Are Cancer Men bad For Taurus Women?

Hi, I am new to this form, hello all! (waves) any who, I have been talking to this Cancer man for 6 years, we are not in a committed relationship, but we can not leave each other alone. I push him away, but he always comes back to me. Well, I recently found out that the cancer guy is in a relationship, but he was chilling with me 2 weeks ago, and now I am hurt. What do I do? Are Cancer man dishonest and can not be real, or upfront about a relationship. He is not my man, but I feel so hurt, should I tell his new girlfriend? I understand we are not together, but in dew time, he will hit me up again, we can't leave each other alone. Please Help?!

I Have talked to one Cancer guy. He was nice but,he was unsure of what kind of relationship he wanted. I can relate with you on the you push him away and he comes back. almost like a boomerang. In this case I would leave him alone. He has a girlfriend, it would only bring you ore pain to keep talking to him. It sucks I know. I had to cut mine off cold turkey. 😢

I feel your pain. Im not talking to a cancer guy, my problem is that hes hot one day and cold the next.
From what i know about cancer men is that they are very loyal. Are you sure he has a girlfriend?
I wouldnt tell her anything because it wont help the situation.
If you care about him then try telling him what it is that you want and where you want the relationship to go?
Im in this same boat (kind of) i wish you the best of luck.

NO! There are some wonderful Cancer men in this world.
Fortunately/Unfortunately you will naturally attract Cancer men.
That means you will draw the good & gorgeous and the bad & ugly.

Just a few questions because my crab senses are tingling.....
Were you guys ever in a romantic/sexual relationship?
Have you discussed being in a relationship?
What does "talking to" and "chilling with me" mean?
Why after 6 years have you two not been romantically committed in some way if you are attracted to each other?

Me and my cancer...it was sexual, started at 19 years of age, but we always came back to each other. He has never been in a relationship, and I have never been in a relationship. But, he failed to mission the relationship and now lying to me after the fact. Now I'm pissed off and me being the Taurus Woman that I am. I am so unforgiving.

Hopefully I can give some insight from the cancer POV.
Im in. Situation that's been going on for 6 months with a Taurus woman. When I'm around her I have never felt more comfortable or at peace with someone ever. I tell her everything on how I feel. Maybe not such a good idea since I think there is no mystery in me. She knows she has my heart and there isn't nothing in this world I wouldn't do for her (almost nothing). I have never so attracted to someone this much and it scares the crap out of me for knowing that she is in a position to seriously crush my heart more than anyone has ever been able to.

On the flip side when we away from each other she is the most distant, unresponsive person I've ever met. Granted she is in a horrible situation which left her extremely insecure. Add that with natural shyness... let's just say I am trying hard to be understanding when I don't know anyone who would of stuck around for the nonsense.

I'm 34 now but, in my younger days. It would take forever for me to open up to someone. While I like being kept on my toes, I don't like being left in the dark. When there is inconsistencys or doubt in how the other feels. I'm either going lash out or retreat to my shell. Doubt is the number 1 cause for my mood swings in a relationship. Unfortunately tauruses appear to be the most passive sign of all. Us cancers for the most part are reactionary. And I for one, don't react well to silence. I can be clingy to the ones I care about especially when I feel unsure about the other persons feelings.

He obiviously loves you. He keeps coming back after all this time. The man loves you. But he is a cancer and a man. Which means yes he can read all your non verbal signals however, unless you spell it out. He most likely will act unpredictable, moody, and confusing. You should have a serious sit down with him and tell him exactly how you feel. I'm sure he's been secretly waiting for it.

Its been 6 years and she's posting here. She is past the point of attachment...

Posted by almondeyezk
Hi, I am new to this form, hello all! (waves) any who, I have been talking to this Cancer man for 6 years, we are not in a committed relationship, but we can not leave each other alone. I push him away, but he always comes back to me. Well, I recently found out that the cancer guy is in a relationship, but he was chilling with me 2 weeks ago, and now I am hurt.

