So it continues

Most of you know about my little problem with that crazy Virgo chick a while back. Thanks to your replys and figuring out that I wasn't be TOO sensitive about it... that she really was a little looney I took your guys advice and ignored everything that she's thrown my way. No she's yet to stop but whatever. It's just words from a loon right?

So today I was sitting at home and a mutual friend of her and I showed up to see the new house. When she got there the tornado sirens went off (we had a tornado here today. hehe I love Kansas). We hurried down to my still unfurnished basement and sat there talking for awhile. I noticed she was very quiet. She was holding something back. Finally I asked her if everything was ok and she reluctantly spilled.

She was over at Virgo chicks house a couple days before sitting in her living room watching tv with Virgos little Aries daughter (she's 6) while Virgo did laundry in the basement. She said Little Aries suddenly turned to her and asked her if she'd seen "the Red shrek from Hopeville". Remember that Virgo oh so cleverly came up with calling me Red Shrek. Yeah. I'm serious. Anyway my friend asked her what she meant by "Red Shrek from Hopeville" when Virgo came walking in the room and said "I said HOEville not HOPEville" and started laughing explaining she was telling her daughter that I was a bad person for talking bad about her Mommy. My friends said she was clearly amused and proud that her little girl was saying this. It made my friend so disgusted she left.
Ok... wow. I can take Virgo chick being insane and saying whatever she wants about me. It sucks that I have to put up with it but whatever makes her feel good about herself. BUT her little girl? That little girl use to follow me around like a puppy. I was Aunt (Ginger). I bought both her kids things all the time. When they didnt have new shoes or clothes to start school I took them and bought them stuff because Virgo and her deadbeat druggie husband blew their money on (I suspect) drugs. So yeah... this is hurtful and disturbing. The most disturbing part about this is this Virgo chick works in a DAYCARE. She is using her little girl to bad mouth me putting her in an adult situation and she WORKS with kids? Am I the only one that finds this troubling?
The most troubling part about all this is that she is taking it further without being provoked by me. I've given her no ammo, ignored her, threatened the cops on her and she's still going. She's taken it t

The most troubling part about all this is that she is taking it further without being provoked by me. I've given her no ammo, ignored her, threatened the cops on her and she's still going. She's taken it to a whole new level. This concerns me that she's dragging her kids into a adult "fight" if you call it that given I've ignored her.

Anyway my friend and I made it through the tornado safely. No damage to my house thank goodness.

Am I over reacting (again lol) or should I do something more concrete this time? Am I being too sensitive? Ignore her? Formally press charges of harrassment on her? I can't believe I'm even talking about this still.
I guess I needed to vent. Sorry guys 😛 You just helped me feel alot better last time. 🙂

Oh and I ask about pressing formal charges because last time I had the cops issue her a warning. She's still trying to get "messages" to me through friends. I wonder if a no contact order would be going too far.
I haven't reacted to this at all in front of friends and Aries is gone right now so you guy are the only ones that knows how I feel on this subject.
IDK *sigh*

Hey Ging, Just ignore her mate and when your mutual friends start to tell you something, tell them you really aren't interested in what they have to say about her or she about you because it's upsetting. You have to stop them in their tracks and even if you are curious it's not good for you. Some people are just plain sick and it's probably more that you have annoyed her because you haven't responded that has her sooo upset. Head held high and go on with your life, she is nothing to you!!! 🙂

She's starting to look more disturbed to me then I thought and her hanging on my every move and word.... yikes.
I can ignore her. I've been doing just that. The little Aries comment broke my heart though 😢 That kid is cool. She's just too young to understand what is going on and of course she's going to take her mothers word for everything. 😢 I think that's wrong and a really low blow.

Oh and ignoring my friends. Yeah I should or warn them to leave it alone. I know why she told me because she said it disgusted her and she thought I should know.
The reason why I vent here is because everyone else has vowed to stay out of it. I'm ok with that. I don't blame them. The level it's gotten to is really really childish (I mean Shrek?) They said she was pretty proud of coming up with that name (she had to have been high). So they have been out of it for awhile but this last little blow... ugh.

Aw crap. I forgot to add that Virgo is encouraging her daughter to tell this to other people because as my friend said "She thinks its cute and clever". Not that it matters who she tells. She still teaching a 6 year old girl to trash talk other people. It blows me away. *smh*

Yes, I find it troubling .. just not for the same reasons you described, such as ..


"It sucks that I have to put up with it but whatever makes her feel good about herself. BUT her little girl? That little girl use to follow me around like a puppy. I was Aunt (Ginger). I bought both her kids things all the time. When they didnt have new shoes or clothes to start school I took them and bought them stuff because Virgo and her deadbeat druggie husband blew their money on (I suspect) drugs. So yeah... this is hurtful and disturbing. The most disturbing part about this is this Virgo chick works in a DAYCARE. She is using her little girl to bad mouth me putting her in an adult situation and she WORKS with kids? Am I the only one that finds this troubling?"


It would appear to me that the reason you find it troubling is because it hurts YOU .. it damages how YOU feel, YOUR relationship with little girl ..... it's all based around an adult's feelings .. you.

Whereas, I find it troubling because it identifies emotional damage being done to a child, who doesn't have the adult capabilities of reasoning.

You can reason .. you can consider the source and deem her insignificant so that it doesn't effect your emotions if you choose it to not effect you ... the child on the other hand, is learning from this person .. her emotional maturity and well being is dependent upon her this woman.



Seriously, your feelings are a non-issue at this point, you should be a grown up and be able to handle your own emotions and put them into perspective .... the 6 year old is at the mercy of the adults in her life.

The only victim in this is the child, not you, Ginger.

you realize she's doing this because she's desperate and she wants your attention right? contacting the cops would be giving her what she wants...some way to twist this warped story into an attack on her where she becomes the victim. i say stay strong and continue to ignore her. politely tell the mutual friends you share with the psycho that you'd prefer to hear nothing about her (the good, the bad, the ugly...nada). your friend was wrong in assuming that you needed to hear this tidbit of information about the psycho (you already knew she's a bad mom. how sad for the child). treat this as you would a break up with a guy


don't forget that you're not trying to teach the psycho a lesson...you're getting her out of your life because you don't care about her anymore

I agree with you P angel. Obviously I'm frustrated that she can't let it go yet. I've been dealing with it by ignoring her even though she's done and said some pretty messed up things since I posted the last incident.

I moved recently to a new house for certain reasons. Nuff said.

But the disturbing disgusting part is bring a child into it. I am upset that she is turning little Aries "against" me but what's more upsetting is what she is doing to her child. That kid is the brightest smartest little girl I've know. I really didn't think it would be fair to mention Virgos shortcomings as a mother since I don't have any children myself. I thought it would come across as petty because I'm mad at her. I didn't want to see it as taking a shot at her.

I also agree that the cops are a bad idea. When I posted this I was so frustrated because I'd been chewing on it all day and I was thinking of options to make it stop. That's going too far.
I do still worry about her working in a daycare. She's obviously warped enough to use her own child for her own personal satisfaction... what is she gonna do to others kids? She honestly should have her children taken away from her for the things *I've* seen. She screams and cusses at her 4 year old Autistic child. She calls them "fucking brats" ALL the time. Her youngest drank a bottle of liquid heat (car fluid) because she was neglecting watching him. She works in a daycare? Ugh.

Thanks to all the replies. *sigh* back to acting like a crazy person isn't affecting my life. To be honest I've been avoiding mutual friends because of this. The girl came over to see the new house. That was one of the first times I've been around a mutual friend since it started. She meant well by telling me. I could tell she was torn on wether to tell me or not. I didn't smell a rat.