venus in scorpio

How do you love. I never dated a scorpio or venus scorpio just curious.

I'm a Sag with venus in Scorpio, in my opinion I love just like a Scorpio and by that I mean completely devoted and intense. Not exactly healthy though, I can be extremely jealous, possessive, and cold. I have dated a few Scorpio men and in my experience they are my favorite because their love has depth equal to mine and never boring in the bedroom. But they can be very stubborn and emotional so every argument is over dramatic.

I'm Virgo with Venus in Scorpio, and oddly enough all my three closest friends also have Venus in Scorpio.
They're all guys, one of them is Scorpio Sun, one is Libra sun and the third is Sag Sun.

What we all have in common is that NONE of us are interested in shallow relationships at all. We go deep. We want really comsuming relationships, and we're all pretty passionate when we do like somebody, like we can't even imagine being with anyone else.

I would say me and Libra guy can easily leave people behind if we've been hurt whereas I've noticed both Sag guy and Scorpio guy will NEVER forget OR forgive.. they just keep repeating past hurts in their head all over again and they're both pretty resentful towards their past lovers.
I'd say all of us are extremely loyal in our relationships though, except Libra guy, but he has an Aries moon, so he's more prone to quick crushes on people.. haha.

Hope this helps!

Ok thats good i like that type of love long as u dont hurt me im good @jpx

What u mean nothing is never enough whats an example @starlover whats intensity like

No wonder a VIT plus VIS would get along and also a opposite attracts partner..

Yea im venus in taurus i want and need that. Based on description of what ppl said about them. I need it @firstdecantaurianwomen0428 sadly the woman im dating venus in scorpio isnt in love withe yet so i see none of these traits. But i like the idea .

Okay@OP- what is it like atm?

Yea what is it like when they fall. My venus in scorpio real hard to read them. They told me what they could do but actions haven't really seen it yet @firstdecantauriamwpmen0428

Are you still in the friendship phase? Or what?

Oh action needs to match, well what is your typical standard about this matter, seriously?

Its def pass friend phase we been dating for year and they have giving me a headache. Its like what r we doing. There r few red flags on their part only because in their head we arent together yet but in my head its just certaom boundaries that shouldn't be cross rather ur in a rel or not idk. I feel and know they have so much potential but i cant get wrapped uo in a fantasy of they never show it because there not ready for a rel etc idk its complicated im down to my last draw. Ill give it to april after that they will be in friendzone thats it @firstdecantaurianwomen0428

@OP- Great idea sorry though. Sometimes it's hard we expect so much because for VIT it's like mandatory withdraw if it has been a struggle with communication, honesty, and respect over a year. You know they say a five year time span we should know if they are marriage material or something like that. Haha no rush...

I feel you on that i agree @starlover

I keep my guard up sometimes but I fall hard and so I'm selective of who I give my attention to. I want something long lasting, I don't look for boyfriends but for a potential husband.
I'm emotional and sensitive and I love earth Veuns men because they appreciate me and soak up my love for them where else every other Venus feels too overwhelmed.

I agree me too u cant do non beneficial rel unless it leads to marriage i want someone 100 into me @harleytwinflame the person im dating is very hard though and complex its been a year idk lol im going to be patient

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I agree me too u cant do non beneficial rel unless it leads to marriage i want someone 100 into me @harleytwinflame the person im dating is very hard though and complex its been a year idk lol im going to be patient

Maybe it's different for you because you're with a female, from my past experience with Taurus Venus men they were very straightforward with what they wanted from me and me being sensitive and hurt in the past I felt a feeling of its too good to be true, let me get more time to figure out what he wants from me and if he's truly for me.. The only thing I noticed is I felt rushed by them like they wanted to take things too fast but... We're more than patient with me so that was good..

Bottom line I felt I could trust them but they never asked what I wanted or my thoughts on how we should do things and each time I felt they imposed their plans and I went along with it fear that if I spoke up I'd lose then forever.

