we’ve been friends for 5 years, started dating and sleeping together only 4 months ago! i am a Gemini
our friendship/relationship has been always a long-distance one, we both live in different countries, but meet in person every few months.
communicating mainly via texts, emails, social media, phone calls.
ever since i knew him as a friend, we both felt attracted to each other and knew immediately that we’re into one another , i used to drop him hints here and there that i do like him A LOT , but i’ve waited SO LONG until 4 months ago when he finally asked me to be something official and that he likes me too!
anyway, ever since we’ve been only friends, i used to get his dreaded silent treatment whenever we get into conflicts,, OR when he starts feeling that we’re getting so very close or intimate together. so i’m very much used to this behaviors / or the on-and-off kinda relationship (at one point, he stopped talking to me for 10 months straight, before we got back together)
anyway, as we’ve been “friends” previously, i used to react to his silent treatment very calmly , i would apologize if i wronged him, tell him how much his friendship is very important to me, and i won’t leave his side ,, then i’d go very NORMAL as i used to react with him (like nothing ever happened); i’d still tag him in memes, send him jokes, send him useful articles that are related to his work/hobbies, i would tell him about how my day was...etc WITHOUT him responding to any of my communication with him during HIS silent treatment,, but i was pretty cool with it, knowing that he’ll just take his sweet time and space to cool down before coming back
BUT,, that was when we were friends!!
NOW, as we are officially dating,,, how should i react to his last silent treatment that started about 10 days ago so far after our first conflict as we started dating?? i’ve apologized (because i wronged him with things i said to him during our last argument), told him how much i love him, reminded him how we first met and fell attracted to one another, brought some sweet memories back since we’ve been friends/dating...etc at one point during the last 10 days of silence, i asked him how he’s feeling now (because he had a nasty flu before our last conflict, he answered me briefly that he’s feeling better, and he also asked me how my knee is recovering now, as i hit and injured my knee badly right before our last conflict too), but then he retreated back to his zone!
i’ve told him that i’ll wait for him to come back, after he takes all the space and time he needs and feels ready to re-connect.
however, i don’t know... should i stop now completely contacting him till he comes on his own? or should i go as before as i used to do when we were JUST FRIENDS keep texting him and sending as much as normal like nothing ever happened and he would respond and come back when he’s ready too?