Typical Scorpio or Disinterest?

I have been seeing a scorpio for several months. Everything has been going pretty good, until a couple of weeks ago.

We live about 3 hours apart, so we talk on the phone quite a bit. 2 weeks ago he was traveling for work. On Tuesday we talked and everything was fine. Then Wednesday he called, and was very imapatient with me. Everything I started to say he assumed he knew what i was going to say, and answered with very short answers. He was generally wrong. We had plans to see each other the next week on Tuesday and Wednesday. I did not hear from him again until late Monday. He seemed to have forgotten our plans for the week. He started out telling me that he didn't know if he would have time, and ended up telling me that he wanted to see me. We got together Tuesday, and I thought had a wonderful time. When I was leaving for work Wednesday he said call me when you finish for the day. So i did. He said that he was not finished yet, he would call me when he finished. He called back about 7:00, and said that he was finished, and would be over in a little while. Then he called back about 10:00 and said that another job had really needed finishing, and he would be over in a little bit. He never showed
up
I tried to call him the next day, but he doesn't answer his phone.

Any thoughts?

thanks
Libra

Ouch! Sorry, LibraLady, but it sounds like to me you're being given the brush-off. I could understand if something else came up, but there is no excuse in this day and age to not be able to let someone know you're not going to be able to make it. What a slag! If he does like you, I suspect in a few days if you don't contact him, you'll be getting the "1001 excuses why I was a complete jerk" communication from him. Don't fall for it. He's testing you to see if you'll put up with that kind of behavior, and if you will, he'll keep doing it.

Sea Siren,
Thanks for your thoughts. I think you are probably right.
I just don't understand why see me at all if he wanted to get rid of me, or what changed between 1:00, and 10:00. Or here's is a really novel idea...just tell me "I don't want to see you anymore".

libra

You'll probably hear from him again. "I'm so sorry...blah.blah.blah". Just trust your intuition. 😉

Libralady may I ask you this? Now that your scorpio is showing apart of himself that you don't like? What have you done to deal with it? What are you going to do? and what type of support are you going to give yourself if he is not ready to act the way he should? Will you say you still love him when he calls or are you going to jump ship when the going gets tough? Its not his choice to make you feel like you want to stick around? basically its all in your court. Don't try to smooth him over without being real with your true feelings within yourself. He will see through it. You will eventually not only find out what he may have been about, but you might find out what you are all about. That's when the game begins. I hope you will not be offended by the truth, If you find out a harsh reality about you not him. If you are not strong enough for that, I suggest you let it go now while you still have the strength.

Heres a noval idea maybe he had to work and it doesn't mean anything other than what was stated.Heres a question for ya,does this guy own his own buisness or is paid very well for what he does?If so why aren't you complaining when he's spending it on you?Sorry but if I don't want to be with someone its over,no games about it.And no it's not a man thing either,why is it that every single question about a scorpio is turned negative,I thought it was scorpios who did the negative parinod thinking bit.

callmemsram,
I really don't know what I will do if I hear from him again. You are right about finding out truths about myself. I already have to a certain extent in this relationship. Some I like some I don't. I am definately strong enough to go toe to toe with him. I'm just not sure I want to. I guess only time will tell.

Tiamat,
I know he was working, and I suspect he fell asleep when he got home. But why not call me the next morning, and tell me that? I hope he is as honorable as you are about ending a relationship. Maybe scorpio men just bring out the best and the worst in a woman.

Libralady... Are we dating the same scorpio? lol Sorry not trying to make fun of your situation but its just really ironic the way your story sounds like mine. I am dating a scorpio and the first 2 weeks were great. He even said he knew I was the one he was going to marry. Then all in one day he got very short me, screamed and hung up on me. I never heard from him until 3 days later. He called on a Friday night to ask what I was doing. Not because he wanted to see me but just because he wanted to know what I was doing. Then for the next 2 weeks he would call and say he was coming over and call at the last minute with something else he had to go do.

I am very bad at taking advice but can give you my own opinion on this. Let him come to you. I dont mean wait around for him, but dont bother with him if you've done nothing wrong. I did this last weekend and it worked like a charm. My scorp called me and I had plans with the girls. He wanted me to call him when I got in but I "sort of" forgot. He was on his toes the next day. I do know though this if I'm going to be in this relationship I have to prepare for a roller coaster. At least until I kick him into shape lol. (FYI) not saying ALL scorpios are like this, just had to say that.

>I know he was working, and I suspect he fell asleep when he got home. But why not call me >the next morning, and tell me that?