Looking back, I realize I was at fault for not communicating. And I think your girl is holding things back especially if she promises change or makes commitments and doesn't follow through. It's fear and doubts behind it .. Talk to her sit her down and make them feel like they can be open and you won't get upset if they tell you the truth about what's going on and what they want from you guy's relationship.

ViS is very passionate and usually have no problem expressing their love. So if we're shy, distant, really hard to read that usually means we're thinking and having fear and or uncertainty

U said it 100 exactly to the point this is how it is. At times i do feel i rush ber but its or loke annoying. Im very forward like xyz etc everything u said wow @harleytwinflame i def want hear their plans what they want to. Im a go getter and i tend to plan and just do it
They need time to analyze and feel out the situation.

I am possessive, obssessive (you are constantly on my mind - this is why people with this placement go insane), etc...everything all the corny descriptions say are honestly spot on (at least in my case).

Two things, though:

- Last time I had sex...I wanted to be so close to the person that I wanted to merge souls/literally become one. It was actually scary af.

- You take a piece of my soul if we part ways. I am that invested. Heavy price.

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Posted by kino
I am possessive, obssessive (you are constantly on my mind - this is why people with this placement go insane), etc...everything all the corny descriptions say are honestly spot on (at least in my case).

Two things, though:

- Last time I had sex...I wanted to be so close to the person that I wanted to merge souls/literally become one. It was actually scary af.

- You take a piece of my soul if we part ways. I am that invested. Heavy price.

I relate to this, kino

It became too much for me though and kind of dominated my mind

Too extreme

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I agree. I've pretty much given up and decided to learn how to be comfortable with being alone. It's honestly not bad at all. It sucks sometimes but I get over it the next day.

@xxxaliciaxxx what was his sun sign? I hear u thats how i feel about libras i would date them dating one now venus in scorpio my ex few other ppl i know have a tendency their darkside to b abusive idk. Im watching this current person careful and like u said with venus in scorpio etc. So far i haven't seen anything yet that im aware of. Also we r not official they r not in love. Love changes everything.

I get a bout of double intensity, the Scorpio I am dating has Venus AND Mars in Scorpio. The experience is not for the faint of heart.

Yes wow interesting this is true @xxxaliciaxxx my ex wasnt a venus in scorpio but a libra . The person in dating is a libra with alot water venus scorpio cancer moon. They seem very different from my ex libra i feel has alot to do with water in chart. I dont think ill see any of this until they get comfortable in love. I feel they hide alot of their emotions too.

Super private idk how they really feel

My love is steady, long-lasting and very devoted. It takes a lot to affect my love for someone, even multiple betrayals. I would still give another chance in hopes that love will prevail. But I never forget. I'm not possessive, but I can become jealous. However, I use rationality when I feel jealousy because most things are no reason to be jealous. Only when action is involved is when I will react. I do not tolerate bullshit. I am confrontational. However, if someone were to leave me for someone else, my heart would just cry over it and it would take a very long time for me to get over it.

People do not understand what it is like to be slighted so often by lovers and not have the ability to fully forget. It is like living in a mental prison, never knowing if or when they could betray you again (if they were given a second chance).

Venus in Scorpio knows much of pain. I do at least. I wish I did not have ViS. It is honestly horrible to not be able to let go. It is horrible to care so much that you mentally destroy yourself and suffer. Nobody understands. Nobody ever will. That is why I live in my pain silently. It is the best way to live. I still learn and grow, but love has never served me well. I am typically slighted and hurt. A few guys I just decided to be friends with but it still took a long time to fully get over them. Who wants to live like that? Not me. Thank god for my Sag Mars. I am trying to forget about love and focus on my freedom and ambitions.

The older I get, the more I wonder if love is really for me anyways.

I agree me either i just raise caution and pay attention to actions im fair @xxxaliciaxxx

My Libra has VIS and its' actually what I love about him. I have VITaurus and I crave a fixed love and the comfort and security of knowing no matter what he's going to be there is the greatest feeling in the world. His loyalty to me has been tested many times mainly because we're an interracial couple and he continues to defend and stick up for me no matter what. However VIS does have a dark side with the possessiveness, jealousy, etc. but once he realized my loyalty matches his and he doesn't have to ever question that, he's able to keep the dark/shadow side under control.

