Misunderstood. Again.

I am so tired of being misunderstood. Seems to be rampant throughout my life, in all areas. Obviously the common denominator is me, so I must be doing something wrong, but I'm not sure what or how to change it. My mom (virgo), for example, doesn't get why I'm so black and white. She doesn't get why I move fast in relationships, once I've decided that I'm going to have one. I've tried to explain these things to her and she really just cant even comprehend it. One of my best friends (sag) not only doesn't get why I do what I do, but she is brutally cutting about her admonitions about it (all the while not knowing she's hurting my feelings, how can you stay mad when they don't even know you're hurt?!) My stepdad gets furious at me when I question something he says, because he doesn't understand why I am asking. I *THINK* these misunderstandings are all because nobody gets the emotion behind the actions. The thing bringing this to light is something my best friend told me, the reason that everything got ruined with this guy I liked (lib/sco). Again, misunderstood my motivations, my passion for something, and look where it ended up. Even though I tried to explain it, he never got it. Which seems to be common with everyone also. I just dont get it and don't know what to do about it, to keep this kind of thing from happening again.

Yeah, that may be why this is so confounding. I can see past their words, to their motivations, but it doesn't work both ways. And apparently my words (and actions) are either wrong, or are misunderstood. I guess the people who deserve to stay in my life will be the few who DO understand me, or those that I can understand why they don't, and yet still love me (my sag friend). (and my family, who get in on a free ticket). I'm just majorly bummed to miss out on such a great guy because he didn't understand me. Guess the right guy will.

Pigeon pie, i HAVE told him. He just doesn't get it.

Aquagirl, you wouldn't be? After screwing everything up with the greatest guy you've ever known? Oh right, because Aquarians have no feelings.

Even with just a scorpio moon, I don't think I've felt completely understood a day in my life. So, I sympathize with you.

Just so you all know, I found my phoenix 🙂

Um, Nursing? Why?

hehe. I heal the sick, face death, blood and guts with no fear, and still take the time to make sure you get a foot rub while you're waiting for an operation ^.^

You must be one of those arrogant surgeons I work with. lol

Still wondering why you asked...?

Sky, is it because you try to explain everything you do to "certain" people? LIke you're trying to justify yourself for their approval to validate your opinions...choices... hell, your very existence? Ok, I went deep on the last one...

Sky, I'm sure someone "gets" you. The ones that don't and don't hang around should leave, as far as I am concerned. It's not always that people don't "get" you, it could be that they "get" you very well, they just don't want to take the relationship to the place you want to go and you don't "get" why not. So when you may see that happening, you think it's "you". Like "you" must be doing something wrong because you know you're really a great person and why can't "they" see that and want work it out.

Imho, I think you are better off without "them". Sometimes you have to just let go, realizing they've made their choice on their own thinking which has nothing to do with "misunderstanding" you.

Does that make sense?

*and want TO work it out*

*BASED on their own thinking*

Ah, well here is what I mean..

Pluto's symbol is the triumphant phoenix rising from its own smoldering ashes, and Scorpio per?_sonifies the resurrection from the grave.
Above all, the Scorpio represents the Phoenix, that ancient symbol of death and resurrection from the ashes of youth, that fire that never dies but merely rises above and continues to change into something else

and especially...

Much like the Phoenix, those governed by Scorpio are survivors. In an emotional sense, they may perish in the ashes of their own destructive nature, but they can also transcend and transform.

Yep Pathfinder, that's what made me find my phoenix. I realized that someone who is the right one for me, would have taken the time to understand me. So obviously not the right one.

Yeah probably what you said would have worked. Except this is his decision, not mine. First time in my life I've been rejected. Guess there's a first for everything. Now I'm just justifying it so I can move on 😉

I'll keep you informed. lol

Posted by Skykomish

I am so tired of being misunderstood.
Then deal only with Scorpios.

Seems to be rampant throughout my life, in all areas. Obviously the common denominator is me,
Obviously, because YOU are in all areas of your life.

so I must be doing something wrong,
No. You are just doing the right things with the wrong people.

but I'm not sure what or how to change it.
See first advice above.

My mom (virgo), sorry to hear that
for example, doesn't get why I'm so black and white.
We do - we pick a side and champion it, support it, because there is nothing wishy-washy about us

She doesn't get why I move fast in relationships, once I've decided that I'm going to have one.
We don't beat around the bush. They are either worth all of our time and commitment
or they are not worth any time or consideration at all. We are 100% supportive from day 2

I've tried to explain these things to her and she really just cant even comprehend it.
It's rather like explaining a rainbow to a man who has been blind since birth and who has seen neither the sky, nor color.

One of my best friends (sag) all Sag women should be publicly executed
starting with my mother.

not only doesn't get why I do what I do, but she is brutally cutting about her admonitions about it (all the while not knowing she's hurting my feelings,
and that is why they should be executed lol

how can you stay mad when they don't even know you're hurt?!)
Easy!

My stepdad gets furious at me when I question something he says, because
he's a cry baby who thinks you are attacking him and calling him stupid
when you are simply seeking merit to believe in what he believes, too.
You can't just jump into a new idea, led by someone who was blindly led.
You are just trying to determine more facts to satisfy your internal
risk-assessment, so that you are not led off a cliff. Tell him that.
Simply tell him that your challenge of his ideas presented is to
give him an opportunity for you to be given info to have CONFIDENCE in them.
If you did not respect him, you'd not even BOTHER to challenge him.
In fact, your challenge is the biggest compliment you can give
because it means you did not DISCOUNT what he said.

he doesn't understand why I am asking. I *THINK* these misunderstandings are all because nobody gets the emotion behind the actions.

LoL Scorpiopics. Yep, scorpios obviously understand each other. You rock :p

Oh, and stepdad is a cancer. Yep, crybaby. lol

Gemini moon...