Why not to date a Scorpio...

Scorpio:

Looking for a lover who will automatically suspect you of lying at all times? Someone who will be obsessively jealous of everyone around you, regardless of their age or sex? Want a relationship with someone who will squint suspiciously at you, at least once a day, and ask what you really meant by that? If so, you've found your match -- or, actually, they've found you. They'll continue finding you, too, no matter where you hide. Just look out back in those bushes. That's them in the black tights -- with the binoculars. Oh, it might seem a bit psychotic at first, but you'll get used to it. Keeping you in their sights is just Scorpio's way of saying, I Love You.

"They'll continue finding you, too, no matter where you hide. Just look out back in those bushes. That's them in the black tights -- with the binoculars."

OMFG! ROFL!

And a sky mask and a bag full of the video tape replacements for the 250 hidden cameras you don't know are in your house.

LOL...oh yeah...i am feeling really good about my new realtionship with a scorpio.

Seriously though, I have actually seen little signs of this. It's kind of cute right now. Hope I always feel that way about it.

libra

LOL. How cute. Hey it's an opinion. Although I am suspicious but I don't show it.

Want a crybaby? Someone that will cling to you for dear life? ... Get that cancer 😉 Just what you need babeey!!

This one guy kept asking me "are you lying?"...."are you lying?" .... "tell me honestly" ...."are you lying?" it gets pretty annoying when I'm not even lying.

Well this is actually a response to the topic "why not date a scorpio..." well i can only answer and describe scorpio men so bear with it. First and foremost scorpion men are rude they will intend to take control of you and when they can't, they'll try everything in order to do so, this includes use of emotion,friends,family and all others stuff that they can actually use. And second is that they can most likely know what kind of a person you are in one look(strenghts and weaknesses). This is were those binoculars and hidden cameras comes in. And third they will never ever stop flirting. Even how beautiful,intelligent,rich and et.al. you are, they wont be satisfy.
Well these are some of the reason why not date a scorpio..(men).

I aso find Scorpio men to be the most rude of al the signs. Unbelievably rude and insensitive. I do think think the hae a good side that they let peak out when they want...but personally I can't stand them. They are as\*sho*les and anyone who has a problem with that or think sdifferently consider yourself lucky that they have been so kind to you. I have two Sorpio men trying to date me right now and I am just not up for that riight now...they are both being sweetright now but I kno wso much better to buy into that because they will turn on you in a minute and you will be wondering WTF!! But if you want a challallenge and want to be emotionally drained....If want to be picked up and put back down....Go for it!

This keyboard sticks and gets in a rut,,,,sorry for all the misspellings

Unfortunately....not for the reason that you are implying....lol

Dating a scorpio and I've read your posts on scorpio's and jealousy but oh my God.... I want a tatoo, just a small one on my hip and I was TOLD "I dont want someone's hands on you. If you get one I'm going to be there. IF I can handle it." Are you really THAT jealous? Right now its cute but what is to come?

Quirky (love the moniker, btw),

You = freedom-loving & don't-fence-me-in Aquarian (I know -- I'm married to one)

He = Possessive and let-me-conrol-you-body-mind-and-soul Scorpian

Hmm. Do you want to do the math or should I? 😉

LOL No I think I can do the math. The thing about him is I cant get a tatoo because he's jealous but he needs his space when HE needs it. I love him but he is so confusing.

QuirkyOne...

WTF Who is he to tell you what you can and cannot do with your body? I really don't like men like that...It gets on my nerves. Are you a Pisces or Cancer Rising b/c they would be the only ones I could think of who would tolerate that behavior; Pisces mainly thinking it is cute. Most Aqua's I know would tell him where to get off...

As far as not dating a Scorpio...I once again totally agree with Softy. Scorpio men can be ruthless, sweet always at first, but the evil side lurks!

Cancerlady

lol Yeah, QO. I hear that. I think they are the original zodiac players...other than Gemini and Leo. Only Scorpio games tend not to be fun (at least that's what I'm finding out). Oh, yeah, the sweet games are nice -- but the other ones -- fuggitaboutit.

