If you cant be with the one you love....

Love the one your with.
How many of us find ourselves in this predicament? Cohabiting/married to someone when your heart belongs to another.
😢

I did that for 5 years for financial reasons. Never again. Worst 5 years of my life. Took me a year to remember that I was worth something. We got along fine.. but he preferred bestiality to me. And he was emotionally abusive.
It's NOT worth it. The break up is SO worth being able to look for someone who actually makes you happy.

Posted by Skykomish
I did that for 5 years for financial reasons. Never again. Worst 5 years of my life. Took me a year to remember that I was worth something. We got along fine.. but he preferred bestiality to me. And he was emotionally abusive.
It's NOT worth it. The break up is SO worth being able to look for someone who actually makes you happy.

Am so happy you escaped your emotional abusive partner. Emotional abuse is worst than physical abuse.

Posted by oldskoolflavor
so,
those guys (libra, aquarius etc) actually enjoy being dragged into the mess you create.

unless they are part of your imagination.

hahaha...you more than anyone else know how real they are.
Welcome back mate.

It's happened to me but not by choice. I was in love when I decided to move in but after many years things went sour and I ended up falling for someone else at the end. Of course, I seceded from my partner and living situation after that happened.

That song kinda pisses me off for the message it sends. I mean, I get it, cuz you can't always be with the one you truly love for whatever reason so you have to move on. However, I don't agree with any "settling" just because of that. I fell in love with someone else when I was living with my ex and I feel I did the right thing by calling it quits and moving out so that we may both find someone we deserve.

I think that one shouldn't move on to someone else until they've healed that part of themselves. That's not fair to the other person. Even if it takes years to get over (in which case I would suggest therapy) and you have to stay single for a while.

If it's lust or an infatuation, then who cares? It happens. If it's love though then do the right thing.

OMGoodness! I could'nt do it! If I can't be with the one I love...it will just be me until I fall in love again....

Posted by PeriThePiscesKing

Love your humor! And the PP one was even better!!!

Who ever suggested that staying in a relationship where you didn't belong harmed your self worth was correct .... it may be hard to leave, but, a person has to if they plan on keeping their sanity.

I wonder, though, about the other side of this coin ... does the man you are staying with comprehend that you are emotionally absent? To make the claim that the man isn't loving you, or wanting you, or making you happy .. couldn't the same be said of you? If you are still there ... USING ... him until you find greener grass?

Apparantly, this thread is about another man, since people keep referencing him ... while you struggle to find justification for feeling guilty.

Perhaps, you should change your perspective .... afterall, we are what we think.

It's crazy, man .... crazy.

If you look at the questioned asked ... you will see that the majority of people would believe that they would be with someone they decided to be with, rather than someone to whom they feel.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/wrong-love-2390514/

And it's utter madness.

Posted by JusMe
OMGoodness! I could'nt do it! If I can't be with the one I love...it will just be me until I fall in love again....

Awwww that sweet

Thanks for the feedback guys.Lot of interesting points-guess majority of us have gone through a situation like this.
Ok lets define love: For some love is the be all,when you cant live without someone,they give you butterflies and make you feel alive.
For others love is having someone you can trust,rely on,they will never let you down. They make you feel comfortable and safe. They may not give you butterflies anymore but who needs butterflies when you have a reliable and trustworthy spouse.

I created this topic because on thursday I had a conversation with a lady in her 70s,and she confess that not a day goes by,where she does not think about the one she loved.
Due to family issues she didnt marry him,instead she spent over 50yrs with a man that made her life comfortably and secure but her heart never belonged to him.
As she spoke a vast amount of emotions washed over her face. They ranged from regret,sadness,joy,admiration and remorse.

After talking for 40mins,she took both my hands and told me to follow my heart and never give up on love.
This topic isnt necessarily about my situation BUT it got me thinking.

🙂

How pathetic for anyone to be so dependent on another or afraid of being alone, or going solo that you gotta have somebody anybody just to say you have somebody.

Not loving the one you are with? Sad... and maybe insecure?

"Whats love got to do with it? Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken??"

Posted by FemmeScorpion
Love the one your with.
How many of us find ourselves in this predicament? Cohabiting/married to someone when your heart belongs to another.
😢

Even better question:
A cushy life with Aries who loves you, but no pazzion..

Or.. a torturous road in purgatory with Libra who loves and takes back the bait, and hooks the fish again?

Hmmm... not easy... hehehe

Posted by spica

Posted by FemmeScorpion
Love the one your with.
How many of us find ourselves in this predicament? Cohabiting/married to someone when your heart belongs to another.
😢

Even better question:
A cushy life with Aries who loves you, but no pazzion..

Or.. a torturous road in purgatory with Libra who loves and takes back the bait, and hooks the fish again?

Hmmm... not easy... hehehe

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Spica am not following. 😢

First, define love, then you can answer this for yourself..

(I am quite sure its between Libra and Aries only).. right?

It is not easy to love a Libra. Scorpio will be transformed in the process because Libra takes the middle road, and doesn't like anything extreme.. so they always go back and forth until an almost perfect status quo is achieved.. Aries men on the other hand accept scorpio with no questions asked.. its is easy for scorpio to manipulate Aries man but not Libra.. ironic, considering Libra is seen as weak and most malleable by other zodiac signs..

We live for an ideal, and that is stronger than ego or emotion..

Right.....so what is your point Spica??
Love the one your with.

I have no answer, just helping you with your thought (and decision process) for whatever it is worth.

Posted by spica
I have no answer, just helping you with your thought (and decision process) for whatever it is worth.

Awww thank you Spica. However some stuff will always be the way they are.

The most important things in life take the longest roads to resolve 😉

Posted by spica
The most important things in life take the longest roads to resolve 😉

Cosign.:~)