The Cheating GENE!!

Is there such a thing? Or a scientific excuse for all charlatans??

I cheated once when I was 19. I chose never to do it again and I haven't. Therefore I think it's a choice. I think some people are wired for monogamy and some aren't. The ones who compulsively cheat need to figure that out.

Posted by Cadillac
I know Dr. Phil is a penis with a mustache, but he did release some information that does give certain people a genetic disadvantage when it comes to cheating. But it's not a "cheating" gene, it's actually an enhanced gland in your brain that causes a need for excitement. Cheating just happens to be one of those aspects.

On that note: I get a very guilty feeling when I know I may be cheating. I don't consider flirting or going out cheating. But I will not have sex with anyone other than the one I'm with, and I will not stay at their place, I will not even kiss them. So I must not have that problem.

Wow..you never cease to amaze me Cadillac. That was quite genuine.🙂

I understand some people make mistakes and regret it or whatever...and I also understand that some people are just not able to be committed to a person...or to the 'rules' of a particular relationship...but in my opinion that doesn't excuse cheating.

If there is such a thing as a 'cheating' gene then the person with it would know...because they would always be cheating...so those people should then decide that they won't get into a committed relationship. That way they won't be cheating and the gene will have to be renamed to something else 🙂

I've seen a movie like that....I think it was called 'Unfaithful' but I'm not 100% sure.

I just don't understand how the people who cheat can seem to be so numb to the pain they will cause anyone else involved. That's why I don't believe in the whole gene theory...You can get away with saying your not a one man/woman person but I don't think you should be able to get away with commiting to someone and then cheating on them.

I reckon,my face is plastered on various dart boards...from angry males that have stood up.😢
Am a huge coward....I really cannot cheat....flirting I can do really well but when it comes to getting intimate if the emotional connection isnt there...then it aint going to happen.
Plus the guilt would kill me.😢
Hence why I fall in the trap of having an emotional affair. I do feel bad for the guys who felt I messed with their heads but I would have felt even worse,if I got intimate with anyone except my aries.
Yes I am sooo a scorpio.🙂

Posted by Cadillac
So, I amaze you, huh?

yes you have...never judge a book by its cover or previous post.lol

Posted by oldskoolflavor
do you have it ?

What do you think Sherlock??

Enjoyed what? Standing people up? Its the power I enjoyed. Me thinks.🙂

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Yo, stop with the smilies, that's emotional cheating right there !!
Hehehehe
Not really.
Get used to not having the powah now you belong to Mr.Man Aries, mrahahahaha 😛

Hahaha....wrong again!!
My grandma once said the secret to a happy life...he should be in love with you 60:40 ratio.
Best way to keep it.

Huh? No he has it good. Have got my own bank...so any clowning around...am out the door.🙂

Ok my bad.😢

Posted by FemmeScorpion
Is there such a thing? Or a scientific excuse for all charlatans??

The "cheating gene" theory is complete crap!

There's nothing "wired" inside any of us that makes us cheat. If that were the case, every single person alive would be a cheater, not only once but multiple times throughout their entire lifespan. The mere fact that some people absolutely can AND do control it proves the "cheating gene" theory wrong from the start.

All humans have a heart, a brain, & organs, BUT not all humans are cheaters. The mere fact that even 1% of people are the exception makes the cheating gene theory void.

However, I do think it's naturally wired in us human beings to go seek emotional fulfillment elsewhere. Doesn't mean this will lead to cheating, but moreso that I believe it's wired in us from childhood to naturally feel "entitled" to having the things we want, even if we technically don't "need" those things. The difference is that some people are better at weighing their options & deciding on whether going elsewhere will result in more loss or gain, better than others.

Cheating is a LEARNED behavior, not a wired behavior.

Here's the deal, we all have the "cheating gene." We are all programmed to have sex, to procreate, that is. All of us look at others with lust in our hearts and thoughts. It is nature, it is normal.

If you read such books as "Sex at Dawn," and "Sex in History," just to name a couple, you will learn that our cultural habit of monogamy isn't necessarily the norm. We have this Judeo-Christian culture where women and children are seen as property. Other places have the same cultural standards, but not all. In some cultures where women have held a higher value, giving birth was the real measure of value, not ownership by a male. In many ways, our view of sex is very skewed.

As I say, if you happen to read into this subject a bit further you will find that many, many people don't put the same value on sex that we do. I personally am good with our cultural norms. But I also recognize the impulses and desires in myself, and see them in everyone around me. It is our actions that make the difference, not the normal, underlying thoughts and desires. Our actions are determined by our personal character and choices, and we can control those actions.