that's not what she's looking for she would cut you out completely, despite any chemistry.

Thanks.

that is exactly what my gut feel tells me. anyway sent her a serious but honest text...will see how it goes.

Posted by bnr7013
You told her you weren't really looking for anything so she decided y'all weren't on the same page. Next time, say what you mean & mean what you say. You can't say one thing to her & then tell "us" she has lifetime potential.

Thanks. Good point. I almost settled on a view that dating scene became too superficial until I met her. Great lesson.

Hey everyone,

Thank you for your contributions and some witty and sarcastic comments. Enjoyed! 🙂

Opted to text a relatively short but honest message without drama.

Maybe I will hear back...in a week, maybe I won't 🙂

Posted by MagicMona
you had charm and were magnetic, that part attracted her. your bravado and ego screamed conquest and conquer. that ultimately repelled her. was the date designed for you to know more about her, or were you trying to make yourself her focus? she picked up on that and red flagged you.

Thanks for the insight. I did actually find out a lot about her, the whole conversation was pretty intense back and forth going from deep and meaningful to silly flirty. But yeah, some unnecessary additional comments might have provided food for thought down the track. Perhaps, the messages after brought those thoughts to the surface.

Posted by ScorpioTruth
She's your "..polar opposite ying with lifetime potential"? Lol

You're infatuated because she's a challenge to you. Clearly you're used to having women throw themselves at you. She's a smart girl. Respect her honesty. It's not a test.

Virtual high five to her for her excellent probing/interview skills. ??

Yeah, it was enjoyable to have an unexpected challenge. And she was very skillful.

What do you think, lost cause?

Posted by ScorpioTruth

Posted by macte

Posted by ScorpioTruth
She's your "..polar opposite ying with lifetime potential"? Lol

You're infatuated because she's a challenge to you. Clearly you're used to having women throw themselves at you. She's a smart girl. Respect her honesty. It's not a test.

Virtual high five to her for her excellent probing/interview skills. ??

Yeah, it was enjoyable to have an unexpected challenge. And she was very skillful.

What do you think, lost cause?

Yes, don't waste your time. I'm sure that you believe your intentions are good, but eventually the challenge would wear out and essentially, you would be wasting her time and your own.

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Love your way of bottling the answer. Appreciate your feedback.

Posted by ScorpioTruth
She's your "..polar opposite ying with lifetime potential"? Lol

You're infatuated because she's a challenge to you. Clearly you're used to having women throw themselves at you. She's a smart girl. Respect her honesty. It's not a test.

Virtual high five to her for her excellent probing/interview skills. ??

exactlyyyyyy, this happens in general with people but Leo's it's another story. I hope the op doesn't fall in love with a Aqua or you done. Or the right Aries woman.

she has another person in her life youd be a rebound starting this way..