SEX LIES AND MORE SEX—?

So, I've been lurking you guys for months! Love this board. Finally figured I'd create a profile and ask a question that has plagued my mind for a bit.

So I've been dating a Libra man with a Scorpio stellium for 10 months (Moon 12 house, Venus 12 house, Mercury 11, Uranus 12) I know how difficult 12 house and Scorpio placements can be in love.

Anyhow, we've spent a lot of time together even though we live an hour apart. We have talked daily, sometimes for hours. I had some issues with Scorp not really wanting to have sex with me for awhile. I wanted passion, I wanted to consume him really 😉 I called him on it twice and he always claimed that he was extremely physically attracted to me, even calling me "out of his league" but would never really open up about why. This went on for the duration of a 6 month period.

I just recently split with him for what I assumed was for good because of the typical elusive, confusing and control games Scorps play. I told him "he wasn't who I thought and to leave me alone." I didn't speak to him for 6 weeks, he was shocked by this (I was at his beckon call for 10 months) I don't think he thought I had the strength to do that. He actually said "I'm calling your bluff". He finally broke down and text me, after seeing me out with mutual friends. He said he missed seeing and talking to me and that he was sorry that "he is too f'd up to make anything like that work". No idea what that means. Anyways, we ended up hanging out as friends and by the end of the night he was ravishing me. I let it go as a good time. We hungout two days later and it was even more intense sex...like 6 hours intense. CRAZY awesome! Eye contact for 6 hours straight.

My question... why would he go from rarely having mediocre sex while we were dating, to completely having open sex with that seems intimate after me not speaking to him for 6 weeks? 10 months for him to open up sexually?? He also told me that he smashed him laptop over his leg when I said I couldnt talk to him anymore? Another thing is now that i've seen him these three times he follows me if im on phone, tries to see who im texting and overall is showing signs of jealousy seems intense considering where were at, no? Why would he get pissed if he was the one who said he couldnt do a relationship— Confused. Sex things seems odd to me...

Lies part is more about him saying many times he doesn't want to be with me then the next week acts like that never happened. Is this all a game for control or WTH?!

He is a Libra sun with a Scorpio Stellium. (Venus, Moon, Merc, Uranus). Seeing as Venus and Moon relate to emotions and relationships I posted in here. I am a Libra sun,Gemini moon and Virgo in Mars/Venus.

One placement? A majority of his chart is scorpio? Only one Libra planet. He acts very scorpio. I was told a Stellium would dominate a persons personality? 5 Scorpio Planets is significant. 😄

So let me rephrase... Is this common behaviour of a man with a Scorpio moon, venus or mercury to behave? I'm wondering if there is any correlation between intimacy and sex for these signs. An explanation as to why he would withhold and then after I leave finally engage... Just curious because it seems odd to me.

Sun Libra 9?? 21' in house 10
Moon Scorpio 29?? 30' in house 12
Mercury Scorpio 3?? 6' in house 11
Venus Scorpio 22?? 48' in house 12
Mars Leo 19?? 1' in house 9
Jupiter Libra 18?? 15' in house 11
Saturn Scorpio 12?? 24' in house 10
Uranus Scorpio 27?? 29' in house 12
Neptune Sagittarius 22?? 19' in house 1
Pluto Libra 23?? 40' in house 11
Ascendant Sagittarius 1?? 6' in house 1
Midheaven Virgo 15?? 15' in house 10
Node True Cancer 28?? 41' in house 8
2 Capricorn 2?? 32' in house 2
3 Aquarius 8?? 55' in house 3
4 Pisces 15?? 15' in house 4
5 Aries 15?? 59' in house 5
6 Taurus 10?? 31' in house 6



Thanks, you maybe right. He gets awful jealous and suspicious...but then denys it afterwards. Seems all in then scared as shit.

I think scorpio mixed with libra is a scary combo

Sag89...haha why is that exactly?

Posted by heliumfiasco
Sag89...haha why is that exactly?

