10 months into the taurus saga

My taurus guy reached out to me 10 months ago online and it's been the most confusing journey. He's been the typical taurus, hot/cold. Doesn't like to be rushed or pushed to talk about emotions. Our chemistry is off the chain but I'm afraid he just looks at me as sex. I've made it clear to him that's not what I'm looking for (fwb). I've tried to show extreme patience because I thought we were going thru his process.
Fast forward, I pretty much have figured out he's still weighing his options. But in the last 4 months we've gotten extremely close. He confides his deepest secrets with me and I have the Passcode to get into his house.
Things he's told me:
I'm really messed up right now but you are my peace and that's why I spend time with you.
It's crazy for someone to have so much access to my life and we aren't even dating. (That pissed me off)
I like spending time with you except for when you want to talk about a relationship.
I thought it was funny when you asked me about a girl when I didn't even ask you about the guy I saw you with.
I asked him why does he keep trying to pull me back and he said he likes me more than he let's on.

I have backed away a few times when he's made me feel like the emotions weren't there but I truly care for him and have told him so many times. He says I go up and down like the stock market but I think he really knows it's him not me.
I finally told him about all of my observations about him and what I think he's doing with his life (trying to fill the hole In his heart with new things and women). He opened up and shared more about his childhood and past failed relationships. Oh and our sons are best friends, his son spends a lot of time at my house and we are both 39.

I'm not getting what I feel I deserve and I've cut him off sexually but I still care so much and wonder, am I misreading the signs and maybe he does care more than he let's on? Or is he just a complete mess and I need to just move on? I don't want to give up on him as a friend because I think he's lost but I feel he's sucking me dry and not investing the same way in me.

No rude comments please.

He's not invested in you and doesn't want a relationship but doesn't mind spending time with you.

Cut him loose n let him feel life without you and when he comes back (he will) just say he's not giving u what you need n ul find it elsewhere.
This approach is hard work but worth it in the end as he'll step up if he truely wants u. Either way ur better off

With taurus ppl, they have to be emotionally invested in you for you to mean something to them. He cares about you as a friend...but thats about it, nothing more nothing less 😢

I think the problem is we( women) trying harder to analyze a man. Let's be friends is ok.

Trying to get him into relationship and he already stated that he is not into it... then

don't start it. Just be his friend and date other men.