I have to agree with cancerlady...I don't know of any Aquarian free spirits who would take that. I'm a Cappy, and if he said that to me I would laugh and say "Awwww...really?" (IF I was in the very early stages of the relationship)...then my a $ $ would be at the tattoo place the next night getting it done. Ain't NO man gonna boss me. That's what I'm learning about Scorps. They really do have that out-of-control-evil controlling nature.

Let me tell you about the Scorp I'm talking about -- we aren't going out -- but plenty of liking and office flirting. Every once in awhile that ugly uber-controlling side would rear its ugly head, and I would be like "Whhaaaaa?" "You aren't my man! You can't EVEN begin to talk to me like that!" Out of nowhere, he would tell me what to do (and he wasn't my boss) and how to feel/act. One time we went out for a co-worker lunch (with another guy) and there was a woman at the next table having trouble getting her infant in the stroller. I immediately asked if I could be of any help. As we were walking back to the office, he leaned over to me and whispered, "You shouldn't have offered that woman and her kid any help. The waitress offered to help her and she declined, and then she answered you like you should have asked before the waitress. You really shouldn't do that." Again, I was like "Whhhaaaaa?" Too shocked to say anything.

Be careful. I'm just sayin'....

Dont get me wrong.... I'm confused by his actions and opinions I didnt say I was going to abide by his word. BS!!! I went and looked at tats today and let him know I was going within the next week to get it. He's not happy but the last thing I'm going to do is let ANYONE tell me what to do. I am curious why he would care but in the end I always do what I want. He tries to make it look like a caring issue but I know its just a control thing. There hasnt been a man who can pin me down yet. lol Good luck to the man who tries.

rising sign is Aquarius

LOL!!!! QO, you GO girl! 😄

Glad to hear it QuirkyOne...Let me know what type of tatoo you get K?

DorthyGail...Anybody who criticizes someone else for wanting to help another person is a jerk in my book. No offense but I would have told him where to get off too.

Cancerlady

Hi CG,

I was really suprised that you stated that a Scorpio (male) likes independant woman. I believe, that's what broke the camels back with my scorpio. Plus he can't control me. He has tried every angle with me. I have just realized how bad he tired. I now understand what all the toe to toe arguments where about. He is so jealous of my independence. His words" you think you always have to be on top" you can get anything you want because you are a very smart girl" you have to control everything including your men, situations blah, blah, blah. "This is not how you are suppose to be in relationships" and I still quote him in saying that " I am your biggest challenge in your life because you defeated everything else. WTF, I said..I still don't understand why this man would want a women who is needy and always needing him to pick up the pieces. All I need from him is emotional support. He can't handle my force but yet, I have gone through the emotional hide tides with him. Yes I have hurt over and over but yet, I dish my shi*t too. That's why I'll take my licking and keep on ticking. He is trying to break me. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!!! and I quote!!!! I will bend backwards but I won't break. We still haven't gotten through point "A". I love him but very bored! our verbal abruisive words back and forth is getting old. What would you say with experience is the major cause of not reaching point "B". I could handle him, I believe he can't handle me. I won't shut up or be talked to anyway and I will say my peace one way or another. He HATES me for that...and.......

My advice. Don't date a Scorpio if you don't have a life. You better have to heads if you dare! If one is not working because of the sting of a scorpio, then the other one better be working in full force keeping your LIFE on track! Trust me on that!! Anyone disagree??

Tattoo status.... lol

Went looking at tats the other day and I'm not sure what I want. Any idea's? lol
There is a HUGE bike rally here this week so everything is tripled in price so I'm waiting for it to GO AWAY!!! I have many idea's what I want but havent made up my mind. Smiley face with horns and a devilish grin is one(love smiley faces) As for where I'm getting it? Front side of my hip I think. Somewhere discreet!

Off the subject for a minute, I have a question for all you scorpios. Why are scorpios so secretive/sneaky? Are you hiding something if you act like this?

