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Aries Venus
Wow, awesome in personality but F- in bed? Saddddd.....you dont think he can be taught?
Seems like a shame.
Seems like a shame.
Air & Fire, usually a very potent mix. UNfortunately it seems you got yourself someone inexperienced. Bulls are pleasers. His lackluster performance was keenly felt, 100% and then some. Unless you wrangled a real pinhead ( i.e. pompous ass, Gods Gift, etc. ) a bit of direction is in order. Sounds like he needs to be taught, and my goodness what a willing pupil he would have made.
I can but assume he was beyond keen.
No matter, sounds like the next girl will have a crack at it. 🙂
I can but assume he was beyond keen.
No matter, sounds like the next girl will have a crack at it. 🙂
Oopsies.. no offense, its totally different for women since sensuality comes a bit easier for bullettes 😉 ^^^
But yes, he must be inexperienced.. And I lack the patience... He was sooooo hot too!!!!!!!!!!!
I walked out on him last night, fuming because I felt ignored!!!
But yes, he must be inexperienced.. And I lack the patience... He was sooooo hot too!!!!!!!!!!!
I walked out on him last night, fuming because I felt ignored!!!
Posted by BigGirlPanties
Wow, awesome in personality but F- in bed? Saddddd.....you dont think he can be taught?
Seems like a shame.
I mean, if he could Ive already ruined my chances of ever trying. He was such a sweetheart too... Why cant I have my cake n eat it toooooo! Lol, my ex wasnt as handsome or loving but he was gooood in bed..
So unfair! hah
Well did the two of you have a lot of sexual chemistry before the "act?"
Posted by lnana04
Well did the two of you have a lot of sexual chemistry before the "act?"
Well on his part yes... On mine not so much, Ive always felt like there was something missing.. Very lackluster if you will
Posted by aurora
I had completely the opposite experience, I mean he was inexperienced, but talented! Nothing similar happened to me ever. But with taur-sun, gemini-venus, disaster.
Im thinking maybe hes just shy or needs a bit more encouragement on my behalf because when I get all cuddly he reciprocates enthusiastically, otherwise it feels like were miles apart when were sitting on the same couch. Bleh.
He has Gem in both Merc & Mars..
Posted by scorchedearth
what happened to your virgo? did i miss something?
just realized it was you that posted, pb. 😛
Haha, hey girl. How you been?
Well the Virguy dumped me!! Said he got a "wierd feeling" after we were intimate and then went on to say that he didnt want to speak about it now, to give him a week HA. What a load of crock.. He went on to say that he didnt have feelings for me, that he got too involved in my life, yada yada... The lack of feelings part I was ok with because we agreed on a fwb relationship, he liked me I liked him his friends loved me, we were friends first and foremost but I decided to cut my losses because of the nasty things he said to me. He pretty much told me our frienship was worthless. I told him what I thought about him and that was that..
Honestly if I would have held on to him I wouldnt have let things progress with my bull... The only thing I regret is that I did let things get hot n heavy w/ the Taurus as a result of my bruised ego... I would have prefered to have let things flow naturally but of course we rushed things... Luckily for me my bull is a great communicator and we talked things out and were both ok w/ how everything progressed between us...
Im already kicking myself for being such a shallow bitch w/ the bull... I know relationships arent built purely on just sex... But tell that to my Scorp Asc!! Lol. Hes a good man, understanding, sweet, caring, extremely handsome to boot.... Something every girl would want I just dont understand why +I+ dont want it... :/ What a dilemma ay?
And the worst part is I know he'd make adjustments for me if it came down to it (and he already has made a few shifts to accomodate me) when most guys wont even budge... I mean, hes supposed to be a stubborn bull but hes great! Hes totally outta my league too, gorgeous, sweet, AND smart...
