What to do in this situation?

Hi everyone...I will most probably get slated or not for this post but oh well here goes. I would just like your thoughts and input. I have been in a relationship with my scorpio for over three years now. I'm aquarius. Anyway, things have been great between us. Well in my eyes it has been. He's been very sweet to me recently. Everytime we have seen each other, he's always treating me to gifts and I don't expect them and he's really sweet towards me. I don't get to speak to him everyday day, we text each other here and there cos he get busy with work then he goes to gym after etc so I let him be and let him come to me as I know he gets busy. I do initiate contact first as well. So the other day I replied to his text message in the afternoon but I was waiting for a reply. I just waited. I went on social media and saw he had been on there and wrote a comment on a girls photo saying 'looking good'. I was annoyed because hes commenting to her but can't be bothered to reply back to me. Why is he even commenting to another random girl anyway? I called him
when I saw it and he answered. I asked him what he's up to. He said he was out with friends having dinner, what's up? I go it's a comment U made. He said oh ok. Hmm it must of been my friend on my phone. I have to talk to you later. And hangs up. Firstly I know it's most probably not his friends. He blames his friends for everything and it's an excuse. So a lie right there. I'm waiting for a call back and I haven't heard from him since I phoned him last night. However he's been online liking photos. So he's a avoiding me now because he's thinking of what to say to me or something else? Is this a game he's playing? What could he be thinking? What can I do in this situation?

Should I also contact him first or wait to hear from him as he said he would call me back but hasn't done so yet...

Hello... I know this may come a bit of a shock but I think you should cool your jets.

I understand that you have been seeing this man for a bit. You are exclusive and are technically his gf right? I would think so...

First of all it is Mercury retro a big time for miss communications. It is also in Gem... its rulers sign and to boot we are coming up on a Scorpio or nearly full Scorpio full moon... Now yes it is not in scorpio when it is full but that does not mean it will not bring alot of emotions... up... It is the sign before Sagittarius...

Scorpio's are just like you described him as a man. They work out at the gym normally very much into a methodical routine so to speak. The style of communication you adopted with him is perfect.

Scorpio's do get jealous but don't like to show it. They are firm believers in being loyal normally... Hard headed even... and very manly in a short firm kinda way.

I hope you have a good sex life as that is important to him?

I will say as your sign is normally more on the over thinking side but you seem cool and calm... well thought out. I wonder what you other placements are as I am dealing with a really good friend of mine... Same signs involved going through something similar.

Aqua's can be idealistically jealous at times... Meaning you can't understand how or why he would compliment and other woman. She is most likely a friend... and I believe that friends should be able to give each other compliments. He is with you for a reason... and I bet you are a looker yourself. So again chill and don't over react.

I will say the only other thing I see a lot with Aqua's is they wait to long to see if a man is serious with them because they are afraid of loosing him. I however would not suggest talking to him about taking something to the next level until have there Mercury retro which ends on the which is June 11... give it a few more days or the 12th...

You can actually show you are jealous and as long as you are not to much like this he will find it cutie but you have to understand that Scorpios are very loyal most of the time if they have been with someone. So you can wait until you are in person cuddling or close and say "you know I am not going to get jealous about your comment because I know how much you really love me and care. I understand she is just a friend and you should be able to compliment a friend."

Then on the 12 or 14... I would talk about where your relations

Then on the 12 or 14... I would talk about where your relationship is going and maybe making a bigger step together... It has been three years. I don't know how old you are but I like to always tell girls there child barring years are best between 25 and 35... That is 10 years... if you are in the age group you gave him 30% of that time... Even 6 months is 5% .

Best of luck

PM

I would wait for him... he will contact you when he is ready they like to feel in control... normally they are control freaks... So it is ok to let someone feel in control if you know where they are going and you get what you want.

Honestly though give him a little grace... use the line I said above and see how he reacts... it may even scare him how well you know him. But make him shit or get of the pot... I know so many aquas that don't make a man give them a straight answer for the next step... and at that point it may be time to get to stepping...

Honestly Aqua's are great... personally Aqua, Pisces, and scorpios are my down fall. It is the weir humor and great style you guys have... and over expressive nerve nature.

