Why do Scorpios pretend they care when they don't?

Hi. Sorry for the long topic but I'm really mad and disappointed and I don't know how I'm gonna move on.

I met a Scorpio man while visiting my family in Peru (my family is Spanish). We hit it off right away and I felt a strong connection with him. I thought I was going to lose contact with him but he added me on Facebook and I was happy because I never thought he would consider me since we don't live in the same country.

So he started to talk to me once in a while via Facebook. He always took the initiative and it kind of seemed that he liked me. We also discovered that we had a lot of things in common. I almost thought I had found my soul mate because I never clicked so well with anybody. So he talked to me from time to time long distance for about 2 years and I decided to go back to Peru to see my family again. He knew about this because I said it in advance and I really thought we were going to see each other in person again because he LIVES there.

Anyway I'm in Peru right now and guess what did I found out? That he decided to go away on vacations exactly on the dates I was going to be here. So that clearly means that he doesn't care if he sees me in person or not. I feel like our friendship never meant anything to him. Otherwise he would've been happy to see me face to face as it should be. So now I feel like he never meant what he said and I feel somehow betrayed. I could sense that he cared about me and that he was interested when he talked to me and now he avoids me by going away while I'm here.

Why did he bothered to add me on Facebook and talk to me if he doesn't want to see me or hang out in person and would rather be somewhere far from me? I feel like I can't trust in him anymore and I don't want to talk to him again. It hurts me because he won my affection but in the end it seems like he never truly cared. Right now all I can think about is deleting my Facebook account because I only used it to be in contact with him. I could care less about social media. Do you think he deserves to keep my friendship after this? I won't go back to Peru for a long time and I don't want to risk falling for this guy long distance only to get hurt and never hang out in person. ??

I think I should just disappear from his life so he won't be able to contact me again. I gave him a chance and I accepted his friendship but he lost my trust and respect for him. I wish I could tell him that I'm disappointed at him but it will just show him that I'm devastated and that I care about him. It will make me look weak and desperate.

Why are Scorpios mean and evil for no reason? Why do you pretend to care and hurt people on purpose? I'm so hurt right now. ?

I didn't realize friendship had rules and requirements to be friends.

Sounds to me, you want more than a friendship.

Or maybe he just had his vacay planned for that day?

However, if that's not the case, and he showed romantic interest and then just screw you over my advice is to let it go and move on, don't chase him, I bet there are some guys in your life closer to you to make you feel the same way.

Posted by Damsel0819
Hi. Sorry for the long topic but I'm really mad and disappointed and I don't know how I'm gonna move on.

I met a Scorpio man while visiting my family in Peru (my family is Spanish). We hit it off right away and I felt a strong connection with him. I thought I was going to lose contact with him but he added me on Facebook and I was happy because I never thought he would consider me since we don't live in the same country.

So he started to talk to me once in a while via Facebook. He always took the initiative and it kind of seemed that he liked me. We also discovered that we had a lot of things in common. I almost thought I had found my soul mate because I never clicked so well with anybody. So he talked to me from time to time long distance for about 2 years and I decided to go back to Peru to see my family again. He knew about this because I said it in advance and I really thought we were going to see each other in person again because he LIVES there.

Anyway I'm in Peru right now and guess what did I found out? That he decided to go away on vacations exactly on the dates I was going to be here. So that clearly means that he doesn't care if he sees me in person or not. I feel like our friendship never meant anything to him. Otherwise he would've been happy to see me face to face as it should be. So now I feel like he never meant what he said and I feel somehow betrayed. I could sense that he cared about me and that he was interested when he talked to me and now he avoids me by going away while I'm here.

Why did he bothered to add me on Facebook and talk to me if he doesn't want to see me or hang out in person and would rather be somewhere far from me? I feel like I can't trust in him anymore and I don't want to talk to him again. It hurts me because he won my affection but in the end it seems like he never truly cared. Right now all I can think about is deleting my Facebook account because I only used it to be in contact with him. I could care less about social media. Do you think he deserves to keep my friendship after this? I won't go back to Peru for a long time and I don't want to risk falling for this guy long distance only to get hurt and never hang out in person. ??