Is sounds like he's interested...and you're not all that interested. Were you expecting him to wait around until you made up your mind? I understand Bullettes like to fully claim what we feel is rightfully ours, but in reality, he's really not your man....And he has a right to explore his options.

Posted by almondeyezk
What do I do? Are Cancer man dishonest and can not be real, or upfront about a relationship.

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It sounds like to me , Taurus, that you're not being real. Most Bullettes, normally dot the I's, cross the T's and move cautiously before entering any type of relationship. After 6 years, were you still unsure about what you wanted?

Almondeyez...

Where do you want to take this?

Cancers and Tauruses can make a good match,
But it depends on the Bull and Crab pairing (the emotionally maturity level of these two signs).
Remember, they're too different people.

Posted by minata
Ive posted on dxpnet before about Cancer men. One in particular, actually. Its been intense joy or intense pain with him. We are stable people whilst they are very fluid. Indecisiveness, passivity and distant. It broke my heart. I always felt that if he could just pursue like other guys, it would be perfect. He is very vague and loyalty is not a strangth.

This is where most problems lie with Bulls and Crabs.
Bulls want to be pursued (a slow gradual courtship), but at times we rarely verbalize this.
Crabs want to feel loved and secured, but they want YOU to be the one to confirm this.
Seems like both parties want to be pursued, but both parties are too stubborn enough to admit this.

I believe Almondeyez (the OP) and her Cancer man have the same dilemma.

Well stated! ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Posted by minata

Posted by TaurusBull1977
Cancers and Tauruses can make a good match,
But it depends on the Bull and Crab pairing (the emotionally maturity level of these two signs).
Remember, they're too different people.

Posted by minata
Ive posted on dxpnet before about Cancer men. One in particular, actually. Its been intense joy or intense pain with him. We are stable people whilst they are very fluid. Indecisiveness, passivity and distant. It broke my heart. I always felt that if he could just pursue like other guys, it would be perfect. He is very vague and loyalty is not a strangth.

This is where most problems lie with Bulls and Crabs.
Bulls want to be pursued (a slow gradual courtship), but at times we rarely verbalize this.
Crabs want to feel loved and secured, but they want YOU to be the one to confirm this.
Seems like both parties want to be pursued, but both parties are too stubborn enough to admit this.

I believe Almondeyez (the OP) and her Cancer man have the same dilemma.

Youre so right. Thats why it is said that Male Taurus - Female Crab is better than vice versa. Because the Taurus male will pursue.

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If Crab males get as much attention from the opposite sex as Crab women, I can understand why he is not pressed to pursue.
Which may be why I've noticed many male Crabs with Aries, Sag, and Aqua girls whom are very direct, assertive, independent partners.

When my Crab nephew went off to college I was not surprised that he received a lot of attention.
And guess who he ended up with, the aggressive girl who pursued HIM.
However, he crushed on the aloof girls who didn't pursue him.

My brother's a widow, his wife was an Aqua. A very direct ball busting pain in the ass he adored and cherished.
He is now seeing a Sag.
I was hoping he would meet a Bull. We shall see how it goes.

Posted by minata

Youre so right. Thats why it is said that Male Taurus - Female Crab is better than vice versa. Because the Taurus male will pursue.

I will admit, when I'm unsure of my footing, or feeling a little self-conscious, I can be extremely shy.
I hope that he makes the first move because I am terrified of rejection....

I am old fashioned. I prefer to be courted. I'm an old soul.

But at times, unfortunately we're (Bulls) are aware the rest of the world is living in the age of Aquarius. Very few people understand this about us. So at times, we rarely verbalize this. I've been guilty of this many times. People aren't always mind readers.


But once I'm sure of my footing (exclusive relationship)...I can be quite a 'ballsy-no nonsense-opinionated' type of woman....and quite possessive.😛

Posted by BlackIndian22
Good communication can easily fix such a small problem.

This ^^^^^^^^^^

@Almondeyez (The OP)
Take this advice....