Typical Scorpio...

So I always said to myself that I'm not the heartbreaker that Scorpio is known for...but it seems as if I've gone and broke someone's heart. An Aquarius with Pisces Moon. I always thought I wanted a great relationship that I could be comfortable with and truly love the person for who they are. Yet when I thought I found that person, I realized they had flaws that I felt I couldn't tolerate (daily weed smoking, always issues with money) and ended up dumping him. I've always thought I was a very sweet and compassionate person, yet something inside of me went cold when I realized he wasn't what I wanted. I went from being totally into him to the ice princess.

Yet breaking up with him had me crying because I really liked him. If breaking up with him has me upset, why do it? But why should I get further involved emotionally if I know in the end that he isn't what I want? It feels so weird to have to think about these feelings, they're so foreign to me. I've run throught the situation a thousand times in my head, and I've come up with a solution...yet it isn't enough for me.

Birth chart:

Sun - Scorpio
Moon - Aries
Mercury - Sagittarius
Venus - Libra
Mars - Virgo
Saturn - Scorpio
Rising - Cancer

So I always said to myself that I'm not the heartbreaker that Scorpio is known for...but it seems as if I've gone and broke someone's heart. An Aquarius with Pisces Moon. I always thought I wanted a great relationship that I could be comfortable with and truly love the person for who they are. Yet when I thought I found that person, I realized they had flaws that I felt I couldn't tolerate (daily weed smoking, always issues with money) and ended up dumping him. I've always thought I was a very sweet and compassionate person, yet something inside of me went cold when I realized he wasn't what I wanted. I went from being totally into him to the ice princess.

Yet breaking up with him had me crying because I really liked him. If breaking up with him has me upset, why do it? But why should I get further involved emotionally if I know in the end that he isn't what I want? It feels so weird to have to think about these feelings, they're so foreign to me. I've run throught the situation a thousand times in my head, and I've come up with a solution...yet it isn't enough for me.

Birth chart:

Sun - Scorpio
Moon - Aries
Mercury - Sagittarius
Venus - Libra
Mars - Virgo
Saturn - Scorpio
Rising - Cancer

maybe you got used to having the comfort and security regardless of the problems so therefore tolerating so you can have what lacks in your life. He grew on you. ITs not that you turned into a iceprincess. we all have that side-especially if you loose respect for a person. breaking up with a person you care about isnt going to be easy. many go through the tears, even if you know its best for you. you question why break up if you cause much grief for you. but yet you know what the outcome is anyways and what you dont need in your life. Sometimes grief isnt the reason to stay with a person, going through the heartach and grief from a break up is part of letting go. Its a sad thing, but ask yourself. is this really best..looking at what lays ahead. look at your current problems you having with him. But sometimes if you really love somebody, you must love them for who they are, accept who they are. as they should you. if its ment to be, you will know soon. also was he smoking his weed when you met, and then you got bothered with it? sometimes thats part of acceptance. if you can live with it. I wouldnt personally. I would never date a guy who smoked it or drank more than socially. just my preferrences. I have standards and dont lower them for nobody. I hope you can get through this, and what ever you decide . I hope the best works out for you. you know the famous saying-"if you love somebody set them free, if they come back,then its ment to be, if they dont, it never was ." or something like that. Im not good on quoting.

AK

It's always going to hurt if you loved him,but if it was for the best it has to be that way.If he was really worth giving up goals or whatever the money issues are he would give up the pot.I personally know for a fact that trying to just survive and pay bills don't go well with druggies,no gas in the middle of winter when I still lived in ohio really sucked.

just wat are ypou trying to say here?

Fierys.........the bottom line is when you've been with someone for a while and grown into like, love, and all those nice "heart" feelings.....and then you realize it's reality time "head" time and you must get out of the situation for your own good. As the song says..."we're on the road to nowhere"........you knew it and did what you had to do.....but you just can't turn off your heart feelings straight away.....they need time to slowly fade away into the background.....you're just a mixture of mishy mashy slushy feelings at the moment and are emotional and that's very understandable.