PM

Hi Piscesmoon2. Thanks for your reply.
I know 100% that this girl isn't a friend so that's why I was a little annoyed. If it was a friend then fair enough I wouldn't of gotten so annoyed...so what to do?
I'm an Aqua sun but most of my placements are in capricorn, aries moon, scorp Pluto, Cancer Jupiter. At first I was so furious but I've calmed down so much. I'm still waiting to hear from him. I don't know what he's thinking.
Our sex life is ok..it's important to both of us. We only get to see each other once a week due to living about an hour away and having work during the week etc we get busy so we see each-other when we can. However things are moving forwards between us. We've spoken about marriage and our familes know we want to get married.

When he contacts me I know he will act as though nothing has happened lol that's typical him. Shall I still bring it up. I don't want an argument. It's just that he left me hanging and had time to comment that girl. It's a girl he doesn't even know!

Posted by piscesmoon2
I would wait for him... he will contact you when he is ready they like to feel in control... normally they are control freaks... So it is ok to let someone feel in control if you know where they are going and you get what you want.

Honestly though give him a little grace... use the line I said above and see how he reacts... it may even scare him how well you know him. But make him shit or get of the pot... I know so many aquas that don't make a man give them a straight answer for the next step... and at that point it may be time to get to stepping...

Honestly Aqua's are great... personally Aqua, Pisces, and scorpios are my down fall. It is the weir humor and great style you guys have... and over expressive nerve nature.

PM

Yes I thought it was best just to wait for him to come to me. I know it will be frustrating otherwise! What do you mean by making him shit or get out the pot?

My mom is aqua, my dad was scorp, I don't know this combination I suffer this combination.
Both signs think, feel and communicate different, it's just too complicated to work in the long run.
Think about it this way: one comment on a picture made you furious, that on itself is a mayor red flag... you obviously don't trust him and he is MIA.

Your a good woman... Like most Aqua's independent... I would think so you may not think about it as much but say the next step in your relationship... Some people get married after 2 years... Maybe talk about moving in together... Something that may eventually lead to marriage... Most Aqua want kids one day and some put it off to long. Aqua's have a lot of good transits... I would not demand an answer and I would talk about it after the retro but why not see how he feels. After all do you really want to be with someone that does not see a future or does not want a long term commitment.

It is really up to you... But you seem like a nice woman why would he not want to be with you? Some men don't think about it until they have a little push...

Again wait until after the June 12 min

How did I do anyways—

PM

Posted by LittleMissPerfect
My mom is aqua, my dad was scorp, I don't know this combination I suffer this combination.
Both signs think, feel and communicate different, it's just too complicated to work in the long run.
Think about it this way: one comment on a picture made you furious, that on itself is a mayor red flag... you obviously don't trust him and he is MIA.

Any sign can be with the other it takes more growth understand and a develop pair of souls for it to work... Love even more so...

But why stay with him if he is not taking you serious...

You sound like a good woman... Don't become jaded or bitter that you wasted your time on a man that would or will not make a bigger commitment

Then make your choice you put three years in... I would hope it was for love on both sides...

PM

Posted by LittleMissPerfect
My mom is aqua, my dad was scorp, I don't know this combination I suffer this combination.
Both signs think, feel and communicate different, it's just too complicated to work in the long run.
Think about it this way: one comment on a picture made you furious, that on itself is a mayor red flag... you obviously don't trust him and he is MIA.

This has nothing to do with trust. I trust him 100% . It was his actions that frustrated me. The fact that he hadn't contacted me but approached a girl and wrote a comment on her photo. I know he's not cheating. I have never doubted him. But he gave his time and attention to some random person. I don't know how else to explain it. It's a respect/loyalty thing.

Posted by piscesmoon2
Your a good woman... Like most Aqua's independent... I would think so you may not think about it as much but say the next step in your relationship... Some people get married after 2 years... Maybe talk about moving in together... Something that may eventually lead to marriage... Most Aqua want kids one day and some put it off to long. Aqua's have a lot of good transits... I would not demand an answer and I would talk about it after the retro but why not see how he feels. After all do you really want to be with someone that does not see a future or does not want a long term commitment

PM

Hi PM. Thank you. We both want children. We have already discussed that! He told me how many he wanted etc. But most importantly he said he wants kids with me. It was very sweet.

