What is going on?!

Hi Scorpios.

I'm intrigued by Scorpios. Very intense and somewhat complicating.

So I'm curious about this situation from your perspective.

I met this Scorpio Sun/Venus, Mars Libra, Sag Mercury guy two years ago.
We always hung out in the same group all the time.
He has a gf (Virgo) - been with her for almost 3 years - she's in another state at the moment till this summer - also his first love/relationship.
He's 26 and mature?
I thought nothing of anything really. I considered him like family.
I've been hanging out with him a lot for the past few months.
Some weeks ago, I realized I might be falling for him and him too or so he says.
I kinda freaked out and told his girlfriend.
It got to a point, where I think I was going psychotic because I developed emotions (I'm a logical type, I always think I felt like something, but I never feel it).

Fast forward to now. He told me he's staying with the girlfriend. His gf doesn't want him to see me at all. He and I still want to see each other.

In my freaked out moment, I wrote to him a psychotic love story - essentially with a third person implication of wanting to be with him. It kinda freaked him out, but he said he understood them and wants me to keep sending him the stories and for us to keep in touch. It was kinda fated that I saw him at a cafe.

Ever since that incident, it's a stronger pull to keep wanting to keep in contact with one another.
We talk on the phone, text, email etc - though we do it in secret - friends are divided.
We hang out as if we're friends so no kissing, sex or any of that.
He has my facebook account, which he checks in everyday and write me random notes.
I have his email account/facebook.
In astrology apparently he has some unconditional love for me and we go pretty well together.

My understanding: I want to say he's a player and playing his gf and I, but I have no boyfriend and don't want to plan on it anytime soon. Most we've done is cuddling. Is that even cheating?
I don't plan on hooking up with him, but I always feel compel to let him know things yet at the same time want to destroy him or be with him etc it's a bit of everything, but in the end, I don't do anything.
So I would like to know what's going on in his mind? I know it seems obvious that he is just toying with us, but what are other perspectives? I'd like to know more about his personality from another Scorpio's perspective. Or ask questions?

yeah, looks like you're in it deep.
what is his moon sign?

what I learned from Taurus/Scorpio interaction is that,
you can't meet darkness with darkness, you have to balance the other person out with light,
so stir away from bad emotions when you're with him.

don't be a mistress,
ask him if he sees anything between you and him,
if he says he does, tell him you're ready when he's ready to be single.
because you don't want to hurt her.

then just leave it at that,
you're in a place where you're falling,
but there is still time yet.

back away now before it's too late.
stop this immediately before you fall deeper.

if he wears mostly dark colours or black, he's still in scorpio form,
the eagle form is very faithful, eagles love forever,
if he's not an eagle, he is playing you, and will hurt you.

take my advice, I'm a Taurus.

that gaze is the black magic of Pluto,
get the hell out now before it's too late,
get the hell out now before it's too late,
you have been warned.

I say, let him go. If you put up with being second best in the beginning he will always treat you like that. You will never be able to trust him completely. If he can cheat with you on her, what would stop him from cheating on you with someone who he perceives as better? And by the way, Scorpios are passionate and intense and we can build connections with others so that you feel our intensity. That often makes others feel like its a "special/fated bond" then they become disillusioned once we take that passion away. Its as special as YOU make it. And don't worry about being in his "mind", Gemfiregirll33 likes to believe the scorp passion is stronger than it really is.( really its a power trip for the lesser evolved scorps, nothing special about it).

* Remember- Its unique only to you. It doesn't mean he's not sharing that same " fated bond"with others. Try not to analyze this too much, see it for what it is.

Maybe this post could help.... if you see any of yourself in it.. then you have your answer.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/he-just-can-t-commit-2-u-2875530/

Minotaur: His moon sign is pisces. Thoughts on how it might affect?
His girlfriend is a friend of mine too. And honestly I want them to be together and I believe in them, but then I freaked out when I thought I might be falling for him. I have been hit hard, but I believe I can get out. I tend to detach here and there, but Taurus in me is stubborn. This might make sense since we both still would like to be friends.

