What to do about this guy !? Please help !

Posted by exoskeleton
radar, the other posters are telling you that you're shallow, arrogant, and typical. which is why they resorted to degrading you. take heed.

when you keep seeing this guy and letting him pay for you, you're actually stringing him along and letting him think that something will eventually happen. he wants to be there when you're "ready" for a relationship. and you want him around for your ego.

you said he's a sweet guy. do the right thing and tell him you're not interested in him romantically instead of just disappearing.

LMAO @ this blog.....this is like the only real comment.

@OP, you do come off as pretty shallow in your posts. you let the wine and dine get to you and he brought your time for 3 years. you probably knew that this guy was totally not your type on the first date. BUT the allure of never having to shell out a penny was a good distraction.

& I love how when u swear it changes the word lol

Posted by ellessque
you've gotta be a bad person because you ARE a bad person.

reread your shit and grab a damn clue.

either this is a joke or someone seriously lost oxygen at birth.

You are pathetic. Please stop responding to anything I write from this point on. I don't even speak to people of your nature you stupid cunt.

im dying to know...what sign is he?

Posted by dancer23

You can tell him you like him as a friend only, and you have no romantic feelings towards him. Yes he may get butt hurt, but it's better to be straight with that person. I've had to tell two guys I dont see them in a romantic way but enjoy being their friend. I didnt feel right accepting anything from them bcuz of the fact they wanted more outta of the relationship, id nip it the bud

This is the point radar! Very simple. Judge Judy always says, ''just because you CAN take advantage of someone doesn't mean you should''. LOL So just tell him already.

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Judge Judy is the TRUTH

Posted by radar10
I been in a bad relationship for about 3 years and its been off and on. I been single for about 11 months. Theres this guy named dan who I been hanging out with as friends even when I was in a relationship. I met him through mutual friends. Ever since we been friends for about the past 2 months he has been taking me out to dinner, the movies, hanging out with me, one on one and sometime with friends. Every time we go out he always pays for me, and I tell him not to be he literally will not let me pay my bill. Hes nice, but kinda quite and he doesn't drink or do drugs. I drink but that's about it. Hes super straight edge and kinda shy. Hes a really great guy but we don't have anything in common really but the fact that hes nice and I have fun hanging out with him. But we don't like the same type of music, we both lead different life style s. Also hes not good looking at all. All my friends say he's a sweet guy but I'm a really pretty girl and "look wise" I could do much better then me. When we go out together like even to dinner ( mind you I have gone out to dinner with many of my guy friends before I don't feel like you have to date someone to grab a bite to eat. Plus its what I like to do cause I think its a fun social thing. ) people will look at us like wtf. Im latina, long black hair, really tan, fit. Hes bald, over weight kinda, short, extremely pale, and kinda dresses like whatever. But hes such a sweet guy at heart. The thing is I told him that I don't want a relationship right now and I want to be single. He keeps saying "well Im still going to take you out to dinner and hang out with you cause I like you". Hes never had a girlfriend in his life, never even been kissed by a girl. I just don't know what to do because I would NEVER date him. But I don't want to hurt his feelings by not hanging out with him and telling me I don't think hes good looking at all and that I just like him as friend. I wouldn't want him to think I just used him for dinner and stuff cause sometimes I pay for him 2, just not half as much as hey pays for me. Should I just tell him we will NEVER date and risk hurting his feelings and making me look like a gold digger when Im really not ? Or should I just slowly fall back from hanging out with him and not answer his calls ? What should I DO ? Please help !?

this isnt your friend...you clearly stated that you are in a relationship

Posted by WynterBourne
MMMmmm Scorpio, I'm guessing?

no way jose, could a scorpio man be this dupped??

she's a cancer....

Posted by ellessque
I would fuck the shit out of his "bald, over weight kinda, short, extremely pale, and kinda dresses like whatever" ass.

I guarantee that mother fucker would never pay for another meal again!!!!!!!!!!!

i like how youve described him....

"guys i feel uncomfortable engaging relationship with a guy that i'm not supposed to be with in the first place, so i posted this note to inform you that i'm directing this to all of you to sort out so that i won't take the blame therefore i won't be classified as a bad person, and also any form of abuse towards this guy that will make me incline to suggest that i'm superior over him is more than welcome. evil people, let's party!"

reality checker done done

the guy seems nice, and your friends are slandering him that's horrible.

i woulda pegged some aries/leo up in there.