Nope,it's just that im not EXTRA EXTRA hey,look at me,hey pay attention to me damn it.I go about my own buisness just because it's not verbalised that im going to work,I broke up with my man,(fill in some other complaint or statement here)doesn't mean that there is something secret or devious about it.If you ask the correct questions,you may get the answer without any problem.Everything other people talk about has been said trillions of times before why would my own saying something be any different.

I have no problem with the scorps...as long as they turn off their infamous jalousies.

Tiamat- Thank you. I understand that part of my scorpio a little better now. I guess he himself is just confusing me by the way he's acting. (a long story short b/c I've stated this on another post) I met my scorpio and our relationship progressed quickly and it was great for 2 wks. HE said he loved me and I soon realized (even though it was fast) I did to. Then as if all in one day he was gone. He still called saying he would come over but then soon came up with an excuse as to why he couldnt. This went on for 2 weeks. Then he calls up last week and says he wants to come over like nothing happened. He did and said he was sorry that he got scared. I (an aquarius woman) had already started getting cold but decided he deserved another chance. He made so much effort all week to see me(we live a while away from each other) and it was great. Then all of a sudden he starts emotionaly drifting again (I just feel it).So now I'm starting to feel a little "aloof." I dont want to drive him away but I KNOW he's going to sense something is different. I also dont want to get too close at the cost of getting hurt. I"M SO CONFUSED!!! I do question of he is seeing someone else but then again it might just be him being himself (or a scorpio lol) The other thing I find very odd is this... when he comes to see me we dont go anywhere. When I mentioned this to him he said that he liked it that way because we're really into each other and it gives us time alone. Either he is REALLY into me or he's hiding me.

So sorry to unload but its been on my mind. PHEW... I feel better sort of lol

PS is there a website where I can find out my whole astro profile? I know my rising and sun sign are both Aquarius but not sure of the rest. Anyone? thank you

www.cafeastrology.com,and sorry if I came off brutely thats the other part of why at least for me I tend to just shut up and remain silent.

Tiamat, thats ok I like honesty. Brutal is actually the best way to go. I am like that also so I appreciate it.

Tiamat, I hope I am understanding you right? Being brutally honest? If soo, I also agree with you totally. I tend to be that way myself. It just that some people can't take it. It always tend for people to say that I was being insensitive. It confuses me at time, because I don't know how to beat around the truth. I don't know how to sugar coat which some people expect. Would you say that Scorpio's are brutally honest or do they beat around the bush to investigate the truth?? They seem to seek truth, than telling the truth up front? Any scorps who can take us further on this conseption?

Both,depends on the situation whether it'd help or make things worse and whether I think that person can handle it.But thats just my reasons,some scorpios I can't deny that thier not screwed up.

hey guyz scorpios arent that bad... they just dont know how to express their emotionz( thats wat a few of my scorp palz have told me)...im surrounded by scorpz.. my Bf, my sister, almost all my collegues and friends r scorpz.... and i find them really sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet

Quirkyone!!! Please whatever you do. don't lose yourself. Just because his behavior is not suiting you, don't undermind yourself if he is seeing another. You sound as if, you will wait to see if it true, and if this is the case, you have already given up your worth. If he was seeing someone else and you didn't find out until another year from now, I do you think you will feel? When actually you knew it long before he thought you would ever find out. Me and my scorpio are two ticking time bombs. We have been at it for a little of 2 years. I am positive that he is not seeing anyone. I am not saying that he has not tried to shack me up with wanting me to believe that he was. He tired an caughter more hell than he expected. I found out if he was seeing someone, he would not have told me, that would have been the biggest secret of them all to have over me. He knows I am so vain with the worth in myself that he continues to lerks(not in the bushes neither, I would kick his a*s) He already knows I am DONE. We are not together as a couple but there is a bond between us and I truly believe, either it will be or it will be just what it is, there is really nothing BETWEEN US!