An update: My scorpio contacted me this morning via sms. A simple 'hello'. I asked him if he was ok. He was giving me one word answers. I broke the ice and said, I was really annoyed yesterday but today I'm ok and I really don't want there to be tension between us. His replies were instant. He never replies fast! He simply said 'ok'. I said is that all you're going to say? He said yes, I agree with you. I then replied saying I would prefer talking face to face but this is really dumb bs and I know u care about me. Are we ok? He replies saying yes we are ok. I have no idea what he's thinking!! He seemed cold but I hope it doesn't stay that way.

@Rambunctious76 my Mercury is in capricorn - third house Cancer.
Mars is capricorn - fifth house virgo.
Venus - once again capricorn lol - fourth house Leo.
Aries moon - second house Cancer.
I don't really know what the houses mean lol - some insight would be great.

It will not... Stay like that... Your being silly... New the answer already. You are both intransition...

You remind me of so many other Aqua's... Lol Silly air woman he cares about you and was afraid he wanted to see what you would say... Protecting his feelings. It was not like playing a game... Because he didn't want to leave any thing to chance. Scorpio's relate by feel so as you feel nervous/jealous he may feel and understand more then you think... But scorpions are all about control... He did not do anything wrong and would say "you don't trust me if you argued." He was most likely shocked... It may have made him feel more understood and fall more for you...

Most scorpions have been working hard in career he might see an advancement or brake though...

You are coming into the home and family so it will be more on your mind.

Not going to lie... I think you will get what you want 😉 I dare say I think and feel it is written in the very stars of the sky... And can be tasted in the very air we all breathe how lucky you are to be in love.

Careful with the moon coming... If you know that is good for you... You will go rock his world in bed if you can during it but keep subjects light until after the Mercury retro...

Best of luck

PM

@PM I had a feeling he was looking for reassurance hence the one word answers I got and quick replies.

What I said to him - was it ok? I don't want him thinking the worst or that I'm some kind of push over lol. I truly do love him and I know he loves me too. I don't want arguements and drama so I'm glad he approached me when I wasn't feeling angry. He knows me quite well then lol!
I haven't heard from him since...I'm thinking to give him some space or is it better to comfort him. I know I want some space!

Hi!
I read this post and HAD to reply. I am an aqua female with a scorp male for 2 years now. We live together and couldn't be happier. There are definitely challenges because we both can think for ourselves, thank you very much 🙂 But, I read an article about a relationship between these two signs, and it was so remarkably moving to me when the author pointed out that if these two signs can get past all the bullshit and come together and form a real relationship, they would be the ultimate power couple. They would be able to stand side by side and change the world because no other signs have the strength of mind that these two do.

Anyway, your situation sounds a lot like mine in the beginning. I really, really liked my scorp and I had never felt that way about a guy before. He was just SO unique-and he says that I was this perfect enigma that he just couldn't stay away from. I wouldn't let myself fall for him. I knew he was a bad boy and a real smooth talker; the kind of guy that always gets what he wants. So, after about 9 months of games, he confronted me and I ended up screaming "I LOVE YOU, YOU IDIOT!" I was exasperated because I thought it was incredibly obvious- I mean, I had been seeing him for 9 months! So we made it official. It has been difficult at times because both of us are so afraid of each other haha we are both terrified of the other person hurting us because they are the only person that truly can do so.

So, the other people on here could be right. Scorpios are always wary of other people's intentions and therefore are ALWAYS ready to strike preemptively if they sense that you are going to hurt them.

However, my scorp has told me a thousand times that he needs an untainted relationship. If he thinks of another woman when he's with his current girlfriend, or is tempted to talk to other girls in a flirtatious way, then he knows that the current relationship isn't going to last. So, if he thinks of another girl, his current relationship is already tainted and he's going to move on as soon as he finds someone better. But, my scorpio is an extremely blunt person-he's honest and almost ruthless. He knows what he wants. He is methodical and analytical, so this is the way that he thinks-so it might not be the feelings of all scorpios.