In the beginning he was fearful of his feelings because they were so intense and it took him awhile to become comfortable enough to where he wasn't afraid to reveal and let me see that rawness of emotions. However it was only a few months so @lovely if your interest has not committed to you and it's been over a year, your expectations might not be the same as hers. My VIS didn't give me any reason to question his desire to want a commitment and as a VIT we crave commitment and so does VIS so if they're not offering commitment to you then you're probably not the one and wasting time waiting around for it.

My VIS was with his ex for 4 years and they didn't live together and she wanted to get married. However he proposed to me after a year, so a VIS has no issues with making a commitment however they're not going to just commit because it's convenient. It has to be right and they know when it is and with whom regardless of how long it takes for them to meet them.

True indeed @ cancer lady

Posted by jpx
What we all have in common is that NONE of us are interested in shallow relationships at all. We go deep. We want really comsuming relationships, and we're all pretty passionate when we do like somebody, like we can't even imagine being with anyone else.

That's true for me. I am Scorp sun and Venus

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My love is steady, long-lasting and very devoted. It takes a lot to affect my love for someone, even multiple betrayals. I would still give another chance in hopes that love will prevail. But I never forget. I'm not possessive, but I can become jealous. However, I use rationality when I feel jealousy because most things are no reason to be jealous. Only when action is involved is when I will react. I do not tolerate bullshit. I am confrontational. However, if someone were to leave me for someone else, my heart would just cry over it and it would take a very long time for me to get over it.

People do not understand what it is like to be slighted so often by lovers and not have the ability to fully forget. It is like living in a mental prison, never knowing if or when they could betray you again (if they were given a second chance).

Venus in Scorpio knows much of pain. I do at least. I wish I did not have ViS. It is honestly horrible to not be able to let go. It is horrible to care so much that you mentally destroy yourself and suffer. Nobody understands. Nobody ever will. That is why I live in my pain silently. It is the best way to live. I still learn and grow, but love has never served me well. I am typically slighted and hurt. A few guys I just decided to be friends with but it still took a long time to fully get over them. Who wants to live like that? Not me. Thank god for my Sag Mars. I am trying to forget about love and focus on my freedom and ambitions.

The older I get, the more I wonder if love is really for me anyways.

Just like me

Yea from sounds of it i want venus in scorpio @starwars that type of love

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Posted by lovely77
Yea from sounds of it i want venus in scorpio @starwars that type of love

i feel like people sense that im serious in matters of hearts which may seem intimidating. so its weird that you want this type of love Lol

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I have it and love it! I always thought earth sign Venus was best especially since I have one but VIS is so deep that you have to be emotionally strong to deal with it but it's the real deal and not everyone can handle that. Some people only value superficial love because it doesn't require much work and they don't have to leave their comfort zone or they're just not built to handle deep emotions.

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Yea from sounds of it i want venus in scorpio @starwars that type of love

i feel like people sense that im serious in matters of hearts which may seem intimidating. so its weird that you want this type of love Lol

I have it and love it! I always thought earth sign Venus was best especially since I have one but VIS is so deep that you have to be emotionally strong to deal with it but it's the real deal and not everyone can handle that. Some people only value superficial love because it doesn't require much work and they don't have to leave their comfort zone or they're just not built to handle deep emotions.

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Yeah I love earth Venus people, Earth works best with water but both have to be pretty strong and compromise in order to give the most benefit to each other.

Water needs to know when to tone it down and Earth needs to know when to turn it up.

Maturity and past relationship fails will definitely mold each Venus in Scorpio differently. It gets harder and harder the more times they've been hurt or let down in life the new person will have to deal with this though

Awww how does one break the barriers for vis @harleytwinflame

Posted by Impulsv
Don't be fooled when younger after VIS not working for me as described by star feeling not getting enough ending up hurt
I settled for safe where they were more into me. But that was a slow death to me. Never again
I hope I can find a middle ground were love doesn't feel like torture yet safe.