You are right! I have not stopped seeing him however I have started doing more for my own life than worrying about him so much. I still need to figure it out on my own, but I come first. I am definitly not a weak person however... its hard for me to see the bad in people so THAT itself is my downfall. Once I do see that someone has betrayed me I come out with claws drawn, then I am able to walk away. My feelings can turn off like a light switch. Yes its probably the long way around but thats what I do.

Just for the record, I dont believe all scorpios are bad. My dad is a scorpio. I do however believe that certain traits are the same in them all. I was just trying to figure that part of him out.

Well QuirkyOne, it time for growth. If you need to get so mad at him and lose totally respect for him, which would cause you to leave him alone, let go of the old and get with the new. CHANGE!!!!!I don't want to break you spirits? But the fact remains, you want to walk away with understanding not anger. What you use to do is not how you want to continue moving forward in your life as a growing adult. You want to be stronger, yet wiser in your lifes experience. Relationships are very important in one's life. The world is full of hatred. If you can't move forward with out the hatred, then you have joined them not beat them. Stop telling yourself how taught you can be. Let the world know if you like, that you are better than that. Hopefully if this relationship doesnt not work out, at least the next won't have to carry your luggage. WE ALL HATE THAT but don't reconize that our luggage would make the next flight. Agree?

OOOps, would'nt make the next flight, there for we are grounded again in the same place.

I do agree with you on some things. However I dont have to lose respect for someone in order to leave them. In fact I'm friends with most men I've dated. I guess I'm just wondering if I know him well enough to say "he's drifting" or maybe that just his way of dealing with things. AGAIN, I am confused. What I am doing is figuring things out for myself. Hopefully I wont learn this lesson the hard way and if I do, then its my own fault. Its just hard to figure out whats good or bad. One day he misses me, loves me and cant wait to see me. Then the next day he's distant and moody. To tell you the truth I've done some big thinking over the last couple days. If things dont change soon and he doesnt make me feel more important in his life, then I'm gone. I hate feeling this way and couldnt imagine how it would feel to keep dealing with it.

It's alright quirkyone, but you missed my point. You are still confused yet have the same feelings towards him(which is fine). You still don't know which direction to turn. It appears that you have reached the stage of your own emotionally struggle. I hate to say this, but its not him it really you. You are the one who thinks that it will be your fault if you stay to long or leave to fast. Just because he turns off and on like a light switch does not justify in what you should do next entirely regarding this relationship. It may take resentment or built up anger to leave him alone totally. That's only going to be your choice and not his. Here's a part of my story; Me and my Scorpio have been doing what you are doing for 2years. We are not a couple, nor do we share any part of our everyday living. We don't spend time at each other house visa vera, nor do we have any quality time together. We talk to each other every weekend. Some times it could be about nothing or we are arguing about nothing. He is not going to end this attachment. Ironically, I will not neither. For me,it will take pure anger to leave him completely alone only because he won't change nor will he act the way I would like and I don't want to do that(my choice). We only had one intimate encounter and that was about 8 months after we met. We spent very little time even before that because of situations that were going on in our very busy lives at the time. We where very much drawn to each other. I am like you, I will not walk away as if I was just a puff of smoke. I am not in any relationships right now, nor is he. We don't have conversations on those terms. Yet I am not stopping him and he is not stopping me. We are not waiting for each other neither. Its just an amazing bond. Should he ever fall in love with someone or should I, I then believe that whomevers heart is in the right place, then there will be peace between us. Closure and a slow drift away without the resentment nor in anger. The waiting is just a process. You have to decide, what you actually will be waiting for? If you are really sure. Do you understand the logic?

NOW I understand what youre saying. Yes I do agree. My scorpio and I are very intimate, so much I wonder if thats all we have.

