This..conver-say-shun

Gem : Hey
Scorp: HI
Gem: How are you
Scorp: I'm good..u?
Gem: Good too. Just wanted to clear the air.
Scorp: Let me be clear, is there any desire on your part to try again?
Gem: That's something i would have to think about. U?
Scorp: Not sure either
Gem: Ok
Scorp: So what's new?
Gem: ***chit chat, regular stuff, polite conversation****
AFTER SOME TIME
Scorp: Have you missed me?
Gem: Just as much as you missed me
Scorp: which is how much
Gem: You don't know how much you missed me?
Scorp: remind me please
Gem: I'm still a bit indifferent

Ego boost for scorp or indirect way of expressing he had missed me?

Posted by gracet
Ego boost for scorp or indirect way of expressing he had missed me?

Neither. If it was me, I'd be asking to figure out why you contacted me in the first place. "Is it cause you missed me? What the fuck are you trying to pull?"

He is someone I see all the time and I just wanted to clear the air.

What would you say the "i'm a bit indifferent communicates to him"-- that there is still a possibility or that i'm no longer interested?

Clearing the air on my part was a desire to let him know that I don't want to have any animosity or tension between us.

Impulsv I don't know what your last post meant..

I do not want him back.

If an ex communicates to you "I'm still a bit indifferent" would you take that as they are not interested or would you be thinking they said they are indifferent but yet the contacted?

ERR Impulsv, the reason I am having difficulty understanding you is because you haven't read the conversation properly.

Well Because I hadn't spoken to him for 2 months and I contacted him to clear the air since I see him almost everyday. It's difficult when you see someone that you have tension with so often.

I did not expect him to still be interested. I thought his response would have been ok no problem, no hard feelings.

So it was a bit surprising to hear him immediately jump to do you want to try again or do you still miss me.

So I am wondering if he is interpreting my desire to clear the air as an indicator that there is still interest on my part?

I no longer wanted to act as if he didn't exist, the mask was too heavy to wear all the time.

I also did not want to be responsible for his nervous/awkward feelings everytime I saw him.

He couldn't act normal and he didn't know what to do with himself. Always pacing, nervous fidgeting, trying hard not to look at me and if our eyes met accidentally the frantic scurry that he would do to act as if he wasn't looking at me.

At my place of work I would prefer to be free to come and go as I please and not experience awkward feelings if I happen to bump into him.

Agreed.

I had envisioned in my head that I would apologize (I really was sorry for how i treated him which is why it took so long) -i had to really mean it.

So I envisioned saying sorry and i was prepared for him to either not respond or blast me but he did the opposite.

Then after the apology I would be able to see him at work and say hi how are you and move on with my life.

Now because he's asked about still trying is going to make it difficult to act as if we're only acquaintances..

Though I'm sure that I can.

But what is a sticking point for me is..it's been 2 months of no contact !

How is it that he still wants to try?

😕

Dafuq?

Posted by gracet
Gem : Hey
Scorp: HI
Gem: How are you
Scorp: I'm good..u?
Gem: Good too. Just wanted to clear the air.
Scorp: Let me be clear, is there any desire on your part to try again?
Gem: That's something i would have to think about. U?
Scorp: Not sure either
Gem: Ok
Scorp: So what's new?
Gem: ***chit chat, regular stuff, polite conversation****
AFTER SOME TIME
Scorp: Have you missed me?
Gem: Just as much as you missed me
Scorp: which is how much
Gem: You don't know how much you missed me?
Scorp: remind me please
Gem: I'm still a bit indifferent

He's probably wondering why you contacted him.

Posted by gracet
I do not want him back.

If an ex communicates to you "I'm still a bit indifferent" would you take that as they are not interested or would you be thinking they said they are indifferent but yet the contacted?

If an ex contacted me and I ask whether they want me back and they say they're indifferent, it would be irritating to me and I'd be even more glad it was over. I'd probably ignore them after that.

*scorpio venus/rising*

Posted by LittleStar
Basically she's talking to this Scorpio because she's curious and/or bored.

Then someone else sparkly will come along and she will forget that he ever existed.

Typical gemini tactic.

Posted by gracet
Agreed.

I had envisioned in my head that I would apologize (I really was sorry for how i treated him which is why it took so long) -i had to really mean it.

So I envisioned saying sorry and i was prepared for him to either not respond or blast me but he did the opposite.

Then after the apology I would be able to see him at work and say hi how are you and move on with my life.

Now because he's asked about still trying is going to make it difficult to act as if we're only acquaintances..

Though I'm sure that I can.

But what is a sticking point for me is..it's been 2 months of no contact !

How is it that he still wants to try?

It's called feelings, this guy is probably young and doesn't realize how you gems are.

I've had relationships with two Gems, one was shady as hell and the other was a sweetheart that was afraid of her feelings and sided with her now long gone friends, both not worth it and both came begging back. They both did the casual "hey I just wanted to see how you're doing" BS. I dogged the shady one out, and the one who broke my heart I just went cold towards her.

Posted by gracet
I do not want him back.

Right. So what was this about?:

Posted by gracet

Scorp: Let me be clear, is there any desire on your part to try again?
Gem: That's something i would have to think about. U?
Scorp: Not sure either
Gem: Ok
Scorp: Have you missed me?
Gem: Just as much as you missed me

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Seriously? It's a simple "no I do not think we should try again. I just called because it feels awkward at work" unless you're full of it and his response didn't make you feel all that secure enough to come out and say "yeah I want to try again".

Meh. You're playing around with this man and really you should have left this alone because it will only get worse.

Posted by gracet
Gem : Hey
Scorp: HI
Gem: How are you
Scorp: I'm good..u?
Gem: Good too. Just wanted to clear the air.
Scorp: Let me be clear, is there any desire on your part to try again?
Gem: That's something i would have to think about. U?
Scorp: Not sure either
Gem: Ok
Scorp: So what's new?
Gem: ***chit chat, regular stuff, polite conversation****
AFTER SOME TIME
Scorp: Have you missed me?
Gem: Just as much as you missed me
Scorp: which is how much
Gem: You don't know how much you missed me?
Scorp: remind me please
Gem: I'm still a bit indifferent

Why did you let your ego stop you from answering directly?

If you want an answer you should have answered the question. I ask that question hoping for that person to ANSWER it, not answering in a circle..

If you are indifferent then why would you want to try working it out?

Posted by LittleStar
Basically she's talking to this Scorpio because she's curious and/or bored.

Then someone else sparkly will come along and she will forget that he ever existed.

Yes, she was for sure!!

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Worst conversation ever.

"You don't know how much you've been missing me?" Would have been met with eyes rolled and note to self to never have anything but the most superficial conversation only when necessary with you ever again.

+1

welll...thank you all for your comments.

I saw him today at work and i looked straight at him and didn't feel any discomfort, he smiled at me and gave the me the I'm still into you look and mouthed "hi" in front of all those he was in a conversation with to which I smiled back and said hi and walked past.

i had to walk past him again and i knew he looked at me and continued to look at me until I entered into my office.

So. maybe he still likes me but won't act on it.

He was clearly happy to see me.