I think I should just disappear from his life so he won't be able to contact me again. I gave him a chance and I accepted his friendship but he lost my trust and respect for him. I wish I could tell him that I'm disappointed at him but it will just show him that I'm devastated and that I care about him. It will make me look weak and desperate.

Why are Scorpios mean and evil for no reason? Why do you pretend to care and hurt people on purpose? I'm so hurt right now. ?

First I'd address some issues I see here:

1. HE always took the initiative - after two years even the saint can be discouraged to pursue, really it looks like you don't like him that much.

2. You THOUGHT you're going to see each other. If you said you were going there to see your family he might not wanted to disturb you (fucked up thinking, I know). You should have written that you're going to see him too.

Although shitty of him to go on vacation on exact same time. Either he's scared shitless of sth or he just doesn't want to deal with you. Ask him.

Imo he needs time alone to think about it. Scorpios hide many things and don't want t be vulnerable. If you want answers, just confront him with straightforward, simple questions.

You didn't do anything wrong, to scare him off. He's eiher player or scared and bad at communication.

Generally the answer to Why do Scorpios pretend they care when they don't?

When Scorpios don't care they just don't care.

If they cared at some point, now not, you'll feel it as change in behaviour - they'll not care what you say, really. They want to be nice, though. You just have to be upfront.

I know we were just friends but I could sense he felt comfortable with me. I'm just so confused right now and I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should just stop talking to him and delete my Facebook but I know I might regret it because I did care about him and that's why I'm hurt. The problem here is that it seems like HE doesn't care. The last thing I want to do right now is chase him. Should I be honest and tell him that I'm mad at him if he talks to me again or will that make things worst? By the way, something did happen before my trip to Peru. I distanced myself a little from him because I wasn't sure if he was just leading me on and playing with me rather than being serious because he acted flirty sometimes. I noticed him chasing another girl so I decided to back off a little. I don't know if this has anything to do with not wanting to see me. But I never did anything to upset him. I just distanced myself but nothing big. And we talked normally and he even wished me a Happy Birthday. So who knows what's going on. Maybe he already had his vacations planned but as I said if he DID care about me he would do anything to be with me in person and not just long distance.

If he talks to me again, Will it be worst if I confront him? I'm vulnerable too and that will make it obvious that I have feelings for him.

I think you misread him.. based on your post..

As a Scorpio, I am friendly, but since I am such an emotional person, I believe my friendliness gets confused with actually liking a person more than a friend because I'm extremely intense.. In-turn ppl have told me that I lead them on.. BUT that's never the case.. I'm usually like, "When did I ever say that I was interested in anything more..??" Which is true.. You can't assume anyone wants more when you haven't even discussed the terms of the relationship. **Shrug**

Scorpios care more than ppl know. We get a rep as bad ppl because we either care too much or NOT at all.. It's all a matter of who we decide to let completely in... It's hard for me to show my vulnerabilities to ppl because I always feel like I'll be taken advantage of.

Anyway, if you want clear answers, ASK!!

so pretend not to care when you do.... brilliant! #mindphuckers

Posted by nikkistar
I didn't realize friendship had rules and requirements to be friends.

Sounds to me, you want more than a friendship.

She said "soul mate" so yeah-- that would the

logical conclusion.

Posted by Ravishing
THEY NEVER CARED

NOPE, NEVER DID

ALL THEY DO IS USE AND ABUSE U

THEY USE U UP LIKE A WHORE ON THE SIDE OF THE STREET AND SPIT YOU OUT LIKE A PIECE OF GUM

ONE TIME I ASKED A SCORPIO OUT ON A DATE, HE AGREED, HE PAYED FOR OUR MEAL, TOOK ME HOME AND THE BASTARD DIDN'T FUCK ME. I KNEW THEY WERE EVIL FROM THEN ON.

HE DIDN'T TRY AND MURDER YOU?

*disappointing*

Guy you have to be with OP. Regardless of friendship or more than that, if they develop a connection the normal thing to do would be to say in advance "I'm actually not here on those dates". That's what anybody else would do. His reasons not to say it? It looks like he doesn't care though, if that's true we won't know. Scorpios are always very secretive with their communication, could be anything.