That was the case with my VIS and his ex, they were together 4 yrs and she was "safe" he didn't have to feel the intensity of his emotions and he was always in control so he felt emotionally stagnant. Like you said it was a slow death for him and when he met me and I tapped into that intensity it was like damn now THIS is love! However it wasn't an easy transition because it's not easy to go from being in control to not being able to control your emotions over night. So you have to be honest with yourself and if you really want that type of love. Then you have to ultimately decide if you can become comfortable with the intensity and sharing the control with someone else vs taking the easy rode and never fully experience your emotional potential.

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Posted by Impulsv
Don't be fooled when younger after VIS not working for me as described by star feeling not getting enough ending up hurt
I settled for safe where they were more into me. But that was a slow death to me. Never again
I hope I can find a middle ground were love doesn't feel like torture yet safe.

That was the case with my VIS and his ex, they were together 4 yrs and she was "safe" he didn't have to feel the intensity of his emotions and he was always in control so he felt emotionally stagnant. Like you said it was a slow death for him and when he met me and I tapped into that intensity it was like damn now THIS is love! However it wasn't an easy transition because it's not easy to go from being in control to not being able to control your emotions over night. So you have to be honest with yourself and if you really want that type of love. Then you have to ultimately decide if you can become comfortable with the intensity and sharing the control with someone else vs taking the easy rode and never fully experience your emotional potential.

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Geez... I can relate to this.. I used to feel boring and dull relationships were easier because I wasn't the one feeling obsessed and like I would die for the love of my partner.. And tbh I worry that I will end up settling.. The men who stirred up my emotions the most were the ones I loved the most... and there was fear on my behalf

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Yeah I love earth Venus people, Earth works best with water but both have to be pretty strong and compromise in order to give the most benefit to each other.

Water needs to know when to tone it down and Earth needs to know when to turn it up.

Maturity and past relationship fails will definitely mold each Venus in Scorpio differently. It gets harder and harder the more times they've been hurt or let down in life the new person will have to deal with this though



Yep so true! The main thing with VIS I've noticed is that they just want to be appreciated and not taken advantage of and as a giving VITaurus I can totally relate to that because we too give a lot in love but we take our time and sometimes people can mistake that for not being all in. But given that we are fixed, we're not going to put energy into something we sincerely don't want to be apart of but we hold out and wait for that emotionally comfy feeling to come and we'll try and hold out waiting for it sometimes for too long. That's why I had to start putting a time limit on how I dealt with people because once you're fixed on a person, you keep holding out hope when the reality is after a certain point you have to realize things have reached it's height and it can't go any further.

With VIS I think you guys don't really have an emotional limit which is why it's so hard for you guys to relax and be content. So in a way you're always holding out hope for more but you should find a way to cap your emotions to the level that you can live with and be satisfied with that. That's what happened with my VIS, he took time to see if he could do without what I have to give and realized he can't, to him it might not exactly match his depth and intensity but it's enough in that he knows he'll be happy secure. That's pretty much the best you're going to get and I think the earlier and VIS realizes that the better.

But other people make the mistake of trying to force their style of love and emotion onto the VIS when the VIS knows how they want to be love and nothing you do will change that. Either they decide to accept the love you have to give in the way you give it or they don't. My VIS decided he wanted my love but I had to prove my love was consistent, that's the only thing he wanted from me.

Posted by lovely77
Awww how does one break the barriers for vis @harleytwinflame

Showing them they can trust you and make them feel loved.. Give them space.. They will come to you when ready

I don't know if I speak for everyone...
But I do like to chase you a little if everything is right there and nothing keeps me guessing I either get suspicious or bored..

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Posted by Impulsv
Don't be fooled when younger after VIS not working for me as described by star feeling not getting enough ending up hurt
I settled for safe where they were more into me. But that was a slow death to me. Never again
I hope I can find a middle ground were love doesn't feel like torture yet safe.