I was talking to a dude with Taurus Sun and Aries Venus and he was the same. We had chemistry but the same thing when we were chilling at my house he sat opposite from me and didnt make any moves. I was talking to him for like 2 mths and we kissed once, it seemed like he was perfectly content chilling like that , so i asked him if there was a prob and he like you don't like just being in my company? Anywho that was the last time I chilled with him. I don't like feeling the way he made me feel so i distanced myself, he still calls and says he still really likes me and want to get together but I havent really made myself avail, the situation was too confusing. He also had a cap moon so maybe that had something to do with him being so reserved, either way I don't think I can handle it.
Posted by scorchedearth
well, he didn't handle that very well... i'm sorry the male virgo ended up a bit of a douche!
you can't force feelings if there aren't any there. have you thought about taking some time away from the dating scene and figuring out what it is you actually want? you seem lost, lately. i don't mean that in an insulting way.. it's just something i've noticed in the posts i've seen you post in the past few months.
Yeah, Im actually completely out of the dating scene.. Except for the Taurus who happened to pop up in the nick of time and came to my rescue. I know what I want now and Ive had to experience alot of ups and downs (mostly downs) to get here...
And I agree, feelings cant be forced. I dont want to keep a friend who blatantly said he considers me to be nothing. Thats just fucked up but hey, its how he feels and I def deserved to move on to bigger and better... And thats where the Taurus came in.. Hes better but Im just not satisfied. I feel somethings missing but I cant explain it!
Posted by bkbella86
I was talking to a dude with Taurus Sun and Aries Venus and he was the same. We had chemistry but the same thing when we were chilling at my house he sat opposite from me and didnt make any moves. I was talking to him for like 2 mths and we kissed once, it seemed like he was perfectly content chilling like that , so i asked him if there was a prob and he like you don't like just being in my company? Anywho that was the last time I chilled with him. I don't like feeling the way he made me feel so i distanced myself, he still calls and says he still really likes me and want to get together but I havent really made myself avail, the situation was too confusing. He also had a cap moon so maybe that had something to do with him being so reserved, either way I don't think I can handle it.
Mine has a Cap moon too!! Cold asses! Lol. Well, some astro sites say Sadge moon, others say Cap moon so it must be on the cusp? Anyway... He Only showed affection if I would initiate it and thats just not my style .
Posted by scorchedearthPosted by Peanutbutter
And the worst part is I know he'd make adjustments for me if it came down to it (and he already has made a few shifts to accomodate me) when most guys wont even budge... I mean, hes supposed to be a stubborn bull but hes great! Hes totally outta my league too, gorgeous, sweet, AND smart...
if he's so great then whats the problem? take it slow and see if something can build over time. if you give it a few months what do you really have to lose? 😛click to expand
Trust me I want to. I can tell he likes me alot. Always cooks dinner for me when Im over, is always polite, makes me giggle, gets my sarcasm, makes changes to accomodate me around his house, always wants to see me... *sigh* Idk how to remedy this though.. Or if I even should!
Moon is Emotions and Emotional responses. How you FEEL about stuff, how you react to emotional stuff.. yours or others'.
Venus is Love and Relationships.. Attraction and Flirting style . (But as most women (rightly or wrongly) combine sex and love, her Venus and Moon tend to get themselves involved in the sex.)
MARS is the sex, especially for a man. Mars is his Passion, his Drive, his ACTIONS... and YES, his Sexual style . (Unless and until emotions/love gets involved.. then we'll see his Moon/Venus start getting into the mix.)
My Aries Venus means I move fast in flirting/relationships.. I like to pursue.. love a challenge, the chase is thrilling.. and I want things to always stay fresh and new, and am willing to do whatever it takes to make it so. Selfish? Maybe a little bit.. I want what I want, and I want it NOW.
But my Taurus Mars (and Moon) is very touchy-feely, very physical and sensual.. throws me wholly into the sex. Selfish? Anything but. It's all about the mutual passion and pleasure, giving as good as it gets.
Where's this dude's Mars??
Venus is Love and Relationships.. Attraction and Flirting style . (But as most women (rightly or wrongly) combine sex and love, her Venus and Moon tend to get themselves involved in the sex.)