Well, libras are so beautiful and charming sort of indecisive and than you mix that dark can''t figure out sexy scorpio in the mix I think it makes up for a little heart breaker lol

Sag89...OMG you're so right. I have been trying to capture this man for close to a year!!! UGHHHH never in my life!

Posted by heliumfiasco
Sag89...OMG you're so right. I have been trying to capture this man for close to a year!!! UGHHHH never in my life!

Yea it's a trip!

Well, i feel its common with most of the men, they do not open up with you when your dating them. The moment you call u off & start being friends, the next thing you will see is that they start opening up like a box of pandora's & all their secrets start flowing out.

All the guys I ever dated were like this 1 was the worse kind of cusp Tauras & Gemini, other was a Taurus.

Now I am dating a Scorpio who is just like this, doesn't open up at all, keeps talking about news he reads on CNN & worldly news.

It may also be that you gave up on him & one you stopped talking to him, did he realize that he actually misses u !! 🙂

I would say, talk to him to find out where are you guys heading to !!

& I do not agree that all Scorpio's say whats on their mind. Mine Doesn't !!! he doesnt like confrontation as well. & he is moving at a snail's pace. That is like killing me.

BTW I am a Scorp too & no way like this.

Thank you guys a lot for taking the time to answer. I guess I need to come to the realization this is never going to happen. Really is painful. His actions are so erratic, and he is so secretive. He wants to hang out tomorrow.. Maybe I should save myself the heartache and cancel?? I know that he cares about me but I need to listen when he says "too mentally fucked to do this right now"... His eyes always say "I love you" when we are together it's wonderful... apart I go crazy. So hard to walk away from that.

BTW last night I said to him that I wanted his undivided attention when we were talking on FB, he said "Okay, hon. I'm here!" I said "Thank you, now if only I could get you to visit me whenever I want." His response "Maybe I think people say yes to you too often."... I asked if that was a calcualted on purpose like he was teaching me a lesson. He said "Name one person besides me that doesnt give you what you want. Being withholding is one of lifes pleasures."..... WTF?!?! Does that NOT sound like a control issue or what? Like he is going to not give in because he "thinks" people always give me what I want...I want him, he refuses?!?! Crazy or is just me?

Posted by WRP1975
Judging by the profile pic, you might not be attractive enough. I'll need several more pictures from various angles to verify this however.

😉

Ever stop to think, and forget to start again?

WRP1975 You may be absolutley right. We met through mutual friends (all men). Not to sound like i'm ultra awesome or anything but for some reason EVERY single one of our friends has hit on me. One of them actually called him after we split and asked for "permission" to ask me out! The next day he was at my house and told me about it, he was stuck on me for glue for like a month after that. He has also made references to it like sending me a meme that said "Hey everyone stop texting my GF" on top and on the bottom in response it said "stop cockblocking." He has never really said straight out "im jealous" but he seems to passively get mad when I go out with out friends. I just feel like we met through these people, they are my friends and I WOULD NEVER do that. Maybe I should reevaluate. Insightful! Thanks.

Many typo's and grammatical errors. Sorry!

I guess I won't ever know because his pride is huge! If I said "Does it bother you I hang out with so and so?" He would say "You can hang with who ever you want. I don't care." So do you mean overcoming his insecurities may not happen? Or being able to date me? Do you think the thought of a relationship with someone who recieves attention from opposite sex might be difficult? Like he might not want to get close and show me that side of himself because it would show weakness?

I never even considered that he may be more afraid of me than I am him. I guess I just dont understand it. I have been very diligent on expressing my single minded desire for him. He has made comments that I only like him because of my ego and him saying no. What a bizare way of thinking!!!!

I agree. I think the insight you guys have given is great. I'm a Libra and I'm not wishy washy... at least I don't think! haha. I have a lot of Virgo in my chart though. This dude is going to drive me insane!

Posted by WRP1975
It might not be something he can overcome. If its something you don't want to deal with, you need to be honest and tell him. He may withdraw at first, but if he truly wants you he'll be back.

Damn I have to admit us scorpio dudes are like teenage girls sometimes.

That is very ture teenager.