That was the case with my VIS and his ex, they were together 4 yrs and she was "safe" he didn't have to feel the intensity of his emotions and he was always in control so he felt emotionally stagnant. Like you said it was a slow death for him and when he met me and I tapped into that intensity it was like damn now THIS is love! However it wasn't an easy transition because it's not easy to go from being in control to not being able to control your emotions over night. So you have to be honest with yourself and if you really want that type of love. Then you have to ultimately decide if you can become comfortable with the intensity and sharing the control with someone else vs taking the easy rode and never fully experience your emotional potential.

Geez... I can relate to this.. I used to feel boring and dull relationships were easier because I wasn't the one feeling obsessed and like I would die for the love of my partner.. And tbh I worry that I will end up settling.. The men who stirred up my emotions the most were the ones I loved the most... and there was fear on my behalf

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Yes you have to let go of that fear! Don't ruin a good thing because you don't feel they will love you the way you desire to be loved. If they're showing and proving with their actions and it's consistent, keep giving it a chance. If they don't give you a reason to question their loyalty and love don't! There are people who want to love just as intense and those past guys are probably wondering what they did wrong and caused you to run away when all they wanted to do was love you.

Posted by lovely77
Awww how does one break the barriers for vis @harleytwinflame

I agree with Harley that it takes time and trust as the only way to know that you can trust someone is to give it time and allow things to happen and it will prove their trust and loyalty. However at the same token the VIS has to want you to break through the barriers, if they don't want to go that deep with you then it doesn't matter how much you prove your loyalty and trust it's not going to happen. For whatever reason they've already made the decision to not go there with you and they'll be nothing you can do to change that. So you'd just have to move on and forcing the issue will only reinforce to them that they're making the right decision because no one especially Scorp wants to be forced into anything. It has to be what they want and on their terms and when it's right for them, it might sound selfish but to them they are also doing what's best for you. Its just up to you to see it that way.

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Posted by Impulsv
Don't be fooled when younger after VIS not working for me as described by star feeling not getting enough ending up hurt
I settled for safe where they were more into me. But that was a slow death to me. Never again
I hope I can find a middle ground were love doesn't feel like torture yet safe.

That was the case with my VIS and his ex, they were together 4 yrs and she was "safe" he didn't have to feel the intensity of his emotions and he was always in control so he felt emotionally stagnant. Like you said it was a slow death for him and when he met me and I tapped into that intensity it was like damn now THIS is love! However it wasn't an easy transition because it's not easy to go from being in control to not being able to control your emotions over night. So you have to be honest with yourself and if you really want that type of love. Then you have to ultimately decide if you can become comfortable with the intensity and sharing the control with someone else vs taking the easy rode and never fully experience your emotional potential.

Geez... I can relate to this.. I used to feel boring and dull relationships were easier because I wasn't the one feeling obsessed and like I would die for the love of my partner.. And tbh I worry that I will end up settling.. The men who stirred up my emotions the most were the ones I loved the most... and there was fear on my behalf

Yes you have to let go of that fear! Don't ruin a good thing because you don't feel they will love you the way you desire to be loved. If they're showing and proving with their actions and it's consistent, keep giving it a chance. If they don't give you a reason to question their loyalty and love don't! There are people who want to love just as intense and those past guys are probably wondering what they did wrong and caused you to run away when all they wanted to do was love you.

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Thank you for that
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I must admit I worry that I love them too much if that makes sense... And that's really scary to me..

To find out I love someone more than they love me...

Honestly no one regardless of sign will really know if someone loves them them in equal measures and this is exactly why I think a lot of VIS & Scorpios in general miss out on healthy relationships because their fear of being emotionally disappointed outweighs giving love a chance especially if they've already been hurt in the past.

My Scorpio grandfather was hurt by my grandmother and he said he would never marry again and he didn't. He met other women who loved him unconditionally and treated his kids like their own but the fear of being emotionally disappointed far outweighed his desire to give love another chance. One woman in particulary I knew he loved because when she did he took out her picture and now has it on his bedroom dresser to see everyday. My mother told him he should have married her but again he just didn't have the emotional strength to do it. For him the risk was greater than the reward.