I can't tell you what to do because I don't know your scorp, and I don't know your relationship. But, I can tell you that I walked away from him several times during that first 9 months because I k

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I can't tell you what to do because I don't know your scorp, and I don't know your relationship. But, I can tell you that I walked away from him several times during that first 9 months because I knew that what was between us was so remarkable that it HAD to be too good to be true. But, in my situation, he fell so hard for me that it was all over for him. He couldn't stand the games anymore and after 9 months he threw caution to the wind and finally proclaimed his love for me.

A scorpio man in love is like no other. He's so romantic and thoughtful. I'm so protected and loved, and I can see it in his eyes every day. In fact, we laugh regularly about how intense he is towards me. In my opinion, if a scorpio really loves you, he won't play games. He won't want anything else; he will be nasty and ruthless to everyone in the world, and save every kindness for you. You are his and he is totally yours.

I hope this helps and I hope things turn out well for you. If you have any questions, I'm an open book.

Hey aquariusmadesimple. Thanks for your message. What you have written sounds like my relationship at the beginning. We've learnt to compromise and communicate and you're right, a scorp and Aqua relationship can be tremendous. I know he loves me deeply. I don't need words to prove it. He looks after me and is protective of me I'm not doubting him in anyway. We have been together for over three years and over the years I have seen him grown into a mature man. I know he's not after anyone else but that comment it annoyed me a little. It was like a lack of respect, I don't know how to explain it. I mean I'm over it now and I wana move forwards from it. Even though I said to him I don't want any tension, it feels like it's there. I don't know what to do going forwards.

Posted by jellybaby

What could he be thinking? What can I do in this situation?

Sit there like an idiot and wait for his lies, deceit and to hang up on you again? Seems like that shit gets you off, so by all means, have at it.

OR...

You can move on and find a guy who knows how to treat his lady with respect?

Tough decision eh?

Posted by LetltB

Posted by jellybaby

What could he be thinking? What can I do in this situation?

Sit there like an idiot and wait for his lies, deceit and to hang up on you again? Seems like that shit gets you off, so by all means, have at it.

OR...

You can move on and find a guy who knows how to treat his lady with respect?

Tough decision eh?

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Let it be...


Let it be... You can't judge everyone the da,e and you are obviously bitter...

PM

Posted by jellybaby
@PM I had a feeling he was looking for reassurance hence the one word answers I got and quick replies.

What I said to him - was it ok? I don't want him thinking the worst or that I'm some kind of push over lol. I truly do love him and I know he loves me too. I don't want arguements and drama so I'm glad he approached me when I wasn't feeling angry. He knows me quite well then lol!
I haven't heard from him since...I'm thinking to give him some space or is it better to comfort him. I know I want some space!

You did fine...

Honestly... Don't over think things. If anything Scorpios express love through sex very well normally that is why I told you to try and meet up with him around the full moon... Or right before it will amp all the emotions up... You just have to make sure it is positive and don't miss communicate because of the retro.

PM

Posted by piscesmoon2

Let it be...


Let it be... You can't judge everyone the da,e and you are obviously bitter...

PM

There's a block button for all who can't handle individual responses.

OR...

for those who can't mind their business and enjoy having their nose up my ass , have at it.
My response stands.

Clearly only an idiot would think the below suggestion is "bitter"..
"You can move on and find a guy who knows how to treat his lady with respect"

As you said, he is giving his attention to other women other than his 3 year girlfriend. Which for a scorp is major bad news... he already has a foot on the door.
Deep down you know this, hence why you call him in the middle of his dinner with friends.
God knows I tried to avoid another unhappy marriage (if he doesn't run before that) but if that's what you want, by all means continue being his dormat, I'm out of here.

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Posted by piscesmoon2

Let it be...


Let it be... You can't judge everyone the da,e and you are obviously bitter...

PM

There's a block button for all who can't handle individual responses.

OR...

for those who can't mind their business and enjoy having their nose up my ass , have at it.
My response stands.