MARS is the sex, especially for a man. Mars is his Passion, his Drive, his ACTIONS... and YES, his Sexual style . (Unless and until emotions/love gets involved.. then we'll see his Moon/Venus start getting into the mix.)
My Aries Venus means I move fast in flirting/relationships.. I like to pursue.. love a challenge, the chase is thrilling.. and I want things to always stay fresh and new, and am willing to do whatever it takes to make it so. Selfish? Maybe a little bit.. I want what I want, and I want it NOW.
But my Taurus Mars (and Moon) is very touchy-feely, very physical and sensual.. throws me wholly into the sex. Selfish? Anything but. It's all about the mutual passion and pleasure, giving as good as it gets.
Where's this dude's Mars??
Gem mars.. supposedly goes well/trine my Leeb Venus
Virgo.
And what's lacking is passion... Maybe I need to find a more demonstrative guy.. maybe a Leo
And what's lacking is passion... Maybe I need to find a more demonstrative guy.. maybe a Leo
^ Im pretty sure they are... Are you also on the S/C cusp? If so look up both and see which one you relate to more 🙂
Posted by YourSunshine
You're getting turned off by him because he's being a clingy dimwit.
Youre not the first to mention that :/... I dont feel hes too clingy though, I like the attention.. Its just that hes so... Earthy LOL.. I get a good man, and I become bored.. I get an asshole and Im intrigued.. Wth. I can never win lol
Posted by PeanutbutterPosted by YourSunshine
You're getting turned off by him because he's being a clingy dimwit.
Youre not the first to mention that :/... I dont feel hes too clingy though, I like the attention.. Its just that hes so... Earthy LOL.. I get a good man, and I become bored.. I get an asshole and Im intrigued.. Wth. I can never win lolclick to expand
You can, actually. Take both until you figure out which one you want.
Posted by PeanutbutterPosted by lnana04
Well did the two of you have a lot of sexual chemistry before the "act?"
Well on his part yes... On mine not so much, Ive always felt like there was something missing.. Very lackluster if you willclick to expand
Well, in a way that's a good thing because you could have been even more disappointed if the chemistry was there and it turned out like this lol.
Posted by Peanutbutter
Yeah, I was w/ a Pisces w/ aries venus and he was great but prolly cus he was a bit more experienced and kinky lol..
My bull did say he was an introvert.. Ugh, I can't help but feel I just threw a good thing away... I apologized for what I did... I guess I'll have to wait and see if ur accepts my apology but either way I'm prepared for him to never speak to me again... Ugh, I screwed up big time... Seems like I'm really good at doin that ha
Posted by PeanutbutterPosted by bkbella86
I was talking to a dude with Taurus Sun and Aries Venus and he was the same. We had chemistry but the same thing when we were chilling at my house he sat opposite from me and didnt make any moves. I was talking to him for like 2 mths and we kissed once, it seemed like he was perfectly content chilling like that , so i asked him if there was a prob and he like you don't like just being in my company? Anywho that was the last time I chilled with him. I don't like feeling the way he made me feel so i distanced myself, he still calls and says he still really likes me and want to get together but I havent really made myself avail, the situation was too confusing. He also had a cap moon so maybe that had something to do with him being so reserved, either way I don't think I can handle it.
Mine has a Cap moon too!! Cold asses! Lol. Well, some astro sites say Sadge moon, others say Cap moon so it must be on the cusp? Anyway... He Only showed affection if I would initiate it and thats just not my style .click to expand
Lol def cold. he expected us to bf and sitting on opposite couches? Lol
Posted by sexifulscorpio
ive never been with a taurus. but my current man is aries in venus and he is a pleaser and is teachable... he does whatever he has to do to please me.. its great....
I am an Aries Venus and I take immense pleasure in finding out what rocks your world and perfecting it into a fine art. Nothing sexier than a sated lover collapsing into your arms🙂
You just lucked out here, don't diss us all. Some of us are quite wonderful.