I guess my frustration comes from how can someone be that way with me, say the things he says and then (like last night) say he's going to call me later and doesnt(which happens all the time) For me when you say you love someone you give it all you've got. I could never do what youre doing and remain in the middle. Not together or apart, I give you credit. I have to know... Are we together? Are we apart? There is no middle for me. I do love this man but the things he is doing are pushing me away, I can feel it. I do agree with you that "its me." Regardless what he's doing I need to make my own decision. It just took someone (you) to point it out for me to see that.

Sorry if I'm all over the place with this but I get like this when I'm frustrated.

Again Qirkyone, don't feel guilty of your frustration. Even if you want him to have, give it to him. Now he will know another side of you. Just imagine if you where in this happy go lucky relationship with him and something disturbed your peace. You would go "OFF" or he would go"OFF" or yet either of you would do something that would challenge your feelings for one another and threat the relationship, then what do you think would happen then. You both would probably run for the hills and call it quits. Only because you loved for the wrong reason, or at least loved not having enough feelings. I am not saying, take this laying down and I am not saying that this will change things in this relationship. I am saying, if you utter the words love, don't just enyoy the word, take and mean every word of it. In this relationship or future relationship. Its time for the truth!!!! Not about him, It all about you, be selfish...Just don't tell him. Am I still making sense to you— Stop me now, I don't want to add to your frustration. I just want to help with some understanding that we all need to live in the real world, and not in this picture perfect world, especially when it comes with giving and recieving love for ourself and for others.

This is so ironic you wrote that. We just talked on the phone and I "gave it to him." I asked why he didnt call last night when he said he was going to? He told me I could have called him. I told him "thats not the point, you said you would call me, I called you this morning and again this afternoon and no answer." He said he was sleeping. (he works 3rd) I said, "Well I see you can go online but you cant dial a phone?" He got mad and was going to hang up. I said to him, "Oh you want to go now that I have a point?" Then he accused me of being possessive and insecure. I told him I am the LEAST insecure and possessive person. He said that this possessiveness of mine is whats going to ruin us. He even tried turning it around on me by telling me I bring all these problems to the relationship. I made the point that when he asks me stupid jealous questions I just answer and reasure him without getting mad at it. He said, "Thats because when you answer me I just let it go and move on." I said, "I could move on to if it wasnt something that happened all the time." Then he through his little fit and had to get off the phone. He said he would call me later, whatever that means.

I feel so much better. I really do!!! I am the type who believes when you love someone you work things out no matter what. I am willing to work through whatever comes our way. The one thing I cant handle though is his lack of respect I'm starting to see. Also the way he says my possessivness is going to ruin us. HA HA HA So because I want respect I'm possessive? The way he wanted to just run off the phone shows me he may be the type to run when things dont go perfect.

Question for you Callmemsram... Be selfish about what? I'm ready for selfish whatever its for lol and no way are you adding to my frustration. You have no idea how much I am learning right now. Thank you... I will keep you updated.

I am definitly not looking for anyone to save me! Advice was helping though, JUST FYI

Tattoo... Medical issue came up so I have to wait to see what happens with that.

Calling him twice in one day... he told me to.

Welcome back CG. Quirkyone, she is a doll.

It is also ironic, that I had the same very conversation with my guy. My fault at that point was, I did become to pushy, after he tried the very same thing, in trying to turn the tables around because of his actions. He would tell me one thing to do and then have this reaction as if I did something so terribly wrong when he could'nt put forth. It not the lack of respect that he has for you, I believe its the lack of communication and understanding thats at odds between the two of you. Just an opinion and I could be wrong. How did it feel to be yourself, now that you have revealed another side of yourself to him. It may not have been pretty, but yet he is aware. You go girl!!!!! Thats my point in being selfish, you thought of your own feelings instead of trying to accomidate his. These men are aware that we are not perfect, only because they themselves are aware that they are not. I believe this is a cause and effect of their behavior in a way without so many words, for them to rationalize as to whether we can understand just that? Do you?

