YOUNGER SCORPIO WOMAN WITH GEMINI LOVER

Hi all

I'm new to this forum but have read some really insightful posts on here and wanted to ask for your advice on the following (TYPICAL) scenario between a scorp female and gemini male.
We have known each other for 6 or so months and have been intimate from our first encounter with eachother. We were magnetised to each other. We have scary amounts in common, a very strong spiritual connection and shared beliefs/values. He has said that he's never met anyone more similar to him than me, that I'm not like other girls, that I'm beautiful etc etc. So I get the feeling that he likes me. And he strikes me as really honest and kind (he's a buddhist) and not the type of person to bullshit another human being just for the sake of it...

So, forgive me if you've all heard this a MILLION times before, but when we are together it's AMAZING, INTENSE, EMOTIONAL etc etc. and I feel as if he has my heart tightly gripped in his hand when I'm around him. Basically it feels like love. BUT when we're apart his texts are sparse and I just don't know how interested he is! It makes no sense to me how you can enjoy someones company that much and then not want to see them all the time/make them a priority.

I feel like every time I get a bit attached he punishes me for it, and in no way are we able to speak about commitment etc etc. (not that I want to but I can't speak about any form of attachment, for example I missed you etc) I get the feeling this has something to do with previous psycho ex girlfriends and bearing in mind he is much older than me and has probably been there and done all the drama that comes from jealousy and attachment. I am not actually that jealous but I do not feel respected at the moment and I suppose I am getting insecure now about his feelings so that's making me feel more vulnerable and needy than I would be in another, more stable relationship. So confused by his typical gemini behaviour of feeling that minute he will be really into me texting all the time and wanting to meet and the next seemingly moody and actually annoyed that I'm contacting him. So PLEASE a massive call out to you astro-gurus - take a look at our charts and give me some much needed guidance! Blessings to you all! xxxxxxxxxx

PS I will have to post the charts in a separate post as I appear to have rambled too much here to fit them in 🙂

Happy new year, sweetheart!

As a gem, we tend to be very direct. What was your "set up" when you got intimate? Was it like a one time thing initially, which evolved into a friends with benefits situation?

Second (and based on my personality), I tend to pull back when a prospect becomes clingy. Wait for him to pursue you. When he texts, it means he's in the mood to talk so engage him. Otherwise, don't initiate anything. By now he knows you like him, so your silence will make him think. And when gems start thinking, you're on the right track. Keep him guessing and make him figure you out.

As for his sweetness, bear in mind that we are very verbally expressive. Im sure you are pretty and everything he says you are, cause otherwise he won't bother. However, it is easy for us to talk our way into things, especially if it feels right at the moment. While he may like you and is obviously attracted to you, take the time to assess what you want at this point. Do you want a relationship with him? If you do and it feels like he's not looking for a relationship, then believe him and start to distance yourself emotionally. Stay if you're up for a casual thing.

Sex isn't complicated for us. If you want something more lasting, then he has to be at the very least emotionally available.

Whatever you do, do not have "the where is this going talk" yet. It might push him away even more.

Thanks guys... I'm starting to think I'm not emotionally up for the to-ing and fro-ing that this relationship would bring. A bit of background, he's a v. successful musician and has lived quite a life, so I think he is used to being pursued and having women at his beck and call. Needless to say I didn't make contact yesterday and he tried to call and then texted that he wished me happy new year and was thinking of me... so looks like you are both right, the less I make contact the more he reaches out. At the moment I do not think I can cope with the game playing, as I see it if I want to contact someone I like and am intimate with then I should be able to do so without feeling shameful and rejected as a result. I think I'm going to cool things off with him and concentrate on making myself happy.

HAPPY NEW YEAR & THANK YOU FOR YOUR REPLIES!
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