There is no excuse for that. If someone is important to you and you have to break plans with them, you always let them know. Really not seeing a gray area on this one. You have every right to be angry and upset, LibraLady.

wow ladies.. I dont want to put my nose where it does not belong! But it sounded so much like what I just went through! I'm sorry libralady, i know does not feel good and that it is confusing but If he can not give you the respect you deserve,(a quick call to say hes tired is not to much to ask) back away! You and all the woman out here deserve more. We should not have to wonder if a man likes us or if hes being honest,or question anything for that matter, we should know by their actions!

A friend on here told me along time ago (OW) that "actions speak louder than words"! Had I listened to her words along time ago I would not be trying to mend my broken heart now!


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good luck libralady!! GEG~

SeaSiren you make all the sense in the world. But? that's why a Scorpio male differs from anyone else or should I say, we don't understand them. They are who they are. In his little twisted mind, he doesn't take things like that so serious. If you are there for him, then why would it matter if he waits another day. With my experience, he will not respond because he knows what he should of done. Calling the first thing in the morning if he cares per-say, your thoughts? is just what he will avoid. He'll wait until you get over it to avoid the confrontation. You will never be able to control what he should do. There have been other circumstances where someone has told us one way or another, what we should have done. Why is it a bigger problem with the one you want to be with. Like I've said, don't get mad, get glad. Deal with it or not. We have choices as to which, a scorpio will stand for his own. Sorry but its the truth.

Libralady, ok then! hold your head up.....You don't have to explain in detail. I know that when he does call, stay off the defense. A part of you is saying, tell him to f#ck off, I know! been there already. Then there is apart of you saying, well maybe he will talk and explain him self, which you hope the most, to make you feel at ease. Don't start something and it won't be nothing. I know how it feels to be vulnerable but who says it will a comfortable feeling. Just don't change who you are. Now if you are a mouthly type of person, and you have to speck you mind, then do so. But don't expect the red carpet to roll out. It gets worst...sorry its the truth. If you really can't handle the emotionally stuff, make up your mind and leave it alone. If you call him out, you better mean what you say. Later you will be eating your words. If you tell him that you are finished and done, well mean it. If you are not sure, even though you say you can go toe to toe? Well I hate to say it, his foot is still in place waiting for you to bust a move. Careful sweety, if he steps on you toe, you will feel it. If you stepped on his, he will not reveal how you hurt him. Choices, choices? We all have to live with them of course. Some advice will help, but some advice will just be an opinion. You hear it, but yet it just won't fit until..............

Maybe you guys should check out branh's topic why relationships don't work on the virgo board.Pay special attention to Qbones post,if that doesn't help you out dump him,BUT,BUT don't whine when someone overeacts to your own forgeting something and you get dumped.

callsmemsram, I am not currently in a relationship with a Scorpio. LibraLady is, and she seems to have a problem with someone not caring enough to let her know they aren't going to be able to make it. I think you and I are both telling her that if it upsets her (which, frankly, it would upset anyone with self-esteem)then a Scorpio is not for her. Which is true. If someone wants to sit around and have their life on hold night after night because she's waiting on some man to show up when he says he is going to (but never does), I'm sorry, but that is no way to live and it is NOT a relationship. There is no balance. And yes, this may be a trait of Scorpio men, but it is a bad one. The Pisces trait of being irresponsible is also a bad one, but I fight it because I know in the long run it is the best thing for me. Should my boss just be expected to "accept" it if I am going to be late everyday, not call, and take naps during my workday? I think not. If we just accepted every bad characteristic each and every sign has without challenging it, we would all kill each other. Everyone keeps talking about "the good scorpios", and I'm betting that the good ones have mastered this negative trait and don't treat people this way. There is never a good reason, for a woman OR a man, to accept being treated poorly by someone they're involved with. If someone really cares about you, they wouldn't dream of hurting you in any way, but especially not on purpose. Just my .02. 🙂

sure you are right seasiren. But one must remember...In order to move past doubts, fears and insecurities, we must endure and explore the unknown. She is there right now. Whether its with a Scorpio or anyother sign for that matter(male of course), she has to break the cycle. She will discover that she is stronger than she may realize at some point in time. It's not an easy thing to do. If her and Mr. Scorpio doesn't make it through, regardless as to how she is being treated, she will cling to her next partner and bring with her all that Scorpio has taught her. That will be to never allow another to get that close to her before she can put them through a test. Meanining it will be an unconscience thought of behavior which will leave her as lonely as she may be feeling now. Trust is important in relationships. Right now she is learning, mistrust from Mr. Scorpio because I am sure as we week, she doesn't even trust the feelings that she has for him right now. It's really sad but true..

Im seriously not meaning to be mean this time but you do see where theres a contradiction in these posts don't you libralady?Quirkyone forgot to call her man but your guy does what seems to be the same thing and he gets the third degree.It's a scorpio so he's cheating and should be gotten rid of.Thats what you all sound like.Except for you callmemsram.