Remember this? Through the relationships that enter our lives, at some point, there will be one in particular that will cause us to look a littler further within ourselves. You and I both have come across that man in our lives to stop, think and proceed. You are on a journey of truth, acceptance and growth as an individual. They may not be at the end of this journey that has been put before us. But yet, it will be through them, that we will prevail and have learned more about, love, honest, respect and be more aware of who we are and how rather than who we would like to be. Therefore, if its destine for us to move forward with better understand in our next journey in relationships, we will know if its meant for us to become so frustrated with what is not, but we will be able to distinquish and understand without doubt that the choices we further make, we will be able to live with. Life is a learning process no matter how old we are, just remember how special you are, that there is a higher power who is trying to help you reach your desires. Unfortunitly, there are still some out there, who will continue to travel in their lives, around in circles and never get else where. Mentally, emotionally and spirtiual balance is the key to everlasting happiness. Don't give up the fight, its just beginning......Enjoy your weekend my friends...

CG... Sorry if I sounded rude I didnt mean it to come out that way. I just want to shake my scorpio and tell him to "snap out of it."

callme... you are very wise I must say. I do agree with you on "cause and effect".
What he causes, it effects me. lol sorry have to laugh now at this whole thing. I'm so damn sick of being mad. The update on last nights call... it didnt happen. Shocker! I did call once this morning and got his voicemail. Another shocker! I just said "good morning, I love you" and that was it. Still havent heard from him. I do know though that because its a weekend night he will call to see what I'm doing. That jealousy thing always gets him. Too bad for him I'm not going to be around.

I am a strong believer in "we are all still learning" and "everything happens for a reason." I know there's a lesson in here if only I could just find it.

Well guess I found my lesson. lol Never date a cop! I went with my gut because I had a suspicion he was a cheating loser. A friend of mine that he had never met was online and there he was in a chat room. He took the bait and approached her. He asked her out for this Saturday and even made comments about if they got along they could see how the future goes. Even said he didnt have a girlfriend. Whatever! Found out much more that I had been curious about to. So now I know I can always trust my gut. So I in turn sent him the nastiest letter I've ever written anyone. Well, another chapter closed. Ciao

Oh My!!!!! Believe me its far from over. Remember I said to you, it's not about him but about you. Now you just said you loved him right? Then you find out he is in a chat room. Then you set him up? You believe you have enough evidence to walk away now right? lol...sorry. Well sweety, it won't work IF YOU REALLY LOVE HIM. Just because he went for the bait, doen't mean it would have come to play. Just because he asked her out for a date, still doesn't not mean he will go through with it. Now if you are trying to break away from this man, its not going to take you finding anything out about him. Its going to take YOU to over come your emotional struggle. Why would you send him a nasty letter? Who was it for? him or you? You didn't do anything....Are you in a commited relationship with him? or are you the only one commiting. Careful!! If you didn't have strong feelings for him, you would not have gone through the trouble. Now What? you will be unsure of yourself and now the anger will set in. Don't do this to your self. It's the truth you want, not an excuse. Keep it real. The day you have to walk, will be only because you know longer feel the way you do now. AGAIN it will be about you!! Resentment is harder to get over. Please don't leave question marks in your head. Bring peace to your heart. Fight fair.......Just coming from experience.

It is about me right now. If HE really loved me he would be here more than once a week. Also in the beginning he wanted to marry me, have kids and couldnt wait to live with me. I asked him last week and he came up with an excuse not to live with me. It seems like lately its one excuse after another. Right now I am being true to my own heart. I may love him but I cant be with someone who does not love me. I want what I give in return and I'm not getting that from him. What I found out was just a stepping stone to me. I could never trust him. He can no longer give me what I want from a relationship. Not too mention he hasnt even called me since our fight on Friday, thats just not right. I have slowly started realizing I fell in love with the man I met, but the man he has become since then is no one I could love.

Youre right it doesnt mean he would have gone through with the date. However, he told me he worked Saturdays even though all along I had a suspision he did not. Then he agrees to meet her on Saturday night. I also know of a few other times he did not work when he said he was going to.