He actually wears a lot of bright clothes. His asc is Leo if that counts as anything? Come to think of it he never wears dark clothes. Eagle form?

Astrology-wise our charts:
http://img90.imageshack.us/img90/7459/aspectchartdxpscorpmtau.png<BR>
GemFiregirl33: Destroying in a sense of I don't know. Ruin their relationship? I kinda did that already by telling his girlfriend. Destroy him... I guess because I feel like I have to live with this event so might as well take someone else down? But that's not how to go about it so that's why I say feel. I won't act on it. I think you have a point on that they might bring it upon themselves.

Let*It*Be: A very common advice, which I have been following, but I'm curious as to what's going on in his mind from another Scorpio's perspective. I have been 'cheated on' before so I understand that feeling. I freak out and told his girlfriend instead of continuing it as it is. He doesn't say anything. The rational action should have been back off physically, but I panicked. I respect her decision and I'm not trying to do anything more except learn from this so it doesn't happen again.

Scorpia: Good tip: To see it for what it is. I'm just too analytical. I mean I am taking away the various x-factors that could make this 'special' such as "passion", secret affair-esque type of thing, physical beauty/attraction etc and really in the end, I'm more curious as to how this happened. I appreciate the link, though you're right, it's unique to each individual.

everevolvingepithet: I won't be second or first best or any of that. I do respect his decision. I haven't touched his facebook or gmail. I am not doing anything with him. For a moment, I felt like I was led on, but I'm not falling for him. I tend to be the opposite, where apparently I lead people on and I'm not aware.

Thank you for responding everyone! What I gathered from the response and experience, it's like a game/dance. Get out of it and leave it alone. I assume if I did anything, he'll just keep it going. After that psychotic story, we haven't chatted or anything. I already told his gf and him that I will back off.

Side track: Though, I don't get how she tells me that he should talk to someone about their problems, even saying it should be me and he ends up telling me it anyways. Then when I told her I might fall for him, she said that I should have wait till they've broken up, try it out with him and then ask for her permission. Personally I rather not sneak around and 'wait' till they've broken up. I think that's shady. Is that normal for dating a friend within a group?

Again I'm more curious on the situation, how a Scorpio male can get like that? What makes them tick? I'm not saying you guys are a total mystery, but I rather get another view of this from anyone who dealt with another Scorpio male (preferably the same signs or ANY part of it)? The end is the end, I'm not doing anything else. Just want to make sure I'm more aware if this ever happens again or HOW it could even happen or what is going on? Or if he tries something. Gotta be cautious.

I guess basically, tell me something that I don't know? Is there anything else?

Posted by heartless2day

Posted by Let*It*Be
Fast forward to now. He told me he's staying with the girlfriend. His gf doesn't want him to see me at all. He and I still want to see each other.


Get over it, leave this girls boyfriend alone. One day some female will do this to you in return for the karma affect. Unbelievable.....ugh

Srsly. it's like some people dont have any empathy for the girl /guy who is involved. jeezus. have some empathy, kindness, consideration to the other person and find someone else that will obsess on you too.

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Posted by heartless2day

Posted by Let*It*Be
Fast forward to now. He told me he's staying with the girlfriend. His gf doesn't want him to see me at all. He and I still want to see each other.


Get over it, leave this girls boyfriend alone. One day some female will do this to you in return for the karma affect. Unbelievable.....ugh

Srsly. it's like some people dont have any empathy for the girl /guy who is involved. jeezus. have some empathy, kindness, consideration to the other person and find someone else that will obsess on you too.

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Do elaborate.

You TOLD the girlfriend you are falling for him? You wrote him a story? WTF? Girl you overstep your bounds! He told you he is staying with the Virgo. (not a big surprise). Sounds like you threw yourself at him, he "cuddled" with you? Seriously, you need to back away from both of them. You pretty much burnt this bridges. You don't ever tell a woman you are falling for her guy. Talk about creating a shit storm. You wanted her to dump him, she didn't, trust me you flaked huge.