This is definitely a moment for a church fan.
Lol 25th.. You're so right.... Perhaps I dismissed him w/ too much haste...
Like my girls said, you must have gotten a bad apple...I love to please my man in bed..as a matter of fact that is my biggest turn on..seeing how I drive him crazy. Taurus Sun/ Aries Venus🙂
I sent him a message telling him he was "selfish in bed" & "it was nice knowing him" he then told me to go pick my stuff up, I messaged him back apologizing and asking whn I can go for my stuff (I dont want to make the drive and have him not b home) and hes been completely ignoring me for two days straight because of my bitch move... I dont blame the guy I said "Look, I know I fucked up and its fine if you dont want to speak to me again... I just need you to tell me when I can pick my stuff up so I can leave you be." And still nothing.
It's just that I was pissed that he sucked in bed lol... He's more focused on himself and wants me to be all over him which I didn't mind initially but it got to the point where I felt like chopped liver! What about me? What about turning ME on? It made me feel like he didn't care whether or not I was having as much of a good time as he was, you know? I explained myself to him but I haven't heard a peep in return.. I'm gunna have to drop by and I will apologize in person for not goin about.things w/ a bit more tact.and poise and ill be on my merry.way....
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I'll tell you something as an older woman mah lil' Jif sammich with honey. Men in their early 20s, not all; but some. They are shit lovers. It is something either learnt or never learnt. Some men bazoo through life with it constantly being about themself. They make a deposit then strut around the room like they gifted the entrance of your womb with the elixir of eternal life.
Some are naturally inclined to be lovers. I always make the distinction as I'm sure most women do, that there are lovers ( those that please and want to be pleased ) and *fuckers*: those that mate like a lion. On, off, then strutting the Serengeti.
I would honestly put him in 'needing to learn' camp. Down side is you directly wounded his pride telling him. No one wants to hear they suck. Kicked him right in the junk when he was down.
For a Bull our love making is absolutely an extension of us as a human. When we're feeling someone we are keen to be near them..and in them. LOL As often as possible. Get a little crotchety when we are not. Truly the bull snorting steam with the head tossed in the air ready to charge. It's a black lust, dark and edged with desire to possess and be possessed.
More than likely you may not hear from him for some time. If you do it will be curt and cold.
Some are naturally inclined to be lovers. I always make the distinction as I'm sure most women do, that there are lovers ( those that please and want to be pleased ) and *fuckers*: those that mate like a lion. On, off, then strutting the Serengeti.
I would honestly put him in 'needing to learn' camp. Down side is you directly wounded his pride telling him. No one wants to hear they suck. Kicked him right in the junk when he was down.
For a Bull our love making is absolutely an extension of us as a human. When we're feeling someone we are keen to be near them..and in them. LOL As often as possible. Get a little crotchety when we are not. Truly the bull snorting steam with the head tossed in the air ready to charge. It's a black lust, dark and edged with desire to possess and be possessed.
More than likely you may not hear from him for some time. If you do it will be curt and cold.
AND ANOTHER THING to wind up this little wall of text:
WOMEN need to tell men the truth right then and there. If something isn't right, speak UP. This fellow more than like has been lied too by women, saying he's a wonderful lover. He probably thinks he's got mad skill. Another reason for piss off.
So ladies:
Don't fake orgasm, just..stop that nonsense.
Open your mouth and tell him ( or show him ) when things aren't right for you.
The goal is to keep getting some, yeh? Duh girls, huge duh. 😉
WOMEN need to tell men the truth right then and there. If something isn't right, speak UP. This fellow more than like has been lied too by women, saying he's a wonderful lover. He probably thinks he's got mad skill. Another reason for piss off.
So ladies:
Don't fake orgasm, just..stop that nonsense.
Open your mouth and tell him ( or show him ) when things aren't right for you.
The goal is to keep getting some, yeh? Duh girls, huge duh. 😉
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