Wow...i didn't mean to start a debate...lol
Seriously thank you all for your advice

As it turns out I should not be in a relationship with this scorpio.
Yesterday I got a phone call from his other girlfriend. Turns out the cell phone he has been calling me on was hers. She has been seeing him for over a year, and I am not the first time she has caught him cheating on her.

I am walking away from this one, thankful that I found out before I got in too deep.
I am hurt, but not near as hurt as I would have been 6 months from now.

Thank you everyone for your wonderful advice.
callmemsram you have a great insight.

Libra

Wow sorry about that,yeah it's good you found out now.I apologize for the b-tch mode I was in.It's just a bit annoying everytime something like this comes up involving a scorpio.It's as if the post aren't even read and some of the replies don't have anything to do w/ the topic in a rational sense.We are made out to be the most evil people to ever exist.Then in my own situation I will admit im wrong once,when I am,but doing it that once it's like a big target me with anything and everything that goes wrong.Even when the other people are to blame,they don't want to admit some of the fault is thier own,so I let them go and take it out on me to relieve themselves of those godforbidden words.Playing victem even when your far from it is fun for some people,I guess.

wow~ sorry to hear that libra!! Good luck ~

QuirkyOne your scorpio sounds like a really moody one,your in for a long ride unless you butts heads w/ him correctly to get him to realise he's overboard.But being that he is that intense the good moments are going to be really good that may balence the bad.Sea siren no means to insult you but the no grey in the area of relationships is a scorpio negative trait,I've been there and learned to keep it in check.It's really a bad thing in relationships,Im not saying you shouldn't have ideas or standards but that is kinda up there for most people to live up to,this topic didn't come off as anything severe originally.It just seemed like he was busy working and forgot.GEG good job liers suck and aren't worth anyones time.

Thanks right Libralady!! smile and laugh at the fact that it wasn't 6 months later. It's truly a plus for you. You will live!!! I am sure you will....Thanks for the compliment as well....

ALL please excuse my typing!!!! Its getting on my nerves now.....Trying to be cute with these damn nails of mine....They happen to be real....So I'll just have to take my time....Won't dare to cut them....Cheeezzzze

Hello all. I've read these 2 pages and it's interesting how some Scorpios can mess it up for the rest of us. I'm a Scorpio, but I always call people back and I expect them to do the same. I was dating a Libra about a year ago, and she never called me back but would always brush me off. I offered to take her out and have a good time, but, she would never call me back. Some Scorpios can be insensitive, but most (like me) are sensitive and when someone does not call them back, it hurts their confidence. So, you really cannot blame (not that anyone is) Scorpios in general for ditching people, because all astrological signs are capable of doing so. In fact, Scorpios are the most dedicated and loyal people to meet...however, if they are betrayed and have a bad temperament, they tend to get vindictive. Being jealous, vindictive, and possessive are not very worthy traits, but not all Scorpios have those traits and some know how to control them. I have actually experienced this first hand, as I have recently gotten out of a serious relationship with another Scorpio. It's funny how different we actually were. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is, if another Scorpio comes into your life, Libralady, don't automatically give him the cold shoulder or assume anything. It's wise to keep your guard up, but it's also a good idea to give someone a chance as well. Take care Libralady, and good luck! 🙂

We are rather simple to understand actually. We require only acceptance from others, even as we accept how you are. We perceive our own intellect to be superior to that of our counterparts, thus our dynamic adjustments to a situation may be seen as being impatient. We are an enigma of personality defined by our environment of the moment. If others become absorbed in their paradoxical lives we have compassion by correcting their erratic behavior. Often this may seem as though we are oppressive, just as we may seem disinterested when we simply allow for the space another needs to learn from the present mistake.

However since we are true beings of compassion we are misunderstood often. When the newness of a relationship elates us as a new wine of untested vintage, which may seem to others exhilarating at the start. We will also appreciate the mellowing effect as we become accustomed to your taste. Though we may eventually become bored with you and begin to attempt changes to stimulate our vastly superior minds. Thus our compassion may take forms of diminished communication to press you into opening your own minds.

I am supremely confidant that once all of our places in the universe are set, all life will finally understand what we are. Scorpios are not hindered by the gender barrier as others are; we are uniquely superior in all forms weather male or female.

Be safe and well.

"I am supremely confidant that once all of our places in the universe are set, all life will finally understand what we are. Scorpios are not hindered by the gender barrier as others are; we are uniquely superior in all forms weather male or female"..............that somehow reminds me of the famous quote below -

"Let's face it; God has a big ego problem. Why do we always have to worship him?"

"Superior"........eh sorry I don't think so!!!.........I certainly like your attitude but not your ego onetorule:-)!!!

Be safe and well.


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