Posted by exoskeleton
conventionally good-looking and boring.

that sounds like a death sentence

Posted by radar10

He does not have the qualities I would want in a boyfriend

1. I can't help that hes not my type of guy I would date.
2. And anybody here would say they would date someone who isn't goodlooking to them,
3. and who doesn't fit well with your life style outside your friendships,
4. is the odd ball when you bring him around your group of friends, not his,
He does not have the qualities I would want in a boyfriend

1. Every time we go out he always pays for me.
2. Hes nice, but kinda quite and he doesn't drink or do drugs.
3. Hes super straight edge and kinda shy.
4. Hes a really great guy but we don't have anything in common really
5. we don't like the same type of music,
6. we both lead different life style s.
7. Also hes not good looking at all.
8. All my friends say he's a sweet guy
9. I'm a really pretty girl and "look wise" I could do much better
10. When we go out together like even to dinner ... people will look at us like wtf.
11. Im latina, long black hair, really tan, fit.
12. Hes bald, over weight kinda, short, extremely pale, and kinda dresses like whatever.
13. hes such a sweet guy at heart.
14. I don't think hes good looking at all
15. he wants to show me off to his friends just to get laid and have a girlfriend ?
16. the guy is a virgin.
He does not have the qualities I would want in a boyfriend

I'm confused, what qualities are you looking for? He sounds like a gentlemen. You sound very insecure. But at 22, that sounds natural. You are worried that people look at the two of you and decide that you are his whore. This guy is "safe" and your previous relationship left you feeling rejected. If this guy is a scorpio, you are out of your league. I don't believe he's a virgin. He can buy a good lay. You played with fire and now are afraid. Obviously, you thought you could control him. You want him to still be your "friend" b/c he has treated you well, but unfortunately, it won't play out that way. Live and learn.

Well just so everyone knows me and dan worked everything out. I finally talked to him and explained everything and hes fine with being friends and he apologized to me for trying to want a relationship when I told him I wanted to just be friends and he took it the wrong way. He apologized because he said he could tell I was starting to get uncomfortable with the fact that he wanted more, but at the same time he saw I didn't want to ruin our friendship. And I also said sorry to him if he ever thought I wanted more when I didn't. Im just really glad we can still be friends and hang out with out any issues cause thats just what I wanted all along. For everyone who wanted to sit here and call me names NONE of you know me. Your judging me because you think Im stuck up chick who just uses people attention when Im not. I respect you if you respect me, and Im glad that dan saw that I Truly cared for his friendship and it had nothing to do with me using him or anything of that nature. I try my best to help him out as much as he is there for me. He just happened to be one of my friends who ended up liking me & I told him the kindest way I could that you love hanging with him and going out, but that I only see this relationship as purely platonic/friends and not going beyond that. He understood and if anything it made our friendship stronger. & as he explained more he said the main reason he liked me was because hes never had a gf before and he realized after me talking to him that it wasn't him so much "liking me" he just wanted a girl to hang out with and be his friend and the only girl he ever loved he was still in love with was one of my good friends and he figured that by liking me it would make her jealous and realize what she missed out. SO the whole thing was a HUGE misunderstanding when I discovered his real reasons lol. But hes a great guy so I'm in the process of helping him reconnect with her cause I know hes still madly in love with her.

& there were a few people on the message board who DID see where I was coming from. If I didn't care about him and I was just using him I would have NEVER asked the question in the first place. It was a real issue and a dilemma for me at the time and all I wanted to do was keep him as a friend and be able to cool and hang out without anything weird. But now I know his real reasons its a huge brick off my chest lol ! So the people who did see where I was coming and sent me kind messages trying to help me out THANK YOU VERY MUCH 🙂 & Happy Valentines day to everyone

Posted by THEKingofLibra
You are such a stupid cunt. Why are you posting it HERE? You know what, it doesnt matter. Get lost.

🙂 Happy V-day ! how are you ?

Posted by exoskeleton
"& as he explained more he said the main reason he liked me was because hes never had a gf before and he realized after me talking to him that it wasn't him so much "liking me" he just wanted a girl to hang out with and be his friend and the only girl he ever loved he was still in love with was one of my good friends and he figured that by liking me it would make her jealous and realize what she missed out. SO the whole thing was a HUGE misunderstanding when I discovered his real reasons lol."

so he used you. LOL! 😄

and we're all curious, what sign is he?

Well I guess you could put it that way, but were still friends no matter what so 🙂 When we both think about it the whole thing was pretty damn funny ! And he's actually a Leo, I thought he was a scorpio !

Posted by ellessque
R.O.F.L.M.A.O.@ he's a leo.

then by all means....keep using him. 😛

Lol whats the deal with leos ?