Clearly only an idiot would think the below suggestion is "bitter"..
"You can move on and find a guy who knows how to treat his lady with respect"

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Lol... Why would I care what you think... Why would I need to block you... I find people like you are a good reminder of what forgiveness is all about. It is not for the other person that you forgave but yourself... Holding on to something is the real damage.

I don't even think you are a bad person... Seen you reply in other places... I simply commented on the obvious you had a bad experience and now are bitter.

You are
More then Welcome to block me if you want. I however grew up and have learned not to take things so personal... After all you don't even know me.

PM

im a scorpio sun aqua moon and i just wanna say @piscesmoon2 is so on point

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Posted by jellybaby
@PM I had a feeling he was looking for reassurance hence the one word answers I got and quick replies.

What I said to him - was it ok? I don't want him thinking the worst or that I'm some kind of push over lol. I truly do love him and I know he loves me too. I don't want arguements and drama so I'm glad he approached me when I wasn't feeling angry. He knows me quite well then lol!
I haven't heard from him since...I'm thinking to give him some space or is it better to comfort him. I know I want some space!

You did fine...

Honestly... Don't over think things. If anything Scorpios express love through sex very well normally that is why I told you to try and meet up with him around the full moon... Or right before it will amp all the emotions up... You just have to make sure it is positive and don't miss communicate because of the retro.

PM

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Thanks PM. Since it all happened a few days ago, I asked if he was available to meet on the weekend. He said he was going to see his friends. I thought he was trying to avoid me. So I rang him but he was himself on the phone and told me his plans and that he may have a day off from work during the week. We have been speaking here and there via sms and he contacts me first though. However I just feel like something's not right! I feel a little empty inside and I'm beginning to miss him a lot. It could be me overthinking things. I don't want to keep asking him if things are ok.

Thanks PM. Since it all happened a few days ago, I asked if he was available to meet on the weekend. He said he was going to see his friends. I thought he was trying to avoid me. So I rang him but he was himself on the phone and told me his plans and that he may have a day off from work during the week. We have been speaking here and there via sms and he contacts me first though. However I just feel like something's not right! I feel a little empty inside and I'm beginning to miss him a lot. It could be me overthinking things. I don't want to keep asking him if things are ok.




Jellybaby... Air signs are all about over thinking... even more so Aqua's in relationships. I am more then willing to bet he has had some work stress or other things on his mind. The moon is almost full in Scorpio right now but will be 100% full in Sag. tonight. Because Mercury is retro in Gem. It is stronger then normal which means your nerves will be.

If he can't meet up then he can't but honest try to go easy on him... Again I know another girl almost in the same situation and things will start to let off but she is over thinking things. Just let him have his space and it is a good sign he is contacting you. Aqua's always worry about first even though that is not the biggest deal... in fact it shows how much he does know you because he is willing to make that step. Some times things come up in other peoples life that are a big deal. Show that you can be understanding and not need to have things only on your terms... I feel that you and him will be tasted again as Saturn comes back in to Scorpio... and later when Mercury goes retro in your sign. I feel like he is the right man for you but you need to get beyond of feeling like someone has to do something or something has to be even. That does not exist in love... if you really love the man you would be willing to do anything for him as long as it does not have a negative impact on your life over all. I think you to just take a chill pill as your anxieties will be higher then normal now... and you may even me around your cycle or that time of the month... I know taboo for aqua to talk about... Except that your emotions would not be so high if you did love him so much.

Your warmth is has always been well received and returned in kind... I will say a pray for you.

Honestly don't let your emotions rule you rule your emotions and use them as a spice to amplify harmony in y

Honestly don't let your emotions rule you rule your emotions and use them as a spice to amplify harmony in your life.

PM

Hi PM,

Apologies for my late reply! Thank you for your kind words. Scorpio and I are back to normal. He has done his disappearing act due to stress at work and home but he knows I'm there for him. He said to me that our 'argument' stressed him out too. I haven't seen him for the past two weeks as he's been busy and so have I.... I miss him very much. I told him I missed him a few days ago via text but no response back to that. However, he sent me a selfie yesterday lol. He hardly sends me pictures so that made me smile! Going back to the comments on the pics: Do you think he wanted attention but no commitment from the girls he wrote comments too? But why would he want the attention?