I was in a similar situaiton with a virgo guy - I had to get out - gambling issues!!! I talked with him on the phone today. I still cry over that guy sometimes but sometimes love isn't enough.....they've got to follow thru for you.......

Once again, I can't agree with Bran...and his "cut off losers" statement.....nobody's a "loser", we've all just got flaws we can't handle in the here and now but someday, we hopefully can "see the light" and change for the better.

I wish you the best........take care.

A x


Anyway Fiery.......just go with the flow for the moment....if you want to cry, cry...if you want to be sentimental be that...let the feelings come and go.

Hi Fiery.

Yeah, Alana's right. Deciding he's not right for you doesn't just shut the feelings off. You shared something with him, of course it's going to hurt.

It's the nature of connections. When those bonds break . . .there's injury.

As for why you did it. You did it because somewhere you knew he wasn't right for you. Regardless of how you feel about him. . .I know there are people out there that'll scream "LOVE IS ALL WE NEED!" Yeah, whatever LOL. Love is a component in a relationship. Not the whole. Granted, ideally it's a big part but . . .

I'm sorry. It'll get better.

VirgoSquared.

Alana 🙂

Hey you. It's nice hearing from you. School and work is keeping me busy so time is short. But, I wanted to say hi. Hope everything's going well.

Hugs and Hugs,

VirgoSquared.

VirgoSquared, I missed you.

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Thanks VS - for those nice comments - keep schooling and working as best you can:-)
All is good enough in my world:-)
Consider yourself hugged too! or even kissed:-) - phew:-)

A x

Hi ladies.

A kiss too Alana? Oh wow, that's . . .*exiting to a frigid shower* 🙂

And thanks Ladydane. Missed you to.

Hey. I read somewhere you were part Cherokee. My great grandfater was Cherokee. The features actually travel down the line quite well. I'm 12.5 percent at the most. . .and that has nothing to do with nothing I guess lol. I thought it was interesting when I read it. Just thought I'd share.

Anyway.

Wishing you ladies a lovely day.

VirgoSquared

Thanks for all of the advice (except Atlantic Myst). I am more sure about the decision I made, even though it really sucked. Atlantic Myst -- I always notice so much hostility from you when it comes to Scorpios. I don't have to ask if you're still bitter about it, it shows in your messages. How long ago did your relationship with "him" happen?

My grandmother thinks that I'm about half Cherokee. She thinks I qualify for Native American benefits, if I could get them.

At least 25% native american and the paperwork(family tree) and you've got em.I'm just stubborn and don't like handouts based on race.Plus I have a land plot on the reservation my family is from just sitting there but there's nothing in that state for me.Great grandfather was a chief.

OOps,sorry ladydane,handout was a bad word to use,sorry.I know your a single parent so completely understand why you would need help.It's just that I don't have kids so I have a do it myself attitude towards schooling and work.My own doing it would be a handout because there's other people like you who really does need that help.

Brahn0913. I soooooo agree with you. Funny though, I am too mixed with Blackfoot indian, white(Irish) and black. I have very strong features, but my three girls appear to be really mixed. I don't claim to be indian, yet some think I am mixed with something due to my features. My youngest daughter looks like she is spanish. My oldest daughter look likes she is from the islands, and my middle daughter is between the both. They are beautiful I must say. I myself, don't want my daughters growing up to believe because of their looks, what people might think what they might appear to be, that they are to label themselves. We are just people..Period. The government didn't have a choice within my family and it won't start now. We are who we are and that's it. I admire your opinion, well said! No offense to anyone else.

Apparently you didn't read the post atlantic mist it's about her getting rid of a worthless douchbag and she's the scorpio.It's not about you and your bad experiances.

Frankly, I'm proud of my background.

The benefits I spoke of are mainly tax free benefits. The land the Indians own (and they do own it), they don't pay taxes on. They have allodial title to it. If I could be classified as a Native American, I wouldn't be a citizen of the Federal Government living on a reservation. Not that I would live on a reservation, but I'd like to have that option.

I don't live off of any government assistance now, and don't intend to. But if I can find a way to avoid paying taxes, I will.

I'm not interested in what any government anything thinks of me; maybe I should be, but what God thinks of me is more important.