You can't ever really know how much someone loves you, you just have to find sercuity in your own emotional strength to deal with and be discerning of others emotions and that only comes with time and experience which will include heartbreak. Its the only way to teach you what you is in your best benefit and if you learn the lesson and grow from the experience, then you can limit the heartbreak you experience but if you continue to follow the same path then ultimately you're going to get the same results. You can't just completely put the responsibility on the other person, you too have to change/grow from the experience as most people are merely a reflection of what we put out.

There is no reward without sacrifice, you have to make the emotional sacrifice if you want others to do it for you. I was not giving in to my VIS until he gave in to me. He will never know if I feel the same way he feels about me but he's decided he's secure enough in our relationship to be okay with that.

This is true life is about ups and downs u have to take risks. We all get hurt but thats how we grow

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Posted by Gennie
I get a bout of double intensity, the Scorpio I am dating has Venus AND Mars in Scorpio. The experience is not for the faint of heart.

Can u explain
I want to understand what my intensity does to another. To me it's love

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This is going to sound so silly to some. It's like being the lone light in an enveloping fog, right before that passionate energy hits you like a freight train. You're the total focus, you lose track of where you are, you lose track of time, It's like being high and being sensitive at the same time. When it ends, it mirrors what the tide does right before a tsunami.

And that's just the kiss before the start of the date. I remember thinking when it first happened, What.The.Eff. just happened. Now I just go with the flow. When he isn't hugging, kissing or holding my hand, he stares watchfully. It takes a lot of confidence not to wilt under all of it, not everyone can take it. However my advice is, that scorpio isn't looking for a performance, but candid camera, so be your natural self. The more comfortable you are in your skin, the less it will bother you and sometimes, you'll even preen knowing he/she is looking.

I've heard they desire to own your body, mind and soul .. very scary people :/

is this a good thing or bad thing?

Posted by kino
I am possessive, obssessive (you are constantly on my mind - this is why people with this placement go insane), etc...everything all the corny descriptions say are honestly spot on (at least in my case).

Two things, though:

- Last time I had sex...I wanted to be so close to the person that I wanted to merge souls/literally become one. It was actually scary af.

- You take a piece of my soul if we part ways. I am that invested. Heavy price.

See when I have sex without being in love if we part ways it's cool

But once I fall in love with you it's not longer sex not even the quickest f-ck is sex its soul binding love making and it hurts like hell if we split because you left with a piece of my soul and you left a piece of yours in me. Crazy stuff .

Does it take a long time to fall in love do u hide your feelings @harleytwinflame

this is a good link/site to Scorpio venus, for both men and women who have this:

http://astrophilosophy.tumblr.com/post/49561050563/venus-in-scorpio

Women:

Women born with Venus in Scorpio will be incredibly sexually magnetic. They may not necessarily be “pretty” or commercially attractive but they will draw people in with their raw sexual power. They tend to keep a very natural look and usually don’t wear a lot of makeup. They may dress in dark clothing. They may cover their whole body with clothes just to keep people guessing what they look like under there. They may also dress in form fitting clothing that accentuates all of their sexy parts. Venus in Scorpio can be many body types but their figure will always scream SEX! They look look great in black and dark reds and blues. Scorpio is the sign of purging and purification so they can also look great in white. They usually have a very cool and unique style of dress. Their style is always very original and uniquely “them”. They will usually have deep watery eyes and a flirtatious smile.

Women with Venus in Scorpio do not always have many friends. Unless they have other planets in Libra or Sagittarius they won’t be very social. They will stick to themselves and the people they trust the most. It takes a lot to win their trust. And it will be extremely difficult for them to forgive if anyone ever violates their trust. They are very loyal to their friends. They are always honest and will always have their back in a caring and supportive way. They are extremely perceptive and always see into the heart of every situation, so they usually give great advice.