As far as the letter it was for both of us. I had a lot to say and he needed to know how I was feeling. I know from past experience I dont hold on to resentment. I am hurt right now but I will heal and then I'm no longer angry at that person.

Truth is if he really loved me he would have called. If he did I would have never had a doubt in my head to begin with. It takes me a while to see these things but eventually I do. Yes I love him, but only the man I thought he was.

This to shall pass lol

I am sorry Quirkyone!!! Its not love!!! Please don't get me wrong. You stated, you can only love him if he ACTED the way he use too. You don't or didn't know if he had loved you before he changed right? Only because YOU FEEL like he is not showing you love. Ask you self? Is it love for you or are you experiencing with this man what love is all about? Is this the way, you are going to PRECIEVE in the way a man is suppose to love you by all of his good ACTIONS or should I say Qualities. In order for one to know what love is truly about, one has to experience every little crannie. Real love is when you cannot separate what love is about, but because to handle this wonderful feeling. Its not on how we want love to be within our relationships, but the full meaning. You have heard love comes in different ways, or should I said people love differently. Well, this is exactly whats happening here. Again, I will say it starts with you, but this time I will also say, if you can't walk away loving this man as you say you do, then your cycle will continue with the next. Its a hard pill to swallow. Don't join the rest of this world feeling the way you do. Get through this. But if you are going to love again, stop at this relationship and learn what you think how do you give love back. He may be acting up, true!! But then again, he may be more sure of the kind of love he can give, yet seeing that you don't or will not be able to understand nor will you be able to recieve it, neverless be able to return it. That's why he plays it safe. And it won't be by anyone else's rules. This may be the reason he is showing his a#ss right now. You tell him you love him but yet you are walking away when you thinks its not right. Stop me if I am way out of line if you need too.

Callme... For me it is love. I have already created what love is in my mind and thought I found it with him. I was wrong. Are you saying I should go after him because I love him? I would never try to get with someone who does not feel the same for me that I feel for them. Not too mention I know for a fact he is on a date with someone else right now.

I do agree everyone loves different. You may see love one way but I see it another. This man however does not love me or he would be with me. I do see your point believe me. I'm just saying I KNOW what love is, he does not. I am also very good at not carrying things to the next relationship. I am hurt, I need time and then I move on when I feel I can. Sure I miss him but I will get over it.

Please dont think I dont appreciate your advice. Thank you so much


CG... He was in the marines and he's a cop. How lucky am I? lol Yes I am moving on. Even if I did want him back he hasnt called me and wants nothing to do with me either, not too mention I dont want him back. I could never trust him now. Life goes on!

Its alright Quirky..I am not saying to be mis treated by him or any other man. Let's just face it, there isn't a woman out here who has not experienced some kind of conflict in regards to the matters of the heart. What I've been trying to explain to you is, sometimes we ourselves have to go through the drama to find out what exactly do we mean when we utter the words "I Love You". Its just not a thought process. If you felt he loved you and he felt that you loved him, then I am sure things would be different? This is the very same reason that some of our relationship end up in the shape they are in because of what we think love should be. He may not be the man for, Yet how will you really know in your next relationship when to give your love as well as receive it. Yes everyone loves different, but then there will come a time when one must realized that it may take some times for others to express these strong feelings only because they in return would want that loved one that it real coming from their hearts. You are so right, if he loved you, then he would'nt act so insensitive to your feelings. Maybe he is not where you are as far as being in love with you, yet he may have grown to love you. Do you believe in the difference? I can understand you in what you are saying, and I also can see that love is what you are after. From my expereince, you can not find love just by excepting a man who will treat you right. You will have to understand that it something that much deeper than that. All I am saying to you. How deep will you go? with him or anyone else? There will always be some sort of conflict in any relationship that you may have. Either it will be sooner or later. Sooner or later, which of the two would you think or believe you can deal with? Think about it?

Hey Quirkyone, check out the Aries board thread: Happiness or egotictical.
I think you will find it interesting. It addresses some of the concerns that we have discussed. There are others who also are finding meaning for themselves in relationships...